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maclatunji: It is okay to get married before your older sibling but it is totally wrong to disrespect him/her because you got married ahead of them.

I totally agree but it defeats me why in the 21st century someone would want to disrespect their sibling because of their marital status. Someone must have a serious inferiority complex to do that.

@ nice4life
Yes it's ethical - this is not an ethical dilemma but a cultural one. Have a wedding that both parties can afford and want. It's the celebration of a union between two people, not a look-what-I've-achieved-that-my-older-brother-hasn't event, otherwise it would be named as such and not called a wedding.

I actually found it was one of the few "chunks" of post I was able to follow easily (probably because I wasn't reading it on my mobile phone).

Chigurl I don't really know what to say to you. Your situation sounds similar to a friend with the exception that she had a good relationship with her father but none with her mother. Like you, she has next to no relationship with her sister who has a child.

And I can understand your need to vent. You are not the sum of your mother's mistakes, but at the end of the day she is your mother. At least you have said your own and she knows where you stand. The success of your current relationship is up to you, I wish you all the best. One thing I would advise is that, when you do have your children and they are old enough, make sure they know who they family is from your side and don't stop them from forming relationships with your family.

My first handset was an Ericsson phone - forget the model, it came out in the late 90s. Back then I used to change phone every year.

My favourite handsets were the Siemens S65 and Sony Ericsson Z600. I lost the first and the last was stolen I did buy another Siemens S65 and gave it to my brother when I got a newer phone. . .but he didn't want to give it back to me, not even a swap and became possessive of it

Now I have an Android phone, but would I take another Siemens S65 or Sony Ericcson Z600 if it was offered to me? Yes!

Body language definitely isn't one.

Rub under your chin with the back of your hand/finger tips: in one place it means you're thinking, in another it's the equivalent of insulting someone.

Putting your hands on your head: in some places it implies you're thinking, in others it is seen as lamenting.

The "thumbs up" sign: in some places it means you're right/ok/good one, in another it is like cursing someone.

An even simpler one that many of us may be aware of: give someone something with your left hand in some places isn't a big deal but it some it is seen as derogatory/rude.

So body language/gestures can be interpreted differently according to cultures.

Barka da sallah to all who have lived to see and celebrate this day.  

Pray for peace not only among the Ummah, but for Nigeria and the wider world where peace has been replaced with conflict.  

Pray not only for our families, but remember those who are not as fortunate, who are not surrounded by family, who will have no Ram to slaughter, who are suffering, who have lost their homes and family through violent means.  

God does not reject the prayers of the righteous and those who pursue peace.

@ Canuck - as a fellow middle child, I have to disagree with you. 

I'm not indecisive, I've always known what I wanted to do and have done it in one capacity or another, I don't compare myself with my older sibling, and the sloppiest are the oldest and youngest! The one thing I can tell you most middle children are is flexible.  You do whatever you need to do to do to get where you want, which includes avoiding whatever the older sibling does so you aren't forever being compared to them.  No child should have to endure that.

Remember you also have to include the birth order of the parents to understand how that plays out with the children.  There are lots of other factors involved, like the gender of the siblings above and below you plus, if you've read widely enough on the subject, you will learn that middle children are the hardest to define - we are that unique!

[quote author=olajide_07 link=topic=797265.msg9487782#msg9487782 date=1320508888]I was just going through one of the national dailies and it seems to me the british government is trying steal from us they way they have always done as our colonial masters, in my submission I think except I can be further enlighted that they have found out that their so called pound would soon have to be deregulated because of the euro zone problems facing europe and their economy may soon nose dive if they do not do some form of economic re-engineering, it reminded me of Bob Marleys song the "buffalo soldier" t[b]hey have just found out that most of their citizens are not interested in working[/b] and this is causing a lot of issues for them economically after a close assessment of the greek economy, they have now decided to change gear from what I saw their they said that for any nigerian to live in the united kingdom for a year he would have to earn at least £35,000/annum about 9.1million naira imagine the turn over and economic boost 200,000 nigerians legal and illegal immigrants doing that amount just to stay in the u.k their economy would only get stronger as well as them making up the difference for their social service system OWO baba, critically speaking it would generate more spending and increased productivity in a foreign country because of the relunctance of their own people to do minial jobs and factory jobs, wahala dey O![/quote]Source please, and is the second part in bold I presume is your opinion. Is it based on speculation or evidence?

I really don't know the warped kind of religion a lot of people practiced, it's almost like a veiled version of traditional practices cloaked in Christianity and Islam.

Ronkebp and Mrs Chima and others have said it all.  TEST the spirits to see if they are from God.  So you go to consult a so-called "prophet"/Alfa - why?  What are his credentials?  Is he/she a person of integrity?

Your first point should be to go directly to God who will guide you into all truth.  God does not make the choice for you, it is ultimately your own.  Along the way God will confirm it, if you watch and listen, you don't need a third party.

If the signs are obvious (slimyem I know where  you're coming from), that person clearly is not for you.  It's no use trying to force the issue or pretend otherwise whilst the person is giving you high blood pressure because some so-called prophet/Alfa said it is so you should tough it out.  You have direct access to God and he will communicate very clearly to you.

@maclatunji

The irony of this is that many manuals come in PDF format or a Quick Start manual, and people STILL don't pay attention to those Even the lil pics that they provide for those who don't want to engage in all that plenty grammar people still ignore them. The first thing I do is look for the quick start manual. Then, if there's a PDF version of the full manual, I will put it on my phone or USB drive and take it with me to read later. You never know when knowing some functions will come in handy.

Someone bought a new touchscreen phone, but guess what? Not only did they not bother to look at the manual, they had no idea how to answer calls! I had to download the manual, read up that particularly function (very easy) and texted them the info. . .and then suggested they might want to look at the manual just in case they don't know how to do other things like check voicemail.

Some people

Old thread but the topic never changes.

Monogamy doesn't encourage infidelity. People in polygamous relationships can also be unfaithful unless you work on the premise that a polygamist is only as faithful as his last wife.

I recall a story years ago about a policeman with two wives who raped the daughter of a colleague. I know of a man with a number of wives who still ran after other women - don't know if he's still alive but it was rumoured he was possibly HIV+

So the lack of fidelity has nothing to do with monogamy. When society make believes that men can do whatever they like without repercussions (they will always be forgiven), why should they remain monogamous?

So far I've counted two potential travel agents - WAVixen and teenyyinka (and Collins when he has the time )

Any others?

FINALLY got the 10gb data, but am I the only one having problems getting through to their Customer Service line? I

It seems to have gotten progressively worse. I selected an option on the 141 number only to be told "you have selected an invalid option", but the option is actually there!

This is sad, I can't even see it as a "happy ending". If the parents of the lady weren't so narrow minded this would have been a happier story. As it is there are damaged people all around - except the parents.

I wonder why the mother now sees this man as acceptable for her daughter to marry?

ochukoccna:
My take on low key weddings is this?
Can two walk together except they agree?
NOTE: Low key wedding is not the same as a budget wedding.

People often confuse "low key" with "budget". As CoderXO there's a mentality out there that "I wan' carry their daughter on a shoestring budget". If no one finances your lifestyle or calls the shots and you don't have a hundred opinions in your business, you can have the ceremony you want.

As much as I love my family, thankfully I didn't have to deal with that annoying scenario where you are told you HAVE to invite Aunty CeCe cos she is your mother's neighbour's uncle's friend. Been to a wedding where the groom's mother behaved badly because her invited friend wanted to bring 6 of her relatives (who was this lady again? No one could say).

The less stress, the better.

@ Abbott - been there, done it, have no regrets. Our families didn't have a problem with it though some would have liked us to change location.  

As for the people who asked afterwards, I simply said it was what we wanted and it was less complicated.  No one questioned me and I didn't feel the need to justify what we did. One big advantage I can tell you about was that we had NO STRESS whatsoever.

If you feel the need to tell everyone who's bank-rolled/financed your life then you won't be having a low-keyed ceremony. If you are adults and your parents respect your decision, it's up to you and your Fiancee to get married the way you want to.

What's the big deal about a delegation of 135? That's about 1m+ per delegate, so in fact we all had a share of the cake through our representative on ground in Australia

[quote author=T.Moni link=topic=790110.msg9430950#msg9430950 date=1319734559]Guys, you need to understand that nobody set up a multi billion naira investment just do delibrately frustrates the very core of the business survival. However, there has been a very stiff competition between the operators big enough to put the operators on there feet.
you should know that the operators spend millions of dollars to ensure that customer get best quality of service, but this effort are being sabotaged by the "nigerian factors" that you and i are aware of. for example.

continuous generator thefts in major high traffic sites which directly affect the network.
continuos diesel thefts of all site belonging to this operators
continuous and delibrate vandalisation of fibre facilities by thefts and miscreants.

power cut in just one site will cause a series of network issues which they will need to trace and fix, we will have perfect networks if we have a good goverment settle dis challenge.

you will not set up a business just to do everything to frustrate your out customers, it doesnt make sense,[/quote]Working on the premises that the network operators aren't fools, their primary motive is to make money, providing a good service is relative.The "obstacles" to business in Nigeria were well known - Government has given them the licence to operate telecoms services in Nigeria. Do you want government to hold their hand while they do it as well?

How do you explain poor to non-existent Customer Service? What about offering/advertising services but not being able to fulfill them?

Same problem with Club 10. Since signing up last week, still haven't been credited with the 10mb. All I hear from the various Customer Services agents is "be patient". The 10mb runs out soon.

This is indeed fraudulent; the ads are still running but the service to existing users is zero.

It was a non-event; I got a kiss and "happy anniversary". The first year was a steep learning curve, not only for my spouse but for me.

In any case I'd prefer gifts and surprises on my birthday, anniversaries are not a big deal to me.

I would still opt for the Samsung Galaxy S over the S2. I don't need a 4"+ screen, and 8GB internal memory is more than enough for me.

In fact, the Galaxy S has been superceded by the Galaxy S Plus (or Galaxy S 2011 as it's known in some circles).

1. ColorNote
2. 3g Watchdog
3. Google maps (prefer Ovi Maps)
4. Opera mini/mobile
5. Kik
6. Calendar
7. Weather app
8. Calculator
9. Mail
10. Backup

Not sure it's just MTN - I've had similar problems with Airtel, with large outage periods. I was surprised to get 3g at all, and the only place I got it was at the airport.

I suggest you hold on to your MTN SIM, even if you do change networks. Don't be suprised if you have the same problems with another network. It may be a reception problem, but I've found that the rainy season and bad weather are contributing factors.

debrief08:
How many women dey suffer like me oh?

Uhm. . .actually I put things down and briefly forget where I've put them (that's my excuse and I'm sticking to it!)
It's gotten to the point that I don't say anything and just look, but certain people have figure out my M.O. so I get insulted and laughed at.  It hurts. Why should I suffer because I've misplaced something?

Dude, you need to take your post to the Dating and Meet-up Zone.  The Family section isn't the right place.