Obowunmi, I think you should show your friend the comments here.  If she's still waiting for her pastor to tell her what to do, show her that God has spoken to her through these posts 

Tarzan2009:

It is a common knowledge that WHITE women are the most loyal and most respectful to their spouses of all races. I am not saying all, but the overwhelming majority of them are loyal to their husbands. Speaking from experience, dated a few white and black women in college, I can tell you that they are very CALM and don't run their mouths to give you headache. Ended up marrying my petroleum engineering classmate, though she is mixed, but she's damn loyal and I respect her for that. She doesn't yell or arrive at conclusions easily, but takes her time and does it methodically. Most of my friends(Nigerians) about 7 of them are married to white women. Keep in mind that these  guys are professionals, doctors, engineers and lawyers, didn't married them for some socioeconomic reasons, but for genuine search for PEACEFUL LIFE. Some of these guys have been married before to Nigerian women and one phrase I always get from them is , I HAVE NO REGRET. One told me that, I have never known peace in my life until I married this white woman.  

I tell women that, most men have conscience, and as men and by nature, we want to be respected and in return, we will love you unconditionally.  Be respectful and loyal. When I say "loyal",  I know some women on here will jump on me, I don't mean subservient to the man but know that he is the head of the family and if you need to have your opinion heard, do it respectfully as a woman and I tell you what, a true MAN, will LOVE you and respect you for that.

Go for it Bro if you think you found in her what you looking for in a woman.  Caveat, Never make the mistake to go back home or to the village to marry a woman you don't know, never met before, no chemistry, no attraction, for God in heaven, how do you think that will work in this modern age? It may have worked in the past for our forebears, but not in today's world, humans are more wiser.  Most of the men who went back home to marry are today in mental homes or demoralized beyond resuscitation.  This is my two cents,

Everyone's experience is different and for those of us who have travelled, we have options.  I know a Nigerian man who married a Caribbean woman but never dated one - all of his relationships were with white women and, as far as he was concerned, his life was peaceful and black women were too much wahala. It's only when he came across this particular woman that he realised all black women weren't the same.  

You just have to shine your eyes and know who you're dealing with.  Character and compatibility are far more important than colour.

El Guapo:

@Op, Moving away frm ya Story, lemme Use myself as a Case Study.

I did grew up in Madrid, got socialised by evry available agent that came across me and took myself in as a Spaniard though Dad was a Nigerian.
Though i married a Nigerian gurl, i never at any time considered it pivotal or an act that portrays that i've gat my mind at home, i only took the decision cos my Mexican fiancee had to cheat on me which gave me a bad impression bout the whiteys then!

So contrary to your assumption that u're feeling like a Judas by Marrying a White Instead of a Black Lady doesn't mean anything, it all depends on the Character, Ambition and set-out principles of the White Lady u wanna marry! I can vouch that 75% of White ladies would make berra Wives than Nigerian gurls <some>!

delpee:

No big deal. My kids always know our financial status and how to survive under any condition. Its made them to be more considerate and more mature in reasoning. No child is too young to be informed albeit in different ways depending on the age. Its good for everyone.

That is always the best approach. Once children understand the financial situation in their own way, they won't be making the same demands they would make when things were financially better.

Unfortunately a lot of children do not understand the words "no" and "not now".

Those who think there's nothing wrong with getting a visa "by any means necessary" still don't get it.  If what many of these so-called agents are doing is above board, nothing wrong, nothing secret about it.  All that advice can be printed here  for anyone, even if they're not members of Nairaland, to see and get legitimate advice. 

Once you try to circumvent the system and take short cuts,YOU ARE MAKING IT DIFFICULT FOR EVERY NIGERIAN WHO WANTS TO TRAVEL OUT OF NIGERIA LEGITIMATELY. 

Some of you need to take advantage of  your own advice and contacts and travel abroad to see how Nigerians are being treated, all because of someone's so-called "advice" or visa shortcuts.  When it goes pear-shaped I'm sure the devil and "enemies of progress" are to blame.

tinkinfela - kudos to you for your maturity in approaching this subject.  It would still be tricky if she was from a different country but a different colour (talking from experience).  However it's one thing for her to agree to come with you, another when she physically has to be in Nigeria 24-7.

What I would suggest if you're planning to come back home is to weigh up  your options carefully.  Where will you live?  I'm not an advocate for living in enclaves like Lekki or VI, you could pretty much do the same elsewhere so long as you have peace.  Also, make sure you have secured a job, a place to live and whatever mod cons you think you will need before she comes.  The transition should be as smooth as possible, because she will have to deal with cultural shock and adapting which isn't easy.

Also if you get the chance - and I don't know if you have before - bring her to Nigeria to meet your family, friends etc and to get a feel of the place.  Also do this once you have settled in so she knows what she needs to do and what she's letting herself in for.  Also don't let family butt into your business too often nor have people regularly coming in and out of your house unless that is  how you choose to live.  Your house, your rules.

I wish you all the best.

Ugometrics is obviously not serious.   The damage done to Nigeria because of 419 far surpasses the so-called benefits.  If he's trying to employ his version of "Freakonomics" he's way off mark.

Those same fraudsters will not hesitate to kidnap and use armed robbery.  Terrorism, if anything, has increased.  Petty traders' contribution to the Nigerian economy far outweighs any fraudster's so-called economic "boost".  If being greedy, self-interested and materialistic and destroying people's lives is a "boost" to Nigeria's economy, I want no part of it.  High unemployment is not unique to Nigeria or Nigerian graduates.  It's similar in other countries (in some cases higher), so why is it that elsewhere others simply haven't taken to defrauding people on the same disproportionate scale that Nigeria has been renowned for?

Like deco2come said, if they employed that brain power to do good rather than 419, I'm sure Nigeria would have been better off.  As it is, they have done more damage to Nigeria's reputation regionally and internationally than any Nigerian government or individual past or present.

homerac7:

whats all ds thing abt " if they r teenagers" or young adults? hav we sooner stopped how intelligible we were as very young kids? stop insulting kids intelligence here as if u were never one before. it will surprise u  how understanding your "kids " can be if only u can find d proper way to explain the situatuion to them. they even may accept it better that smany supposed adults since they view issues wt much innocence.

remember when i was in primary 5 (about 10 years old), a new kid joined my class. he was much "tusher", than we local kind in d semi-urban public primary school we were attending. he was a loner because he was trying to adjust to his new "status" and not just environment. i befriended him and found out dt he was a Lagos middle class born and raised kid who was attending private school until his father's sudden loss of job, mother died and home loss. the dad had to scrape up things together and borrowed to get then to the cheaper community and placed him and d sister in a public primary school. now, d msg is ds; till we left primary six after abt two years of very close friendship, he never for once blamed d father for his relagated comforts, rather, he was always telling of how his father goes extra miles to see to their needs. he had so much respect and understanding for d father. i can go on and on telling  of instances he will avois spending his pocket money so dt he wont hav to burden his dad wt little levies, and many other things. i think his father's decision to explain d full circumstances to d young kids helped bond them stronger and made them more responsible, empathetic and matured in their reasonings.

i therefore advocate that the kids be told but only in very manner that will make them understand and still fell protected.

Thank you for this.  People seem to think child = not intelligent.  All it requires is explaining things to children in a way they can understand.  That does not make anyone a bad parent. Nor does it mean a child will lose respect for the parents - in fact how the parents handle hardships will gain more respect from the child.

Children will always be able to figure out these things even if we think we're sheltering them from reality.  Our hardships are part of reality, even in a child's world.  Children can observe things and are smart enough to know when adults are hiding stuff from them in the name of "protecting them".

As far as I'm aware, not from the official Android Market.  If you've installed it from your computer, it's sent to your phone via your 3g connection.  On the other hand, you can go to the official Android Market on your phone and download the app.

Maybe the folk who've rooted their phones might be able to help. What do you want to download and transfer to your phone?

Bump

Where is everyone? 

pendo89:

Been there? infact they now read. 'URINATE! .They dare u. Before u unzip they are all over you. Those officials are feared more than cops cz they have no mercy. They hate it when people give them extra work.
I love the new public toilets that were constructed so ul never find people doing such in open or back places.
They are well maintained and they provide tissue. But u pay to use.Just a minimal amount if you are a stranger in the city.
Then if you cross the road anywhere other than at the zebra crossing and you are caught?? fine! Of course not everybody is patient but just pray that there's no official near by. And trust me they are all over.
The thing they are notorious for is clamping vehicles when wrongly parked or when you double park. You cant even buy a newspaper before your car is clamped.
or if you dont have a parking ticket. Parking is damn expensive in Nbo.

Lol at "urinate".  There are joke signs in Lagos: "No dumping by order, penalty Nxxxx" surrounded by piles of rubbish.  A friend and I started a new passenger sport - counting the number of men peeing in public.  It's dead easy because it's done indiscriminately in all sorts of places.  We excluded children, just anyone 18+.  A woman peeing in public would get bonus points but to date I've only seen one.

By comparison to Lagos, Nairobi is pretty organised.  The traffic madness in Nairobi can't even be compared - at least you still see cyclists on main roads.  Remembered an incident in a matatu where the cyclist wouldn't get out of the driver's way - he actually gave the driver lip.  See the driver stop the vehicle, jump out and attempt to give the guy hot slaps whilst the cyclist was trying to escape pedalling uphill   

THREE different men she presented as her Fiance for her pastor to disapprove of?  She is not serious.

I'll believe it's a valid competitor to the iPad and Samsung Tablet when it's been demo'd and tested. So far I haven't seen any independent reviews to convince me.

pendo89:

Now wait a sec,I had not seen the soil.

Where and when was the photo was taken because river road which is the nbo downtown has nice tarmacked roads.
this kind of soil  can only be found at a place called gikomba which is not far from the city.Its the largest second hand clothes market.
You only find soil in 2 places.City parks, or any place with vegetation not roads.
Our council officials behave like hawks in searching for prey. Clamping vehicles parked at wrong places (their fav hobby ).you are caught spitting,throwing paper on street,sitting on flower vase,getting into bus at wrong stage or  public smoking and its an instant fine. Not cheap to deter people.
They are so zealous at reinforcing them.But its good cz they tame people and give the workers less work of cleaning.
What if its a rural area far from the city? u know bodas are found in every town for ease of transport.
nway what is a city without a downside.Jburg has one and so does Miami florida.

I still remember the signs I saw which said "if you urinate here you will be arrested and fined" (loosely translated from Swahilli).  I can't imagine that being a remotely effective deterrent anywhere in Lagos 

JohnDoe loves him some "domestic discipline" or - what was that phrased that was used before?  Oh yes, "aggressively oriented domestic conflict resolution"   

kokoye: 'spank' is relative and have multiple meanings

And multiple bruises, if the so-called wife's "complaint" is to be believed.

;DAT LAST A NEW MODERATOR

Congrats Dragnet (why do I keep hearing the tv theme tune in my head when I say that?)

So in Nigeria we get the equivalent of dial-up.  How would these ISPs define 4G?  I've never heard anyone outside of Nigeria refer to 4G as "broadband" though I could be wrong and it could be common usage in some parts of the world.

justwise:

honestly u no well

"To whom much is given, much is expected". . . .  _{I would accept even N200 recharge} 

The thing no one has mentioned is that they are being discreet.  It is up to them if they want to tell their children or not.

No one is scandalise, unless she's referring to "relations" outside of marriage.  Everyone likes to think of their parents as s/e/x-less  

chivic123:

@All,let me state it again that it has been confirmed that their is no visa on any passport. the truth is that a more advanced fake visa was what was used on few pp (sticker visa). all the visas had been removed by fred before dumping them at the office.sources from naptip confirmed this, the few ones that were brought to syposioum at unilag has no visa on them again. My reason for telling some people to stop insulting is this,imagine upon your insult and facts on ground,people's mind are hard to change.Let me ask you people that believe visa is on some pp this:How will fred locate you (when he is already at large) to collect what he spent on getting the visa?.Dont you think your pp should be with fred instead of being with the rest in the cartons.stop dreaming even those that thought this programme was real before have already changed their mind,why you a common applicant,that has not even seen fred one on one still believe in it.STOP DREAMING.Like canimserv said,its true that you can still do all that and still fall the wrong way.for those that believe its a must and a MUST to apply only in person,what can you tell us about NON APPEARANCE.
On the change of title by the moderator,well why wait this long,this thread has lost its initial objective,and i can see why the change. well some people might be angry again at my post but are only happy on posts supporting them,well its left to you how you feel about it after reading.

justwise:

Does Canadian embassy operate non-appearance visa system for work permit?

CamImServ, Chivic123, please could you respond to the question in bold and explain to  us how this is done.  Thanks.

Fhemmmy:

i know a lot of them.
Some now even uses man-lover ism and lesbianism as a way to get a paper now.
But they need to find a way to determine some solutions, these are kids that wanna go and represent Nigeria in a contest.
Just 2 weeks ago, some 3 Chinese exchange students were on the run, 1 has been caught and 2 still on the lose, would that be enuf to stop giving Chinese visa?

The difference between China and Nigeria is that the former is known to have oppressive government policies and is a so-called communist country. Nigeria on the other hand is supposedly a democratic country, albeit a dysfunctional one.

^^ We have an Alsatian, feeding him once a day doesn't make him more aggressive. It's no use feeding a non-working dog more than once a day.

Locking up or isolating a dog doesn't help either, that same dog may turn on you and your family.

What does work is training and discipline. Alsatians are work dogs and easy to train; I trained our dog to sit in a matter of hours. I've also taught him not to run to strangers in a friendly way - while I know he's investigating and checking out the visitor, I'm teaching him to be aloof. At night he is far less friendly than during the day, especially if one of us isn't escorting the visitor.

justwise:

You are scaring me now

Thanks bro.

I say that cos we no get campaign T-shirt and uniform or recharge card (hint hint )

Congrats to the new moderators - I will be watching with interest.

Hopefully this will breathe new air into the travel section and people will be better informed.

Damysa:
no wonder I have not been able to reach their customer care for days now to confirm my registration. I have registered, yet they keep sending me messages to go and register. This mufus must not cut off my line

Sister, I would suggest you do like me and change network. They are messed up and have been acting that way since taking over from Zain. I can't wait for the day when we can port our numbers to another network!

lanre_front:


Generally, nowadays, no matter what phone you hold, even if it's samsung galaxy SII, girls believe a blackberry phone is more expensive or a better phone. Infact I no just undertand the craze of girls with blackberry in this times.

Please please please, I beg  you, don't make them think otherwise.  It allows the rest of us to get the better phones at reasonable prices.  If they catch on that a BB is not a better phone we buyers will pay for it!   

kenny33:

pls i am looking for the thread that was posted yesterday asking if anyone would like to moderate this travel section, i am very mush interested i want to ban the person using a username Justwise and any other id he.she uses eg Again2 etc, pls moderator or whoever post the thread should pls give me the job.
Thanks

And why should the moderators remotely take you seriously?

otokx:

The Indians are not "animals", don't use such derogatory words. If the staff do not like the reduction then they are free to either resign or challenge such in a court of law.

Boyloaf:

my friend, i pray that wat is happenin to airtel staff at d moment shud happen to u in your place of work in jesus name! Say Amen!!!!!

sidwell:

 Put your self in there shoes what would you have done.I have had experience with india they are the same.

Replace "Indian" with "Nigerian" or any Nigerian ethnic group of your choice and hear the amount of noise people will make on this board.  Derogatory is derogatory, no matter who uses it, it does not give anyone the moral high ground.    

If they are treating their workers badly, it is wrong whether they are European, Indian or Nigerian.

Can the NCC actually bar SIMs? I would have thought only the networks can do that.

And would the network cut themselves out from the revenue generated from unregistered SIMs?

She should go to her parents house and stay there until she's ready to grow up.

So people told her "love will grow" and she believed that - does she always do what people tell her?

Why did she marry him in the first place? That's the question you really need to ask her.

Fortissimo:

Amazon released some new models today. Y'all might want to check them out.

Seen them but not particularly interested.  I guess if someone doesn't have a Kindle and was thinking of buying one this would be good.  The prices have dropped significantly, plus there are a number of options now, including the Fire (Amazon tablet).

Photos - can't be replaced.