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Bokoharam:
Bigger Boy,
U really undstnd what is happening. Leave those who do not undstnd, until when their eyes are clear.

I have said it time without number that Soludo got it right at the beginning, but lost it somewhere in between. The truth is bitter! He missed the point and his watchdog fxn when he became corrupt and started compromising. The corrupt CEOs bought him over. He spear-headed the attempted, fraudulent takeover of SPRING BANK by PHB; he caused many banks their woes. He is costing people their jobs today.

Soludo's pacifying function was merely a time-bomb waiting to explode. It wouldn't have been long for the whole banking system to collapse, if Sanusi had followed Soludo's steps. Sanusi saved the economy from a total banmk collapse, where, like u said, a combination of banks' capital, depositors' funds, and staff would have all suffered. It was a matter of time for that to manifest. Sanusi is a wonderful RISK MANAGER; I think I give it him.


@COOLG
I hope you know what the EDW was meant to do. I hope u know that it was to be a short-term wondow and a perpetual line, which most of these stressed banks converted it to. As good intentioned as EDW was, all those were small matters compared to the ATTITUDE of the then CBN pilot (Soludo). He was not policing the sytem enough.

Soludo, no doubts is a renonwed academic. I give academics and paper-work to him; but HE HAS INTEGRITY ISSUES. Take it or leave it! He probably also did not understand how to control banks or he chose to look the other way.

Corrected:

@COOLG
I hope you know what the EDW was meant to do. I hope u know that it was to be a short-term window and NOT a perpetual line, which most of these stressed banks converted it to. As good intentioned as EDW was, all those were small matters compared to the ATTITUDE of the then CBN pilot (Soludo). He was not policing the system enough.

Soludo, no doubts is a renowned academic. I give academics and paper-work to him; but HE HAS INTEGRITY ISSUES. Take it or leave it! He probably also did not understand how to control banks or he chose to look the other way.

Johnpaul88:
@Bokoharam, from all data at my disposal, it is indubitable that u hold an outright aversion for this man, soludo. U glory and pop champgne whenever baseless and unfounded allegation of ineptitude are preffered against. U are just being unfair.

I think boko haram is interested in a better Nigeria, free from corruption & ineptitude.

I have follwed his postings too.

dinachi:
Isn't this a popular pitch for those Girls who like doing it with girls(lesbians). First, they try to paint men as irresponsible, insensitive, wicked etc. then they now present themselves as viable alternatives.The truth is women now brainwash fellow women to sleep with them and this topic is one of those such scams. please my dear sisters( i mean those who are still normal) don't be carried away. Don' fall for the scam. As for the asshole that initiated this topic: even lesbians cheat on each other sometimes. And to take it futher don't women cheat on men too?

You hit it well, bros

Until women understand that SEX and Love are 2 separate and different things to a man. Una go keep asking this question till eternity. You can love a woman and still find a booty outside and fck it, doesnt mean you don't love the woman!

I agree. To a women sex is an emotional activity. To a man, sex is a physical activity. A man can really love his wife and still be having sex with another. Unfortunately women miss this point—either knowingly or unknowingly— that their refusal to give their husbands satisfactory doses of sex (I feel tired, worked out, I have headache, not just in the mood, the baby is crying… and other stupid reasons) tears marriage apart. If you cannot do your job, why cry when another person does it for you? That’s childish!!!!

Again, God knows why He created men the way they are. After all, the most referenced people in the Bible [before Christ] were all polygamists—Abraham, David, Solo-the king (just name them). And they lived happily with their wives, and concubines. Some, willingly donated their maids (househelps) too for banging! Yet, there were no divorces. What a wonderful set of women we had then.

Now to you men haters!
The truth is that married women also cheat. In Nigeria today, the spate is rising and shocking too, matching the trend in the western world. Every day, married women are caught in Camera (Cheaters), caught by Magun (Yorubaland) and sighted by Palm wine tapper under the iroko tree (Igboland).

What about these stories:


STORY ONE:

Married woman dies during sex romp with lover
By CHRISTOPHER OJI, IROKO WHENU and ADAMU YUSUF
Tuesday, October 27, 2009
It was a show of shame on Sunday when a woman who lied to her husband that she was going for a night vigil died in a popular hotel (names withheld) during a sex romp with her lover.
The mother of seven identified as Modinat Alabi, 45, of Ereko Street, Fadeyi, Lagos, had lied to her husband a devout muslim that she was going for a night vigil but ended up lodging in a hotel with one Hezekiah Ladipo, 62, who also lives in the same street with the deceased. The duo, Daily Sun learnt, lodged in the hotel as husband and wife.

Daily Sun also gathered that the suspect, Ladipo also is married with three children. It was gathered that on the fateful day, the two lovers had lodged in the hotel, at about 2.45 am. Hezekiah reportedly rushed to the reception, where he complained that his wife collapsed and was gasping for breath during sex romp.

It was further gathered that when the receptionist rushed to the guest room, the woman who was naked had already given up the ghost.
Daily Sun learnt that when it dawned on Hezekiah that the woman was dead, he attempted to run away. The hotel management who suspected foul play arrested him and called in the police.
A police source told Daily Sun that it was during investigation that the suspect confessed that the woman he initially claimed as his wife was actually another man’s wife.

When the deceased’s husband was contacted, he was shocked, as he expected the wife to be at the night vigil.
However, the state police spokesman, Mr. Frank Mba, who confirmed the story told Daily Sun that the suspect was being investigated to know if there was ulterior motive rather than sex romp before the woman died. He described the act as shameful.
He said the corpse has been deposited at a public mortuary for autopsy while investigation is going on.

http://www.sunnewsonline.com/webpages/news/national/2009/oct/27/national-27-10-2009-008.html


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STORY TWO


http://www.vanguardngr.com/2009/11/24/man-dies-in-hotel-room-after-sex/
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UGHELLI — AMUKPE community in Sapele Local Government Area of Delta State was thrown into confusion, weekend, follo-wing the death of a middle-aged man in a hotel room in the area.

The deceased (names withheld) was found dead after allegedly committing adultery with his neighbour’s wife, a mother of five children.

According to a reliable source, the man and woman checked into the hotel in Amukpe at about 10.30am on the faithful day, having traveled from Oghara, Ethiope West Local Govern-ment Area of the state to the hotel.

The source, who pleaded anonymity, said the woman raised an alarm seeing that the man was dead some hours after they had had sex.

The hoteliers and sympathisers, who were attracted, made frantic effort to resuscitate the man and rush him to the hospital where he was confirmed dead by doctors.

“The woman is a fashion designer, while her husband is a staff of Ethiope West Local Government Council.
“The husband of the woman has been appealing to the dead man to stop committing adultery with his wife, but he would not listen until he died,” our source added.

When Vanguard visited Sapele police station yesterday, the fashion designer was making useful statements to the police while the body of the late lover had been deposited at Sapele Central Hospital morgue.
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Abeg, make we hear word jare!

kulyie:
hey ya!!!! wot a pity.wot some men r lukin 4!!! i think its either uve gotin marid 2 d wrong person or uve married someone elses husband (dat wasnt meant 4 u).your husband just found a cheap n ridiculous excuse 4 him 2 cheat on u ryt in front of u.i pray such an animal will not come my way in jesus name.ebami sami .i suggest since dats wot he wants go eat burger,icecream,choclates,candy and fried foods 2 gain weight back maybe hill come up wit anoda excuse n if he does u beta no he is tired of u n lukin 4 a way 2 end d marriage

My dear, tnk God u r nt married yet so u have sm time 2 understnd life n marriage. Ensure u kip wht d man saw b4 coming to u. Again, in ur everyday discourse with ur husbnd to be, u would knw if he wants a fat or a slim or avg sized woman. Ensure u kip ur own side of d bargain.

Women seem to brand men as devils. Every failed marriage (to a woman), d man is d cause. It's true dt men (as well as women) can b funny, but understnd dt certain things are suicidal. WHen u c smthing harmful & u dare it. In marriage, it's abt what ur spouse likes abt u. 4get abt wht pple preach 2day in modern day marriage. U live 4 ur hubby & vice versa. Is he says this dress isnt good, 4 goodness sake, stop wearing. If u insist on putting it on, it could b interpreted as u r looking 4 another admirer or spouse outside wht u have. If pple will undstnd it this way, spouses will live happier than it is.

This is my little, but PERSONAL contribution.

@poster

Mayb by d time I writing he wd hv divorced u. But d truth, men marry who they marry bc of wht they see, whether physically (morphology) or the attitude.

Too bad, u went ur way!

It's called back-up, depending on your battery power.

Girl too have more back-ups these days to ensure there is UPS & automatic change-over.

bluespice (f)
The Gardens
the one and only reason u have been dumped coming from u should be your horrendous command of english

But this guy writes far better that some (if not most) of us in NL. I don't pple have been much bothered abt dt on NL.

@poster

Mayb, those r your reasons. For me, they re far from mine.

Pweety4me:
^My thoughts exactly Gabry just described herself. . .

I concur. But nt only that:
Gabry is wondering why guys r jilting such a 'lovely' character, leaving her to marry other less 'lovely' babes. Prove me wrong!

Ndeewonu:
Over 70% of men who are into this do it with younger girls b/c they do not get sexual satisfaction. Either their wives are always tired, or are boring, or the nagging type or simply engrossed with taking care of babies. Do u know a have a colleague who says she loves having sex only for creation Sad!!!!

I mean "procreation".

michelin89:
Why are married men following teen girls in the first place? Would they want a married man to sleep with their teen daughters?

Over 70% of men who are into this do it with younger girls b/c they do not get sexual satisfaction. Either their wives are always tired, or are boring, or the nagging type or simply engrossed with taking care of babies. Do u know a have a colleague who says she loves having sex only for creation Sad!!!!

If Ngige? - He did well in Anambra but may not have enough experience to pull Nigeria thru; better 2 do another state gov role

If Fashola? - Probably the BEST GOV the New Nigeria has produced. He should finish 2nd tenor in Lag 2011 to perfect wht he started.

If Utomi? - Needs to understnd politics. Not grassrooted & withiout structure

If Atiku? - People no longer trust him

If Buhari? Has the clout; but pple r afraid he's a fanatic


KEN NNAMANI will b a better president 4 Nigeria. He held the mafia 'hostage' with bare hands and came out victorious, quashing the evil 3rd term & portrays high level of integrity. Many ppl believe in him.

I cant think of any other for now.

Owu gal:
Rape is not a big deal. supposing she was your sister or your mother or your daughter. and to the people saying she had consensual sex and it was aborted, since you dont know the statistics of rape you really should think before you think a woman is lying. but if you are above the age of 20 or even 15 and you are sexually touching a young girl of 9 years or below i hope you meet mercy, but I also hope you meet revenge and violent and crippling exposure. rape is a very big deal. its an invasion of a womans privacy, her body, her mind and its totally disrespectful of humanity. that you feel your desires are stronger and more necessary than another persons modesty, privacy or right to approval that you force yourself on anyone, if there are any rapsists reading this I hope you meet violent exposure and if you are in an enlightened land I hope you meet jail and the men of jail who rape other men. its my strong hope for you if you are a rapists. i hope you meet revenge.

Guys,
Probably my choice of words were misleading? I've tried to explain what I meant and still mean. Evrybdy knws rape is a crime and a wicked act. I only meant that rape is not a good reason for a man to leave a girl. No, not enough reason. It's not her choice. It can happen to anybody. I think that what people keep misunderstanding. Sincerely, I dont intend to offend.

So, let's continue with the guys topic.

Ndeewonu:
I've bn follwing dis fite. Dis guy don confirm say him no sabi wetin dey worry am. Abeg, forgive am. I just came across his fites in other sections.

For More of PHUCK_NLs attitude, visit: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=240241.msg5033947#msg5033947

Moderato: I agree wit Airzee and Bluetooth.

@Ndeewonu,

Thanks for the information. I just viewed the said comments.

smooooooth:

@airzee- thanks for tellking us how the bank works, but it still doesnt make sense. we have had banks for decades now, and this stupid target meeting have not always been the case, so how did the banks of the 70's/80's work?

this act has got to stop. and people are criticizing the common prostitute on the street and raiding nude clubs, when infact prostitution is thriving in virtually every area of our lives. lets be sincere, we all know 80% of the peeps in the bank meeting their target do that by sleeping with customers.  

i dont know anything about the islamic banking SLS talked about a while ago, but if its gonna put an end to this madness, then i support him 100%.

@Smooooooth link

My brother,
- In the 70s & 80s, the workforce was very few.

- The pay then was relatively low

- Overheads was low (NEPA was more stable, transportation, cost of leaving, cost of buildings)

- The kind of Technology deployed now wasn't 1% there then;  these capital investments come with huge costs (online-real time; internet banking; telephone; security doors; CCTVs; Radios; intramail systems; ATM/Interswitch - just name it).

Targets are made to inspire and motivate pple to work. If there are no targets, I bet you, 99% of pple will go to bed and still hope to earn their salaries. The truth is that no person is ever sacked who achieves 50% of his target. And it makes sense.

Other issues:

1. I do not subscribe to the fact that every girl that meets her targets in the bank sleeps with a man. That's a lie.  While it is possible that girls do some unethical things to get the money, I can tell you they are the lazy ones. The same reason an Undergrad lady will sleep with lecturers not to FAIL exams.

2. There are many guys who meet and surpass their targets. Did they sleep with who? The issue is that people are lazy are look for short-cuts for survival. Like someone suggested, these monies can come from where you never expected.

For your information, any girl that sleeps with his male customer man to keep his money is destroying her career. The man will obviously not have the trust to allow her manage major chunk of his finances. I speak with references and experience. Men are smart, the moment they sleep with a girl, they know the girl seeing that he (the customer) has N20m or N50m or more with will definitely start asking for personal money. The safest thing a man does is to gradually wind down banking activity with the girl. Then, posting and dilly-dallying starts. You see a rich business man with much money in another bank, but scanty deposits and transactions in the bank where a girl he is sleeping with works. Why,the man is protecting his assets. Yes, he may give her some pocket money -o, but not as much as he would have if the whole savings is under her care. The only exception to this is if the man is just a signatory to Govt funds (no man's money). This is where the men believe there is no risk to the funds.

Back to the topic.

The target is justifiable because she earns her salary from there. Big man, big trouble; small man, small trouble!!! Must everybody work in the bank? The answer is 'NO'.

I am not sounding not concerned. I am just speaking reality. After all, I also have huge targets.

phuck_NL
Quote from: netotse on Today at 09:54:23 AM
@phuck_nl
guy u really should calm down, you tend to come across as brash sometimes(remember when you were fighting with most of the ppl on this thread). i've seen a lot of your posts on NL and you seem to state your points in a way that a lot of ppl cld find offensive, you're still young and i dont think its a good habit to develop esp when most of the ppl you relate with seem to be older than you(forget the fact that its NL its still wrong to be rude online or not) granted there are a lot of messed up ppl on NL but you dont have to meet them swear word for swear word, sometimes ignoring ppl that piss u off is the best thing to do, it shows your better than them!

P.S. you sef check am now, you know the type of looneys that roam the politics section, so u shouldnt blame the moderators there.

Below PHUCK_NL's response:

Quote from: @phuck_nl
Let me say sincerely that i truel appreciate your words of wisdom.
I know that i can be nasty at times. Trust me, i dey fear myself some times.
My point is that the idea of using banning someone to show off your power really infuriates me. They make it seem like i have to be on Nairaland. That is what i am really against. If Nairaland was a "Born Again" site, there is no way on earth i would curse here. I am only being a true Nigerian. We curse like there is no tomorrow. Just drive in lagos traffic and you'll know what i'm talking about.
i have seen so many people curse without anything being said but as soon as someone gets offended, the next thing is a BAN. My point is that this attitude will only anger people. If i curse you, and you address me and say hey, i don't like it oo, stop it ooo, Do you think i would continue? The same thing happpened on this thread and i stopped it. Anyway, i don't want to change the direction of this thread. I APPRECIATE YOUR MATURITY SHA. Now lets continue wiht the VISA success stories.

I've bn follwing dis fite. Dis guy don confirm say him no sabi wetin dey worry am. Abeg, forgive am. I just came across his fites in other sections.

For More of PHUCK_NLs attitude, visit: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=240241.msg5033947#msg5033947

Moderato: I agree wit Airzee and Bluetooth.

Beaf:
This bolded part of the above statement is wreckless beyond belief. It is in very poor taste and should never have been made.
To make matters worse, it is in capitals. I am shocked.

Some people have argued that it was taken out of context; I say, such outbursts will never ever be in context.

HEY, LET NO ONE MISUNDERSTAND ME. THIS IS WHAT I SAID:

Ndeewonu
ALMOST 90% OF GIRLS HAVE BEEN RAPED BY SOMEBODY, FROM RELATIVES, TO FRIENDS, TO UNKNOWN RAPISTS. SO NO BIG DEAL ABOUT RAPE.

HOWEVER, B/C OF THE HESITANCE TO TELL U, THE GIRL MIGHT HAVE COMMITED A BABY. TO CONFIRM THIS:
- WERE U LONG ABSENT FROM HER B/4 THIS TIME?
- WHEN LAST DID U MAKE LOVE TO HER (WITHOUT A CONDOM)?
- WAS THERE ANY TIME SHE WAS BEGGING U TO COME mess HER?
- DO U SUSPECT SHE DOUBLE-DATES

THESE R CLUES TO CONFIRM; I INVESTIGE CASES.

MEANING THAT RAPE IS NO ENOUGH REASON FOR A GUY THAT LOVES A GIRL TO REALLY JILT HER. IT HAS HAPPENED TO SEVERAL PEOPLE. I NEVER MEANT THAT RAPE IS SOMETHING PLEASANT TO THE VICTIM. NOT AT ALL!


@POSTER, SOME OF MY QUESTS HAVE BEEN ANSWERED IN YOUR 2ND POST/CLARIFICATION.

MEANWHILE, IS IT GOING TOO FAR FOR A GUY TO KNOW HER GIRL'S CYCLE? THIS PROMPTS YOU WHEN THE CYCLE CHANGES WITHOUT WARNING. I DO THAT A LOT. MAYBE, I WENT TOO FAR!!!

chatupkay:
This is what LTV 8 calls "GBORO MIRO"
wetin concern us?

abi you want cheque tooo?

MY BROTHER, I TIRE-O!!

pres-elect:
@kosovo

say what you like, eziachi has a point.
the british are the most godless people i have ever set my eyes upon. yet their anthem is a prayer.
then the americans are somewhat religious, and their anthem is like a war song
the nigerians are probably the most religious people on earth and we are also the most corrupt

Eziachi:
Keep on praying. While others are working.
And using Engand's chant of God bless their queen as an example, the same England where majority don't even believe in God and converting their churches into night clubs, a place where Bishops are openly gays.
Get a life.
I always find it funny with Nigerians and their myopic concept of bringing in God into everything. Please people, God is not a Nigerian, he has more important things to occupy him than to worry about the most corrupt nation on earth. The Chinese are not where they are today because they were praying for a well known sick leader with no atom of progressive plans for himself, let alone 150 million people. The Chinese are were they are today because of their hardwork, corruption/stealing by pen is punishable by death, while in Nigeria corruption is rewarded with endless chieftaincy titles and meaningless honorary degrees from faceless universities.

If I

R U GUYS SAYING THAT ENGLAND HAS CHANGED THEIR NATIONAL ANTHEM NOW? IS GOD SAVE THE QUEEN NO LONGER THERE? I THINK WE SHOULD LEARN TO LOVE OUR NEIGHBOURS. IT'S OUR HATRED FOR OUR NEIGHBOURS THAT TRANSLATES TO LEADERS. EVEN GHANA KNOWS LOVE MORE THAN US.

IS IT HATRED OR YAR'ADUA'S HEALTH WE R TALKING ABT? LET ME TELL U. DIM ODIMEGWU-OJUKWU IS MY MENTOR TILL 2MORO. WHEN HE WAS CAMPAIGNING FOR PRESIDENT, HE FAINTED IN THE CAMPAIGN GROUND BUT THAT DID NOT DETER HIM. AND I TELL U, COME 2011, DIM MAY STILL VIE FOR PRESIDENCY UNDER ANY PARTY OF HIS CHOICE. WHY ASK FOR YAR'ADUA TO GO OR DIE. WAKE UP! WAKE UP! IT COULD BE ANYBODY.

KOSOVO & AIRZEE SPOKE WELL. GOD SHOULD HEAL YAR'ADUA!!

BEFORE I MARRIED MY WIFE, I PROMISED MYSELF I WASN’T GOING TO CHEAT ON MY SPOUSE. I FINALLY GOT MARRIED TO A GIRL I REALLY LOVED. WE’VE BEEN MARRIED NOW FOR 4 YEARS PLUS AND HAVE 3 LOVELY KIDS (2 BOYS; ONE GIRL).

WHEN WE NEWLY GOT MARRIED, WE USED TO have S.EX OFTEN: AT TIMES 2 TO 3 TIMES A DAY. WE WERE SO HAPPY & ENJOYED THE BLISS & EVERYTHING.

THE PROBLEM STARTED WHEN THE BABIES STARTED COMING. I DISCOVERED THAT MY WIFE’S SEXUAL DESIRE DROPPED SHARPLY—I MEAN SHARPLY. NOW, WE HAVE S.EX BARELY ONCE IN A WEEK OR 2 WEEKS. I TRIED TO COAX HER TO UNDERSTAND, BUT ‘HER SYSTEM CANNOT ADJUST’.  WHEN I ATTEMPT TO, IT IS EITHER HEADACHE, BODY PAIN, FATIGUES (SHE WORKS), SLEEP, OR SIMPLY NOT IN THE MOOD. BESIDES, I LOVE SUCKING & PLAYING WITH THE BREAS.TS MORE THAN ANYTHING. BUT SINCE THIS YEAR, I HAVE NOT TOUCHED IT MORE THAN ONCE. IT’S MOST PAINFUL. IT IS EITHER PAINING HER OR SETTING HER ON EDGE/TICKLING HER UNCOMFORTABLY.

THE PROBLEM NOW IS THAT I HAVE STARTED CHEATING ON HER TO FILL IN THE GAPS FOR ME. I HAVE NEVER BEEN A CASSINOVA AND DON’T ENJOY PHILANDERING. AS A MATTER OF FACT, EACH TIME I AM THROUGH WITH ANOTHER WOMAN, I FEEL SO GUILTY WITH A BATTERING CONSCIENCE. I’M NOT LIKE THE OTHER MEN OUT THERE. AT TIMES, I SOB WITHIN. THERE WAS A DAY SHE SAW I HAD TEARS DROPPING OFF MY EYES. WHEN SHE ASKED ME, I PARRIED THE ISSUE.  MEANWHILE, AFTER DOING IT, I STILL APPEAR THE INNOCENT MAN I USED TO BE BUT I FEEL SO GUILTY. I HATE MYSELF B/C I KNOW IT’S BAD PHYSICALLY/EMOTIONALLY/ PSYCHOLOGICALLY/ SPIRITUALLY.

IN FACT, ONE OF THE GIRLS NEARLY BLACKMAILED ME BUT GOD STILL SAVED ME FROM THAT.
RIGHT NOW, I FEEL BAD & ASHAMED ABOUT MY ESCAPADES.  I KNOW IT ALL STARTED WHEN OUR SE.X LIFE DROPPED DRASTICALLY, BUT THAT PROBABLY IS NOT AN EXCUSE. I WOULDN’T HAVE MINDED HAVING IT WITH HER 3 TO 4 TIMES A WEEK, BUT IT IS NOT WORKING.

WHILE I THINK OF OTHER MEASURES TO DELIVER MYSELF FROM THIS NONSENSE, PLEASE, I NEED YOUR CANDID ADVICE WITHOUT ABUSES AND CARICATURES:

- SHOULD I TELL HER THE HARM THIS ‘ABSTINENCE’ HAS BEEN CAUSING IN OUR MARRIAGE?
- WILL THIS ENCOURAGE HER TO CHANGE?
- OR WILL IT TEAR OUR MARRIAGE APART?

I AM WORRIED, B/C I STILL LOVE MY WIFE SO DEARLY, AND DON’T WANT MY INNOCENT KIDS TO FACE THE TRAUMA OF SEPARATION IF THE WORST COMES TO HAPPEN. I FEEL ASHAMED ABOUT THIS.

giddysgold:
@ poster, my sister was raped and it ruined her life. She told no one. It was a relative and I saw him. that is how the family found out cos i forced her to talk. But unfortunately, the incident ruined her.
Why people so quick and comfortable to be negative. Had those same sentiments until the cock came home to roost, if u have never dealt with this situation or one like it, u have no reasonable input. Not to be rude, but u don't know what it's like, I watched my sister, a brilliant star, just start to throw away her life becos of this incident. and jus cos a woman goes to see somone who she thinks is a friend does not mean she should be raped or that she got what she deserved. Maybe she likes that guy but jus cos someone likes u doesn't mean they want to have sex with u. sex is more personal for women than for men, some men anyways, men are priviledged to pull out and wipe off, women absorb all what the man has given. that is why its violating to be raped and is very sensitive subject, that's one. two, mr. poster- rape changes a person my dear, am very sorry for how u may feel right now but she will have to deal with it, and maybe she is avoiding u cos she is afraid u might tell her that it's her fault that she got raped, and that is the last thing someone wants to hear after being raped, Women are not as dubious as we make them, sometimes they just want to be genuine friends, and although nothing is in their mind, the mind of the guyfriend can be quite different and when it comes out that the guy wants to progress to another base, the ego insult of the slap of rejection is enough to make a mean man wild enough to take her treasure and tell her that's what u get u silly bitch! do u think i really just wanted to be friends with u, what if that's the scenario, many are the ways that this thing can be spun o, u have to calm your head and think first, get her to disarm herself and trust u that u wont accuse or attack her and tell her it's her fault or make her feel worse, she may be especially not trusting men right now, so take your time and if u love her, get counseling and wait for her to come around and help her build something special in her mind about sex between u two, that will ease the pain , idk, just slow down and think, and NL is not the best place for advice, if u believe in Jesus, i would say trust him and pray, pray her and pray for urself,


but that's just advice good luck

I NEVER KNEW THR R WONDERFUL PPLE R IN NL! EACH DAY, I DISCOVER THEM IN LARGE NOs. KUDOS.

YOU DIDNT TELL US TO WHICH EXTENT UR SISTER WAS RUINED. IT CUD HV BEEN A LEARNING POINT FOR EVERYBODY. THANKS TOO 2 OTHERS WHO HAVE CONTRIBUTED MEANINGFULLY.