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Angelacruz:
Hw will u knw?

1. Through sex...if you sleep with a retired olosho you'll know. Once she's stimulated enough, the hoe in her wouldn't hide anymore.

2. Unnecessary calls. The more guys you date the more your phone buzzes. And if it's not a long distance relationship, how would you keep explaining to your man that they're all toasters?

3. Social media. Your pics on Facebook, WhatsApp chats Facebook chats and all social media channels would easily expose you.

4. Your guy can run into your former client who happens to be his close pal, cousin or blood brother. This one has happened severally.

5. She would be very exposed... to life, men, traveling, hotels, clubs, drinks, places... Once you meet a girl who knows so much about all these, chances is that she's a retired olosho.

Sixfeetbelle:
She's isn't being selfish, if you understand what selfish means. She's being traditional to a modern boyfriend. Or did you not see his own parents siding with the girl? That's how traditional people view marriage.

For a very traditional man, Op's girlfriend is the kind of wife he needs. Op isn't a traditional man and that's why he's having issues with this. Some people have housewives who only help out around the house when needed. They don't have defined financial responsibilities which is what Op is pushing for here.

She's being selfish. Let's call a spade a spade. And if you're in support of such attitude, then you're selfish as well.

You can't compare the era of our parents to now. Most of them lived in the villages where they spent little or nothing on accomodation, they had farms where they fed from, they reared goats and chickens which they sold to solve emergencies, they had petti businesses to keep body and soul together.

Today things have changed. You're living in an accommodation of over 500k with your husband, you're spending over 100k on feeding alone, you've not added the children's expenses, miscellaneous, car maintenance, health, bills...etc.

And you feel the man should shoulder them all without the woman lifting a finger. Then it means you're wicked at heart and won't blink an eyelid if your husband is dying cos your tradition demands that the man provides for the home.

Sundrus:
Bcuz say them dey write olosho for forehead abi... Oloshos wey truly wan marry know how & where to catch their mugus.

Lol...let me ask you a question?

Can you differentiate between an illiterate and a highly educated person?

Do they write illiteracy on the forehead?

Same way you can easily differentiate between the two is the same way you'll be able to identify a retired olosho.

Sundrus:
Na mostly oloshos dey benefit from this concept of sex after marriage. After them don enjoy life scatter with different men, them go still see one mugu wey go publicly bend one knee to beg her for marriage & treat her like a queen wey she no be.

Believe me bro, if you're dating a retired olosho, you'll know.

Paw paw and white rice.

Angelacruz:
I know some people that remained chaste till their wedding night.Nowadays it seems like relationship can not survive without sex.Can you date someone that says no sex till wedding night especially if he/she is not a virgin?pls i wat sincere reply. Mod pls move it to front page for more audience.Thanks

Why not...I'm not a pervert.

The client is even sounding like he's doing the photographer a favor. Oga photographer better reject that silly offer. Promotion my a55 who promotion help.

Dissap:
In order for you to make it big in this life, you must choose between women and money who you would have follow!
Women no dey benefit us, so choose money my niggar, let money come before women and you would always be fine and successful.
Money is what women are in love with, so chase it and women will come after you.
Leave pvssy for now, séx is without benefits, it should be ignored... Make your life better better first!!!
Peace!!!

Unfortunately struggling guys won't listen to this piece of advise. They'll keep spending the little they have on girls who don't care about them.

Then they'll come back here to cry.

Such guys disgust me.

EdricBond:
I am done with Nairaland!!! I am leaving this damn forum!!! !
Nonsense!!!

Life is short just have fun while you can and stop worrying yourself over unnecessary things. All righteousness needs to do is to mail the mod who banned him and promise to turn a new leaf and his ban would be lifted.

Note I don't support his ban regardless of whatever it is he did

You're currently living a purposeless life. Discover your purpose in life, then pursue it. I believe that it would keep you busy and focused. And you won't have time to notice that a girl just passed you let alone looking at her panties.

I'll say this and keep saying it only greedy people get duped. Imagine the Photoshopped image they sent to you as confirmation for your successful registration?

This scam is an old scam. No one can trade your money and send you back 90% in two hours. If it was that easy they won't bother you to send money, they'll sell all their valuables and use it to invest in the scheme.

I'm sorry for your loss, you've learnt your lesson. Next time you'll be much wiser.

lathrowinger:
Done, will they pay us for this?

You too like money.

internationalman:
Most of these retired legends have way less goals compared to nowadays players considering how we hold them to higher esteem..

Imagine Eric Catona of man utd just scored only 64 EPL goals and we are all singing his praises and tagging him a Man Utd legend.

Now ask yourself this question, will any strikers be called a legend today if they just happen to score just 64 league goals...

I think we are not fair in judgment of current players.. The standard is raised too high for them..

Maybe we'd appreciate them more when they are retired .

They're paid higher far higher than those legends of old. In fact most people think that money is wasted carelessly on average players these days.

So to whom much is given, much is expected. You can't earn over 100,000 Euros per week and not deliver. You'd be tagged a flop

To you what is beauty?
Anything or anyone that brings and experience pleasure or satisfaction, anything good, excellent... etc.

* What/who do you consider beautiful?
Who I consider to be beautiful is anyone who is gracious to others, considerate, compassionate, caring, non-judgemental, empathetic, industrious and kind. I don't care about your physical appearance as long as you have those qualities, you're beautiful to me.

What I consider to be beautiful are things my eyes fancies, could be cars, clothes, houses, places... etc.

* What does "inner beauty " mean to you?
To me, it means character and your IQ level. I believe that's the real beauty. Anyone can be born with good looks, but the real beauty that will attract responsible people to you is your character.

* Do you consider artificial beauty to still be beautiful?
No...I hate fake things. I once posted that I'm not attracted to girls with big boobs reason is because I feel that most of them are fake.

How long are you going to keep painting your face like a masquerade pumping your boobs, using surgery to expand your a55...etc. just have a good character and people would flock around you.

* What would you tell your children about beauty?
I'll tell them that true beauty is all about character, the way you talk to people, how you address people, and not on your looks.

If you know that you don't have any feelings whatsoever towards her just let her be.

Defiling her and breaking her heart is very wrong. She'll hate you forever for taking advantage of her. You've already said she's naeiv so be the big brother and remain friends with her.

1. What is love?
A willingness to prioritize another's well-being or happiness above your own. Your ability to ensure that the other party is happy, fulfilled, safe, comfortable, satisfied...etc. Regardless of what it would cos

2. Who/what do you love?
I love living and non living things.

Living things such as myself, parents, cousins, family members, and whoever I'll get married to. Nonliving things like my career, my achievements, my dreams...etc.

3. What good /bad experience have you had with love?
I've come to understand based on my experiences that love is like gambling. It might work out or it might not work out. The secret here is don't be too hasty to commit so much so that if things go south, you can easily recover.

4. How do you feel about love?
Well...I still believe that love is real. Just that so far I've not been fortunate to find any real love. But I haven't given up yet. Cos I know it exists out there somewhere and I'll keep searching till I find it.

spoked:
Ladies please begin to remove the tattoo on your body if you are thinking of getting married. You may have the best of heart, but tattoo on you can send a wrong impression about you. Men may only love to keep ladies who have tattoos as girlfriends not wives.

Instead of trying to explain your tattoo in order to tell how good you are, remove it and save yourself unnecessary wrong impression.

Very true. Nigeria is a country with high cultural values and hypocrites. Even if it's an innocent tattoo we must read meaning into it.

spoked:
Some people experience delay in their wedding process for marriage due to their church pattern or marriage committee. which Church do you know that does it better?

Catholic, Presbyterian...once you can show them your membership card, even if you want it the next Saturday they don't have any problem with that.

ifejobi84754:
: AbujaYes JCI Function very well in abuja, with lot of connection

Why are you duplicating posts all over the forum?

fitirela:
Middle class like us should have one..

Those in the middle class struggle to attain membership of the top class, cos that's where they feel they can meet people who will change their story. And by so doing they're unknowingly initiated into these fraternities.

No middle class person would want to join a middle class club. It's useless to him.

BaddieFreak:
I don't think they force people to join them, it's voluntary

I never said they force people...they don't. They examine potential recruits carefully to know how they can fit it and can even reject them if they feel you have nothing to offer.

People are sometimes compelled to join by other members because of their ambitions, aspirations...etc.

fitirela:
You have a point tho but there are good ones existing..I would like to join one even if it's paid membership

Paid membership ones are the worse cos they check your status in the society and financial stability before bringing you on board.

And most already on board are aspiring politicians, serving politicians, top barristers, doctors, MDs, CEOs...etc.

Such gathering alone is a frat in itself.

What women put men through these days is so terrible. Imagine doing 500km just to get away from a woman?

asdfjklhaha:
What's ROF

Reformed Ogboni Fraternity.

Popularly known as Ogboni.

It has been a very wrong move from the onset. I can choose to help you as a friend, cousin, extended family member...etc. But girlfriend...for me, no way.

Training a girl makes you feel you own her. You're giving her what her parents can't afford. So there's this authoritative nature in you that activates itself. You unknowingly become a dictator to her and would constantly keep reminding her how much you're spending daily to educate her ungrateful a55. Many girls wouldn't like such.
Also, most uneducated guys that do this are very very rude. You're always calling her to know where she is, some of these guys lack manners, some shout and order the girl to go home if she tell them she's outside her hostel by 7:pm.

I witnessed a case like that when I was still schooling. The girl was living in my lodge. This guy yells at her like he's her parent. Even when he visit it's more of order and quarrel than romance. They were always quarreling. He was always reporting her to her parents at any slightest provocation.

The girl just told me that once she's through with school she'll look for someone else, that she can't live with this kind of person. I just kept quiet cos if I was in her shoes, I'll do the same.

I usually don't usually advise guys to train girls these days cos it will most likely end in tears but if you must do it, see the girl as your younger sister. Never assume the position of a dictator or else she'll start opening her legs for broke romantic guys there in school and lavish your money and provisions on them. Be more romantic with her and less authoritative towards her. Make her love you for you and not because of what you're doing for her. And she might just stick to you.

Emotionless1300:
Afternoon NL

Guys in the building, your Opinions is need here!.


Just asking, "When do you think is the right time to meet bae's parent"

There's no such thing as right time.

If she's the kind of girl you feel you can marry, and you're financially, mentally, psychologically...etc stable, you can go whenever you want.

Could be a week after you've met, could be a month, two months...etc.

adaperry25:
I want to join a social club that's filled with intellectual, business minded people. I mean people who'll create an impact and you can network. An example is Rotary club. I'm a health personnel and I reside in South eastern part of the country. If you have any please DM or reply

Be very careful. Most of those social clubs are door ways to ROF and the likes.

It's just like joining kegites as a student, you'll be introduced into the main campus frat from there.

petitejolie:
this is not his first family . He married her newly

Ok... I thought as much

To all girls keeping their virginity, please continue to do so. Whoever marries you would respect you for that.

Many guys demanding for sex from you would defile you and still say that they want a virgin as a wife. So just keep yourself until a sensible, serious, and mature guy who's ready to settle down comes along.

Congratulations...be sure to upload pics.