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ikamefa:
you nor get liver? 

Emmm, if she had publicly identified herself in my hometown, Akwa Ibom, she would have been mobbed.

ezeagu:
you mean the belief in witchcraft, . . . . . . . . . . . . I hope. . . . . . . . . . . 

The belief and the widespread practise in the African society. In America, witches are called 'wiccans', and viewed harmless, for the most part in the society. There are stories of some people identifying themselves are 'wiccans' in the society without any repercussion/fallout. As a matter of fact, there was this white lady I worked with who told me that she is a witch. She described the ceremony to me which (according to her version) involved parading in the nude and all that. Some of my co-workers fielded her with question, but I was then a 'newbie' in California, I just did not want to be associated with her.

So, later on, prior to leaving the place for vacation, she brought some homemade muffins and shared with the girls in my department (I was the only guy). One was reserved for me, but you gotta trust my judgement that I flat out rejected it.

Couples staying together because of poor economy
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Digg Facebook Newsvine del.icio.us Reddit StumbleUpon Technorati Yahoo! Bookmarks Print By AMANDA LEE MYERS and CHRISTINE ARMARIO, Associated Press Writers Amanda Lee Myers And Christine Armario, Associated Press Writers – 31 mins ago AP – Nancy Partridge and her ex-husband, David Snyder, pose outside the home that they share in Westminster, … Running into your ex is almost always awkward and stressful. David Snyder and Nancy Partridge deal with it nearly every day.

The Denver couple divorced after six years of marriage but have been forced to live together for months because they can't sell their place or afford to set up separate households in this slumping economy.

Snyder gets the master bedroom, while Partridge gets a smaller one. Snyder watches TV on one end of the house, Partridge on the other. The two split the grocery bill and kitchen duties. Sometimes they eat dinner together, sometimes apart. There are awkward silences, or worse.

"We've had tremendous arguments over things like who gets to park in the garage, but at this point, it's kind of settling down into a routine," said Partridge, 45, who works in public relations. "It's the lesser of two evils. I think the financial stress of a foreclosure, which would probably also lead to a bankruptcy, would be worse."

With the recession and the collapse of the housing market, more and more couples who have broken up are continuing to live under the same roof, according to judges and divorce lawyers. Some are waiting for housing prices to rebound; some are trying to get back on their feet financially.

The phenomenon is being felt around the country but most keenly in areas hit harder by foreclosure, such as the Sun Belt.

When the real estate market was booming, couples would promptly sell their home, split the profits and go their separate ways.

These days, Florida Judge John C. Lenderman said, about a third of his cases involve homes that are in foreclosure or that a family is struggling to sell. Lenderman said he has never seen anything like it in 40 years as a lawyer and judge.

"They just can't do anything, financially," he said. "I've actually got a number of people, guys who are saying they're sleeping in their cars or pickup trucks, not paying their child support or anything. I've got some folks here who are down to flipping burgers."

Sometimes the financial implications of a divorce are so grim that a couple whose marriage is on the rocks decide to give it another try.

Kent Peterson, a longtime divorce mediator in Wayzata, Minn., said a young couple from the Minneapolis area were moving toward separation until they got a look at all the costs involved in divorce.

"The thinking was they need to work a little harder and stay together because of the changing asset picture," he said.

Linda Melville filed for divorce from John, her husband of 13 years, in August. Four months later, the estranged couple are still living on the same property in St. Petersburg, Fla.: she in the main, two-story brick house, surrounded by mementos of their marriage; he in a one-bedroom apartment that stands about 75 feet back.

Linda was laid off from her job in October and said she cannot afford to rent a place on her own. And so, while she looks for a job and tries to start the next chapter of her life, she remains in the home where the couple — who had no children together — celebrated holidays, put in a back deck and laid flagstone steps together outside the front door.

"Living as close as we do, it really makes it difficult to achieve closure," she said recently.

Despite the close quarters, the couple rarely cross paths. Linda Melville said they hadn't spoken to each other for a month before meeting about their divorce in late November. "The only conversation that takes place is via the lawyers," she said. "Even negotiating a day to do laundry."

When the morning paper arrives, whoever reads it first sets it out for the other. John Melville keeps up with the pool and lawn maintenance. Now that it gets dark earlier, his wife rarely even knows whether he has arrived home from work.

"We're respectful of each other," Linda said. "I don't go out of my way to violate his space. And I don't think he does."

Snyder and Partridge, the reluctant housemates in Denver, divorced last January. When the house failed to sell and Partridge ran out of money to pay for an apartment and her half of the mortgage, she moved back in with Snyder over the summer.

The childless couple brought their house, a two-story baby blue home with brick trim on a corner lot covered with cottonwoods, for just under $179,000 in 2001 and tried to sell it for just under $200,000. During the nine months it was on the market, two people looked at it "and laughed at the price," Snyder said.

The couple didn't want to lower the price and take a hit. The real estate agent eventually dropped them, and there is no longer a for-sale sign out front.

Partridge is not getting a lot of support from her girlfriends. "They say, `Oh no, let it go to foreclosure. Walk away. Don't do this,'" Partridge said. But "you have to take a breath and say they don't understand the full picture."

Snyder, who works in accounting, is catching grief from his family. "They say I could move on with life if she wasn't there," he said.

Neither one is dating again. "But I know it's going to be awkward when it comes up," Partridge said.

The two haven't really talked about how long they're going to stay in the same house.

"Not until we sell the house or until one of us wins the lottery and can buy the other one out, or until government gets their act together or the banks get their act together," Partridge said.

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Amanda Lee Myers contributed to this story from Phoenix, Christine Armario from Tampa, Fla. Associated Press Writer Chris Williams from Minneapolis also contributed.


http://news.yahoo.com/s/ap/20081203/ap_on_re_us/meltdown_divorced_but_together

How old is this poster sef?

Your wife comes first even before your brood.

Outsiders, like White/African Americans may find the concept of witchcraft mindboggling. I remember a documentary that I watched on TV, featuring John Stossel of ABC News. In the segment, there was a juju man who, I think told him of an attempt to harm him via inserting needles in his picture. John Stossel was not alarmed and treated the incident with an offhanded comment. Back home, the juju man would have paid big time for attempting to inflict harm/injury on another person. We have heard of stories of people's progress hindered by witchcraft in Africa, but in America, laziness would be attributed to such causes. Illnesses, barreness and other misfortunes are all heaped on witchcraft. And then, tales of confessions by old men/women, prior to their death about their activities in the coven world is not uncommon in Africa.

What exactly could be the sole reason for the prevalence of witches in Africa, as opposed to America and other European nation? My people would not completely rule out their absence, rather, attribute the prevalence of advancement in the society through 'witchcraft' knowledge, while in Africa, witches uses their evil power to kill and maim.

Any reason? Please dont get me wrong, I know firmly that it exists in our society, I am just perplexed that it is not given that much of a thought in the western world.

Governor is taking action.

http://www.thisdayonline.com/nview.php?id=129704

What do you think of them? Honestly, I have only heard praises showered on the Nigerian movie industry from other Africans, but to me, I think the movies are substandard and an insult to the intelligence of the Nigerian elites.

Two wrongs dont make a right.

Tell her not to abort.

A man who fathered nine children by raping his two daughters over many years has been jailed for life with a minimum term of 19-and-a half years.

The 56-year-old from Sheffield was sentenced to a life term for each of the 25 rapes he had admitted.

The attacks led to 19 pregnancies, Sheffield Crown Court heard.

The daughters said in a statement: "His detention in prison brings us only the knowledge that he cannot physically touch us again."

The defendant refused to leave his prison cell to attend the sentencing.

Nine of the children were born, two of whom died on the day of their birth. The other 10 pregnancies were miscarried or aborted.

The daughters' statement through South Yorkshire Police added: "The suffering he caused will continue for many years and we must now concentrate our thoughts on finding the strength to rebuild our lives."

Review launched

The father moved the family from village to village in rural locations to keep them isolated and to avoid detection.

Sheffield Crown Court was told that he "took pleasure" in knowing the harm he was doing to his daughters.

Judge Alan Goldsack QC said: "Questions will inevitably be asked about what professionals, social and medical workers, have been doing for the last 20 years."



When either one of his victims tried to end the sexual abuse, he threatened to kill them and their children



Nicholas Campbell QC


Jayne Ludlam, director of children's and young people's services at Sheffield City Council, said the abuse was revealed to social workers in June.

Ms Ludlam said: "This is one of the most harrowing cases we have had to deal with and to say we are shocked to find this level of abuse being perpetrated by this person is an understatement.

"Due to the seriousness of this case an independent review has already been launched which will look into the circumstances surrounding the case and the contact the agencies had with the victims."

James Baird, representing the defendant, said: "It must be inconceivable to those who have listened to this case that these offences have been carried out, in this day and age in a so-called civilised society, over such a long time and with such consequences, without them being reported or investigated."

The court heard that the sexual abuse started when the two sisters were prepubescent but that they only realised the other was being abused when they became pregnant some years later.

The court heard that on a number of occasions doctors advised the women to stop having children by the same father.

Family 'frightened'

Nicholas Campbell QC said: "The defendant played Russian roulette as to whether there would be complications in the pregnancies and with the health of his daughters."

The defendant threatened his daughters with a "real hiding" if they refused to have sex with him.

Mr Campbell said: "All the defendant's children spoke of his domination over their family life. He was tall and strongly built."

"All the family were frightened of him. When they heard his car pulling up outside the house, the children and their mother ran to their respective rooms.

"His younger daughter told of the frightening habit her father had of putting her head next to the flames of their gas fire and that when she struggled to get away on certain occasions she burnt her eyes."

Childline plea

On one occasion, the women called Childline and asked for a guarantee that they could keep their children, but when one was not offered they ended the call.

Mr Campbell said: "When either one of his victims tried to end the sexual abuse, he threatened to kill them and their children, and when they threatened to tell police, he said they would not be believed.

"All the time, when the sisters were challenged about the paternity of their children, they would cover it up.

"They started taking the pill. He said they should not be taking it and, just as they felt unable to avoid his sexual abuse, they obeyed.

"They spoke of his pleasure at fathering their children whilst at the same time they had fears for the welfare of these children and how they would cope."

Lib them leader and Sheffield Hallam MP, Nick Clegg, said: "All our thoughts are now with the victims of this most abhorrent crime, who must be given the time and privacy to rebuild their lives."

His fellow Sheffield Brightside MP and former Home Secretary David Blunkett said it was difficult to determine who, outside of the family, could have been expected to take steps to intervene.

He said: "Those who at least made an effort to do something should not be the ones who are pinpointed - it is those who did not who should examine their conscience."

http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/england/south_yorkshire/7747711.stm

Great African Queens are the unsung mothers who put their marriages, children first before all others. I admire and respect mothers who are willing to sacrifice all to maintain a happy home.

I miss my family members, the tempo, the culture, the people, the friendliness of our culture, I left my heart in Nigeria.

KarmaMod:
Might be a worldwide curse however it['s onloy in Africa, one can get away with it

Have you forgotten Asian countries also, or even South American countries like Mexico?

It is a world wide curse, not just restricted to Africa.

And Seun, what role have you played to reduce this violence against women?

fayahsoul:
To all the nubian sistas in the continent and diaspora;

It is past due time to let go of the weaves, wigs and perms.

These acts, and love, of fakeness have far reaching consequences that is not readily realizable to the narrow minded whom engage in such demeaning acts.

-It is a health risk: these relaxers, moisturizers, texturizers and all that other crap that you dump on your hair( to alter the nine ether structure) are all loaded with toxins and carcinogens which seep into your blood stream via the scalp. 

-Economically unsound: it contributes to financial capital flight out of our communities and into the asian(korean especially) communities,

-Sacrilegious: it involves the desecration of the temple of "God"([/i]your body) and therefore it's immoral; hence, punishable,

-[i]Psychological defect: It is a subconscious expression of self hate and a deep seated sense of inferiority complex that gets passed on to your seeds through the[b] agents socialization[/b]; this makes it a psychological problem that must be tackled head on,

-Counter-productive: all these cosmetics, surgery and other miscellaneous techniques and ingridents you apply on your person in a futile attempt to "beautify", does not make you any prettier rather it diminishes your true natural beauty. These treatments make you go bald before 40yrs.

Stop embarrasing and deceiving yourselves and have some dignity for a change.

Stay real and natural.

Stop using the computer and internet, it was founded by the white man. Or rather, cancel your subscription to these internet services that are white owned companies. Practise what you preach.

Limit your intake of food consumption to Eba and Egusi soup and other Nigerian staple. Shun Foreign food, because you are pouring your money into the white coffers.

Dont dish out your advice in English Language, but have confidence and type it in your native dialect. If there is a problem with conveying your message to others, then by all means translate it.

And by the way, please show us a verse in the Holy Bible that specifies that one should not wear wigs.

Lagos bans hawking by children during school hours

By Kemi Obasola

The Lagos State Government on Thursday said street hawking during school hours would no longer be tolerated in the state.






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The Commissioner for Women Affairs and Poverty Alleviation, Mrs. Adejoke Orelope-Adefulire, said this was the only way to ensure that children of school age are regular and punctual at school during lesson hours.

According to her, the state would henceforth begin to sensitise parents on the need to send their children to school, while law enforcement agents would also be sensitised to arrest errant parents in order to prosecute them to serve as a deterrent to others.

She said, "Education and proper upbringing of our children is the only way to eradicate poverty. The law forbids the use of under-aged children for domestic labour, negligence and maltreatment on the part of parents and guardians as it negates the tenets of the Child Rights law.

"The Lagos State Government through the various agencies of government will ensure the survival, development and protection of all the children in the state, the laws will be enforced to the letter in order to ensure that all the rights of our children are protected."

Orelope-Adefulire, who decried the high rate of child sexual abuse in the country, noted that the problem though universal, had become alarming.

She said, "Therefore, increased attention, efficient protection skills and preventive measures are necessary at family, local, national and international levels.

"My ministry collaborates with the National Agency for the Prohibition of Traffic in Persons and Other Related Matters on issues bordering on women and child trafficking.

"The ministry has embarked on the construction of a shelter for trafficked women and children at Ayobo.

"After a long period of silence, child sexual abuse is being more denounced and becoming a public and political issue."

The commissioner noted that her ministry had decided to produce a simplified version of the Child Rights Law 'so that no one tramples on these rights."

In a related development, the Permanent Secretary in the ministry, Mrs. Risikat Akiode, has said the ministry is ready to prosecute anyone who abused the fundamental rights of children.

Akiode said awareness would be created among children in the state on their rights. "We will educate them to say no to child sexual abuse and where their rights are being abused, to know the appropriate channel to seek redress," she said.

She said it was a pity that many children who had been sexually abused were dying in silence because of the social stigma attached to survivors of the illicit act.

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http://odili.net/news/source/2008/nov/21/407.html

It should be give and take. I pay taxes, and in return the government provides me with basic necessities like constant electricity, ample water supply and security. One cant be paying taxes in Nigeria and still have to depend to private generator, private borehole and all it's likes. Is that not fair enough?

http://www.snopes.com/photos/architecture/mugabe.asp


Read the above link to know the owner of the mansion.

Ignorance.

Ask some of these charlatans to prove if a child is a witch/wizard and they will say that some of them are "Nnan Ifot", that is, even they are not aware of their status/initiation into witchcraft.



http://naijablog..com/2007/12/child-witches-of-akwa-ibom.html

Why cant you have your trado wedding abroad?

Who are behind these child abuse all in the name of exterminating witches?

KarmaMod:
OliveGarden isnt exactly loved around here esp by Italians

Stilll, the comparison is way off base!

KarmaMod:
I'd even accept Olive Garden sef.

McDonalds ko, ChuckyCheese ni

How can you even compare Olive Garden with Macdonalds?