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francesco01:
make una carry dey go abeg. I don change.

wetin you mean sef

ojuu4u:
I wish an ex friend can read this and takes it serious, the guy can do anything..... Anything for holes, I wouldn't surprise in future if he rapes his daughters

I cut ties with him when I noticed that he can't hold secret shared BTW two closed friends whenever he sees pussy, he can bring down friend just to sleep with girls, in gathering of 10 females and probably 15 guys, he will like to sleep with all the girls one by one, as if he is a dog. In fact the guy is an untamed dog.

hopefully he gets to see it.

GreatMage:
This write up is very shocking...

Seems like I have to learn to redirect my energy...

learning to redirect your energy is key, redirect it on you... build you, master you and you will be a master piece.

tap from what bootyeater posted too

bootyeater:
some guys don't understand this sha. all the time they want sex. sez drains the life force of men.

have you asked yourself why its impossible for a guy to satisfy 6 girls at the same time and yet its very possible for a girl to satisfy 6, guys at the same time?

men are donors, women are recipients.

everything in life is built on this truth. money, love, power. even sex.

the reason why women gravitate towards the kind of men you described up there is because women are energy vampires, to put it bluntly.

they sense energy and are attracted to it akin to how a bee is attracted to a flower.

retaining your semen pools energy in your system. the more semen you retain, the higher your energy vibe gets.

women unknowingly and subconsciously sense this vibe and try to tap from it.


these are some hidden truths

bro don't leave me, take me with you too much sense in one post.

bootyeater:
the business I do is both mentally and physically taxing. if I expend too much energy on sex , my productivity and earnings drop.
there is the meter I have in me, I know when sex is becoming too much.
have sex in one week, abstain for two weeks. have sex for one month, abstain for two months.
sex is sweet but its not as important as my job and livelihood

that's how men of value roll. time for everything

onlyfacts:
Valid points. Much to think about on both sides, guys especially.

you valid too bro!

bootyeater:
true. I always abstain from sex for a period of 2 months after a month of sex

very necessary, sex drive (konji) needs time to build up for guys unlike ladies (unless during menses)

you may be wondering, what advice am I referring too?

I'll get to that quickly but first a brief detour.
It is common knowledge guys have 20 times more testosterone than ladies.
testosterone is that hormone that makes men sex chasers and sex initiators, but it is more than that. it also gives men our manly characteristics at puberty, the muscles, the beard, the deep voice etc.

a failure to check mate the hormone makes men hot and chase after ladies for the fun of it or either for sex. dopamine and oxytocin does the opposite and involves more of love.

you should also note, ladies due to a lower testosterone level do not have that same drive to chase the opposite sex but there is a twist. ladies enjoy sex more than guys, before you argue here are reasons.
ladies can last way longer than guys during sex. this is evident by the fact that most ladies don't orgasm as fast as guys. ladies can go multiple rounds than a guy can ever handle. when it also comes to sex, most times for the guys is just elevated testosterone at work and after orgasm they don't feel anymore love for the female. but for ladies it involves much more than testosterone at play (except she is a runs girl), it is much deeper. it involves a combination of at least 3 hormones at play, dopamine, oxytocin, testosterone etc. so there is more emotional and physical connection for them.

now to the advice from ladies guys should listen to . ladies want to express themselves in dress and grooming anyhow they feel comfortable in, be it sexy or modest. it's their body after all. is this moral? that is not the point but guys should embrace it with open arms.

you see as guys the more you learn how to master you testosterone urge for sex, the better a man you become in every way.
firstly you will no longer have 2 heads but one correct head, which will help you in decision making. things like rape allegations will be few- few becomes some ladies are still capable of a false allegations but few all the same.
secondly your masculinity will increase by a great fold, chasing decreases male masculinity, you most times lose value and respect in the eyes of such ladies when not reciprocated(especially for those that never take NO for an answer, that's toxic masculinity) while the art of seduction builds up your masculinity.
thirdly, guys who are not controlled by testosterone drive for sex will realize that the power of the females bodies over them has greatly diminished( they will still like ladies but in the appropriate way) in turn their value in female eyes will increase. Those kind of guys get asked out more often by females (if not by words by action) than the conventional guys or the chase is made very easy for them as there is already an emotional connection she feels for him. they also tend to stay longer in relationships as their spec are rare.

add good or average looks to the picture and a steady source of income and you are a hot cake!

these are just few reasons, more exist. guys change your mindset and you change the game.

momokiddies:
there is no one working manual for every male child, you just have to spend quality time with your male child to understand His personality and what rightly works for him. you may have 5 boys from one mother and still need to deal with each differently.
Although there are some basic rules that could help shape a male child into a better adult and a man.
such as: teaching them to have confidence in themselves, their dreams and abilities.
give respect to people irrespective if race gender or age.
teach them to build and value positive relationship
teach them the place of family in society
whatever religion you believe in, pass on to them by teaching them the rules of their believe while still respecting their stance. teach I said and not indoctrinate. indoctrination makes a child lost his right to reasoning and logic
give them formal education to at least university level
push them to acquire skills from a very young age that are in vogue. for example, I have introduce the use of laptop to my 2 year old and I allow him build his own interest around it.
a father figure in a male child's life is Paramount. single mother can get an uncle , friend or a colleague to stand in if the father is missing in action
be a role model. the possibility that your male child will turn out just as the father is higher. that's why I don't get tired of talking my hubby into modelling right attitude. not because I care so much, i do care really, but for the sake of my boys I won't stop talking.
why? I know my boys will gear towards wanting to be the man dad is, than wanting to be the woman mum is.
please note boys are boys and not female. do noe effeminate a male child. it kills every bit of what makes him a man.
who is a man ? topic for another discussion

you are a great mom! you shared very good advice on training the male child!

Mandela27:
Give him the red pill and let him grow ethically with it .

Unfortunately in Naija,mothers train their sons to be SIMPS,where they encourage them to be loyal and humble even when they know that this present world is not for the NICE man .

It's a sin for a man to be too nice,too humble and too loyal.Give ur boy that orientation and He will not forget it

I believe you should teach him masculinity, it is very essential for him but toxic masculinity should not be the goal.

Saintmary:
It's a pleasure.

hope to have you some other time

Saintmary:
Teach him to:
1. Pick up after himself: For example, his biscuit wraps, have him drop them in the dust bin. Let him place his plate in the kitchen by himself after eating. Let him put his used clothes, socks, panties in the laundry basket. Make sure you place these baskets at a stable location.
2. Be courteous: Say thank you anytime he's given any food, or if anything is done for him. Like when mummy helps him with his buttons, thanks should follow, if daddy buys him biscuits, thanks should follow, et c. He should learn to say please if he wants anything, not to demand. Say, sorry if he spills anything or steps on anyone. Also, excuse me if someone is in his way or he sneezes.
Every child should be trained regardless of their gender.
Training kids takes work, it's a lifetime job, you have to:
1. Be present
2. Don't change what you're teaching them.
3. Don't give them loopholes, trust me, those kids are smart.
3. Be kind, approachable, firm, open to them.
If you can stick to these few things, you'll have for yourself well behaved kids.

well detailed, bravo! thanks for sharing with us

hakeemhakeem:
First all children are not equal likewise parents,there is no model to training males children. some parents are hot tempered any slight misdeeds cane/shout.study your child/ren know what is Paramount to them uses it to tame them to fall in lines. For me I uses( PJ masks) cartoon and my friend place

thanks, coming from a father.

XXXXTENTACION:
Just train them in the right way



afterall no matter how strict or disciplined a parent is a child that will spoil will still end up spoiling.

the right way is the koko but the way we were trained is sort of outdated now

this question is open to male and female commentators. we want the male child to do better but how?

onyinye15 is no longer 15 but 25

so who will arrest them for the 67 or so passengers they killed via their plane strike? is one life greater than 67 lives? jokes.

oyatz:
Nobody likes to be on the losing side

it's fine that way

DMerciful:
The Igbos moved on as seen by returning to the places in other regions they were before the war and building properties. It is the rest of Nigeria that refused to move on by saying they can't trust the Igbos with power. Any little conflict or poster of Mohammed in far away Denmark leads to killing of Igbos by Northerners. The rest of Nigeria are somehow pained that the Igbos they could have finished off came back on top!

you are correct in some ways. majority of ibos have moved on, especially those living in other parts of Nigeria. a minority though, now pushing to become the majority Ibo voice have not moved on and waste no time in remembering the past, instead of integrating like the other ibos and getting a two feet stand in Nigeria and it's politics.

the unjustified pains due to loss of lives and properties is terrible to say the least but like other countries who made peace with their past, that is the right way forward.

oyatz:
If Nigeria is going to disintegrate ,it won't be into two (Igboland Vs the rest of Nigeria) but into many smaller Republics.



Different parts of Nigeria were existing indepently of each other before 1914, so if the union is dissolved, every parts will revert to how they were before the union.

I hope you are a prophet and it happens as you have said it. but one thing I know is that the Fulani's never like to be on the losing end of any agreement.

a future without the south is a loss to the north cause they are landlocked, they need access to seaport down south. they are also require the fertile lands of the south for their live stocks, and that's minus crude oil.

well maybe you are a prophet and it happens as you said it.

Iceberg3:
I'm not from the east, I'm south south.
And make no mistakes,we are also not interested in this bloody place.
We want out as much as the Igbos do.

God will never put your destiny in the hands of your enemies...say amen.

So He also will never put our destiny in the hands of our enemies.

amen and good luck.

Iceberg3:
There are many European countries and African countries that are landlocked and are doing very well.
May God deamalgamate this faulty land please

European countries that have forgiven themselves over WW1 and WW2 since like forever and African land locked countries that promotes peace with the sea border countries.
there is little to no forgiveness or peace in the pursuit of this NEW NATION you seek

what that means is the country that surrounds the SE which is Nigeria can cripple her future economy with just an official word or a pen.

they can impose huge tariffs on your import(making imports expensive for the SE) or export goods(making them less competitive in the trading markets due to high cost of sale) or they can decide to close their borders to yours as buhari did to west African countries recently. either ways it still turns out the SE still needs Nigeria although Nigeria may not need it then.

the prospect aren't so promising from my perspective especially when you believe the Fulani's never forgive and the Yoruba's are back stabbers. if you leave in a bad way, the after taste of that bitterness may be the recipe used in further negotiations with the SE.
I hope nobody gets to eat that humble pie

oyatz:
Do I want Igbos to be part of Nigeria?

My (PERSONAL) ans: Capital YES.





However, my personal opinion is inconsequential to what Igbos want themselves.
If they want to leave, I think we should all respect their decision.

good then let that yes be yes and let's stop pointing accusing fingers at each other. if you play your peaceful part and other tribes choose not to, at least you aren't part of the problem.

Ps: if the ibos that is the SE ever leave, the equilibrium scale of the north v south will never be balanced. it will forever tip in favour of the north, they have the size and they have the numbers to eclipse both the SW and SS combined together. northern nepotism will be the order of the day, the north will become a dictator in Nigeria against the SW and SS. to win any major political role in Nigeria the SW or SS will have to gather massive votes from the NORTH which may never materialize. and if ever they let the ibos go, they can't let the SS (cause of oil) and SW( with Lagos being the economic capital of Nigeria) go without a hard civil war fight. it's dicey.

Iceberg3:
Not I a country like Nigeria.

Do you think the north love to be with the south?


Crude oil is what is keeping the north in naija.

We are just wasting time together and it's dangerous for our future generations.

The federal government petroleum agencies are NNPC DPR PTDF PPPRA PPMC PPPRA. The maritime agencies are Nimasa and NPA and all these are headed by northerners!!!!


What do you call that?

that's due to bad leadership. the thing with tribal politics is this: if I win and I am from a certain tribe my people will benefit the most from it. this wrong pattern has repeated itself severally with many tribes that wins... let's wait and see if the ibos gets it right. once again that is due to bad leadership and corruption.

minus crudeoil, another major reason the north and by extension the SE need the SS and SW is because both regions are LAND LOCKED regions. they can't access the sea. seaport is very important for cargo movements between nations as airport is important for passenger travel. they loss the south west or south south and they loss their access to the sea and are boxed inland.

Igbochief001:
Oga nothing would never. Make and Igbo man trust a fulani man in Nigeria to the extent of giving him land to stay ...oga Nigeria can never be United ...the only way to unite Nigeria is to break it up

I expected your mention on the other post I made which I quoted you

oyatz:
Please check TwitterNG and see the the avalanche of abuses and very derogatory posts they made about Tinubu and the Yorubas in the last 72hrs just because of the crisis I the APC.


Ironically, they don't have any Igbo politician in the same way and level they hate Tinubu.

they too have been mocked by Yoruba's when they were suffering. when the army was killing unarmed protesters in the Ibo lands did Yorubas as a people speak against the injustice? instead they laughed. when your own Sowore was been maltreated by the DSS by not obeying court order despite his arrest been justified, did other tribes not join mouth to speak against that injustice?

but you want people to sympathize with you but you won't do that for them in return too?
injustice is injustice whether it is to Ibo, Yoruba, hausa etc

oyatz:
If most of the comments of young Igbo online is limited to criticism of actions and inactions of Government, nobody will call it hatred but they set out to demonize other Nigerians and whimp up sentiments against them especially the Yoruba people.


Be sincere and read their posts on Facebook, Twitter and Nairaland with an open mind.

every tribe is at fault, Ibo, Yoruba, Hausa etc. no tribe is a total saint in this matter. but let me ask you, do you still want Ibo's as part of Nigeria or do you prefer they leave? please no sitting on the fence, a yes or no is preferred.

Iceberg3:
If after how many decades we are still learning to build trust, what's the point?

Nigeria was never one and will never be one.

Everything about the country is wrong,it's faulty and forbidden.

Igbochief001 and others are right

I respect your opinion. it took many developed countries longer time to build trust and relationships. but the first critical step is to leave the past in the past.

B3ACHSIDE:
Nigeria is a federation created by colonial powers. if they wished , they could have merged the entire west Africa as one federation and name it Westland like i'm doing now . I'm American , my dad is Efik-Calabarian American and mom is Northern-Scottish American.

you told me your background which is fine by me but you didnt address my questions

B3ACHSIDE:
I may soon delete my account because i observe most Nigerians lack common sense . i've already deleted my previous comments on this stupid thread.
what's the difference between the current colonial merger and my proposal of the entire African regions being federations? the difference is that I advocate decetralization of power to the ethnic nations. If you think it's okay for Buhari who is Hausa fulani to have sole power and control to decide if there's seaport or electric generation in Igbo land or Nupe land , then you should not have problem with a west African federation where a wolof man from present day Senegal has control over igboland or nupe land . You should also advocate civic nationalism for my proposed west african federation.
Let all African regions be federations and then you advocate for good governance. A Krahn individual from sierrelone or Wolof from senegal can be president and have control over the entire federation igbo,Yoruba,Ashanti etc and then you advocate for good governance then.

and you believe forming a federation will motivate all ethnic groups to move for better governance?

and you believe that won't make us more ethnocentric?

you think some ethnic groups will ever be allowed to rule the federation? the more populated ethnic groups will dominate the less populous one as always.

B3ACHSIDE:
I may soon delete my account because i observe mnost Nigerians lack common sense .
what;s the diffeence between what you proposed and mine proposal of the entire african regions being federations?
Let all African regions be federations and then you advocate for good governance.

I'm not sure what you mean by what I proposed? I speak of forging a better future by building TRUST and RELATIONSHIP.

but I raised honest questions in my previous post

xcon:
. Why 3 they are more than 30 different ethnic group in the SS alone .You people (SE) are planning to create Biafra with Igbo majority dominating just like Nigeria(Hausa's/Fulani) dominating. The call for division by Igbo is to use the minority resources to develop the SE.

there are merits to your claims but I want someone who is Ibo to clarify