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Family / Re: My Parents Are Always Quarelling And Fighting What Do I Do? by N101: 2:49pm On Sep 28, 2011 |
maclatunji: Bless you, such a thoughtful response, but you're not dealing with reasonable people - trust me the older they get, the less reasonable they become. Reflect on what? Wetin be "reflect" to them? Take one away from the other, you will then hear complaints about how he/she misses the other one and then they will start picking a quarrel with you. People like that can never be satisfied. @ poster, at some point you become the adult and the parents are like the child, so it's for you to tell them to behave themselves. Not sure how old your parents are, but you children need to tell them to behave themselves or you're going to put them in the corner facing the wall until they do! Trust me, they'll sort themselves out for a while before the next argument. Each time they misbehave, remind them of the impending punishment that awaits them. While I agree with Chaircover I don't think any of those reasonable questions will do anything other than go over their heads! Been there done that. The above works, depending on the type of relationship you have with your parents. I could get away with it, plus it stopped them dead in their tracks |
Technology Market / Re: Kindle Users: Share Your Experience On The device Here by N101: 2:30pm On Sep 28, 2011 |
Thanks for the info. Unfortunately that is the case; the IP address tells them where you're from and isn't limited to Amazon, sadly. I had loads of ebooks before getting my Kindle but there are a few books on Amazon I'd like to buy, so will be buying those outside of Nigeria i.e. in Kenya I'm going to try the wifi but realise that most of my books are already on an SD card or similar so just have to synch them (unlike my last laptop the USB slots work on the newish one). I tend to avoid file sharing sites for a number of reasons. |
Technology Market / Re: Kindle Users: Share Your Experience On The device Here by N101: 1:20pm On Sep 28, 2011 |
@ osikhueme Thanks for the write-up. I have a Kindle 3 3G. My understanding is that 3G will only work in certain countries, but wifi should pretty much work wherever you have a wifi connection shouldn't it? Have you tried connecting it to a wifi network, and if so what happened? Have you registered your Kindle and if so via which region Amazon? My understanding is that there's an issue regarding buying books from Amazon if you're outside certain countries - so you could buy and register your Kindle in the UK but if you move to Malta you can only buy via Amazon.com. Even if you have a bank card and address in the country where you registered your Kindle, you aren't allowed to buy from that region. Very confusing. Maybe because there are so few Kindle users in Nigeria that may be the problem - I wonder if South African Kindle users have the same problem? Where do you buy your books from? |
Family / Re: What To Do About Brother In Law? Reflective Answere Only Please by N101: 1:11pm On Sep 28, 2011 |
@ owu gal like I said, I don't think your husband is blind to his brother's behaviour. He's adopting that "you deal with the household" thing so he doesn't have to deal with him, you are the intermediary, therefore all the stress is on you. It is awful to have to police everything in your house, and sadder still you don't have the support or back-up of your husband. I suggest that, if your brother-in-law ever comes back to your house to stay, sit down with your husband and lay down some ground rules for your in-law. Make sure your wardrobe has a lock on it next time - how someone could be visiting and going through your wardrobe is totally disrespectful. I don't even do that to my mother much less an in-law. Make sure you don't buy any new appliances so he's free to destroy what is already there Keep a nice stack of bedding etc for people to take freely so you don't have to think about it (lock up the rest). Your life is what it is, however it is possible for you to have some degree of control over what happens in your home without making enemies. You set the tone and rules, not visitors or family. It is sad that you have to live like someone under seige in your own home, but sadly that is the cross you must bear for now. Many of us would love to be better off than we are, but all we need to do is manage the resources and things we have. I'm glad this hasn't put you off having family stay, but some people need more boundaries than others, your brother-in-law being one of them. |
Politics / Re: Abandoned Apartments In Lagos Taken Over By Aliens by N101: 12:05pm On Sep 28, 2011 |
Richfella: Me too |
Family / Re: My Wife Is The Reason For My Success by N101: 11:51am On Sep 28, 2011 |
Reminds me of someone I know who has a horror story for everything positive you could say about relationships. Some people are like that, but it is not a reflective of most relationships (which, incidentally, we never hear about). OR, maybe the ones who see suspicion in everything to do with relationships, marriage and the opposite sex just congregate around the wrong kind of people Madam CC, spyder880 and to many others, may our marriages continue to flourish and grow. May we continue to be the best husbands and wives we can be, and be the best examples to the next generation. May we take the rough with the smooth, any bumps along the way can only make us stronger. Most of all, we should appreciate what God has given to us and never take it for granted. Thank you spyder880. I hope you let Madam see what you've written here! |
Family / Re: My Wife Is The Reason For My Success by N101: 12:32am On Sep 28, 2011 |
spyder880: I would like to know if those men who are (badly) advising you to be careful of your wife are themselves married. Maybe you should ask them about how things are in their own homes, because it is obviously nothing like yours. It's good to see a man appreciate what God has given him. More grease to your (you and Madam's) elbows! |
Family / Re: What To Do About Brother In Law? Reflective Answere Only Please by N101: 12:23am On Sep 28, 2011 |
I cannot imagine the husband is unaware of his brother's behaviour. The poster has stated that she was away for a couple of weeks he polished off a tube of toothpaste, then started using hers and the baby's. Unless, as Siena has pointed out the husband is blind and deaf (the lack of sensitivity wouldn't surprise me), he must have noticed these things. Notice his brother wasn't so foolish as to mess with the husband's toothpaste as he very well knew what the outcome would be. I just think the husband is keeping quiet and supposedly tolerant because his wife is running interference so he rarely has to deal directly with his brother. Neither would it surprised me if the poster has spoken to her husband about it and his attitude is to let it be. It is worse that the brother is only there for the holidays and is displaying such bad behaviour in a short space of time. The husband needs to lay down some ground rules and not just leave it for his wife to do. Maybe if this was done and reinforced from the start a lot of what we're hearing about wouldn't have happened, or at least not to this severity. |
Technology Market / Re: Kindle Users: Share Your Experience On The device Here by N101: 2:15pm On Sep 27, 2011 |
I'd love to know if there are any Kindle users in Nigeria, and what their experience is: using the 3g or wifi only versions, buying books, even registering your Kindle. Are Kindles sold locally (Nigeria), if so where, and for how much? |
Career / Re: Is There A Market For "knowledge Tourism" In Nigeria? by N101: 2:13pm On Sep 27, 2011 |
AjanleKoko: It can work in Nigeria so long as those involved aren't looking to gouge/exploit the participants. It can be done at local level and bring in reasonable income so long as the end result is achieved i.e. learning the local language and getting involved in local projects. People are hospitable enough and it can work when they see the value it will bring to them locally. |
Family / Re: Why Do Nigerians Use People? by N101: 1:41pm On Sep 27, 2011 |
sauer: And notice I said "poor but honest", nothing about poverty. Now the childhood and good parents thing is an interesting angle - please expand. While I'm not convinced all children follow their parents pattern, peer group sometimes has more importance than parents. Plus if you add to that a lot of people are pretenders (children "pretend" to be good at home but are wild outside, people say one thing but practice another). . . |
Food / Re: Do You Need Irish Potatoes In Large Quantities To Be Supplied To You: by N101: 10:53am On Sep 27, 2011 |
What is a bag in kg as in how much does it weigh? |
Food / Re: Pumpkin Recipes? by N101: 10:52am On Sep 27, 2011 |
Make your own version of Pumpkin Soup. Or soup with pumpkin in it |
Phones / Re: Interested In Moderating This Section? by N101: 10:17am On Sep 27, 2011 |
I don't know o. . . . I think the anti-spam bot is full cos those sell sell posts are coming back with a vengance. And WHERE'S OUR NEW MODERATOR? (not shouting, just asking a question ) |
Family / Re: Factors For Choosing A Mate by N101: 10:13am On Sep 27, 2011 |
Mateability |
Family / Re: Why Do Nigerians Use People? by N101: 10:11am On Sep 27, 2011 |
sauer: I think the points highlighted by Miss Ife etc are very valid even if they're not from Nigerians, and one I would love to hear addressed: if someone has ripped you off in the name of "business", why continue to do business with them again? Are we not helping to fuel that person's dishonesty and unreliability? I don't think it has to do with childhood. Some people have poor but honest parents and the children's behaviour is far removed from this - why? Could it be because some people are more greedy and materialistic than others? As for the bit in bold - speaks volumes doesn't it? |
Family / Re: Why Do Nigerians Use People? by N101: 12:55am On Sep 27, 2011 |
@ 2buff - I feel you. Thankfully I'm beyond the Auntie/Uncle thing, it's Mrs X or Mr X. The only people I call Aunty are those who were there in my childhood, not anyone I met in my teens unless I feel comfortable calling them that. While I agree with Swift SMS in part, my attitude is that I'm not going to trust or commit myself to anything or anyone until they prove themselves to me, moreso if it is work related. The Bank of N101 is closed, if you ask you will not get no matter what your god(s) told you. |
Phones / Re: Android, Anyone? by N101: 12:09pm On Sep 25, 2011 |
Azanor: No I didn't. My phone was a freebie. It came with the Case-Mate case but I'm thinking of getting another one, cos the Case-Mate I have is too "flashy" |
Phones / Re: The Naija Tech Assistant Is Now Here! by N101: 11:31am On Sep 25, 2011 |
So, what are your specialities - if mobile phones, any particular make/OS? What about tablets? |
Travel / Re: Fred Olawale Makanjuola (Crystal Services) Scams 7,000 People by N101: 10:50pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
justwise: Awoof didn't just run belle, but empty pockets too! dustydee:Hmmm, wish kind "educated" be dat? |
Family / Re: How do I make my Dog Mean? by N101: 10:00pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
Would love to know whatever happened to those dogs. . . |
Family / Re: Police Wives Advised To Be Good Mothers And Wives by N101: 9:50pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
maclatunji: But the well-fed, well-bred people who are "big boys" are just as corrupt. Guess delicious meals won't make any difference |
Travel / Re: Fred Olawale Makanjuola (Crystal Services) Scams 7,000 People by N101: 9:45pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
If you could pay N250k or N500k, why not just apply directly to the Canadian High Commission for a visa? |
Travel / Re: The Crystal Service immigration Scam by N101: 9:43pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
chivic123: I'm not going to engage in a war of words, but your comment just reinforces my point. Now that you mentioned it, where were YOU at the beginning of all this? Knock yourself out bro, nothing do you. |
Family / Re: Police Wives Advised To Be Good Mothers And Wives by N101: 4:59pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
maclatunji:Lol. Bet that doesn't include the Mamaput meals and Shepe they consume while on duty I can't even believe they came up with this rubbish as a serious point - like delicious meals will stop them from collecting N20 from people. |
Travel / Re: Fred Olawale Makanjuola (Crystal Services) Scams 7,000 People by N101: 4:36pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
Murder_X: Are you sure about this? Just one thing; check out the link and following links, and then come back and clarify your statement: http://www.canadainternational.gc.ca/nigeria/visas/medical-medicaux.aspx?view=d |
Travel / Re: The Crystal Service immigration Scam by N101: 3:30pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
chivic123: I have been inclined not to respond to your posts, which are most often medicine after the fact. The problem with the Crystal Services applicants and a lot of people in Nigeria is that they are lazy - they do not bother to do their research, check their facts, ask legitimate sources for answers. They want shortcuts and to do things on the cheap. How many times have I seen people post on NL asking about a website when the time it took them to log in and post they could have done a Google search and found it (and I have done many of these on my mobile phone so it's not rocket science). Those same people who were scammed could easily have: [list] [li]Looked up the information online provided by the CIC.[/li] [li]Contacted the Canadian High Commission and Deputy High Commission for information and clarification[/li] [li]Read the information from different forums online which provide legitimate application support, including one of the threads here in the Travel Section of NL.[/li] [/list] There is no secret way to do things, there are no shortcuts. Anyone who tells you otherwise is a liar. They will blame the agents, alfa, pastor, family and friends, traditional doctor, juju wey pass juju, big men, secret cults, all sorts of nonsense instead of accepting that, from the evidence presented, the Crystal Services offering did not add up. They have no one else but themselves to blame. Some of us repeatedly stated the right way to immigrate to Canada, and what CS was doing was suspect, and got nothing but insults and curses from these same applicants. Desperation is not an excuse for stupidity. I would like to think people will learn from this, but I very much doubt it. The Lord has provided information all over this thread, but keep waiting for Him to give you answers. 1 Like |
Romance / Re: My friend and my feelings.... by N101: 2:56pm On Sep 24, 2011 |
lola.luv: And your response was what. . .? The guy basically opened the door and you didn't walk through it? By not responding to his comment he's probably thinking this is a one-way street and you don't feel the same. My suggesion? Next time he opens the door, walk through it and see what happens. Or if it bugs you that much, present the scenario exactly the same way he presented it to you and see his reaction. |
Romance / Re: Would You Pay Groom Price For Your Boyfriend? by N101: 3:43pm On Sep 23, 2011 |
MyJoe: Shy-One: @ Shy-One. . .maybe they're the only positions he knows |
Romance / Re: Would You Pay Groom Price For Your Boyfriend? by N101: 3:42pm On Sep 23, 2011 |
Groom price would not be a bad thing if it led to couples being more responsible and accountable. But as men pay bride price and it doesn't make a blind bit of difference, it would probably be a senseless exercise. |
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