THIS SUCKS!

How can you mention it at such short notice? This Eclipse should have been mentioned well before today.

I'm annoyed. Why? Cos it was purely by chance I happened to look up at the sky and thought "hey, the moon's a bit red, wonder why?" Only to hear AFTER THE FACT that it was an Eclipse!!!!

I like watching an Eclipse as much as the next person. Now I have to wait until 2014 for the next one

Your friend should go speak to a lawyer to find out what needs to be done, as I'm sure Ikoyi Registry will tell him the same.

If he doesn't want to have a child he should refrain from sleeping with his wife or use a condom. Unless he's planning to divorce and hasn't told her and wants to "pretend" until he drops the bombshell.

Some of you guys have such a warped mentality, I can only assume none of you intend to get married because (a) she will be looking to kill/divorce you and run off with your things, or (b) women get married to divorce

Harikiri, Ferdiii, unclenna, lastpage etc: what about the men who insist on a registry marriage? I know of quite a few who chose to go that route rather than have a traditional or church wedding. Have they got a hidden agenda too?

I think this is the sticking point:

omoolorun1:

My partners father is an Oba in a town in which i do not want to disclose in ogun state. My parents are not too happy about this as they know about that town and how people are like there and are concerned for my future. (whose parents wouldnt want the best for their child)

Now the question is not about the boyfriend's father being an Oba, but the particular town and its people. Add to that whether the father is implicated in this negative view, we can only speculate.

Is the parent's point of view based on some kind of prejudice (e.g. Egba vs Ijebu) or is it simply that people from that particular area have a general bad reputation? That I would like to know (with examples and not generalisations).

In addition, what if her parents have done a bit of investigating of the people back home and it isn't nice? In that sense, I don't blame their opposition to the union, as they are looking out not only for the best interest of their daughter (who may be naive to these things) but also family reputation.

@ omoolorun1, Kx is right; put everything on hold for now, and see if your parents can come around. Personally I would try to get as much independent information about the people from the area his father is Oba, but then people have a habit of not telling you the truth until too late

I don't know what kind of church you go to, but one thing you should learn is to forgive your father.

If you are going to make a list of his shortcomings, I would like to think it is to pray for God to change his heart, and to help you forgive him for all these things he's done to you. Then burn the list.

Otherwise you will end up just like the man you are angry with. Let go and move on. And next time double check whose meal it is before eating

Ijogz K:

Airtel is a network for the poor, Am sorry to say , MTN Rocksssssssssssss

That's pretty presumptuous, as Airtel is the only network that seems to work (when it does) where I am. Glo, Etisalat and MTN are extremely temperamental, everyone always ends up going back to their Airtel line. So MTN might "rock" where you are, but that isn't the case for everyone.

@ OP, that vomit is just regurgitated info I read/heard about ages ago. Nothing has changed. The service hasn't improved since taking over from Zain, in fact it's worse. I still only get EDGE on my area on a good day. The only time I see 3G or HSDPA is when I'm in another area, and this is in Lagos.

I'll believe it when I see it, but I won't be holding my breath.

Mobile phone technology has made great advances over the last 35 years, so much, in fact, that you’d think we would all be simply delighted with our cell phones. That is not, however, the case. Here are 10 reasons that people are often less than pleased with their mobile phone service.

1. Service Contracts. Have you ever actually read a service contract from a cell phone provider? Worse, have you ever tried to change or get out of one without having to sign for another two years or pay a massive penalty? One might think that these companies pay more for lawyers than they do for satellite or tower service time.

2. Unwanted Features. On another side of the service contract issue, have you ever tried to obtain only those features and services that you’ll actually use, without having to pay for stuff you neither need nor want? A virtual impossibility.

3. Wrong Number Charges. It’s bad enough to have to pay for call time when you make a mistake and enter the wrong number, but having to pay for someone else’s mistake when you’re called unintentionally is adding insult to injury.

4. Text Message Charges. Trying to decide how many text messages to pay for on your basic plan is a bit like gambling on the weather. Paying for more than you need is annoying, not paying for enough and receiving a few too many texts from your friend with unlimited service can be a real blow to your bank account.

5. Hacker Potential. With the stories that have recently been in the news about people being able to hack into mobile phone accounts to hear and see messages, there is even more reason to be dissatisfied with mobile phone service.

6. Dropped Calls and Other Service Interruptions. Have you ever been on an important call while mobile, and lost it when you moved out of the reach of the closest cell tower? Of course you have. In fact, you can be in your own home, and walk too far to the left, or tilt your head the wrong way, and the call is lost. Grr.

7. Weather Issues. Regardless of how reliable the technology may be, nature always finds a way to play a trump card. It may be an electrical storm, heck, it may be sunspots, but even in places where the technology normally works well there can be interruptions in service from natural causes.

8. Random Glitches. Sometimes, it seems as if your cell phone has a malevolent sense of humor. Just when you get to the one bit of important information on a call, there is a technological burp, and you miss what you wanted to hear. Or, what you are trying to tell the person at the other end gets wiped out in a random digital hiccup and does it several times in a row. Throwing the phone doesn’t help, other than to allow you a moment of satisfaction.

9. Technology Advances. Just when you’ve finally become familiar with all the cool stuff that you can do with your mobile communication device, and learned how to make it work for you, some company puts out a new device that does even more! Don’t you sometimes wish that you could stop having to buy new devices and settle into using all the features of the one you already have?

10. Inescapability. You just can’t get away from the darn thing, can you? Go somewhere without it and you experience repeated panic attacks, wondering what important calls you might be missing. Leave it behind on purpose, and it stays there in the back of your mind, haunting you like a garage door you’re not sure that you closed as you drove away.

There are other reasons to be unhappy with your mobile phone, but these are the ones most often mentioned in the 27 minutes of internet research that it took to write this article. Think about it a while and you’ll certainly come up with your own. Share them with someone else, though, we’re too annoyed by these to want to spend any more time on the issue.

Source: http://www.naijatechblog.com/2011/12/10-reasons-people-are-unhappy-with.html

I don't ever write to my spouse on FB, why should I? What I could write there I could write on a piece of paper and stick to his forehead (or forfeit the paper, and when he's asleep write it in permanent marker)

My private life is just that, I don't feel the need to play it out in public.

Short and bearded

When I was younger, he used to do this little caricature drawing of himself on his letters. When I was going through his stuff I found a letter I wrote to him when I was 12 years old - he kept all our letters.

Yesterday was his birthday. I miss not being able to call him, singing happy birthday down the phone and our usual banter. RIP Daddy, still miss you lots.

I used the wap site when my only mobile internet access was via my Samsung D600. Although pages loaded ok, it was an arduous task even replying to posts but at least it worked.

On a Smartphone although it's simple not as good, IMHO. As Emeka 7 rightly said, you can't see other features and it's restricted. I prefer the html site.

By the way, anyone visited the NCC website recently? I think they did their annual update

AND, I discovered a Consumer Portal (slow connection and not enough time to see if it has any useful information):
http://www.ncc.gov.ng/consumer/default.asp

In a country of over 100 million people, only 4,085 have visited the site. Maybe we need to deluge them with complaints. Not that we might get far but it'll be therapeutic for some

godman01:

Most of them could no longer hold the capacity of people using their services but with time they should improve and catch up.

You are kidding right - catch up to what? Their repeated level of incompetence?

How hard is it to have basic, reasonable customer service?
If it is obvious that phone credit has been taken for a service not given, it is not that hard to refund the customer is it?
If a network is offering a service, at the least it should be as advertised shouldn't it,?
If the network is down, it isn't a crime to admit it - yet Customer Service Agents typically lie and say there's no problem or - my favourite - their "upgrading" the network.

These "basics" the networks fail on repeatedly. They are not catching up to anything and it won't get any better. That is why many of us have two or more phones in 2011.

Yeske!:

Guys sorry for not sticking to topic, lately i've been seeing this 'H' sign instead of 'E' (EDGE) on my phone and i dont understand what it means though my browsing speed has been faster for some time now so what does the 'H' stand for and any connection to browsing speed?

Yeske!:

Guys sorry for not sticking to topic, lately i've been seeing this 'H' sign instead of 'E' (EDGE) on my phone and i dont understand what it means though my browsing speed has been faster for some time now so what does the 'H' stand for and any connection to browsing speed?

H stands for HSDPA (High-Speed Downlink Packet Access), basically what is called enhance 3G or 3.5G.

It goes (from slowest to fastest) GPRS - EDGE - 3G - HSDPA.

If you can get the "H" on your phone, count yourself lucky. It basically means you're getting faster browsing/download speeds on your phone.

Baawaa:

We can not blame them much,what NCC is doing?, recently NCC came out that 2.4GHz and 5.8GHz are licensed bands,and these two bands are free to air all over the world.We don't have competent people at NCC

I don't know why they bothered. 3g still isn't common throughout Nigeria. Like most agencies in Nigeria they don't have to be competent, just know how to chop well well

abohrandy:

well accoring to what i saw dis morning on tv, they were like NCC has told them to upgrade or risk being penalized!!!!

They also issued a threat that networks need to clean up their act by the end of the month. So far nothing heard from them since (and we KNOW the networks haven't improved in a month). They've been issuing threats about SIM registration for well over a year and keep extending the programme.

Do you seriously think this "threat" will make any difference?

Yorisb:

So they lied. . .basically?

Nope, not at all. It's simply that they each told the story from THEIR perspective. In between I got the gist

Ah JayCee, that is the N1 million question that has been battered many times on this forum.

(1) Telecoms companies have a captured market (think of it as being stuck in a building with the doors locked), so it's not like they have to go touting for business (the ads are for a bigger profit, not necessarily to benefit the customers).

(2) With the above, they don't have to bother with customer service because you have no choice but to use their network!

(3) Because the networks have a captured market and therefore don't need to make an effort with customer service, expect them to deprive you of service and never pay a kobo back to you. Or issue an apology. That is because of. . .1 and 2.

(4) Does real broadband exist in Nigeria? Even I miss my dial up from 2000 (and back then I was getting a respectable 37k) So telecoms can make up anything, like they have the fastest "broadband" network all over Nigeria and NO ONE will challenge it. Even if they do, the ads will still run without correction.

(5) The NCC exists as a way for people to chop money, yab and threaten, but really do nothing. It's best to work on the premise that you will never get any satisfaction from them because they do not exist for the likes of people like you and me.

Mustay:

The earlier we have the SIM PORTABILITY in place here in Nigeria, the better for us.

For instance, MTN in Ghana are not having a nice time since they had it there.

I can't wait for SIM portability to become reality in Nigeria.

ikhideman:

Its because people enter into marriage as a "contract" instead of as an"honourable covenant union" governed by Love(God is Love)!

Which is the "marriage contract" wedding?

@ochukoccna - Bimbo Odukoya didn't coin the phrase "love is a decision".  If you've read widely enough, John Trent and Gary Smalley have been using this phrase long before her (and even have a book of the same title).

Romantic love is only something that has been introduced to society in the past 200-300 years.  When a man "loved" a woman it wasn't based on toasting or even what he had, and it wasn't like a man didn't know what to expect when he married the woman he loved.  It is a fact, and no one has to say it, that a marriage based purely on romantic love/lust will not last. 

I don't think this pastor is erudite enough in scripture or his communications to get his message across without sounding confused.  Or maybe he himself doesn't clearly understand what he is talking about.

What he fails to realise is that, as de la Rouchefoucauld said, there is only one type of love but there are a thousand different imitations. Why would Paul say "husbands love your wife" if marrying for love is wrong?  Love is a factor in any modern relationship, but it's not the boyfriend/girlfriend type of love which most people presume.

2buff

About the plagiarism: who no like betta thing? Take it as a compliment

I think you should ignore the other poster and their "traumatized". It is an excuse. Always excuses, traumatized, colonisation etc. I wonder why this generation is suffering from the "traumatization" of a colonial period they never grew up in And how comes so many other countries, even more traumatized than us, have moved on from these petty excuses and become major players in the world's economy.

I wonder where the "trauma" lies when you do a job, the person refuses to pay, then abuses you when you ask for your money?

Where does "traumatization" come in when you deliver something to someone who then changes their number, refuses to call you and doesn't pay you?

And the recent "traumatization" a mechanic suffered when he took N1500 for a N300 part; contacted another "traumatized" mechanic who said that's how much the part cost. Now the money's been asked for, the first mechanic is so "traumatized" that he can only return N1000 of the money. I'm surprised we even got that much back - we're "traumatized"!

This has got nothing to do with being "traumatized". In any other country it would be called lying, deceit, stealing and fraud, plain and simple. The irony is, these "traumatized" people refuse to do right, yet when they are defrauded or get arrested for their fraudulent behaviour, they will want your sympathy and assistance.

Keep making excuses for bad behaviour, blame the politicos, government, colonisation, whoever. I'm sure some entity called "god" will come down and magically remove our "trauma" and do the right thing without us lifting a finger.

PatKing:

Being born into a Christian home does not qualify you
being a Christian, except for documentations purposes.

In the African context (I have to say "African" because I've heard this from people from different parts of the continent), people often say "I'm Christian because I was born into a Christian home and grew up Christian", not realising that what makes you a Christian is not reciting reams of scripture nor attending church nor praying, but consciously deciding to follow Christ.

Being "born again" to many is like a brownie or scout badge, doesn't mean you follow the tenets of the religion, it's just something you are (almost like ethnicity).

@ op. Yes they did. Both of course have difference versions from THEIR side.

I recounted the story (both sides) at my father's funeral. Even now it still makes me smile listening to them contradicting each other (he said-she said). Public transport seems to have played a big part in the guy chasing/toasting the lady

jamessmith2099:

I have new blackberry and now want to take Internet connection in this but don't know about the pacakge rates and their speed. So tell me?

That's a bit of a vague question. It depends on:

1 - what you will be mainly using your phone for - internet, email and messaging? There's the option of BIS or BES
2 - which network you're using

Your best best is to check your main network offerings first. Many offer similar services (except MTN which offers some but not others), therefore the prices differ.

afam4eva:

Please everyone should speak based on the way they were brought up. I sleep on the same bed with my siblings and i don't see anything wrong with that.

Agreed. The only adults I'd sleep in the same bed with are my siblings and possibly a parent.

Siena:

Jay, I said next of kin is closer to Power of Attorney, than the executor of an estate.

But isn't Power of Attorney the person who takes responsibility if you are unable/incapable of carrying out certain tasks? For example, I have a bank account which my brother has Power of Attorney over. In my absence he administrates it (with my approval).

Elhef:

I think most people are mixing things up. Nominating someone as your next of kin does not transfer a right on your property should you die. Next of kin simply means the person that could be contacted if need be on your behalf. If what you had in mind is who benefits from your inheritance when you die? I think that will be better addressed in a WILL because if you died intestate (without a will) , an administrator shall be appointed to administer your property. Therefore, let us wise up and draw up our WILL and not give anything to chance. WILL is the only legal documents recognised.
LAWYERS IN THE HOUSE, pls help us out!

I am both for my parents - next of kin AND executor of their wills (depending on who predeceases who).

@ 2sexy

I agree in many ways with silentc  and Outstrip - and I can imagine why he reacted the way he did.

He's never met his mother, she is a virtual stranger to him and meeting for a brief period just puts a face to a relationship, but doesn't make a relationship.  It seems like  you are blaming him for your mother's passing.  Though it is indeed sad, would you have managed any differently if you didn't know of your brother?

You have no idea what demands there are on his finances in the USA (school loans, etc).  It's not his responsibility to service your family needs, if he does that is his choice.  Some of us put ourselves through school without family or any other kind of assistance - as the saying goes, what doesn't kill makes you stronger. 

Let me give you a bit of advice; learn to build a relationship with him, without making any financial requests or making it sound like he should have helped you financially with your studies.  I'm sure if that was done in the first place and you got to know each other well, he may have been willing to send some assistance. However, I get the impression from the beginning that he got hardship stories and money requests even before he got to know any of you properly.  And that probably put him off and led to him changing his number.

hydroking23:
Whatsapp is the best chat application out right now next to blackberry messenger. Its good for android, blackberry, Iphone and its even running on certain Nokias running symbian, not sure about windows mobile. Check it out!

I passed on Whatsapp because it doesn't work with Windows Mobile. It was difficult to find something that works with Android, iPhone, Windows Mobile and Symbian. In the end it was easier to choose an application where I got at least 3 of the 4 OSes. I could always chat Nokia to Nokia via Nokia Chat.

In short, no. You need a debit or credit card. If it's possible, it would be from one of the "black market" Android sites, but not possible from the official Android Market.

I tried LiveProfile but kept having problems with it - not just me but so did my brother. In the end we dumped it and opted for Kik Messenger which was significantly better.

The other one I used and did like was Viber.  Unfortunately my phone didn't have enough space but I found lots of my phone contacts were using it (mostly iPhone users).  Regarding Yahoo Hotmail etc IMing, I've been using eBuddy for years.  The best one I've used was Nokia Chat, but that doesn't exist for Android