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FloraEC:
Lolzz, I can imagine. I just finished eating hot peppered jollof rice with Cucumber. As I brought it down, I just dished out my own, that one is tasting cos I'll still eat dinner. I'm not even bothered about the weight gain until after I deliver.

See how my mouth is watering at the sound of hot peppered rice. Choi
Pepperish food is so appealing these days because of this funny taste I normally have in my mouth.
Enjoy your food oo

olabrinks:
Don’t worry it’s normal. Sometimes the weight gain is also caused by excess water in the body plus swelling. Also your body stores extra fat during pregnancy in preparation for the baby. I don’t even want to check my weight because I cannot purposely make myself depressed Lool . After a year or two you’ll be back to your normal weight or least close to it. If you’re lucky it might even be as fast as 6 months, but there’s no pressure or stress ahbeg.

A year or two?
That one no too long? I had not finished losing weight from the first baby before this one started.

Anyway hopefully mine won't take so long.

olabrinks:
We shall lose all the weight once baby arrives. We are in it together

Amen ooo

I really hope to lose this weight, it's not funny at all, I have abandoned all my pre pregnancy clothes because they are now too small.

If you see how fat my legs have become now ehn, chai

Anifaza
Sorry about all this, that's how one of my SIL was asking to stay permanently in our house after she left her husband's house due to irreconciliable differences.

We live in a mini flat with one kid so her staying would mean my hubby would have to start sleeping in parlor while she stays with me and baby on the room infact the few days she stayed with us after leaving her hisband, that was how he slept on the uncomfortable couch just to show her respect she is much older than him. She knew my hubby would not be happy about her living with us permanently so she came to make the request from me instead of him.
When she saw I wasn't going to agree to her staying, she instantly started becoming hostile, she left the house and started saying all sorts of offensive things about me to my husband on phone, telling him lies about how I called her a witch and refused to eat her food and how I insulted her the way nobody has ever insulted her in this life, infact the rubbish she said about me are tooo much. When she saw that he wasn't buying it because he knows I am the very quiet type that cannot even quarrel much less use such offensive words against her, she directed her lies to her other brother's family she started living with and only God knows what she told them because him and his wife that have been so friendly with me before are now so hostile and her other brother even ignores me when I greet him.

Dont mind my long story, I am only telling you this to help you know that you are not alone, many SILs just make it a point to frustrate their brother's wife, I don't know what kind of pleasure they derive from doing that. That is why many women don't even like husband's relatives living with them. They basically expect you to slave away for them and kill all your needs and desires to please them.

Good luck in your marriage, hope everything resolves itself soon.

FloraEC:
You're not alone sis. I ate swallow(fufu) with okra soup in the morning, few minutes I started shivering cos of hunger, I drank tea with egg bread and plantain. I slept off, woke up very hungry, prepared yam on fire, drank goldenmorn and smoothie to hold the hunger, I brought out 5pieces of yam to eat with red oil cos the goldenmorn did nada. I still ate after cooking the vegetable yam. Around 4pm I ate okra soup.
Don't ask me what I ate for dinner

What am experiencing right now in pregnancy

If I don't eat constantly eyes start turning me, whole body starts shaking and nausea sets in.
Even if I am not hungry, it's the same, I must eat. I have added like 18kg this pregnancy and it's just 6months plus

Another thing is the tiredness that refused to go away. Even with all the eating th tiredness is still there, no strength to do exercise or daily chores hence the constant weight gain

Chimzy09:
3,500 - 4,000
Not gone there this pregnancy cos of the distance.

OK, thanks ma

Chimzy09:
Firmcare diagnostics. Tswanya center in Garki. Dunno how far it is from your location

Thanks
How much is their own?

futuremoma34:
Come to Albany pharmacy, by 3rd Avenue, union bank gwarimpa.... It's 3500...

Wow, so cheap.

Thank you

Please which knows where I can do cheap 3d scan in abuja?
Thank you.

I asked in nisa premier hospital they were telling me 20,000 for 3d scan

ogoo98:
I have this Hot Power Belt like 10 pcs left to give out.
Size L.

Please I need one to tighten my belly after I put to bed next year, thanks

If she has a debt book they should look through it and interrogate everyone that borrowed money from her.

ireneidiva:
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Don't be a coward. Mention me and say your mind. I'm a woman and so what?

Dont be an attention seeker, you are not the person I wanted to address so stop demanding mentions from me.

Breaststroke:
1. Paternal relatives have a warped mentality and sense of entitlement. They believe "this is my brother's house" so they tend to act with little or no regard for the matriarch of the house.

2. They contribute nothing to the health or well being of their brother's household but want to take, take and take some more.

My maternal relatives never visited empty handed (mind you they weren't swimming in money) they would bring fruits, yam, sweet potatoes or whatever food was in season from the village. My paternal relatives would visit empty handed and still look for what they could take away, even when some of their kids lived with us already, being catered for by my dad.

3. Patriarchs hardly ever say or do anything to stop the unruly behaviour of their relatives in a home they share with their wives. When a wife tries to put an end to some of the bs, she is quickly labelled a bad or wicked wife. Some men do nothing to shield their wives from such nonsense.

4. Paternal relatives rely too heavily on that one brother who is successful in the family and want to drain him. They forget that success in life is their personal responsibility and not their brother's responsibility.

5. Paternal relatives can be a lazy brood when residing in their brother's house. To clean the compound or wash the car is just too much work for them.

Maternal relatives are more helpful with chores, being mindful of the fact that, this is my sister and her husband's house. They are respectful towards the patriarch and conduct themselves appropriately.

6. Patriarchs sort of encourage their relatives' dependency and poor attitude, by refusing to confront and end it. As a child you see this and wonder WTF is wrong with all these people? My dad inclusive.

My personal experience. Has it helped to unravel what is a mystery to you?

I'm certain you know damn well why paternal relatives are not well liked, because you must have experienced some of this as a child growing up in your father's house but you still chose to start a thread about it abi?

Some men grew up in a situation similar to mine, but then they get married and allow the same shit repeat itself in their homes. I shake my head and wonder, when will these men learn that prioritizing their siblings with their wahala, over their wives/children rarely ends well.

Thanks, you summarized it perfectly

In my sister's house her brother in law lives in their house, he does absolutely nothing. Even to wash the bathroom in his room he does not do it. All he does is eat and watch TV and gist and go out and then lock himself in the room with his girlfriend when she comes visiting. Even while my sister was pregnant the guy did not assist with housework in anyway.

In contrast those of us from my sisters side specifically her siblings, we can never ever visit her even for one week or one afternoon and then leave her to carry all the housework on her head. Even if it's to wash plates or sweep by house we must do something to relieve her burden and we always buy gifts when coming.

My sisters inlaws just pop in and relax expecting her to do every every, even the women among them unfortunately.

Hamachi:
Does, that mean he cant help out?

Abeg ignore that person, I doubt it's a woman sef.
See her drawing conclusions way I no understand sef

ireneidiva:
You knew he was like that and you married him. So you have to live with it o

Wow...

Na wa oo...


And you're female.

Op lightbulb story made me laugh I remembered my own that I have at home that will not do one single house work even if it starts inconveniencing him. If you no sweep him no go sweep, if you mo clean dust e no go clean am, he no even fit feed him own pikin.
In his mind it's women's work. I once traveled for one solid month and came back to meet dirty bathroom and black filthy tiles. He didnt wash it the entire duration of my absence.
I also contribute financially before anyone asks.

phillippians:
Back on campus, mine was caused by a strong love for my baby girl. She needed N2500 urgently, was very broke that period so I went to a block factory to work. We were to load a truck and fill it with blocks for N5 per block, Loaded 500 blocks, I nearly died, funny part the manager said we had to follow the driver to the site and offload it again before getting paid which wasn't part of the bargain. Long story short, I got my 2500 and headed straight to give my gf. She was happy, and good girl as she is she used like N500 out of it to buy me drugs as I took ill the following day! I fear that work, and there I met boys that are even used to it hmm!!! Imagine a student doing such odd jobs! Funny things guys do for love. We got married June this year and she had a very pretty daughter for me. she's gainfully employed, federal job for that matter and am now into business!


MORAL LESSON : Nigerians are out to use you, get rich at your own expense, most expecially Private Organizations. People re just too selfish!

Wow I love this story, may God preserve your marriage and fill your home with peace and love. You're a good guy, your wife is very lucky

Please I need information from anyone who ventured into business of making and supplying pastry and bakedgoods, like smallchips, cakes chin chin etc.
Please is it a good business that brings good returns? I was thinking of going into it, what do I need to know about it to be successful, ,please help me with valuable info, thanks and God bless you.

nautybride:
Babe, I know what you are going through. From experience, keep yourself busy with your phone, movies and chores. When kids arrive, it will be worse, but you will not be bothered with his absence. Besides be happy, husbands are time consuming. FYI, Expect some disappointments because majority of his friends are single�. Madam, just keep your lane o! Welcome to the club.

Lmao @ bolded. It's a risky thing actually. That's why married people should hang out with each other and singles vice versa.

baby124:
Really? . You think she has unrealistic expectations? You think working herself to a frazzle even when she’s already busy will help her get over this? What’s the use of the marriage if they can’t even be married?

Calm down
I didn't ask her to work herself to a frazzle.

That's why I asked her to engage in hobbies or activities she enjoys doing. Personally I enjoy drawing so even after returning from work I can still draw a few lines on paper before bed and admire my work.
Secondly in an ideal society nothing is wrong with expecting her husband to bond with her but truth is that many nigerian husbands are not romantic and are quite misogynistic so they dont see the value in things like that. It becomes unrealistic when you live in a society where many men look down on showing tenderness or being romantic to their wives. She should keep herself entertained in other ways instead of pining over him.

OP you will be shocked at the number of women who are complaining of neglect in their marriages. Not just companionship but even sexual neglect.

I was friends with a girl that used to cry initially she got married because her husband would always leave her at home for very flimsy reasons even when she was sick.
She later joined some motherhood and business groups and got busy to the point that she hardly ever mentions him anymore, she is always talking of work or her kids or her little cousin staying with her.

The truth is that many women have many unrealistic expectations from their husbands when it comes to emotional availability, some men are different sure but the majority dont want to continue the whole lovebirds-spending-time-with-eachother lovestory.

Find nice associations you can join or even WhatsApp groups, what do you like to do as hobbies? It can be baking or art or even red cross, although I dont know if they will fit into your schedule. Stop expecting quality time from him please, just remove your mind from it, try and focus on doing something you love, start a project and work on finishing it.
You can even join a book club online if no physical one near you. Sorry dear.
I understand.

Get busy and remove your mind from what he is doing so you won't be depressed and ignore what the males on this thread are saying about you being boring or you being the cause of his behaviour, if a man started a thread saying his wife is always visiting friends and neglecting him nairaland men will call her a bad irresponsible wife and many of them will advice him to get a girlfriend outside to give him the attention his wife is depriving him of.

kokaiye:
u just described exactly wat is going on.... Dt shootin of bumbum n i alway feel d nails scratching me ... I am alwz lik jst b enjoyin ursef there oo baby shogbo... Its ur time ojere

You can feel the baby's nails from inside the womb?

neonly:
Yes I totally agree it was bad and evil but women can really frustrate someone especially when they are d bread winner hope u get my drift am not saying some men don't do it but 99% of women will naturally frustrate their husbands if they become d bread winner

Men also frustrate their poor wives that depend on them, 99% as well. It's a human trait, not specific to women. There is no need to start bringing up this issue as if it justifies the mans actions of trying to kill his children. Of his wife frustrated him he should have left the marriage and not try to kill innocent children

neonly:
Before crucifying d man let hear the other side of d story
Women can be very aggressive especially when they become d bread winner
Through I don't and will never support d man action towards d innocent children but hmmmmm women they can bring out d worst in a man after they will be forming the victim my opinion sha

Then is it men that dont display arrogance and treat their wives like crap when she doesn't have money?

Men are worse when it comes to things like this, let's be straightforward here, the husband was wrong, why will he try to kill three innocent souls in such a painful manner when they didn't do anything to him?

Call a spade a spade. He was wrong, dont defend wickedness because your fellow man is the one doing it.

sharone21:
True talk....even money for family planning, he doesn't have.
This is how some of our men disgrace Nigerians abroad eg Ireland to fight for welfare paid to their wives for their children. They childishly displayed this till Ireland's government stopped Nigerians from just coming over to have their babies and the wife+kids(1st) then whole family getting their residence permits later....in fact they spoiled this route....route that helped Ghetto Daddy Showkey and some others to Ireland....

Good for them.

Nigerian men can be so irresponsible and the way they display arrogance and pride as if they have made any meaningful contribution to humanity is just annoying.

They took their nonsense to Ireland, how can a sane human being start fighting his wife for his childs upkeep money. Tueehh! Useless people

Modified

Mine was 20k for a small company in an isolated area. I would have managed but the owner of the place started insulting me and calling me a thief when God knows I never stole anything, in fact I was losing my personal money trying to keep the place afloat.
As if that wasn't enough they started delaying my salary because they were annoyed that I didn't make the amount of sales they expected that month.
It's truly not easy getting a job as a married woman with children in Nigeria.

So sorry tatacherie, please start a new thread in family section about it so you can get as much help as possible as soon as possible. Somebody on this thread has already made phone call for you thank God,
Please start a thread so the case can blow up and you will get lots of helpful advice and the culprit will be fished out sooner.
Sorry again. Why are men so heartless?

optm:
hi vitreous detachment doesnt really pose a risk to vision unless in a few cases where it might pull hard on the retina during separation causing a tear and leading to complications like retinal detachment in d long run but there's no evidence that suggests worsening cases of vitreous detachment during labour

Thanks doc

How do you know if its vitreous detachment or retinal detachment because I was having flashes on the corner of my left eye after scratching it hard.

Optometrist can a woman with vitreous detachment push hard in labour? Will it worsen the condition?

Mzleemah:
Team March 2020 First Roll Call (October)
Supply your Edd and gender for those that already know. Let's March into greatness. I will be your humble Cappo but we are all doing the job together #teammarchfornoloss #teammarchforsupernaturaldelivery

Moniker....................Edd..................Gender

1. Nahzyla......19th March..... Unknown for now

Yayyy am so happy we have roll call at last.
I filled my info inside your quote. Nice to meet you our able captain mzleemah