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denzel2009:
I just heard the news too oh and Zain,can somebody confirm?

ZAIN - 300 confirmed!

You heard me right. Finbank just sacked about 700 now now!

becomrich;:
where did you get your story. is alex Ikwue still alife. His son, i would like to talk to him. I know him, when he was a young boy.

I heard IBB killed Bongos/Maryam's son to erase every trace about Ikwue-Maryam marriage. Bt, I dont knw whether it is d same Alex u r talking abt.

The story has bn there for ages. ASk Bongos since u knw d family.

ayomifull:
I recently had a talk with a male friend of mine who got himself into trouble due to this same issue. He is a successful guy by all standard, he has good job, he has a wonderful wife (she is one of the best wives I have ever known) she cooks like cooking is going out of fashion and he himself commend their sex life as being great. He just impregnated a lady and what he went through to get the lady abort it was hell, infact the lady had to request for a million naira to be paid into her Nigeria account for her to accept which he did within 24 hours bla bla bla bla

When we sat to talk he confessed to me that he has been going out with that lady for like 2 years (his wife can die trusting him though). I asked him to give me a reason at least one reason he was involved in an extramarital affair despite the great family relationship he has and I was shocked to hear that ‘I really cant come up with any reasonable excuse other than that we men are like animals’

I still cant come up with reasons why men cheat and it hurts. This guy beats me because we are very close friends and for over 2 years I was fooled into trusting him. This is a very ‘decent’, well read, comfortable, young professional guy, he has this kind of personality that you cant just help but like and everyone thinks he is one of the very few men who never cheats. Up till now the wife still trust him and I feel for her because she is putting in all her best.

Eyin married men why do you cheat please?

Yes, there could be men like who cud cheat 4 no just cause, which I mentioned earlier. And st is a lesser percentage. Majority of men who have cheated do so b/c of negative attitude of d wife towards s marriage. Even pple like me who vowed never to do it in life, know how it hurts when we start. It's nt deliberate 4 most of us. Ture its nt.

Ayomifull, U also did nt comment on the MARRIED women who cheat as we saw in those stories i attached. It's nt fair!

cexplorer:
I'm sorry Ayo, but I hold an opinion that you are wrong to believe that all men cheat on their wives.

I do admit that by nature men fall easily into the traps of wanting to make new discoveries and perform fresh experiments than women do, it does not apply to all men. But the real issue here is that men who never thought of cheating on their wives have been pushed into doing so by their wives who either nag them out of the home, squeeze out their last kobo while making further demands, give them concortions for breakfast and dinner, etc. The worst is the fact that knowing or believing that their husbands would not cheat on them give them the power and right to take advantage of their sincerity and honesty.

Personal experience both as a husband and counselor proof to me that most men who cheat on their wives do because of the negative attitudes on the part of their wives who believe that IT IS JUST NOT POSSIBLE FOR THEIR HUSBANDS to cheat on them.

Be my bedmate and tell my wife that you really are showing her proofs and evidences of our acts, she would not believe you because she believe it could never happen! However, though I had not, I was tempted several times to do!

Shey you get my point?

HAVE A PROSPEROUS 2010

I appreciate your comments. How I wish women will undstnd d main reason men cheat. There r lots of cases where a lady before marriage is 100% up and running, but d moment she enters fully, settles with one or two kids, she begins to dwindle in her ccontributions 2 d family - sex, food, care 4 d hubby too (MEN ALSO WANT TO B BABIED)

The issue is dt these young girls (who always slept with married men when they were single), get married & have d bad impression dt all men cheat come rain, come shine. Or hw do u think d girl dt lived all her unmarried life running after married men would feel after she gets married. Obvious: suspicion everywhere!

erastus75
US SHOULD ASK THEMSELVES WHAT THEY ARE DOING FOR PEOPLE TO HATE THEM SO MUCH SO THE EXTENT OF WANTING TO DESTROY THEM EVERY TIME.

THEY MUST LOOK AT THEIR BACKS AND GO BACK TO THEIR DRAWING BOARD AND REDRESS ALL THE WRONGS THEY HAVE INFLICTED ON PEOPLE.

I rest my case

@Eras,
I think u get it wrong. These terrorists r nt attacking those who r fighting them (let me use ur views now). They cant even get to d power holders of America. They r striking vulnerable, innocent pple, including non-Americans. I believe in dt flight will even be some NNigerians. So, did the about 3,000 killed in 9-11 in any way contribute to Al Qaeda woes, No! As a matter of fact, Americans r against offensives by America.

Before both man & God, terrorism is condemnable. I hope u r listening, Eras?

hbabe:
No one is too old to love and be loved.
But every serious girl who is in a committed relationship has no business dating another man (old or young).
And the topic did say 52 year old Sugar Daddy!

Hbabe, u r sounding llike the only Nigerian female saint. I hope u reallly r. Or r u just branding & window dressing?

@ poster

1. It's wrong to generalise after just one man u met in d church; that's nt fair

2. Most men actually use deodos & have their baths at least 2ice daily. I do 3 at times.

4. However, Nigeria is a hot zone, pple also move aabt under d sun, jumping buses dt never stop for passengers to enter; trekking llong distances & hawking wares under hot sun; only to come back & see no light, no water, etc (for the avg Nigerian)

5. Ladies even smell more. And it hurts! After all those secretions left, right & centre. Worst in married ones.

6. By the way, I understand we even bathe more than d oyinbos. Some go without water for days, and dont wash their clothes they ve worn for days; is it true?

Many newspapers (especially Sun, because of its affiliation with IBB) have talked about Maryam Babangida as though she was a saint.

But:
- Was Maryam responsible for Dele Giwa’s death?

- Did she really abandon her poor musician husband, Bongos Ikwue (the man who out of frustration, thereafter released the song – “WHAT’S GONNA BE, GONNA BE”), to marry influential IBB?

- Could it be nemesis that caught up with her?

Yes, they say, speak no evil of the dead, but the Truth must be told so the living do not tow the same evil path. Educate me if you know the story.

Human being sef!!! Everybody don leave Bank,. leave Soludo/Sanusi; leave sick president. The whole world is noww taking abt one small, "beautiful" boy. All cameras r on his family & friends & Nigeria too.

Small time, Yara-yara go die, & everybody go bearing/change agenda. It's called Agenda Setting in Mass Comm.

I wonder when our people will change!

The father should be absolved of all liabilities. At least he made a case, which was acknowledged by Americans authorities. It is the same stupidity of American security when they recevied several tips and clues to 9-11 but turned a deaf ear that is their problem.

I think we should even clap for our Nigerian SSS and the Intelligence units b/c they sniff out info faster & use them faster , at least those against the govt.

ijele:
All these peeps talking jargons in this thread, how many of you have renew your voter's card. How re you sure your favourite candidate will win when u don't have right 2 vote. Wot of effort are u making 2 move Anambra state forward other than talking jargons here? Anyway am fully registered 2 vote. Am a PDP member crossing over 2 labour party 2 vote for Dr. Andy Uba!

This is not a campaign ground. Go 2 d field.

Obinoscopy:
If you think its only Andy Uba and the people who he has bribed their conscience to vote are the only ones that have registered to vote, then you have to do a rethink because for every registered voter who is for Andy Uba, there is ten times as much that are supporters of Peter Obi, Chris Ngige and even the embattled Soludo.
Andy Uba has no chance at all. If PDP had lost out in the Supreme Court then there would have been hope for Andy Uba cos they might have formed an accord with him and his new party - Labour Party
The battle field is solely among the trio - Ngige, Obi and Soludo
May God provide us the much desired messiah, Amen!

Andy Ubah is not in d picture at all. Dt OBJ fraudulently gave him power doesnt mean he can get there. No, nt in 2010. Mayb when pple's memories are purely erased.

Obinoscopy, I love your comment. The trio of Ngige, Obi & Soludo are more favoured.


The problem Soludo will face is his inability to regulate the banking sector properly. He got it right somewhere, but lost it at some point - out of greed, corruption, or God knows what!

Ngige is tested & reliable. Obi is more decent & honest; although our pple do not respect honest pple. His sin today is that he blocks holes for stealers & corrupt Anambrarians.

Let God give Anambra the best. And God can only do that through the people of Anambra.

Lord_Reed:
Pls correct me if am wrong. This post was made at 4AM this morning of the 27th so wen exactly did all this drama take place? 2AM?

@poster,

Pls, respond to this question. If there were mistakes, pls, correct & apologise. The implication of not doing so, is dt the story (INCLUDING THE FOLLOW UP STORY) is all made up!!

We're waiting.

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Ndeewonu:
I'll send u these stories on married women's infidelity shortly:

Here are the stories:


Married woman dies during sex romp with lover
By CHRISTOPHER OJI, IROKO WHENU and ADAMU YUSUF
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
It was a show of shame on Sunday when a woman who lied to her husband that she was going for a night vigil died in a popular hotel (names withheld) during a sex romp with her lover.
The mother of seven identified as Modinat Alabi, 45, of Ereko Street, Fadeyi, Lagos, had lied to her husband a devout muslim that she was going for a night vigil but ended up lodging in a hotel with one Hezekiah Ladipo, 62, who also lives in the same street with the deceased. The duo, Daily Sun learnt, lodged in the hotel as husband and wife.

Daily Sun also gathered that the suspect, Ladipo also is married with three children. It was gathered that on the fateful day, the two lovers had lodged in the hotel, at about 2.45 am. Hezekiah reportedly rushed to the reception, where he complained that his wife collapsed and was gasping for breath during sex romp.

It was further gathered that when the receptionist rushed to the guest room, the woman who was naked had already given up the ghost.
Daily Sun learnt that when it dawned on Hezekiah that the woman was dead, he attempted to run away. The hotel management who suspected foul play arrested him and called in the police.
A police source told Daily Sun that it was during investigation that the suspect confessed that the woman he initially claimed as his wife was actually another man’s wife.

When the deceased’s husband was contacted, he was shocked, as he expected the wife to be at the night vigil.
However, the state police spokesman, Mr. Frank Mba, who confirmed the story told Daily Sun that the suspect was being investigated to know if there was ulterior motive rather than sex romp before the woman died. He described the act as shameful.
He said the corpse has been deposited at a public mortuary for autopsy while investigation is going on.

http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2009/oct/27/national-27-10-2009-008.html


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UGHELLI — AMUKPE community in Sapele Local Government Area of Delta State was thrown into confusion, weekend, follo-wing the death of a middle-aged man in a hotel room in the area.

The deceased (names withheld) was found dead after allegedly committing adultery with his neighbour’s wife, a mother of five children.

According to a reliable source, the man and woman checked into the hotel in Amukpe at about 10.30am on the faithful day, having traveled from Oghara, Ethiope West Local Govern-ment Area of the state to the hotel.

The source, who pleaded anonymity, said the woman raised an alarm seeing that the man was dead some hours after they had had sex.

The hoteliers and sympathisers, who were attracted, made frantic effort to resuscitate the man and rush him to the hospital where he was confirmed dead by doctors.

“The woman is a fashion designer, while her husband is a staff of Ethiope West Local Government Council.
“The husband of the woman has been appealing to the dead man to stop committing adultery with his wife, but he would not listen until he died,” our source added.

When Vanguard visited Sapele police station yesterday, the fashion designer was making useful statements to the police while the body of the late lover had been deposited at Sapele Central Hospital morgue.

http://www.vanguardngr.com/2009/11/24/man-dies-in-hotel-room-after-sex/

chaircover:
So is it OK for a wife to have an extra marital affair if the man only lasts 9.99 minutes insead of 10?

Are nt women doing it today. Stories I ve heard from first-hand sources relay that married women cheat for 3 main reasons:

1. They dont get s-e-xual satisfaction
2. They didnt marry who they loved
3. They are greedy & need money

If we conduct DNA in Nigeria every child born, yawa go gas!!!

Women should learn to remain single & be proud of it rather than hoodwink one poor man into marrying a devil, who doent love him. This desperation should stop cos it's d reason girls pretend a lot b/4 they get married, giving d man a very wrong impression.

I'll send u these stories on married women's infidelity shortly:

chaircover:
So is it OK for a wife to have an extra marital affair if the man only lasts 9.99 minutes insead of 10?

Isnt it better for the husband to work with the wife on ensuring that both of them enjoy a healthy sex life. What happens if the girlfriend gets a headache or is tired? or are girlfriends immune to headaches & tiredness?

We're talking about everyday headache & tiredness; we are talking about everyday not in the mood. Mayb u r nt married. I have a lot of friends doing dt. The worst is dt b4 marriage, the girl gives it 4x a day, then after marriage, they begin to slack. Worse is if she has got a baby or children. Who are we deceiving? THe man is still himself, as studdy as ever, d woman is droping in libido.

Often, pple think a women gave her husbnd love portion; but I tell u, there is no kobnomi os tusa-tusa dts more potent than good round of sex. If u don't, pls kknow that u can steer d man if u really satisty his lust.

I m still an advocate THAT ONE WIFE IS ENOUGH FOR A MAN, BUT THE WOMAN HAS TO DO HER JOB WELL, OR NOT COMPLAIN WHEN ANOTHER PERSON ASSISTS. For goodness sake, if somebody else does what I cannot do, I should be grateful, or I grow up & live to the challenges.

Yes, it's good for a man to work with the wife for an enduring relationship. But, these days, it appears women are more interested in their children that they leave out the primary mate in a marriage. I think this Western culture infiltration has got to stop. In the olden days, women satisfied their hubbys & were still happy - very happy. Dont tell me every man then married 2 wives- No!

Approved1:
Men claim that women are stingy with sex, to justify their wandering eye. But I think most women givei up to thwire man, cook his food, and everything. I think men cheat because they think they will get away with it. There is no way to completely satisfy a lustful eye.

Waywayd men will say his wife's yansh is too small , then claim it is too big. He will criticize her for being to straight, and then say that she is a making moves that are suspicious.

I tell most men are driven to that, 80% when the home is not conducive. Over 80% of wives nag. And it's like hell for any man. The man dashes out (without cheating in mind), probably to have a drink; returns thinking the nagging wife will at least give him the thing dt nite, story! "I'm nt in d mood," is d shockest answer he receives. You nag, u dont give him food, no s-e-x, no submission. What do u expect?

A girl can do everything to make a man marry her; but she enters, a different story. She begins to have a difft agenda. Especially in Nigeria where marriage is a DO-OR-DIE affair: if a girl doesnt get married, that is d end of the world for her as far as society is concerned. They play angel, play to the mind of d man just to answer his name. It is HYPOCRICY, and it's painful. I have seen a lot of them.

Yes, it's true that some small percentage (mayb 10%) will do it whether they re satisfied s-e-xually or not. But dt s a neglible number.

I didnt proof-read; im in a hurry; hope my grammar hangs together.

toshmann:
ololololoooooo . . . . . in pidgin-igbo we call it . . . nothing mega . . . . . .or notmeg

amutala m otu ihe taaa o,

@ndeewonu
ndeewo o o o

Onye ojoo! Oo nke I ga-amuta ngwa ngwa.

supereagle:
A very beautiful woman she does not look like a woman in her sixties .
The northerners are trying to talk to the husband to contest for 2011 . She will not be alive to see that.

Supereagle, I hope u r ok! Or have they bought u over again.

Was she the same woman that:

1. Caused Dele Giwa's death?

2. Left Bongos Ikwue (the poor musician) to marry the rich military man?

If she was the one, truly the evil that men do leaves after them.

1. "Nwanyi na-ere ogiri ma Ijiji anya piara" - The woman that sells 'ogiri' (a native seasoning, that stinks like poopoo) know the blind housefly.

Similar to & the same meaning as:

2. "Agburu na-eji eze ari elu ma osisi na-aku ilu" - The family that climbs with their teeth know the tree that is bitter.


3. "Mmiri ma uma ebu amu, amu kwu ebe o kwu." - The river attempts in vain to carry away the man's manhood, the penis is irremovable.

4. "Ilu adighi aso anya" - The Igbo proverb is no respecter of persons (meaning, you can use any kind of proverb not minding the words.

So forgive my number three, I am only invoking my people's culture as a true Igbo man.

EnerG:
This could all be traced back to the colonial era, if you remember quite alright, the way in which the yoruba's accepted the white men was far more open handed than the hausa and igbo ethnic group did. That is why the yoruba people are more advanced in western education, but for the igbo's they were more interested in selling their farm produce to make enough money to meet ends need and some of them travelled to lagos to look for unskilled jobs from there they started doing business that involves farm produce from lagos to the east and it moved from generation to generation, For the hausa's I can't say much, but I know the are more business minded than the yoruba's. That being said the igbo's are more business mined than any other ethnic group.

Nchara:
EnerG,
Who told you that Yoruba are more advanced in Western education than Igbo? Have you been seeing for e.g., the JAMB intake in the past 10 years?

TheSeeker:
Isn't it ironic that a tribe that claims to be very educated has only produced OBJ and Late Adedibu as national leaders?

tpia.:
and since when has education become the single determining factor in national leadership anywhere?

How educated was George Bush and does Obama have a Phd.

Name any country in the world where a professorship is the requirement for ruling. I thought you'd know the difference between base requirement and sole requirement.

And in your own world, Adedibu is a national leader?

You want to start something, right?

When I saw this thread, I knew it would turn into attacks. I only pray it doesnt result in another CIVIL WAR! Which is probably what the poster wants to achieve.

Mostly b/c their wives never satisfy them sexually. If not headache that's worrying them, sleep, if not, just tired or NOT in the mood. It hurts! It really hurts!! It can drive a normal man crazy & into what he never wanted to.

I tell u without regrets that 70% of MEN WILL NOT CHEAT if their wives drain all the kunu inside of them everyday, as much as he wants.

Even when he mistakenly goes astray, his conscience will flog him throughout that day, that he will never repeat it. Sex to a man is a therapy, a soothing spirit, sedative healing balm.

Single girls, i'm just giving u d recipe for a good marriage: SEX, & GOOD FOOD. Married ones too, pls, repent. Try & see!!

Anyi nwere ebu, nwee mfu!

Simply put, "The good, the bad, and the ugly."

Fhemmmy:
U have a point there, however, the reason why i find it hard to blv her is the fact that she still follow them to some "church" after the ordeal ?
Most despoil victim, as soon as they have the chance to escape, they will run

I think 3 things were responsible for her NOT running and follwing them to the ritualist:
1. She is a small girl
2. She was just raped; I have heard so much about how rape disorientates a lady (even an adult)
3. She was deflowered.

Where she could have some blame is going back to the boy after her mother warned her. A good lesson 4 small girls & boyz 2 harken to their parents' advice.

Meanwhile, she was particularly scared to tell her paresnts for:

1. Her mother warned her earlier, she was scared
2. Our culture blames the victim than the perpetrator (rapist) for the crime.
3. She could not confide in any friend, being just a little girl.

I hope the parents of the poor little girl have some money of, at least, knowledge to ensure the criminals are charged for at least FORCEFUL CARNAL KNOWLEDGE and BEING ACCOMPLICES.