₦airaland Forum

JONNYSPUTE:
. I didn't bother because I know my wife. If my brother had done something wrong,she wouldn't hesitate to tell me.

It's no harsh laws or being doctorial here,what I did was to help her stop any of our relatives from visiting our home because that's what she wanted.

Does she contribute financially or joins in breadwinning?
Please don't lie when replying

Michellekabod2:
you men ain't innocent of this hypocrisy. Redpill is based on the 1780 principle of dating a feminine,young,virgin that is submissive et Al, but when it deals with spending on a girl they chant no one owes you money apart from your father. They adopt the 2020 financial independency of a woman rule, and yet still adopt the 1780 rule of a woman being

I noticed that many of them take advantage of patriarchal rules to oppress women as much as they can. The average Nigerian man will call a housewife liability because she isn't contributing financially regardless of every other housechore she does, she must be contributing to bills and feeding and be submissive to the same man she is providing for.

Selfish group of people.

Belafonte:
You’re literate but uneducated. What is the big deal in dishing food? Is it stressful? I ask because as a bachelor when I have guests I serve them and if I’m not in the mood, I ask them to help themselves and ask them to do their dishes when done. If I have a guest, why should wash after them? Are they babies?

You just want to talk, whether what you’re saying makes sense or not is immaterial.

You nairaland men simply find it impossible to address women without letting your nonsensical egos get in the way.
You could have written everything in your post without insults but I guess your innate opinion that women are stupid is keeping you from discussing respectfully.

I changed my mind, I don't even want to get into any kind of insultive back and forth argument with you so I won't post the reply I intended to write when I quoted your post.

JONNYSPUTE:
Do I blame any woman who doesn't want her in-laws to visit and stay over sometimes,? The answer is a big NO.

I blame the men that allowed such to ever happened in their home.

I think it's all part of insecurity on the women that made them always skeptical and uncomfortable whenever their laws visit.

I noticed that in our house once and i put a stop to it immediately.

How did I do it? When I noticed my wife was not comfortable because our last born came to stay with us before he traveled abroad.I never allowed my wife or my younger brother to suspect anything or start complaining,I simply hurried and get him his papers for him to leave.

When he left,I called my wife and narrated to her all what I noticed and the same day I put a stop to any of her siblings visiting us just for her to experience how it feels. I didn't even give her a chance to explain anything. Knowing fully well that her siblings can't do without visiting her,playing with our son then as their first grandchild,she found it very difficult to adapt.

I did it to the extent that even her parents can't visit us because I know that my own parents won't visit since they are in the village,so I do visit them.

By the time she noticed she couldn't stand it anymore because her siblings were always eager to come over but she keeps telling them no,so they started asking me and I told them what their sister did,they nearly finished her with words. She could not do anything other than crying and asking me to forgive her.

Though I ve no younger ones that visit again,she now begs my mum or Dad to come stay with us for a while.

As a man,be wise and know how to handle issues.

So you didn't bother to find out whether your brother actually did something to upset your wife before setting dictatorial laws in place?
Least you could have done was discuss with her and then wait for her to be unreasonable before making harsh laws.

Women and suffer head marriages.

Mzleemah:
Team March Roll Call (February)

Happy new month teamies, I guess we are all doing fine, how are the cute ones in the bump doing? I believe by now we should be through with shopping and plan on packing hospital bags because porting is allowed.

We thank God for bringing us this far, I pray he won't forsake any of us. May we all give birth successfully and carry our bundle of joys with us home. After February comes March, we cannot wait to shake this thread with out back to back BA.

Congratulations to our very own Iya triplet sacredlily, how is vigilante with the triplets?

Let's welcome our new members rollykotex (please supply your Edd and baby gender ma'am) and mama Zaynie is here too on behalf of her sister (mama give Team March discount on purchase because you are a March born and here in team March with us)

#teamkiakiadelivery
#babyalivemotheralivedaddyandfamilymemberaliveandrejoicing
#teammarchfornoloss #teammarchforsupernaturaldelivery

Present

All the hospital visitations and admissions, and drip and injections and drugs I have taken in the last 8 months is far more than 8 years combined, no be lie. I didn't know pregnancy could be hard like this because my first was a breeze.
I thank God for the gift of pregnancy though.

It will surely end in praise and happiness. Amin

xendra:
hahaha I hate bad character; even if you are the husband you show bad character you are out. how much more one dependent family member.

women dont complain about their own relatives because those ones know what you cant take already, but in-laws?? just rubbish

The few women who complain are labeled enemies of the man's relatives. Why can't she just shut up and bear their stress? After all they are his blood, na she be visitor.
Mstsheeww nonsense and absolute thrash

xendra:
ave them to marry their mother.
your father didn't pack his family to come and stay with him, maybe because your mother wouldn't like it, now you want pack your lazy-ass dependent family come stay make I dey cook/work for them. rubbish

That's what these blockheads don't consider when they make stupid rules, some of these in laws you have to personally serve them food anytime they want to eat because you are the wife aka housemaid, you will clean up after them, wash bathroom and dishes and any other thing they mess up, you might have to wash, iron and shop for some depending on your relationship with them. But nobody cares about all the stress women face.
I don't support sending relatives back but some of them can be stressful to live with.

Sweetpink:
I would do anything for the ones I love...

Na so, carry go.

I think sweetpink is a very strong woman. To stand by tacha against all these people she dey try.......


Am not any ones fan abeg, just making random comment. Thanks

Very possible.

My first pregnancy I discovered at 6 weeks after blood test

I didn't have any pregnancy symptoms until around 2months.

sassysure:
But not a father figure?

See what lack of proper father figure has done to most of u guys.


Always ready to shift the " burden" to another person and continue with your life.
How selfless of u guys.

I visited the orphanage one time and on my interaction with the workers, I found out that once some men lose their wives, they will ship their kids to an orphanage pending when they are able to marry again and shift the responsibilities to the new wife. It was very shocking.
Never knew such can be done.
Met one of such men one day and he said he pay some amount to the orphanage and visits whenever he can.
What does he do for a living? A civil servant!
And he can't take care of 2 small kids.

Yet he has time to visit his girlfriend in another state.

U guys should stop. U have been destroying families and Nigeria with this myopic and self entitlement mentality.

If u are not ready to nurture a child, don't bring one to this wicked world.

What kind of evil and wickedness is this?
Dropping their biological kids in orphanages?
My God what kind of utter selfishness and lousiness will make any same human do this type of nonsense?

I fear Nigerian men ooo

MamaDG:
I took it during my first and it really worked.

Thank you, I will try it then. Hope it works for me

Hi all
Please is it safe to take this mixture of tin tomatoes and malt for boosting blood?
I heard from many sources it's a great blood booster and gives strength I want to know if one can take it in pregnancy or if anyone here has tried it before. I take blood capsules regularly but am still so tired, I eat well also but still tired so I wanted another solution.

Abeg no read waka pass thanks, or if you know any other good solution for fatigue abeg help me out.

Another fabricated story to bash women.

Enjoy your thread frustrated misogynists

Ifyjos you don't need to confess to your sister not for your own sake but for the benefit of your innocent child who might become an indirect recipient of the hatred you will incur if you confess.
It won't be right for them to throw an innocent child out into a harsh world because of her wicked mama.
Don't tell her you did it but get an anonymous means to tell her fiance that you ended their relationship.
Send anonymous messages or WhatsApp or tell one or two of the guys who called her fiance to go to him and confess that they lied about her unfaithfulness to him.

You must do your very best to convince her fiance that the whole thing was a setup.

I would have supported your going straight to him to confess but I feel for your innocent 5 year old. It's not her fault her mother is wicked and stupid.

Asapretty:
Pele teamie it will soon be over I was this tired few weeks back but am regaining my strength now except for head ache that comes after any lil stress.

Really?
What did you do to reduce the weakness

Mzleemah:
Team March 2020 Roll Call (January)
Happy new year wonderful mamas, we thank God for bringing us this far May he continue to be with us all.
Welcome to year 2020, the year we are meeting our blessed lo, I hope we are all prepared.
Try to round up shopping and pack hospital bag.
This team is a great one we are the only team with a twin mama and triplet mama. cheesy grin kiss

Present
Still here, thank God for His mercies
I am always so tired
Why am I weak like this in January with more than two months to go? God help me oo na your hand I dey.

Maybe this tiredness is punishment for bad things I have done in my life,
never been so tired and weak since dem born me

Liftedhands:
Awe pele, by His grace your baby is fine. Alcohol is best avoided during the formative early weeks, dont know how far gone you are but i believe the little you took wont harm your baby. Then again when you say glass did you mean a full 33cl? ( a full glass is equivalent to one can drink) or a shot of it? Secondly no amount of water can neutralise alcohol once it has gotten into your blood stream! It will only help you pass it out faster through urine.
Don't beat yourself up over it. One time can't cause damage.

@ bold
That was what I was thinking, it's a one off thing no need to worry

But @olabrinks there is nothing prayers can't change
Also positive affirmations. Declare positivity into the child's life and health. All is well

Orekegold:
The only thing safe for pain is paracetamol.
Just keep supporting your body with pillows.
This stage shall pass ...pele.

Thank you, I was kind of scared taking medications because I took a lot of them when I kept falling sick in first trimester
The pain is now gone though.

Good evening everyone
Happy new year to you all

Please how do I relieve round ligament pain?
It's making me really uncomfortable, no sleeping position is OK, it's just this pain at my right side under my arm,

Any ideas please? Thank you all

unex50:
Good mamas.. Pls can I give my 11months old normal oats... Quaker oats for adults?... I was taking it and she showed interest, so I want to know if it's OK for her system?..

Also for mums who have used chebe powder on their babys hair, was there any side effect like sleeplessness?? Cuz I heard chebe is made with weed too... I applied it on her yesterday and she was just resisting sleep, even after loading her with food... We slept at 12am was so �..i hope it's not the chebe.

Hi
I heard that Chebe causes itchy scalp, maybe that what's bothering her.

Just to be on the safe side I think you should postpone using it until she can talk and tell you what's making her uncomfortable.

kingsdelight:
Eeya, sorry about that. Pregnancy is just like a bale of okrika: you don't expect not to be suprised.

Amin to your prayers mama.

the proverb is funny

FloraEC:
Na so I say make I spice up marriage sex life catch belle
Try other styles it will help. Sex is not all about digging, yunno. Find what works for you

I sure will, thanks a lot

FloraEC:
You don't face each other during spooning, that's side by side ✂ (spooning is among the picture attached) 2nd picture is scissor
Then try and support him with your arms when he gets tired.
I would have said cunn8glig.us & her twin but den dunno if your DH will agree but they'll prefer her twin
You can try reverse cowgirl if he can carry your weight. He can also carry you on a chair/settee or you sit on him facing him but you'll be the one rocking while he can access every other thing accessible.
Doggy like someone said is good too, you can lean on the edge of the mattress with your arms and head on the mattress (to keep you from having to hold up all that belly weight with your arms) while supporting your belly with pillow.

No apologies , good morning

Mama the mama

Na you biko

Your oga go don hear am for your hand

Thanks a lot, seriously. We are managing doggie and scissoring presently though my favourite was missionary cos it's far easier for him to contact center of gravity with missionary.

Jenmima:
Pls mamas, my legs are swollen and walking has been pretty much painful.

I'm 36weeks gone , doctor said I should be walking around.

Please mamas,is this normal or should I be worried?

Is anyone experiencing this?

Have you checked your bp? How is bp looking because I heard high bp can cause swollen legs

FloraEC:
Is your hubby on the big side? Spooning and missionary should be the simple style.

Actually spooning is the most effective for now, with himself crossing his legs over my own like scissors while we face each other
Is that one still spooning self abi scissoring? Anyway that style works, missionary works for a short time till his arms get tired of balancing his weight.

Liftedhands:
At bolded my sister this very topic is the curry and thyme of this thread. Many mamas look forward to it but only few have the boldness to ask or express like you and the responder did.

It's a very welcome topic that is helpful to all and chimzy09 did justice to it.

Before sef pictures illustrating each style will accompany the text lolzzz.

I thought of asking on this thread before but I didn't want to sound vulgar. You are correct though, this thread is for things like that.

Redberyl:
hahaha,pls retract that apology.You don't owe anyone that.How dem take carry the belle in the first place .Na by immaculate conception abi? We are all sexua.ully active women here abeg!

@bold

Chimzy09:
Spooning, cowgirl or reverse cowgirl (but you may need help from oga cos personally, I can’t carry myself again ), “douggie” (not on all fours. Hands against the wall, couch backrest, bed (if high) or headboard), side by side (facing each other), standing (dependent on height difference), side lying “douggie” (for lack of a better word ), good old missionary but with a twist - you alone on your side and Oga keeping his weight off of you by propping himself with his arms (you can try this facing down as well but turned to your side and oga is propped up behind you)

Approach all with caution especially if you’re in your 3rd trimester. No deep penetration.

Okay ayaff talk finish

Look at this bad shaild
Where did you learn all this bad bad tins?
Choi, all these mamas that want to spoil me sef.

Thanks dear, many of these things we have tried them but there is still obstacle.
Cowgirl/Reverse, I don't have power to do it abeg lap go dey pain me even him self cannot carry me for long because of weight ( make I no mention my weight here so you won't start shouting), Douggie/hand for wall: my bombom is very, very big, more than iya rainbow so it won't work, missionary/side by side: stomach is too big, and hand start paining him if he support himself on them for long.
Thanks though, we still manage ourselves anyhow we can. Na small small, where there is a will there is a way



My apologies to all the mamas here that might not be comfortable with this topic of discussion

marygold:
Hello house..Compliment of the season to all of us.Where are my fellow team march??Abeg e dey do una like me?My libido is low oo ..and na now hubby dey find me atrractive..Infact the thing no dey hungry me attall.

How una dey take do am?

Both of us are opposite
My own is that I am not happy I don't know any comfortable position we can take to do the do because of my big tummy

tomtittot:
I'm experiencing everything you just described. Thought it wasn't normal before. But now I know I'm not the only one. Do you still experience all these in the second trimester?

My dear am about enter third trimester sef and it's like still like that
Not to worry though every woman is different in pregnancy, yours will be easy.

My firstpregnancy was much much easier with no tiredness, just vomiting and sensitive nose that lasted about a month.

FloraEC:
If my food is not pepperish I'm not eating.
Come and eat, no vex I ate the meat first

Thanks for sharing