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Everyone else is seated and calm but mercy has been dancing non stop because she heard that she won.
That mixed party nonsense just ruined everything. Biggie is a fool.

fergieboy:
Jeez no celebrity is supporting frodd and Seyi

I feel for them


Their last too sure

Mercy,,,, Cubana chief, Rita Dominique, Anita Joseph, mc Galaxy

Omoshola,, Mr jollof

Mike,.. Teddy A

'Seyi.. None I can think off

Frodd.. None

I think kiki osibanjo is supporting seyi
Davido is supporting omoshola

Stmema:
You can find out once you are 18 weeks using normal ultrasound scam depending on the position baby is lying in sha...

Really? That's good cos am almost 18wks

MissOlawumi:
Just request for anomaly and gender scan.

OK thanks ma

Prettyuche:
It is by scan.are u not up to 20 weeks?

No am not up to 20 yet

Does it have any faults? Can you deliver to abuja

Stmema:
Team Feb 2020..how are we doing... Have our bumps started causing go slow? Able cappo.., hope your are good.. Abeg register me o, I have found out baby's gender n i can't keep calm

Biko how did you find out so early ? What test did you use, I also want to find out mine thanks

jazzyjazz:
Please see your doctor. I know theres a kind of rash and itching that comes with pregnancy for some people. I've forgotten the name. It's usually reddish too. See your doctor and show him or her and explain. Pele mama

Thank you,
The doctor prescribed piriton but it doesn't seem to be working

Please mamas I need your help urgently, no read and pass abeg.

Since yesterday I was having these plenty red rashes all over my body and they are itchy too. The rashes are all over my body face, entire arm, belly, legs. Its quite uncomfortable.

Please who knows what the cause is and what I can do to relieve it.

Is it normal in pregnancy? Has anyone experienced it before?

Thanks

Nimi22:
Na was o. Even the heaviness Don tire me too.

Dont worry its all for a very good cause, kpele.

MISSYTOSIN:
Mama in the house, is taking okada bad in early pregnancy?? my husband inists i take Uber anywhere I am going. That baby is still in the early stage

Choi
You dey enjoy oo

somehow:
And the father is?

other children would be if you are getting more?

Be aware that you children are visitors inyour home
They will spend max of 23yrs fully in your home unlike your partner who's expected to be forever, so think this through and deeply.

Are you male?

Nimi22:
Team December am I the only one in this? My tummy is so massive that everyone thinks I will put to bed anytime soon. On Tuesday I got to work late and 3 different people told me that they thought I had put to bed because they didn't see me on time. Thursday again someone saw me and said this my tummy is big and she knows I will stop coming to work soon I said why cos I never ready to born she was she said which you are coming next month I laughed and said even month after and I quickly ran out of the office before they ask for my EDD would have posted a pic but I donate any and I'm even lazy to stand right now. Who else is with me on this?

Its like that with second, third etc pregnancies. You show earlier and the bump is bigger/ heavier.

I don't start showing my first pregnancy till I was around five months but this second one am in third month but belle don dey protrude already.

Joyfulmama:
I don't think 2020 roll call have started before, January just start today. Maybe if you call your Teamie out they will start. Don't let us be lazy 2020 mamas.
About early pregnancy fatigue remedy, you are not a ftm so embrace it, it's just for a while, you will get over it. Wishing you stress free journey

I wasn't as weak for the first one. This is the first time I am having this type of weakness. For my first kid I had mostly nausea and extremely sensitive sense of smell. No tiredness.

Thanks tho.

Have they started taking roll call for March?

Please who knows a good remedy for early pregnancy extreme fatigue?

Is there anything I can do to alleviate it? Thanks

To even hold my phone write self dey hard me, am so weak. And I have a baby to look after that is always wanting attention.

0neal:
The key is BALANCE...IMO "parenting course" should be made compulsory for couples intending to get married; it won't even be out of place if the court start asking for a documented "Family Plan" before legalizing marriages

True.
So many people having children these days without knowing a single thing about raising kids.

Fountainofyouth:
I cannot believe there is still an ongoing argument regarding this obviously straightforward issue, who says anything about neglecting your spouse, who says anything about the absence of oneness, we are talking about priority and welfare of kids above the spouse, it can NEVER be balanced, no matter how you look at it, one will be higher than the other and in this case, it should be the KIDS, jeez.

Sure

0neal:
Even before starting a business, one is required to have a PLAN; if a survey is done, how many families make out time to come up with a PLAN (education standard, welfare and all) for their Unborn Kid(s) before conception?

When some couples don't even have a preconception PLAN on how their parenting style will be, then it's no surprise this topic will be an issue.

In my Opinion from birth - 18yrs, or whenever they leave for higher institution, kids should have the utmost priority from both parent; its not subject to debate during the formative years (Discipline, Coaching and Guidance Stage) of a Child.

I can't even understand the ridiculous mindset of putting children wellbeing last after spouse.

Sad state of mind of many Nigerian parents.

LordKO:
Where oneness is the bond that hold a couple both their individual and collective action(s) automatically become a collective decision.

It's so unfortunate that most of you believe in marriage but don't believe in its soul which is oneness.

You and the other person seem not to understand my topic

Nobody said you should not be one with your spouse.

My topic said put your children's welfare first before each other.

'Welfare' here is the keyword.

Did you people even read the Opening post?

bukatyne:
Ok.

Put your children before your husband.

EOD.

Thank you.

OK.

Put your husbands welfare before your little children.

EOD.

Thanks

bukatyne:
Who has higher chances of survival? Whose issue is urgent?

The husband and wife decide way forward depending on their peculiar situation.

Both situations are equally critical

bukatyne:
What if they have more than one child?

Why don't you answer the question of what if they only have one child?

The one child should starve or wear torn clothes while spouse gets the fine things of life?

bukatyne:
Your state of mind is the issue..

You are equating the spouse (husband here) with children.

Should I give my husband or child? Seriously?

In the scenario above, my husband and I will give the kids the plate of food and pray for provision.

My kids would understand that we the parents love them and are responsible for them.

Same action, different mindset.

My state of mind is not the issue.

Your questionable opinion about putting spouse welfare before children is the issue.

Or God forbid the child and the husband have pressing health needs at the same time ànd money is enough to cater for only one of them.

We should leave the child to stay sick and treat husband instead not so?

Or on Christmas day the money the family has is enough to sew new clothes for only one person.

I guess husband and wife should arrange to sew clothes for either of themselves instead of giving consideration to their child.

bukatyne:
When you marry, your spouse is your first and last.

That is the only covenanted human relationship.

If she is not almighty, she wouldn't be expecting the husband to still be waiting for her emotionally after years of putting the kids first.

It is you, your husband/wife......... and kids.

There is a difference between caring for the kids when they are totally reliant on you and putting them first.

And parents should build and plan for their kids together.

OK

So

Assuming there is just one plate of food left in a house with husband, wife and their one child.

So wifey should give the food to her husband and let her child starve because she puts her spouse first?

bukatyne:
And the husband would be waiting for the almighty wife to remember him years later after the kids are gone?

Did she forget him before?
What makes her Almighty for heavens sake?

Husband and wife should both sacrifice their convenience and comfort for their kids first and cater for them more than they cater for themselves.

LordKO:
Oneness with spouse before anything else - so spouse before offspring/kids. Anything outside this is balderdash to me, and it'll mean that such a woman doesn't deserve my crown, faithfulness, thoughtfulness and goodness in general.

I don't see need for marriage in the absence of oneness of the couple. Oneness is the soul of marriage, while altruism is the soul of oneness.

Unrealistic idealism

Esthered:
I think in an attempt by women to be careful in the homefront in the name of safeguarding their children's future, they get it wrong or they never loved the man but just want to procreate and be like their mates. A man knowing he's not a priority in the home is enough to be distracted by the one that makes him a priority outside. I read a novel years back where the author opined that if wives behaved like mistresses, there'll less marital failure. I listened to a show on radio when a regular caller said his wife was too good for him to move on after over 5 years of her demise. I hope women with these mentality will realign their thoughts of the institution of marriage to build a great home that can serve as a positive point of reference for upcomers.

@ bold, so a woman who isn't her husband's priority should also be distracted by men who make her their priority not so?

ogawisdom:
Kids before spouse especially when they are very small
.
Only an idiot will disagree

Of course, kids first. Then they get older and independent or married even then you can resume putting your spouse first.

I started a topic some days ago and in the course of discussion I mentioned that I will put my children before my spouse when it comes to welfare and I also added that I will like my spouse to do the same ie place our lids welfare before mine because they are the most important part of our lives.


It seems some people were in disagreement with that sentiment and were saying spouses should put each other first so that in their old age after kids have left the house they can grow old together instead of clinging to their married children for love and significance.

I have to disagree with the idea of putting your husband or wife's welfare before that of your children. Why? Because you chose to bring those children into this world and it is your duty to make sure they are happy and satisfied and living a good life and your own wellbeing should come second to theirs talk less of the wellbeing of your spouse. Choosing to bring a life to this world that is already difficult for majority is not something that should be taken lightly, many people would have rather not been born considering how miserable their lives are so it should be made compulsory for parents to ensure that they can provide and cater for and show enough love to whatever life they selfishly choose to bring into this world. There are already took many stupid parents in Nigeria bearing kids like rats just because they see others having kids, not caring if they can be good parents, not caring if they can provide good quality upbringing for those kids and the last thing we need is the messed up mentality that we need to be putting our spouse before our kids.
Once you have kids that's it, you must sacrifice your comfort and convenience for them and they must come first in your world.

Imagine if you place your kids before your spouse and something bad happens to you and maybe you lose your life. How would you like it if your husband or wife decided to relegate your children's welfare inferior position and starts putting their new husband or wife's happiness first before the kids you left in the world?

That's actually what leads to many kids being abused these days by step parents. Their mom or dad taking them as second fiddle to the step mom or dad.

Thanks for reading

Omoluabi16:
Nahzyla, even if you share the safe office desk with your husband, an irresponsible man will still cheat. The talk of him cheating because you were not there is a very silly excuse some randy men use.
I'd advise you take the job and move your children along with you.Opportunities are rare these days, so don't limit yourself.
Since your husband's job is off and on, considering close proximity (JUST 3 hours), he can be with you and the kids in his off days. Maintain your humility still and don't bruise his ego..and even if you leave make sure you do with his blessings.Who knows, he might get a job there?by

P.s...Your use of the word PERMANENT and thoughts of your husband VISITING ..e get as e be.

Thank you for the kind advice

I never had any intention of disrespecting him, I myself I really hate being disrespected so I wouldn't do it unjustly to others.