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pacifique:
God heal him. But all I know is GEJ till 2019!!

I am in your support.

Jesus, please, heal Buhari, so he understands that there is no King as Jesus. So, he comes to confess and apologise for all his atrocities. Surely, if he "confesses his sins, Jesus is faithful and just to forgive from his sins and cleanse him from all his unrighteousness (killings, unjustifiable incarcerations, extremist and hate comments, killing the preachers of the gospel, support and sponsorship of BH...)."

May the Bible God--the Balm in Gilead--heal him now in Jesus' name!

No matter how you pqckage "poopoo" (faeces), it will never be edible;
No matter how you wash a pig, it will still go back to the thrash.

No matter the hype, Buhari is a tribalist, extremist, coupist and destroyer of democracy, hypocrite and stunt-puller. His age, his pedigree, his disposition, he records disqualify him for that hallowed position.

KwoiZabo:
Had it been its when APC have not started packaging Buhari he would have gone to defend his fulani brothers the way he did when fulani and Yoruba fought in Oyo State under Lam Adesina.

http://thenationonlineng.net/new/how-lam-prevented-another-civil-war/

The best comment so far!

The beast kept supporting those monsters until now that APC is pulling a stunt (theatrical dive) through him. No matter how you wash a pig, a pig will go back to the dustbin. You cannot learn the use of the left hand at old age!

The truth is that the army have been able rid of the saboteurs, and that is why it is easy to fight BH. Unless you are God, knowing who a saboteur is, is NOT an easy job, because most of them lie innocent and feign dedicated.

APC propoaganda. I never knew students means two hungry-looking boys hustling their lives out to eke out a living.

Theses Northerners are NOT telling us the truth. The military, with all the AK47 etc in their arsenal, were "not able" to dismantle BH, but local hunters, with local den guns and double barrel are?

Tell that to an idio.t.

Except you want to start sleeping with your daughters even before they get to 10 years (just as some fathers we read about these days, do), that is the only reason that can justify your showing your unclothedness to your children. If your children, including daughters, get used to your m@nhood, it means it would become much easier for you to start having s3x with then, even up to their adult age, and they would not see it as anything bad.

Boy! That is too wrong! As soon as my own children get to 1 (I mean one) year, I move them to the Children's Room.

If a girl would insist on a "ready-made" man (working, rich, with cars etc) b4 she says 'I do,' then I see nothing wrong in a man also making sure that the woman is pregnant for him b4 taking her to the altar. 1-1.

@OP
Pls, What is "JIHAD?"

Hemanwel: Abeg,make dem go wash plate!
Wot iz U-17 Women's futbol wen d UEFA Champs League iz just by d corner?Mtcheeeeew!!!

You are NOT fit to be a Nigerian!

Nice to know that this thread is still on.

Honestly, things are changing gradually. I have learnt a lot from wonderful guys here who gave me wonderful advice. I thank everybody for their concern. Of particular mention are ivynwa & funkysamy, who both (among others who wrote earlier) understood my innocence & gave their magic advice. I appreciate u guys. like I always mentioned in this post, I have not been a bad guy. I therefore promise to be nice and good to my family.

God is still in control.

But, these kidnappers sabi strategy well, well! Haba!!!

"The kidnap saga came just as anti –graft body ,EFCC, is investigating the embattled NFF’s former boss over N1.3bn World Cup fund." - Sun newspaper


Meanwhile, Sani Lulu's family member tells newsmen:
“My dear, we are more or less at crossroads, as all efforts we have made seem not to have yielded any fruit. We have been pleading that our mother be freed, but they are insisting on the N200m ramson. Tell me, where are we going to get that kind of money?” -  Sun Newspaper

Source:
http://sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2010/july/15/national-01-15-2010-001.htm

@poster

Believe it or leave it, virginity is more of 60% Discipline, and about 35% of Religious Belief, and mayb 5% other factors. I speak with experience. Most Church brothers and sisters have done it before, but u see pple (girls and boys) who are nt all that religious but are still virgins.

After all, in those days when there were many virgins, when girls married mainly as virgins, Christianity (I dont know about Islam) was not rife and explicit the way it is today. I know some girls who are virgins today NOT b/c they are strong born-again Xtians, but b/c they told themselves, "I am not going to do it till I get married." One is 25, the other is 32, another 34 years.

Whichever position one takes, good luck to the person. The truth is that premarital s3x or lack of it may not guarantee a marital bliss.

This is just my uncensored, personal opinion.

@Girl846 (f)

I read most of your submissions on PAGE 1. I must congratulate u (and the poster). I was once like u, although things always change. I believe your choices are still there. Dont lose hope.

Kudos

I once confessed in NL that I cheated on my wife.


This was why I cheated [past tense]; I dont know about other men: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-359397.0.html


https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-359397.0.html

Directionless

smooooooth:
in 4 years u've had 3 kids, welldone, so if your wife wasnt slowing things down u wld prolly have 10 by now, abeg mister man put your manliness in check and put the effort of having regular intimacy in working hard to provide food for the kids. and pray those ladies out there dnt add to the count already on ground. nonsense!!!!!!

Guys, some of the issues u re raising here, I have already answered. She wants 5 or more children. I needed only ONE or TWO. So, b/4 we comment, let us understand the background. Some pple also misquoted me saying that I am asking for s.ex 4 times a day, which I never said. I responded to it severally.

chaircover  Re: The Kind Of Husband I Have « #5 on: March 09, 2010, 11:49 AM » 

Sorry, this is an essay but I will like to use myself as an example here.

My simple advise is to put the baby to bed and have a heart to heart with your husband. Crucially, you need to be honest with yourself on if he was like this before you married him and you just choose to ignore his excesses or if he has changed since the wedding.

If he has changed since the wedding then there is still hope that it is a phase and things can get back to normal again

You also have to question him deeply to find out if his attitude is as a result of something that you have done/do/not done etc

I am always reading one marriage book or the other and have just completed the 5 Love languages by Gary Chapman. I was discussing the book with my husband and asked him which of the 5 languages were his and he just told me point blank that none of them were and that his language wasn’t even listed in the book.

That wiped the snug smile off my face and I said OK so what is it? and he told me that he wanted my trust. When I got him to explain further, he wanted me to know that he wanted me to trust him totally in everything.

All along, I thought that I was being the good wife by making some crucial lone decisions without his input, such as picking holiday destinations, flights, mortgage lenders etc.

I thought that I was avoiding him being stressed or bothered by them, especially when he had other things on his plate but in actual fact it made him feel that I didn’t trust him enough to make good decisions and take care of us all. Thankfully my husband and I talk a lot so we were able to discuss this, otherwise resentment would have just grown over a period of time & I wouldn’t be any the wiser.

Now I make a conscious effort to guide from behind and not to be so much in his face; of course I will not sit back and watch him invest all our life savings in forex or some other non existent get rich scheme. . . . . I will stop him with “style” LOL

Sorry for the essay & back to the poster; call your husband and talk to him. He is your husband . . . emphasis on the “YOUR”. Get him to open up to you and try and take things from there.

Grass is not always greener on the other side and we all have our challenges in our relationships and as SA Lady said please please please try and find yourself a job.

@chaircover
This is a good piece of advice.

Pls, could u advice me genuinely on my case posted on: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-359397.64.html

What I did was bad, I know. Some ladies are attacking me & making me feel terrible about the whole issue. I just need a way forward; sisterly/motherly advice without sentiments as a woman - just like you did to this thread. I saw many people commending you too & chose to come to you as an unbiased umpire.

Pls, take time to read through all my story, my comments/responses to questions. Just do me that favour and God will bless u.

You can also mail me (if u wish). My email addr is in my profile.

The thread again is: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-359397.64.html

What a mismatch!
Another time bomb about to xplode!!
Time will tell.

H2O2:
Na wa abi na real wa that people have the audacity to ask questions like these in this day and age.

My bros,
Na real waoh! Unfortunately, it is in this age n time dt we can get to hear this kind of thing & sm pple laugh over it. In our fore-fathers days, I guess, they would castrate him.

@switosman
God bless u a million times.

There's somthing pple do NOT understand. The way you present advice matters. You have said all that Ujujoan amd Agathamari have tried to vomit in a much subtle and concerned way, and yet you have gone the extra mile of administering that soothing balm. I dont know who you are, but I tell u, that's d kind of advice I give people in need.

While I add that most of the questions you raised have been answered, may I still clarify that I only wanted one child, she wanted the others (let me not go into details); I also mentioned in subsequent responses that we have a retinue of househelps and relatives helping out with chores, yet I assist when occasion demands. What do you think? Using the same children I felt are secondary in marriage (yes, I think marriage is a union of two pple who have a common interest) as an excuse for tiredness may not b proper. After all, there are many couples without children who are living very happily.

You have spoken well. In my place, they say "A good piece of advice does not require any response." The only thing I can say is that often, ladies tend to get emotional about issues like that they blatantly unleash their free license of tongue on pple & situations they do NOT understand. Some of the invectives traded were not necessary.

I'm most gr8ful to u.

tunnytox:
I still don't understand how some ppl can have s-ex 4 times in a week and hope to sustain that even after 3 kids! Bros do you normally assists your wife in any way at all? Or are you expecting her to still have s,ex with you even after spending most of her time looking after these children. Also i believe if one is very engaged especially working hard i don't know how you could have the time for that amount of s-ex every week!

My brother, I work - hard too. When we just started, we used to hace s.ex 2 to 3 or more daily at times. That kind of programmed the system. When the kids started coming, I obviously expected a drop, to (say) 3 or 4 times a week. From 21x a week to 4 times a week, is it NOT enough concession? Can one say one is not considerate ennough here? 

Also going back to the work issue. A lot of se.x goes on in the work place, so i have heard. I mean in the office, around the office and during working hours anywhere. I know of married men (and also women) who sleep with at least a colleague (or boss/juniors) a day, get home treat their wives (who will obviously not be in the mood or have headache) as a queen, respect her opinion to s.ex as she dictates, yet get back to work the next day to continue their escapades. And this is what I hate.

@All
Tnx H2O2, Tnx Lamii, tnx sweetpeach, again CyberG tnx, Basildon1, Ayo123, texazzpete & many others on this very page; 

And the llikes of Ujujoan, SA Lady & my girlfriend AGATHAM, no love lost. I appreciate your opinion. It's a free word with freedom of speech (what I call free license of tongue). But try and make your point in a more friendly way. For goodness sake, u may even b my sisters out there! Well, I still like to retain the element of anonimity.

It has been gr8 advice tho - whether pour with emotional outbursts or with cannonical admonition. We all learn everyday. I'm not & will not be an encyclopoedia of knwldge.

I still love my wife and am afraid to tell her what happened. I remember Tiger Woods; i remember John Terry. I know she might nt want to file a divorce, but I sure knw she would go thro a lot of emotional trauma & psychological breakdown & incarceration. THe truth is that if someone had told me 5 years ago (even 3 years ago) that I would cheat on my wife, I would nt have believed it. That tells u d stuff I m made of, and d kind of man I am.

Anywa, Keep the lines open.

Hmm! I feel relieved.

Guys, thank u. I felt bad after Agathamari's remarks of invectives & curses. I even offered her a one-on-one talk for her to really understand what I m going thru, but instead she turned hostile. I still have to write this undercover so as not to betray the anonymity. There are certain things I would say here, and the element of secrecy would be lost. Even my wife knows I'm not a womaniser. She knows what I was before I met her; she knows about everything - the promises, the honesty, the fidelity - she knows.  


@CyberG

AgathaMAD. . .or whatever accursed or pathetic name you bear. . .YOU MUST be specially adept at FOO.LISHNESS seeing the uselessness and insensitivity of your post! To start with, it is not what you say alone that matters, HOW you say it is VERY important! Now, before you or anyone think you are being DOWN-TO-EARTH, truth is you ARE really SILLY, UNCOUTH, LACKING IN HOME TRAINING and having NO SENSE or GOOD JUDGMENT! I don't care how old you are BUT can you even give any advice to YOUR OWN BLOOD this way (your kids, younger ones) and they won't tell you to go fuc.k yourself? In fact, you must be about 10 or less for your brain is so empty and my 5 year old niece is way smarter than you will ever be, even at 50!

Advice if you will but don't come here thumping your useless chest and smelly nose at everyone who don't give a smelling rat's backside about what you think! Obviously, you think people are here to hear your "god" opinion while you have no idea you will NEVER get any man to live in the same house with you for even 1 month until you grow old and DIE with this opprobrious attitude! Get a life big mouth and use your sense! If there was a way to naughty woman-slap your backside over the internet, you will  be in the mortuary now gathering mould and dust! What an arrogant, hypocritical low-life scumbag!

Two wrongs never make a right. U re a wonderful guy; but I think u attacked her too brutally. She over-reacted and I ignored her. I thank u specially for caring. I only don't knw if you re married. In the heat of the anger, u forgot to put down your personal advice.

@SA Lady, I just saw your post. I've heard u too.


BTW, I thank all of u guys. Ur advice have been wonderful. I was beginning to think I have this uncanny appetite for sex at well over 30yrs. I am doing a lot of things some of u guys recommended, ,

@poster
Na wa o!

@poster
Please, do everything to improve s3xually. This is not good for the health of the marriage and for the man. This type of withdrawal affected mine adversely, and till now, the wounds are not really, completely healed.

See the consequences in my thread: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=359397.msg5576976#msg5576976


@confusedl
This is d second story I hv heard concerning a hubby 'starving his wife to death.' I mentioned one in my thread too. So sad! I am d only one that can imagine wht u (went)/ re going thru. I DONT KNW WHAT 2 SAY.

But, on a second thot: some men claim, the more they have s3x with their wives, d more the love varnishes. I'm not in dt school of thot. But, I bet u, for a lot of men, love fades as s3x increases. I dont knw y. Could it b he's stupidly reserving u & protecting the love? I'm NOT defending him; but what 4 goodness sake, wht will cause a man to leave his wife (who's ready to give him s3x) and be sleeping around. And, to you, confusedl,"divorcing" him for about a year now will NOT solve the problem; it will rather compound. Pls, forgive him.

Some of these things are a lesson to all of us. Mayb what's reqd is for couple (b/4 marriage) to sit down and agree and knw how they should run their homes (s3x, money, relatives, everthing).

Please, see my REGRETTABLE thread: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=359397.msg5576976#msg5576976

@POSTER

Hey, confirm if the girl's middle name is GOODLUCK (in whatever language). B/c she is out to unseat u. Lol

JProspero:
1. Nwata gbuo otu nza, o rie ya otu afo (When a child kills the little bird (nza), he eats its meat for one year)

2.  Enyi zogbulu okuko asina na ya na ihe emeela  - (An elephant that crushed a chicken should not beat his chest)

3. Onye a na-agwo ibi o na-eto afo mara na udele na-akpo ya oku n'Ajo-ofia - (One who is being cured of scrotal elephantiasis and he is developing kwashiokor should know that the vulture is beckoning on him in the Evil Forest)

4. A na-ara onye ogbi, o na-akanye n'aja - When a dumb woman is being slept with by men, she records the names of those involved and the number of times on the wall (in case she gets pregnant and the men start to deny)

5. Okokpolo chupu ngwere, ya na onye ga ebi?  - If a bachelor chases away lizards, who will be his companion? (In olden days girls would not live in with men if they were not married yet)

6. Udele si ndi ma ya anwuna, ka umu aka ghara idu ya aka n'onu - The vulture prays that those who know him should not all pass away, lest children insult him

7. Agwo emeghi ihe o jiri buru agwo, umu aka ewelu ya nyaa oku - If  a snake does not act like a snake, little children will use it as firewood.

8. Ubochi onye ori ga-akwa nna ya, ndi ihe ha furu abia mgbaru - The day a thief is holding the funeral ceremony of his father, those who lost their property would start to pay him condolence visits.

9. Ozu sibe isi, enyi ka nwanne alaa - When a corpse starts smelling, even very close friends disappear (ie that is when you will know that blood is thicker than water, because your friends may desert you in times of extreme difficulties, but your true blood relatives will not)

10. Awo si na ihe o ji akwo di ya n'azu bu na o dighi afia aru ihe mmadu aghoro ihe onye ozo - Mrs Toad says that the reason she always bears her husband on her back is that it doesn't take long before someone's property is taken away by another. (NB - Ladies, pls hold on to ya men no matter their faults, lest desperate girls snatch them away).

Onye choo ilu ozo na aka m, ya weta otu ite nkwu enu , otu oke-okpa na oji asaa, nihi na ndi be anyi siri na adighi agba aka ahu nwata eze, maka na eburu aguu na-agba afa, o na-ada onwu onwu. A tuolu omalu, omalu; a tuolu ofeke, o fenye isi n'ofia.

Umu Igbo, ndi oma, ya gaziere unu! Ise-e-e!

@Prospero
Ana m ekpupuru gi okpu n'omaricha ilu ndi a i tuuru anyi. Ihe kacha enye m obiuto bu otu i si detuo ya ebe a. O gosiri na I maara otu e si ede asusu igbo nke oma. Obi na-ato m ka mmanu anu banyere gi. Ka Onyenweanyi gozie ma nonyekwara gi.

Ana m ekelekwa ndi ozo, bu ndi turu ilu ebe a, na-asi ka afo 2010 a buuru anyi dum ihe onu. Ndu nwoke, ndu nwaanyi. Onye anwula ma ibe ya efula. Onye dum ga-achotacha ihe niile di mma anyi na-acho. Onye na-eme ihe ojoo, ana m asi ka Chukwu gbaghara ya, ma mee ka O si n'ajo ihe wepu aka.

Ka o mesia. Ndeewonu!

Attack, attack, attack, mixed with invectives and curses. Na wao!


Guys (not ladies this time), can my problem be b/c I DO NOT Drink (Alcohol) & DO NOT Smoke (cigarette)?

I'm thinking about hanging out late after work, drinking alcohol with buddies, coming home late and quietly going to bed. She knows I dont do that. Mayb, it will help matters. Pls, ladies, I'm NOT asking you now.

1. Onye rachara agadi nwaanyi suo ya ike n'ala, mgbe amu keliri ya, o ga-abia ozo.
[He who humiliates an old woman after having s.ex with her, will have erect pe.nis another day.]

2. Also same meaning as: Onye mmechi uzo na-ahu naani otu ugbo [He who is ungrateful does not meet a second favour]

3. Agwo no n'akirika [There is a snake in the house]; meaning "There is danger."

4. Onye ahu di mma amaghi ihe onye ibi dara na-ahu [He who has a normal scr.otum does not understand what the man who has a elephantiasis of scro-tum goes through]

5. Onweghi ihe mebiri emebi n'otu onye ara. [A mad woman's vag.ina is as good as that of a sane woman]

Ka o diwagodu otu a. ,

My brother,

U have given me one of the best encouragements on this thread, I must say. I appreciate you & your patience. I feel for you too concerning what u explained. But I'm happy u rightly said it is your cross to bear. U re one in a million husbands. God will bless u for that. Your advice touched me so much. I knw i'll be out to give younger pple such advice in future. God will still work miracles in your marriage, I believe.

Concerning this misconception on the number of times for s.ex, noted below, I have thrown more light on it before, but have to touch it again:

ayodele123:
I suggest that you do not tell her cos it may break your marriage if she cannot absorb it calmly.
i had extra marital affairs in the past because my wife had a low desire for intimacy. when i repented of it and turned away from it, i did tell her and she was calm about it but it did not improve her sexuality anyway, so i was back to square one.
But i had a clear conscience before God and before her.It may not work that way in your situation.

Now that you are guilty of the flings, stop it immediately.Confess to God and ask for His forgiveness.He will forgive you but you must not go back to commit adultery again.If you do,It will condemn your eternity to Hell if Jesus comes to find you in that state.

[b]2ndly, you need to learn self-control.You are highly sexually active as many men are but it seems to me that 3-4 intimacy rounds per day is too highly outrageous.That will be about 90 intimacy rounds in a month.Haba!
Are you both engines rather than flesh? Dont you have a job?[/b]You have to learn to adjust otherwise you will both look like 70 yrs old when you are 50.Though there is no standard number, i believe that twice weekly is OK.
But how do you expect a woman with 3 kids in 4 years to still have the energy and the drive for 3 intimacy rounds daily.Do you want to send her to an early grave?

Then talk to her and try to reach a compromise about how often and when to have intimacy but dont over do it.Excessive intimacy is injurious to health in the long run.
Take it easy o!

On d highlighted, I never said I do or want it 3-4 a day. I said I prefer 3-4 times A WEEK. Check my previous responses on this thread.



I'll 4rever remain gr8ful. God bless a million times. I now know that there are still honourable men. Really u ve made my day. You have. You have. I'm happy. Thanks, & thanks & thanks.

nikkykay:
You know the issue?U have got what u want!!!.You disvirgined her and she is not freaking you like the first time you met her again.U definitely took advantage of the innocent girl.

Women,  always feeling suspicious and cheated! Why?

I don't think d poor boy is like that. So, dont start pouring blames on him. Every man is not the sleep-and-dump type. I tell u, more men want to keep the girl they come across than women think. Often, men leave girls b/c of their attitude, or value (norms & values) disparity: the boy talks career; the girl talks movies/parties or vice versa. A friend told me that he left a girl he was contemplating marrying b/c she never liked going to church. Each time she visited, she stayed in d house while the boy went to church alone. He acted rightly. He could also hv left her somewhere in d middle of the marriage - which his worse. The moment women started appreciating this fact, the better. So, let's erase this notion of generalising that men want to use and dump girls (includingv.irgins), or use them for sport or whatever.


@poster
That's not enough to leave her. She may b d wife God has given you. From what u said, I can c she loves u. I also think u love her from wht u ve described. To tell u the truth, most men abandon d girl they ought to marry & marry 'something' else and begin to regret in d end. U ve got 2 think well & fast. I dont knw how old u re anyway.

There is nothing wrong in showing her love. I may agree with u though that women (often times) love who does NOT love them, and disregard who is really dying for them. But, now she first loved you, u should d4 reciprocate,  . and fully too.