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Liposure:
i'm sorry, you being biased here. Domestic violence instigators shouldn't be spared irrespective of the gender

yes I am biased, that's cause the law is biased. girl on girl violence is fine, same as boy on boy but boy on girl violence is a crime.

you don't want the "streets" of social media e-warriors to handle your case. you will be over even before you started. Lil Frosh is still the latest one, call him and ask him how it went.

angelfallz:
My own rule is very simple don't slap/punch/kick me and I won't slap/punch/kick you.

A female that behaves like a thug should be treated like a thug.

There's nothing gentlemanly about accepting abuse from women.

needanswer I'm sure you created this thread to receive applause for your so called self control. Let me ask you, what if she had stabbed you to death, I wonder who NL beta males would have applauded.

Infact I wrote I lost control, my neighbor was the HERO of the day and not me! so try and get your facts right.

at the concluding part of my write up I made the point clear, I didn't share my story for your appraisal but to raise awareness about DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INSTIGATORS being equally damaging as DOMESTIC VIOLENCE ITSELF. so if you fall under any of these or you know anyone who does, call them to order.

Regex:
Wasn't patient enough to finish up the message. Whether true or not, the owner of this story is a weak person and has issues with his self esteem. Need I put that he doesn't respect himself too.

READERS are LEADERS, and not those who find it HARD to READ before giving an OPINION.

I don't have to roll in the mud with people of no esteem to gain their respect. That SH*T aren't my level, I rise above mediocrity and will continue to stay above it.

Tabasco23:
no I'm not trying to justify her actions I just wanna know what made her angry, and I don't know what soro soke means

it means SPEAK UP.

I'll quote you if I intend telling the story.

crackhaus:
I suppose the purpose of this thread was to make you appear like someone with a good level of self-control, yes?

Well, I will disappoint you... not because I want to talk down on you, but because I need to draw your attention to your very obvious cognitive dissonance.

What you have successfully proven here is that you are someone who can be taken for a ride, someone who can be exploited... And for the fact that you have somehow convinced yourself that you're a gentleman, makes you quite unable to see/observe it about yourself.

I have a good feeling that apart from this girl in the story, you are also surrounded by people who you seem to always let get away with disrespecting you – maybe your siblings, colleagues, friends, or neighbours.

My point here is, DON'T KID YOURSELF...
It is not self-control or maturity when you let people take a ride on you, it is a lack of worth... you simply don't value yourself enough.

I'm not going to say you should have hit her back, drew some blood, or help her lose some teeth... Fück no.
But you see, you should have made her pay for those damages in any way possible.

Besides, the fact that she even had the guts to do all of that destruction in the first place already tells me a lot about your kind of person and the type of relationship you have with her.
I understand that you are who you are, and everyone can't be a hard-nut BUT damnit develop some self-respect mahn...

The last time anything close to this happened to me in a relationship I was in (some time ago), we were not really fighting... just having one of those arguments that resulted in some pillow-throwing.
Then she mistakenly, I mean MISTAKENLY cracked the screen of my tablet PC.. and oh dear, she spent the rest of that day trying to make up for that blunder.

There are some things you shouldn't just tolerate, it's not about being calm or gentle... It's just common sense.

thanks, insult inclusive. I am not offended by the way, you have passed your message. but I'll like to draw your attention to something you missed on the way as you were doing your analysis.

notice how shell shocked I was from the experience, what does that tell you?

Yes it should tell you that this is A FIRST TIME INCIDENCE. It has never happened in my previous relationships but this girl is in a different kind of craze. If I still wanted in I could have still been with her and I'll do back by own but not physically, but in the end it will be a toxic relationship at best.

I am someone who respect myself and people respect me in turn, if she was a guy she would have got the other end of it. should would have though but God had other plans with that guy that saved the day.

PinkPill:
She's toxic.
Next time, look for someone responsible. You were attracted to her for the wrong reasons.

Don't go for just looks. Find someone that would give you Peace of mind.

noted. thanks

Blackmoran:
did they tie you with her? dumb that bitch... I will rather be alone and have my sanity than to be with someone that will lead me to my early grave

she is gone already.

Tabasco23:
I can't hit a woman unless it's a kinky play but if It was my Nintendo switch and Acer predator worth 2k, only God can save me from what will happen....... But hold up just making sure did you cheat

hold up, are you trying to find a way to rationalize and justify her actions?!

even if I cheated with her mom, is that an excuse for her to raze all my belongings or cause me physically harm?

Soro Soke.

Raydans:
If i was in your shoes i will act differently. You could have avoided all the damages if you have acted on the spot.

I can't open my eyes and watch someone inflict physical pains and injuries on my body without taking the best cover all because I want to be called a gentleman.

The best cover in this case is for you to shield yourself and throw her outside and lock your doors. She can start fighting the walls from outside if she wants. If rain and sun beat her head well she will calm down.

Now you just suffered physical assault and loss of properties

painfully you are right, I didn't see it from that perspective then but now you have pointed it, I have taken note of it. Thanks.

shaybebaby:
Brilliant answer to a senseless comment.

this made me smile , thank you

Zzor:
what stops you from arresting her,you are the real simp Nairaland men talked about,thats if all these are true,we've not heard anything from her,so I can't condemn her,thou shall not judge

I'm not going to get drawn into your verbal insult game or whatever that remark is for.

I like to live my life MORE DRAMA FREE. walking away blood guilt free is my GREATEST WIN. As for her karma will pay her in her own coin.

is there ever any good reason to go off crazy and damage properties? well maybe you know something I don't know.

Doortun:
In some countries she could get you jail on false domestic violence accusations. Society has underestimated the havoc women can wreck and few people know.

It has happened to me two different times and these women are not even remotely close to what you'd call "baddies".

Most DV allegations on Instagram we see are BS and we only know 2% of the story. I don't condone battery, you will all be shocked by backstories leading to battered face.


Redpill your mind and things would start making sense.

what you said has truth in it. sorry for your own sad experience. I think the other gender know how dangerous at inciting domestic violence they are behind close door and some even physical assault.

now I know it takes great strength not to go over board when you have been intentionally and ruthlessly pushed to the wall.

Petyprincess:
Chai me sef fear my gender

Na mouth we get, if you give am one slap now she fit die thank God for your friend.

everybody has a monster in them. just look at the youths protesting #EndSARS.

I just pray mine will never reawaken again... affliction must never rise a second time.

now I fear who no fear your gender. Twale!!!

davidhobo:
I can relate.

please care to share?

chinchonglee:
U be man oo...
Something abt my crazy is that it can cause fatal damage nt minding the gender of the person.

thanks bro. na God win.

MrLucifer:
You should have done something equally terrible either to her or on her. She had a choice to act the way she did and you have a choice to react in whatever way you like.

Instead You simply let her go scot free, to go and terrorise the next innocent man.

I wanted to, but like your moniker Lucifer aka Satan- get behind me.

Djex614:
bro you'd have arrested that lady. she,s lawfully a criminal

I would have but considering the fact I was saved from doing to her what I had in mind, I just used those damaged electronics to do thanks giving. karma will pay her in her own coin I believe.

men are beasts, men are monsters. how many times do you hear this when a case of domestic violence is reported in the media? every time.

it's difficult sometimes being a man, I have known but now I have unlocked a new level. Not because it's that hard but because "nobody believes a man easily without very concrete proof(s)". even with hard solid evidence people still believe the abuser.

the bitter truth is this "a man is guilty until proven beyond and beyond and beyond every reasonable doubt and excuse that he is innocent, even before then some people want him jobless, homeless, broke and imprisoned".

while for a woman "she is innocent until very strong proof can say otherwise, then excuses like leniency, stress, mental disorder and all sorts can be made for her, for a pardon"

So I had a little argument with my babe. she gets physical, she blocks my way, speaks rudely to me, encroach on my space, pulls my shirt( it tears a little), my hair, slaps me all over Iike uncountable times all at ones.

I get she is angry but this is physical and emotional assault, she is an adult she should know, right?

her slaps especially really hurts me. my skin is stained red. but I manage to keep my cool. I'm no Lil frosh. I tricked her and managed to run outside to calm the atmosphere, she chases me but I outrun her. she can't keep up, so she goes back in.

come to think of it, I ran out of my own apartment, that I pay for? wow (it's a first experience for me)

I take 3 hours to go back. I believed by then at least she would be calmer and we can relate like civil adults do.

I get back and she is smiling. not the cute smile of hers o. I know something is up, I looked briefly around the apartment and everything looks normal. so I go back to the room where she is, trying to resolve our differences, that's when she drops the bomb. she tells me she poured water in all my electronics while I was away, she says it without remorse with a smile. I was taken aback. could it be true. I didn't wait for her to finish, e be like say this girl they craze? . I rushed into the living room. I switch on the led TV, Omo my tV didn't on o. my sound system too, ps3 wey I still dey manage no onetc nothing on.

God I couldn't describe the feeling, everywhere was suddenly hot, I was boiling. you know say this little witch follow me for back they laugh. mehn for the first time in my life I knew what it felt like to what to kill a person, cause in my head she was dead.

while I was still processing the shock and boiling, this little witch now made matters worse. my lappy way I get stuffs on, way I put for wardrobe this girl get mind put am for inside water. my heart first cut, I swear my eye red o and at the same time I won cry.

she come dey shout say make I do my worst, say make I kill am (person I never touch). that talk just they ring for my head, I no even understand how my head they do me that time, e just heavy. na my neighbor save me I swear. he heard all the noise from her the first time when I left and when I can back he heard her voice again. He just came around to be sure everything was fine. God bless that nigga.

naso he drag me out o, this witch still they follow us they shout make I do my worst.

any ways that was 2 days back.
I done they repair those I can afford to repair now small small and she is gone after much noise.

I pray never to see such a witch again.
cause of her I had to read about domestic violence again because I for kill person that day. It was while I was reading that I saw that 70% of WOMEN ARE DOMESTIC VIOLENCE INSTIGATORS OR INITIATORS (they start the violent fight but they are the ones who usually suffer injuries) while men only initiate 30% of the time.

Information from that site shows that in relationships where both partners shows violent attribute, it is the women who will most likely be violent again in future relationships compared to the men and that men’s violent attributes are usually a one-time episode and not repeated in future relationships.

you can check our the website yourself https://www.coastallegalcenter.com/men-women-common-instigator-domestic-violence-cases/

please as we raise awareness for domestic violence against women and men, let's not overlook the fuel behind it -domestic violence initiators whether men or women. it may be your turn tomorrow.

In other words, what is the hallmark of Democracy? What is the essence of a democratic government?

Swtbabyvee:
get a girlfriend, if u can’t find one continue , it’s better than fuvkikh oloshos up and down

if that guy doesn't learn to control that urge now, one day they will accuse him of rape, he may rape his daughters or something worse.

let him break free biko

Swtbabyvee:
I just watch porn and masturbate . Everybody Dey form holy when them don marry . Abeg make person hear

make I clap for you

robinso01:
Or maybe he is just being sarcastic here.

you might be right too

robinso01:
No one is ugly. Beauty lies in the face of the beholder. There's always someone for everyone.

exactly, he is only lacking in confidence.

HomerTimpson:
In summary of this trash you wrote it means we the UGLY ones are not allow to have relationship...

there is always someone who would accept you. whether ugly or fine. you can be ugly and get a fine babe, you can be fine and get an ugly babe, and you can be ugly and still get an ugly babe, like the saying goes "this life no balance", so exploit it and be more confident, be masculine.

I remember sometime last year when I wanted to get my tokumbo car, I was very interested in how neat the exterior/interior were but I was also very very interested in its performance. I mean I can't be driving a car that looks good on the exterior and interior but breaks down every now and then.

but can you guess what happens in romantic relationships?

the opposite of what I described above is what MOSTLY HAPPENS. you see that pretty girl, that tall handsome guy from afar and they catch your fancy, right there and then you feel a spark for them and like them. you imagine them with you, you fantasize about them and suddenly you conclude you must have them.

looks are great don't get me wrong( I would never date an unattractive person myself) but most people only get to know so much about their partners only after they start dating and most times in ends in premium tears served chilled like you like it .

maybe that's one reason we have so many break ups....maybe or maybe that's why romantic relationships are getting more short lived these days.... maybe.

so before shooting your shot, inspect, inspect, inspect. caution though especially for guys, ladies too. don't inspect and inspect until you become the zonal chairman and coordinator of the friend zone. premium tears are served there too. be a secret agent and inspect covertly, your intent must not be visibly even to the blind.

but if you happen to come across that guy or girl you feel is so good and your paths will never meet again well...

Firstorderwizard:
Best thread in recent time

thanks bro

bootyeater:
Lol bro, this na small thing
if I take you deeper you will be scared to have sex

not on this thread, on your own please.

GreatMage:
Thanks alot... Seems to discover what the problem has been in my life for the past 6 years...
A fresh start from now henceforth!

you will prosper bro!

Ayoolajames007:
Sex is d most powerful creative force in the universe,dis sacred connection has been downplayed 4 d sake of fulfilling bodily pleasure.
Preserving dis life force has unbelievable powerful benefits to males
When a male climaxes during sexual activity he depletes his core and gives up his life force,dere are physical nd psychological effects to giving up dis force...as a result, d mind isn't as sharp,balance nd stability is lowered,core strength is weakened,energy level is lowered amongst other side effects

We are biologically programmed to desire sex. It’s natural. But dere are risks in taking d animalistic approach to sex-life management. If one entertain this desire without careful thought,one will find himself creating a number of problems in how disciplined one is in other areas of life. Anytime u deny d body it’s desire, u strengthen d mind's ability to govern ur actions. Dis denial encourages careful thought before action, especially as it relates to lust. Lust, when acted on without wisdom can lead to long-term consequences such as damaged relationships,unplanned children,divorce,depression, nd countless others. A special discipline is needed to contain sexual lust...u can only build dat by exercising denial nd setting a standard dat u can actually stick to.

We can achieve more if we spend our sexual energy wisely. Our sexual energy is like crude oil, a valuable nd important natural resource. To maximize its power, we must refine it and use it to fuel productive creation in our thought and creative lives.
I implore single guys to abstain from sex.
Premarital is a sin
1st Thessalonians 4:3-5 says
“For this is the will of God, your sanctification: that you abstain from sexual immorality; that each one of you know how to control his own body in holiness and honor, not in the passion of lust like the Gentiles who do not know God….”

1st Corinthians 6:18-20 says
“Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body. Or do you not know that your body is a temple of the Holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God? You are not your own, for you were bought with a price. So glorify God in your body.”

If u've had premarital or extramarital sex,all hope isn't lost,God is more dan willing to forgive u of all lust nd free you 4rm impurities Turn away from sexual immoralities and seek to live under God’s gracious nd forgiving love.

For those of u who do struggle with burning passion,continue to wait patiently for the right time. Sex is a wonderful privilege dat comes with great responsibility. May d Lord bless u nd keep u....STAY SAFE, STAY BLESSED!

well said bro!

div111:
Nigerians!! Y na??

the land is hard o, hence the hustle.

bukatyne:
If only men would learn these things.
Very good one OP.

they are listening I assure you

bukatyne:
If only men would learn these things.
Very good one OP.

they are listening I assure you