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michelin89:
And not to mention NL offers certain puff puffs the opportunity to claim they are hot and I am not in anyway referring to na2day. Naaaaaaah!

see this lepalangins, i go whoop ur behind ooo! and i am hot, so hot that you've been dying for my fine self

TOPE2000!:
sharap
u are u in real life as well. dont lie

this is a free forum, i have the right to lie

noetic16:
Nairaland offers anonymity . . , . real life does not.
If I were to express half of the religious views I have expressed on this forum in real life , . . . .a fatwa would have been declared against me. Nairaland is IMO just a platform for discourse. . . . and does not reveal my person.

would I even have a discussion with u in real life?. . .Nope.

my point exactly

r231:
oh oh

r231:
Are you basically the same person on or off the forum?

Are you more shy in real-life, or more outgoing?

Are you more open on the forum compared to how you are in your everyday life with friends? Just curious, Something to think about.

if i tell u i might have to kill ya

harakiri:
At least Nas was married. How about 50-cent who had a child with some douche bag and she has a son for him. . .he pays approx $48,000 per month and she took him to court for more money.On top of that, she even had the guts to sue him for half his assets on the basis of "verbal understanding" between them.She said 50-cent promised to give her half and with that, she is entitled to half.The burning down of the $10 million home where she used to stay points to him although there is no evidence but he has taken back his house and insisted that if she wants to remain there, she MUST PAY RENT! Now , that's how to beat the system.Imagine her bringing different men to his house, driving latest cars with child support money and all that crap.Thank God i'm Nigerian.

amen to that brother, amen! imagine her asking for 50% of his assest thunder fire her!

Realvoice:
I know a Naija guy who got divorced about 3 years ago in the UK. His wife took the two kids and the house. Plus she gets him to send monthly up keep money and stresses him for so many other things.

The guy was recently discovered dead in his house 3 months after he died, he died of an apparent heart attack (dude was less than 40 yrs) and no one knew he was dead in the flat for close to 3 months.

I'm not saying his wife killed him but the general conception from all his that toil of the divorce and his ex-wife's constant nagging plus the fact that she took almost everything contributed to his demise.

now that is just wrong, poor guy

@ topic

i am glad that guys are coming out to voice their opinion about this delicate issue, i was beginning to think i was the only one worried abt the trend

kaecy5:
men i sure agree, with smart lawyers prowling around these days

it use to be child support until alimony came into the picture

the woman will always be the king in divorce, and the man is a working slave for the woman

jUST LIKE NAS paying kellies $50,000 for child support thats sure crazy some men would kill themselves


Thank God i am a Nigerian would marry the traditional way

i dont blame u brother, going to the village to pick a wife is beginning to sound like a good idea

harakiri:
Why won't the men be more suicidal when they have divorce laws that reduce a man to shreds! The divorce law in western countries is 100% in favor of women.If you cheat on your woman and she takes you court, you lose ALL. If your wife cheats on you and you take her to court, you still[b] LOSE ALL![/b] So tell me, where is the fairness in that? It's a win-win situation for women all the time.This is why a lot of the guys there at best, prefer to just have kids, co-habit and if they seperate, it's just life support.Imagine being kicked out of your house, losing your car and paying ridiculous amounts in child support to a woman who will bring her boyfriend into YOUR HOUSE and the guy rides around in YOUR CAR! Sometimes, i don't blame O.J Simpson for what he did.I would probably do the same thing.

no mind them, they just transfered the wrong doings from one person to another and claimed they fixed the inequality in marriage. what ever happened to 2 wrongs dont make a right?

Busy_body:
HMMM, na2day my lolo, thank God this is not our portion, i would be back, Lemme go to the river 20km away to fetch the water to boil to wash your feet this morning, i have put your food in the usual place.

tee hee hee looking forward to ur verbiage

Ninapha:
@mama-gee

And where have you seen real African Couples divorce?

Are u really saying Africans dont devorce legally or how?
when last have u visited a customary court?

It depends on who is opting out, it could affect the man or the woman the difference is that whoever gets prepared for it feels less the pain.

there is no amount of preparation u can make as a man if they will yank 50% of ur assets away from u and u pay child support and u then fall in the wrong tax bracket!

Tink_sh:
Good for you!! At least you are starting off with your eyes wide open!! And hopefully you want fall into the same trap i did. I wouldnt trust women either, lol!!! Some would skin you alive if they could all in the name of revenge! I agree, a promise is just a word now, doesnt mean anything so protect yourself. You sound like a smart guy who has his head on the right way so i am sure you will be fine. If both sides protect themselves everyone will be fine.

u are the 2nd person to think that i am smart, the other is my mother!

Tink_sh:
Thanks and your right, I wasnt smart enough and was too trusting but i have learnt a huge lesson and wont make that mistake again. I am so sorry for your friends, i dont understand why people are so decieving to the people they are supposed to love. I still believe in marriage but would always go through everything together. I think the trick is to not leave the finance up to one person. Maybe a type of pre nup that set down what each would get in a divorce. But i was young and had my head in the clouds and believed in together forever no matter what!! Divorce was not an option but it wasnt my choice. But as i said, a very big lesson learnt!

i believe in what marriage was meant to be but i dont believe in the girls i see these days and in ur case the guys. i also dont believe in divorce but this is the 21st century where a promise dont mean a thing, so if i will get married, i am not walking into that battle zone snoring, thats for sure!

Girl846:
THE END IS NEAR! Wait!!! Do not direct away from this page.

There is nothing to be afraid of. THE RAPTURE will happen whether you like it or not. It is better to be prepared!
As you keep reading this do not stop. The truth can be scary or intimidating. Guilt and pride can make you run away from hearing the truth. But I plead with you, YOU CANNOT AVOID THE TRUTH. It will catch up with you whether you like it or not, and God helping all of you, it will not be too late! I feel compelled to share with you some things. Again, please do not let pride or rebellion keep you from being saved.
WE ARE IN THE END TIMES.
The world is in chaos, morals are being misplaced and so many terrible things are happening. There are many signs that are coming to pass. There are many hidden agendas of governments. Media and entertainment is lewd and corrupted.
THERE IS NOTHING AND NO ONE WORTH GOING TO HELL FOR.

http://www.1timothy4-13.com/files/prophecy/signs28.html

http://www.divinerevelations.info/

PLEASE TAKE TIME TO REFELECT ON THIS. LISTEN TO THAT TINY VOICE INSIDE OF YOU.

PLEASE GIVE YOUR LIFE TO JESUS NOW!! Do not wait a second longer!! God Bless you.

***lastly, please if you feel the need to blast this post, direct your insults at ME and do not blaspheme in any attempt to bash me***

u are right sis, the constant earthquakes and wars and the famines got me thinking too. I am working on myself and by God's grace will be ready. last thing i want is to suffer on earth and suffer in eternity

Tink_sh:
The business was bought by both of us, both on the documents but i didnt find out til it was too late that while i was away visiting my family he and his parents had got a lawyer and took me off the business partnership. Til this day i dont know how he got away with it but i had nothing so could not get a lawyer. We where married so we had joint accounts, both our wages went into the same account, it was 'our' money. But i made the mistake of not checking cos i trusted him totally. I should of had my own account, i should of check the bank statements, etc, you live and learn!

When i went to talk to a lawyer all our personal assets had been tranferred into his brothers name so i couldnt touch it. The caravan, the car, the house, he had documents to say his brother had purchased it from us, Very crooked! But he will get his! Eventually he signed me over the car but only cos of our son. He gets cash work so nothing is on record so i cant get anything. He is on a overseas holiday at the moment after travelling around Australia after selling the business and pocketing all the money.

I am working but about to move into my my fathers house so i can get some money behind us. I barely earn enough to cover anything so am moving back home. But i still say i got the most important thing, my son! At the end of the day my ex has all the money but is a very sad and miserable man whereas i am grateful for small things. But i am tired of hearing how bad men are treated in divirce, I was naive and too trusting, wont make that mistake again.

But it all comes down to who has the best lawyer and the most money to pay them.

i am sorry for what happened to u but it boils down to the same thing we are talking about, protecting one's self. i am not a big believer of joint account. she can own her own account and i will own mine. if she gets into debt, she will carry it on by herself and i will make sure i get as little damage to that affect as possible. once again i am sorry u had to go through this but u didnt protect urself and that is what pre nup is all abt, protecting ones self from morons like ur ex. even when there is no divorce, some kinda things some couples go through is just insane. i was watching cbs the other night and this lady called in to ask for financial advice. she has a joint account with her hubby and she keeps all the records. she is a stay at home mom and he works. he brings the check, she pays the bills and get them whatever they wanted. after abt 7yrs she is now telling the poor dude they are $65k in credit card debt and the guy is lost for words on how. she claimed she bought clothes and food for their 2 kids. imagine! $65k! ! ! she gotta be kidding me! funny enough my friend's wife did the same thing and when he found out, he seize all the credit cards from her, and destroyed them. events like this makes me wonder if marriage is what the stress

Tink_sh:
I have tried to ignore commenting on this subject but i cant stand it anymore!! I am so sick and tired of hearing how poor men get done out of their money in a divorce, especially in the west!!! Not all are so innocent and loose everything. Some, in my case, are very sneaky and have put everything in his name. Even our business dealings and assets before divorcing me for greener pasture. I ended up with absolutely nothing after 12 years of marriage and building a business and giving him a child! So please stop crying over the men who lost everything cos some women spent the best part of there life trusting, loving, supporting, working hard to end up with nothing! My fatal mistake was trusting that he would never do that to me or our son! I was so wrong!!!

I am always grateful that i have my son but after 12 years of my life and working long hours, i had to start all over from nothing. My ex husband kept everything and all these years later i am still trying to get some maintenance out of him.  So i am sorry i dont agree.

i need to move to ur part of the west, in the USA, plz, if the guy in prison, if he ever gets out and a gets a check, he is in hot soup. and i am curious, if the biz was built by both of u, why was it only in his name? was the house bought by u? the cars, where they bought with ur own money or his? if it was all his then u shot urself in the foot

Sagamite:
Thanks, bruv.

The WEST have destroyed marriage. It is one thing to correct a wrong (women being shafted in divorce), but it is another thing to transfer the wrong.

It is not nice (or romantic, as chics would say) to be doing the whole pre-nup thing, but with the risk to men (financial destruction or injustice) involved nowadays in the West, it is a MUST for any one with his wits with him.

It is pretty silly/risky to meet a woman for 18 - 48 months (of dating), and then put the ability to destroy your life in a her hands by not protecting yourself before marriage (the courts WILL not protect you, they will in fact f you up).

It might sound all loving, romantic, beautiful, heavenly, gorgeous, chivalrous, nostalgic, passionate, enchanting, idealistic to say "I love her and I trust her so I don't think I need a prenup". F that, go and ask dumbass Paul Mcartney and hundreds others. Women are biological inclined to think of only their feelings and needs in a relationship, hence their constant me me me in relationships (except that relationship is with a completely selfish male they are with to change, then they are all giving giving giving like mumus).

Very negligible number of women have the self restraint to not exploit the possibility of getting far more than they know they are entitled to from a man they do not love anymore. They are programmed biologically to think of only themselves and their own feelings, and culturally it is accepted for them to be that way.

ha! i am beginning to think u read one of my books? did u?

Sagamite:
No child needs like 200K (in cases of wealthy people) a year to be taken care of.

No way would you spend that on a child, and no one is going to monitor how you spend the money, and since no child needs it, it is going to your pocket and that of your new lover.

No man should be funding an ex (and her lover in some cases), except he deems it fit himself that she is worth it, not if some stuuupid judicial system sees it acceptable.

If a man feels it is OK to take half his possesions to fund his kids, then let him make that decision himself and expense it himself.

Loving ko, shoving ni! When women love you, they will do anything for you. When they stop loving you, they will care for their own poo more than they care for you. If you are rich, protect yourself for when the "loving" stops.

Otherwise, he will funding a woman he is not interesting in anymore and her lover. A man that does that in this day and age of horror stories is a dumbass!

It is lovely to share when you are together, when you are no more together, I aint sharing my sweat anymore.

e don tey wey i know say that head wey dey for ur bodi dey function properly. u be beta persin jare, tell the truth, they need to hear it!

emmboy:
I'm just amazed why pink is always the best colour of ladies. Surprising, maybe when they were younger, other colour might be their favourite colour but as soon as they know whats up, they automatically grow love for colour pink. It seems there's something special behind it so pls ladies could u shed more light on this?

what ladies? my mother and her peeps didn't know what pink was until my sister came along; to them it is just another color!

Sagamite:
Thank God you know those are the only 2 parties it protects and in the case of wife, gives advantage. The man does not get any protection, he gets shafted, hence the suicide rate.

Only a foolish, risk-loving or poor man does not sign a pre-nup if he lives in the West.

amen brother! even if she is richer than me, we must sign a pre-nup so when sh.1t hits the fan every1 goes home with what each other has earned themselves period

Pweety4me:
_{I have no idea wat u r talking about?}

dont worry about it

uniqued:
pweety4me dont mind him he is confusing you for one of his yahoo mates.  so dnt b confused
na2 day why u ignorin deal with u when u wake up. hisss

sorry was watching a show on TV. BTW what is ur take about the topic on divorce?

Pweety4me:
_{Huh?who is sanni?}

sum1 IMed me and i was wondering who that was

uniqued:
na 2 day. wat u yarnin bout go to bed,

are u coming to meet me there?

Pweety4me:
_{I told u dat the other tyme derr brain. . .}

by chance is ur yahoo id got anything to do with a sanni?

Pweety4me:
_{Wat church?i am a muslim remember?}

since when?

Pweety4me:
_{Forum rules!check my profile.}

ok, will do that for u baby. arent u going to church?

Pweety4me:
_{You r breaking d rules if u don't see me here again don't cry oo. . .}

what rules?

sista-jay:
To most, divorce is seen as a failure, most men can't stand losin, especially when they've given their all into the marriage.

true but for most it is more than that, the financial implication is way too heavy on the guy's side

Pweety4me:
_{4get it now edit my comment that u quoted.}

pay me

Pweety4me:
_Wat?. .

reply to the topic

sighs

Pweety4me:
_{It's not funny. . . shut down and don't talk 2 me again}!

over a pic?

Pweety4me:
_{It's not about being fat. . .it's just dat u never did show dis guy previously. . .}

LOL

Pweety4me:
[color=#770077_{]Hissss stop twisting my brain. . .}[/color]

awww, baby u know i wont do that to u. dont u like fat guys? aren't they humans that need love too?

daylae:
@na2day hmm. . . .then his case is one out of a milln tragic stories.

the study says about 40% or more in the USA, so that means there are many. 3yrs ago i read that the divorce rate among nigerian marriages has gone up to 50% with the guy either ending up in jail or got the worse of the deal.

Pweety4me:
_{Hehe which kind man u be?y snap picture and hide face?anyhow who is d other scary dude?}

ehmm, me?

Pweety4me:
_{The one that was dark in complexion and wore a leather jacket.}

check my profile again

Pweety4me:
_{Who was the other dude?}

what other dude?