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Children are often believed to know more about their parents than outsiders. OBJ's and GEJ's daughters have these to say about their fathers. What do you think? Correct or wrong?

Asking for endorsement from OBJ is equivalent to requesting legitimacy from an illlegitimate entity, morality from an immoral fellow........

Can you imagine, candidates scrambling for the endorsement from OBJ. Thesame OBJ that fought day & night using the scarce resources of this nation to secure himself a third term in office. Thesame OBJ that spent $16billion in the power sector yet our homes got darker. Thesame OBJ who connived with INEC under the leadership of the corrupt prof. Maurice Iwu to massively rig the 2007 general elections. Thesame OBJ that committed genocide in Udi and went free. Thesame OBJ under whose evil watch our education system derailed beyond recognition.

The scrambling for endorsement from this corrupt past leader by the current presidential candidates further affirm by believe that both have nothing to offer and leaves a bitter taste in my mouth

koboko69:
Is this the same media chat I listened to

By the way mr president, u nominated not appointed. You have the power to nominate not appoint. If whoever you nominated is not approved....oga u will go shopping again. So make we hear word!

Hahahaha So, Ogbeni, who appoints? Very funny! Most nigerians are exactly like this dude here. For your information, the president nominates and appoints.

lordmayor2013:
Do GEJ thinks we are fools? Even if they find the missing girls we won't vote for him. #March4Buhari

Hhhahahahahahahahahahahaha Brother, calm down º˚˚˚ºO. Life is too short to be pissed off for too long.

Woged2005:
I recently posted my personal opinions on '6 reasons that keep Nigerian ladies above 30 from getting married.'

[url] https://www.nairaland.com/2130732/6-reasons-keep-nigerian-ladies [/url].

I was inundated by personal messages from people who found the post very insightful and helpful - Thanks to all of you. However, there are some people who wanted to know from the side of a lady above 30 how Nigerian brothers can better understand their ladies above 30 in relationships.

These are my personal opinions (but I was there too):

1. Don't Take Advantage Of Them: Ladies mature faster and ready to be wives and mothers at 19yrs, on the other hand economic hardship in Nigeria has moved the eligibility of most bachelors to above 30, as they struggle with unemployment and financial stability. Religious houses (specially churches) cash in on this to draw members teasing ladies that husbands are scarce. In fact, some make it look like being a single lady is a problem, a curse, and an epidemic. Unfortunately, most ladies buy this argument & become desperate, competing for the few 'scarce husbands' rather than pursue other goals. The truth is that it's better to marry at 38yrs to a responsible man and have a peaceful, mature family than rushing in at 23 with an immature boy, living in hell and abuse afterwards. Not all ladies above 30 are desperate to marry just any man. They simply want to settle down with a responsible man. Respect that & prove yourself!

2. Respect Her Time & Schedule Too: You can no longer date a responsible woman above 30 like your under-20 college sweetheart expecting her to come over to your house every weekend to cook, clean your house, and wash your clothes. At above 30+ most ladies are already working, busy and stressed out too. Some are at management positions, doing well financially too. You have to treat them with respect as partners not as your 'little girl'. You cannot shout on them or boss them around because you are a man or demand they be by your side 16hrs a day. You can't be disrespecting them in the public, pinching and slapping their behind on the streets. They are no longer teenagers!

3. It's Not About S=ex: At above 30, bones are becoming stiff. The body is no longer as flexible as that of the teenagers and under 20s, energy is wearing out too. You cannot expect to make love to her 5 times a day turning her in 7 different positions just to fulfill your fantasy at the expense of her health as you did your little girlfriend in school. Give her a break! Appreciate and understand that she may say 'No' sometimes and resist being used to experiment your new styles. It doesn't mean she's stubborn. She's mindful of her health and well-being.

4. They know What They Want: At above 30, most ladies might have been in previous relationships.They might have tasted other men and have basis for comparison. Therefore, they know when you are good or or bad in what you do. Don't take it as a criticism when they make inputs to help make the relationship better even when they try to compare you to their Exs. I know it's annoying but please understand, and pay attention to her suggestions not the man she used in comparison. We like men who listen to us. , Arrogant man is a turnoff!

5. She May Not Be A Feminist: People who say a lot have a lot to say. Sometimes it's from wealth of life experiences, though we may misinterpret them as nagging or being talkative. We learn a lot from women who teach and talk too. Except for people who argue blindly on issues they know nothing about, a lady above 30 is often educated, has life experiences, and knowledge she would like to share too. She's not argumentative, or being opinionated when she airs her views in a discussion. You may disagree with her passions but please don't shut her up, try to lord it over her or call her a 'Feminist' (if she's not) simply because she airs her views and feel passionate about them. She sees herself as a partner and you treat her like a housegirl. It hurts when you do that! As a man control the argument and close it off when it begins to drag & derail!

6. Don't Criticize Her With Her Past Mistakes: She definitely has a past, sometime not too rosy. Don't keep bringing it up, or keep using it to bring her down. Yes! Perhaps she failed in some things/relationships, perhaps married before, perhaps has a baby, perhaps had abortion as a teenager or in college, perhaps slept with a boss or pastor, etc AND SO WHAT! Mary Magdalene did yet Jesus kept her as best friend! She shared them with you to have a closure & feel close to you and not for you to bring them up and use them to judge her when you quarrel. Please never ever call a woman 'Ashawo' (prostitute). This is what you men say that hurt women most. She did what she did out of love or desperation. It's a past! Now it's all about you, give her a chance to love you.

7. Don't Waste Her Time: Finally age is not on her side; body clock is ticking, body parts have started sagging, maternal instincts have kicked in. She wants to settle down and may be impatient when you want to date her for another 3 years without taking a decision. If you don't want her for keeps please don't waste her time either. Please 6 months is enough time to decide if you want her as your wife or not.

Remember if you marry a good woman above 30 you got a Jewel! You marry a woman with maturity to handle marital challenges and mostly likely a woman most likely to bring something to the table to help both of you build a life of your dreams together.


May This Year Be A Your Year of Proposal, Marriages, Childbirths and Career Breakthroughs!!!

Great stuff. My greatest read on NL so far. If you stand for all these you have written, you have a great personality. Thanks for the read.

PDP and GEJ obviously behind this postponement. Can't believe an incumbent bent on postponement of polls

Shame!!!

See them! If na '7 things to know before toasting a girl' everywhere for don full. Simple maths question all of them student don run go 1 side. Na God go help all these our students for nigeria.

Girl is 19

Mother is 38

Father is 43

PDP and GEJ @ work!!! It is the responsibility of the security agencies to ensure the safety of lives & properties at all times.election period is not an exemption. So unbelieveable, an incumbent pushing tooth and nail for postponement of elections.

WHAT A SHAME!!!

What does it mean to have a crush?

Yungwizzzy:
Buhari is the man!!!!

Is he a woman before?

sparkleRed:
Dat history own is so true esp in uniben, we had just 5 2.1 in my class, no first class, 61 2.2, 5 third class and 25 spill over....just graduated last year nov....its terrible very terrible

Na which division you fall put? Lolz....

If you like cram, if you like stammer, if otolo like you, she don like you. None of your inadequacies or adequacies will really matter. Speaking from experience!!!

Another Boko haram in the making!!! How was the present Boko formed? Recruitment into the nigerian army is mainly by quota. This man keeps making unrealistic promises and gullible nigerians keep shouting 'sai buhari'. So unfortunate!!!

Regiment:
So if I hear you condemn Shekau & his boko boys again ehn!!? So you and them are the same? Or is their sin bigger?

God, the Society and the laws of man condemns BOKO BOYS. No need for me to condemn them any more. Which nigerian law is against pre marital sex? How many people you sabi way them don jail for pre marital sex? Boko mata different completely.

rubey:
Nigerian men will always take you for granted if you try wooing any of them. No be today

And when they woo you, they don't take you for granted? Taking you for granted is not a reason for ladies not wooing guys. I think our tight cling to culture and religion is a major reason!

Cutehector4u:
bro don't let d father of all lies sell u ok. In the words of our lord Jesus, he said. Keep your bodies holy, for your bodies are the temple of the holy spirit and they are paid wit a price. Other sins whch are commited are outside the body, but he who commits immorality sins against his won body. Now oga, do u want to tell me dat they are of the same category? Bro forget hypocrisy alright, I never said I was holy, buh sometimes, we should tell ourselves d gospel truth. Fornication destroys one's soul. Its in d bible. So dnt say because others r doin it den u wil generalise dat evryone does it. Life is per head. Its not me dat will answer for ur transgressions on judgenment day. The lord may wish to save u buh wat might drag one bak to hell may be dat one fornication he or she committed and ddnt ask for forgiveness and the devil wil be a witness to dat. So my brother, the main thing is this, obedience is better dan sacrifice. I may be tempted to commit fornication becaus am human, but dat doesn't mean I will remain in dat sin continuin fornicatin becaus evryone is doin it. Remember dat the devil is the father of all lies and he is very skilled at deception

Thank God you accepted you aint a saint. You said fornication destroys the soul. What does lie and stealing do? They construct the soul abi? My guy, always pray for 4giveness and stop saying if one commits a sin or another it means he/she is saying God does not know what He is doing. I don't advocate for people to live in sin. I pray to God everyday to help me live above sin.

I am so surprised at the comments of some christians. Do you guys expect CAN or PFN to endorse GMB? Would any islamic association both home and abroad endorse GEJ? Would an average muslim vote for GEJ even if he were competent? Its quite unfortunate that most christians have lost touch with reality.

Vote for whoever you want to vote for but remember that should GMB wins, he would further the islamic agenda as he had earlier said.

Cutehector4u:
Dat means ur teling God he doesn't knw anythn since he commands dat thou shall not sin against thy own body

Are you a virgin?
My guy, you are not telling God anything. You are only being a human! People should stop making others look bad. How many people marry today without having sex before? Too many hypocrites around!

I am not saying pre-marital sex is good!!!

Sin is sin! You way lie and another person way involve 4 premarital sex na thesame thg

This is a self inflicted wahala. Had GMB submitted his certificate as stipulated, all these rubbish won't be coming up. I am very disappointed in him. This is so unnecessary!!!

Nepa bring light for her face then seize am for her legs.....she is beautiful though!

blemon44:
apc founder is high

what will the followers do

THE FOLLOWERS WILL GET HIGHER!!!

These people, both the APC & PDP are a group of street gangs sucking Nigeria dry for so long.......just imagine a party founder consumed by alcohol and drugs in a rally....I so pity this country

Rilamaka:
Even if she is using a false rape story, why don't you find out first before you condemn the person. This post is outrageous and in a bad taste. How dare the poster use a blanket term? Don't you know that more than a third of our female population have been sexually assaulted? So if most girls say that they have been raped, then it means that they have actually been raped. Go out there and ask questions, you will be be amazed, enraged and disgusted. So please you guys should not trivialise rape, its an ugly thing. This is mean and unfair for rape victims (who might be reading this thread this very moment), that's all I am trying to make you understand.

You are taking this matter to a different dimension. The Op tried highlighting a section of females engaged in abusing rape, although the use of 'every girl or woman' was wrong. We know how devastating rape is and condemn it all day. Even the Op I believe condemns rape and has no intention of messing with the feelings of rape victims. The Op does not support rape but rather condemns the abuse of rape.

Rilamaka:
Even they cook up rape stories, rape as an action should be expressly condemned!!! I can't believe I am seeing these comments with my two eyes. Its our complacency towards rape matters that make sexual assault cases thrive in our society. "Blame the victim, she seduced him". You don't know how it feels until your sister or anyone close to you experiences that gut wrenching and horrible experience.

What am I saying? even guys on this platform may be rapists themselves, who knows?

See lemme tell you! I condemn rape with the strongest of language available! But we refuse to be fooled & manipulated by a girl seeking sympathy using false rape. So let's stop flogging a dead horse. Don't try to make someone look bad, I use God beg you!

beckyomas:
Talking about sincerity, is this not the same Nigeria and same nairaland where we get news of children and teenagers getting raped? Or do you think those children can still be termed 'virgins' anymore?
Are you telling me that when you hear the word 'rape', the first thing that comes to your mind is a full grown female going to spend the night in a guy's house?
Is that fair? Isn't it possible even with the rate at which we hear of rape cases?

I aint saying there are no genuine rape cases and child molestation. We are talking about the sample of the rape population who bring up 'craps' to get sympathy. We aint talking of those genuinely molested as children, we are talking of those who make false claims because 'rape' is (perceived) common. How many of these rape cases are even verifyable? How many have you, yourself verified? Or you believe there are no instances where girls cook false rape stories to guys?

To be sincere, most ladies tell these shameful rape stories often to get sympathy from their audience. I still believe the meaning of the word rape is ambiguous. Why would a lady visit a single guy and opt to spend the night, then later in the morning cries out that she has been raped? The decision to stay over can be regarded as consent.
If you know you aint ready to loose your virginity, stop giving passive consent, be careful with the people you hang out with and above all don't sleep out! Stay your papa and mama house!!!!!

orlaryhincah:
Fellow Compatriots, vote your conscience. Don't be manipulated. If your pastor says don't vote for a Muslim, ask him if Daniel served a saint; whether Modeccai did not serve King Ahaseurus and if Joseph was not a prime Minister under Pharaoh. This election is not about North versus South, nor is it Christian versus Muslim. It is about Nigeria and good governance. Don't allow politicians divide us. When they share money, they don't talk about religion. When they want donations from Aliko Dangote, they don't remember he is a Muslim. When they enter an aircraft, they don't ask the religious faith of the pilot. When their bosses are atheists, they don't resign from the job. When an Alhaji gives them contracts, they don't reject it. They and their wives go to Dubai to spend money. Dubai is in United Arab Emirate but they have no problems buying houses in Dubai. But when it comes to politics back home, they say they want to ISLAMISE you. Yet, some of these people were spiritual consultants to Abacha. Vote your conscience. If you want to vote for Jonathan, vote for him based on your conviction that he has performed in your estimation and not because he is a "Christian". If you want to vote for Buhari, vote for him because you feel disenchanted with Jonathan government, not because he is a Muslim. Say NO to bigotry. God bless Nigeria.
#Word

Daniel and his colleagues served under captivity. We are in our country and not under captivity. To correct some of your believes, most christians won't vote for Buhari not because he is a muslem but because he is an extremist who once upon a time promised to extend sharia to every part of the country. Christians to a large extent are rational compared to an average muslem in the north. Most APC e-warriors are christians. How many PDP e-worriors are muslems? In all, nigeria is still entangled in the shackles of religion!!!

Rubbish!! Some people are advising others to apply. How many persons on NL has a PhD and unemployed How many PhD holder will agree to take an aptitude test before employment? How many schools in nigeria have up to 20 senior lecturers in a department? Which professor will pay money to get employment at a village university like this? There are so many jobless Masters holders and PhD students on the streets looking for job, these ones are creating jobs for the employed. How many Doctors do you know that are unemployed?

This is clear fraud! They can try again later!

The Kenwood Loud Speaker has spoken!!!

This is becoming over embarassing. Buhari should clear up the air on this waec saga. I have a proposal. There is no need for a press briefing. Just take a copy of your waec result to either channels tv or AIT. They will scan it and upload same on their websites for nigerians to access. He is rapidly loosing credibility. I had wished to vote 4 him but I am currently confused.

Postpone until Further notice!!

presido1:
APC gave T-shirt to come for rally while PDP gave her rapper to do same. So all the crowd at every rally are the same people.

So na who dey deceive who now?