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Beaf: Nigerians don't get the Nobel prize because we foolishly tear each other down. A Nigerians worst enemy is another Nigerian; you can also add the other Nigerians ethnic group and their religion. Nigerian society has been phucked by years of neglect and most are so frustrated that they will instinctively strike and drag down their helpers the same way a drowning person would.

Nigerian society is too phucked to produce a Nobel Laureate, and if it did by some miracle, the same society will "kill them before they grow."

"Every time I plant the seed, he seh, kill dem before they grow!" - Bob Marley (I shot the Sheriff)

Thank you - Nigerians can be ridiculously nationalistic (when it suits them) for no good reason.

Who ever heard of Shirin Ebadi, Kim Dae-Jung, Leymah Gbowee or Tawakkul Karman before they won the peace prize?  What is anyone doing in Africa that is more deserving that what these people have done?

lastpage:
^^^^Now l can see that "you're drifting"!

"Getting Married" has NOTHING TO DO with proper upbringing of children!
How cant you get that? So Simples!

"Marriage" itself is just a "formalization" of "the co-habitation" between couples!
Whether they formalize it or NOT, as long as they live together as husband and wife, it is perfectly legitimate to "raise children" and how those children turn-out, has NOTHING to do with such formalization or not.

We have seen children of "married peeps", turn out bad; ditto children of unmarried peeps!
We have seen children of married peeps, turn out GOOD; ditto children of unmarried peeps!

Either way, "getting married or not" is not a parameter to raising "good children"


That is the point you need to understand
.,.,. and enough of your drifting around please!

chaircover:
The long term peace and happiness that this poster is looking for will NOT be found by the way that he is pursuing this. You don’t solve a problem by creating another problem. Yes he will most probably get a baby from his new girlfriend and then what next? Will it be a lived happily ever after Mills and Boon ending for him and his biological and non biological kids? (lets even leave the wife out of things for now)

What some people are proposing here is just a short term solution. ALL marriages go through ups and downs and ALL marriages go through rough patches. Many have hastily left marriages only to regret months or years later. There is a lot wrong in this mans marriage because it was built on lies , but things just don’t suddenly go pear shaped in marriages and people are very quick to claim the aggrieved party but if one does look deep into things one would find that they both have different degrees of fault in the problem.

The posters blood pressure is high and I acknowledge the fact that he is very unhappy, which is very sad & I honestly do feel for him but if he is looking for a long term solution, then he needs to take time out and think very carefully & very prayerfully work out the next step. Hasty decisions are rarely the beat solutions.

Chaircover has said it all here. 

At the end of the day the knee jerk solution you've suggested will not resolve anything.  It's not about married versus unmarried parenting, but the fact that the poster is in a messy situation and is looking to make a hasty decision - hasty decisions of this significance rarely turn out well. And having a child with a third party without resolving his current domestic situation is not a good environment to bring a child into.  If he's got high blood pressure now, it definitely won't improve if he followed your original advice.

I'm glad he's decided to exercise some wisdom and distance  himself from the current situation to get peace of mind.  It is only then that he can make better, more informed decisions.

arsenefc:
Thank you guys. Thank you so so much for taking the time to explain basic stuff to this ignorant Americana.

My other question is: Can you use the light from this "generator" to have s3x with your GF/Wife/Concubine?

You are seriously setting yourself up for insults with this kind of ill thought out comment. How old are you, seriously, to be asking a question like that? Why don't you just Google "generators and see what is available in your own country? Generators exist in the US, like they exist elsewhere. If you have never seen one I don't blame you.

Does someone need light to have s/e/x? Don't people have s/e/x when they go camping?

Answer those first, then reflect on the question you just asked.

Princek12:
Not true. In Europe and America, many customers have ditched the Blackberry for Droid-based phones and Iphones.

We will disagree. Even a straw poll standing on the street you would be aware that most people either have an iPhone or a Blackberry. Droid based phones, though increasing, don't dominate like iPhones.

lastpage:
@N101My "quote" which you responded to, was directed at "naijababe', NOT AT YOU!
Having said that l am trying to, and still cant, "get your drift" in that response you posted.
Be kind to: go straight to the point.,.,. to the point - to the point - No Faking!

See, l do 'rapping' stuff too!

Let me re-state it again, the point is pretty obvious: having a child with a woman without marriage is not less complicated than marrying another woman to have a child. Trust me on this. I have seen the casualties from those "child but no marriage" relationships, they can become very complicated and nasty. It is naive to even think it's that simple.

Now do you get my drift?

If you're going to propose in traffic, make sure "[her name] will you marry me" is on one of the billboards  

Also the last two suggestions made by sexkillz. His suggestion as opposed to your crazy one involving her friend is a much better one!!

Why not charge using a stabilizer rather than direct?

In Nigeria, it would probably be Nokia. Elsewhere i.e. Europe and North America, it's probably Blackberry.

WHERE'S THE NEXT MOD? _Puskin? Where's your nominee Mr Honsule?

I'm waiting. . . .

slimyem:
the most wonderful relationship could also be Mother-child relationship.
I think it's an opinionated thing.

I agree.

If we're talking relationship outside of immediate family. . . . . hmmm, that's a difficult one.

lastpage:
Now, somebody is really talking to you here!
You see my drift?
I thought l was the only one "insane" around here!

I got your drift long time. But having a child without marrying can be just as much - or more - drama than jumping from one relationship to another. There are a LOT of those casualties around.

See my drift?

Just one question - do those people paying N350 get issued an official receipt?

ugodre:
This is not so much about trying to stir up controversy. A Ugometrics we try to question the norm and look at issues that affect our lives from multiple perspectives. To understand issues about life, especially ills, it is often good to take a multidimensional approach. See what we might be missing and what we can learn from it. When some guy suggested the earth orbited the sun some centuries back people thought he was been crazy. As per 419, it was one of Nigeria's darkest era band that we know. The question you should ask is, if Nigerian youths did so well at cyber crime does that not mean with a little support from the government we might just produce a generation of Mark Zuckerbergs. Ironically Mark himself was once suspended at Harvard for hacking into the schools database. An obvious crime! But now he is much celebrated as one of America's finest. So are many other hackers working for the CIA and FBI today.

America is the exception not the rule.  Breaking the law is just that, no matter how you dress it up.  Most hackers don't end up working for the CIA and FBI, few exceptional ones do.

The Nigerian youth that supposedly "did so well" opened a Pandora's Box that has done irreparable damage to Nigeria, in addition to those who they have exploited and lives that have been ruined.  Where are they now?  What is their contribution to bettering Nigeria on as grand a scale as they exploited?  Pretty minimal I'm sure.

imperiouxx:
See another processes for these poor people. Sorry ooo na so you guys choose yours this year. For NAPTIP, this is God's favor for your organisation. Your prayers have accepted because it was jeje you sit that those gullible people drag themselves to you. N350 X 8600 = N3,010,000. Coooool cash! God, let me hit it in a rightful way like this too ooo.

I was thinking the same.  I wonder if this was 100 people if they would have to pay N350 as well.  And if you don't have a photocopy of your passport info, you will still need an affidavit to confirm your identity.

@ Mariofemi - I would also like to know who the N350/N400 is being paid to, that's an awful lot of money for an organisation to be responsible for (and govt agencies are not renowned for being financially prudent).

Found this out a couple of weeks ago from this site 

emmatok:
Sorry op  is not LEGALLY MARRIED to these woman.

For the first wife she deserve what she got for F*U*C*K*I*N*G his relation. GOOD RADIANCE TO BAD RUBBISH.

Some people don't know their limit.

How ironic; he broke up with his wife who was supposedly sleeping with an uncle. He is now sleeping with another woman who is not his wife.

It's the biological son I feel sorry for in all this.

N101: , but most seem to want a ready-made somebody without sharing or struggling together.

maclatunji:
@bolded, is that a good or bad thing?

Problem with ready-made is that you are either at the mercy of the other person, or you drop the person "ready-made" is no more.  Nothing wrong with ready made so long as we don't take it for granted.  Sadly, way too many people in their materialistic reasoning do.

Life has its ups and downs, the downs are the things that make or break us.  No one wants to struggle, but it is the reality for most of us, no matter the size of the struggle.  Who has never worked and saved for something and appreciated it more than if it was given as a gift?

Pata Pata - Miriam Makeba (seriously)

bluepro:
As an advertising practitioner, I still disagree wt the nomination of the Indomie 'Mama U do good' advert. One, l am shocked that lndomie approved that advert. lt is targeted at children and the use of pidgin English at thier age, to me, l feel shd not be encouraged. Secondly, the setting and outlook of the children used in the advert does not truly show children that have adopted pidgin englisg as their ligua franca at home.

If the advert was done in real english and then translated to pidgin for a particular target audience, it then would have made more sense.

For these reasons l feel it should not make a Top 10.

I've seen the Indomie ad in more than one language - the mother changes, the language is different, but the children are the same. I can only assume they used pidgin to reach as many people as possible. I have more of a problem with the idea of feeding children Indomie than with the Pidgin English employed in the ad.

[quote author=cheetah@02 link=topic=774327.msg9279595#msg9279595 date=1317807530]^^^At last a lady with an objective mind.

Thank you.[/quote]"Objective" because people say what you want to hear?  

It's your life, your choice.  If you have to come on the internet for people to tell you what you want to hear, you are not serious.

[quote author=cheetah@02 link=topic=774327.msg9279874#msg9279874 date=1317810527]Can you forgive a woman who decides to be sleeping with a blood relative. Please let's be real here.

I can't go back to her even if she was still single ( she has remarried)

I'm still hurting because of what she did and I am still trying to let go.

Please going back to her is not an option[/quote]I would not suggest you to go back to someone you claim has cheated on you, but are you not doing the same thing in your current situation and desperation for a child?

Deal with your past hurts, if you can't repair it make a clean break with your current wife.  Don't disgrace her, yourself and your son by bringing in another woman.  The only person who "benefits" from this is you, not them.

You guys should direct them to complain to the email address TomiDee supplied earlier. I'm sure once bombarded they either get their act together or take your custom elsewhere.

Why is it that so many black men will always justify marrying outside their race and find fault with black women?

Of the white and Asian men who exclusively date black women that I've met, I've[b] never[/b] heard them bad mouthing their women  Neither have I heard as many black women marrying/dating white men respond the way black men married to/dating white women speak.

It seems that a lot of black men "marrying out" have serious issues.  If you have to justify marrying someone not from your race or culture by bad mouthing your women, there is something wrong with you.

Marry who you love and you are compatible with, not because of their colour.

chiozor:
can someone see the response of the female from the male
i bet you if you are the woman shoes, she will not spare this thought, she would have poked another man and have the child she needs, listen marriage is about children, simple! if she cannot, kick her ars.e out and get a woman that can give you children!

If I were in the woman's shoes I would make a clean break and move on.  I would not marry a man who didn't want any more children.

If I were the man I would not marry a woman who had 4 caesarians if I was adamant I wanted another child.

It is obvious that communication between  him and the woman he is living with has been poor to non-existent for 8 years.  If he's so unhappy he should make a clean break rather than mess up anyone else's life for another 8 years.  Instead he wants to have his cake and eat it.  I would never advise a woman to behave like that.

You are not legally married to the woman you are living with.  Why would she not give things to her children and treat your son differently? 

Your wife has had 4 caesarians, two still births. 4 caesarians!! That's craziness right there.  In your desperation for another child you are accusing her of being selfish - oh gee let's see, if she risks her life to give you a child (because that is what she would be doing), that's best for everyone?  Why do you think "the doctors aren't helping issues"? Hint: it's got to do with the 4 caesarians!

So you're in a 8-year relationship, and looking at marrying another woman.  What are you doing differently from what you claimed your first wife did with your uncle?

The iPhone something was previewed today, but it definitely wasn't the iPhone 5 :p

Someone who is wealthy isn't high maintenance.

Neither is high maintenance a woman who can afford to buy whatever brand name she chooses (men do the same, let's not kid ourselves)

High maintenance are those whose lust for things is bigger than their pockets.

Don't care - whatever God gives, be thankful.

MrBrownJay and Sexkillz, thank you. There are a lot of bitter young men out there who obviously swim in the wrong waters.

Common sense unfortunately isn't common any more it seems, especially in relationships. Everyone wants to be high maintenance and flash cash but fall short.

I don't get the weave thing though

Will this work outside of the US? At the moment, no.

Does it have 3g? No, only wifi.

Can you do as much with it as you can with an iPad or Samsung Galaxy Tab? No, much more restricted.

So for now it really isn't much competition for the iPad or Galaxy Tab. Plus the Kindle Fire will only be as good as its reviews, regardless of the specs.