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O ma seun, o se to po. Nigbati mo ka nipa apo owo, paga ni mo se. O wa ye mi wayi sugbon o le'to ki awon ti won o se iwuye yi ki won fun ra won so ohun ti won ti gbe se ati ohun ti won yio gbe se. Eyi yio je ki awon ara ile ati ara ona ki won rii daju pee kii se oye yepere.

Dada le ba le; s'afia leyin na wa? Awon ara oke oya nko? Aya nko ati omo?

Richylaw, mo ka leseyin pe apo owo ma sipo pada; apo owo bi ti bawo? Awo na fe fi raja ni? Eni t'oye ba to si ni ka fun o; ki a ma ba ki ika abamo b'enu o. Ise wo gan ni a nreti lehin iwuye na?

Segoye2 kara ole o; mo ri wipe o je okan ninu awon ti won toka si fun oye. Nje o le so ohun kan tabi meji ti oye yi fe to0 si e?

Richylaw, oruko lo nro mi; oun lo se je pe a kii r'ewu l'osan.

Mo ri wipe e'npin oye. Nkan iwu'ri wo ni awon eni yi se fun ile wa ti oye fi to si won; nje iwa ati asa won yio gbe ile wa abi akan fe fi oye yi da won l'ola ni?

Lehin ti e ba dahun ibere mi ma ba akowe mi ji roro; bi mi o ba le wa e ri onise mi.

Can a man love? Yes. A poor man is first and formost a man.

If he is worried about the impact of his present predicament on his love life he should get his lazy behind into legitimate hardwork which produces wealth, clean wealth.

E ma binu pe mo s'ayonu so. Sugbon, nje ewe oye nbe ni Scotland?

E ku le o

Definitely not yours Abohrandy

Where is Fiyin007?

I'm sure he got enough answers before bolting,

I-man,
If I wasn't rather old I would have returned to study law but I wasn't drawing from the legal profession just my own understanding of contract. We often assume that a guy that says let's date means I'll marry you but they are two different things. Since she is fed up with the initial arrangement, I doubt that there is harm in the lady in question facing the guy to find out where th e road leads.

Laudate,
It's either you are dumb (I have read a number of your posts and I don't think you are), had a bad day (before you responded) or did not read inbetween the lines.

'If he is committed' was what I said. The fact that he is not signing on a paper does not mean he is not; only the lady can confirm this. I know of people who never signed a lifeless paper but have so much life in their union and are true to vows they made in secret.

I did say some relevant things (tangible is relative and your definition may very well be screwed):

"You may choose to make a counter offer or wait for a new bill, You can't give your best or be you when your head is in the Oliver Twist mode. Calm down and consider laying the cards on the table; the game would go either way - win or lose".

If you need me to break down my comment simply ask. I'm not the way maker; I have helped as led. You can definitely do better than pick holes in my counsel.

Moondust,
The fact that you are not capable of keeping your thrid leg in place does not mean others are incapable of such a moral feat!

Do you really love her enough to fight to win her back or do you simply want a go at her virginity so that you can sit back and roar with laughter when she nags about your cheating behind?

E ma binu, bi mo se n kago na ni mo tun so odigba. Ise npe me.

To Poster:

I don't think so. There are so many benefits which I'll return later to fill you in on. But, I really wish that instead of bloody recruits shoving us around - which points to legalising the military and giving them a higher ranking than graduates - it would be better to have educated trainers come on board.

I benefitted immensely from the service year experience.

E ku le o

Segoye,
Se Awo Richylaw o ba e dasi tibi ni. Mo se bi ewe ati egbo to n ba o jo ti pe. Bi o ba tii pe, o le kan si mi o. Agbara Oga Ogo l'awa nlo mo si le fi ogun re gbari pe ogidi ni

Don't kill your dream; the boy with the coat of many colours almost did. Even if you choose to share, be diplomatic about it, you don't have to spell out the design. It's your joker.

Gb'omo fo'mu, gb'omu fo'mo. Oju alejo lati je gbese ehin e lati san. A ni si lori ero ayara bi asa yen o, sugbon iroyin eko na a kan wa, Omo le'we ka'we e. Oluko gbiyanju koo ko daa daa. E maa ya'se

It's not about which is better, it's about your vision and what you love doing. In making a choice consider the one you flow better in; the one that comes to you naturally; the one you can conifdently make an impromptu speech about; go that way and you'd meet with success in unusual places.

All the best.

If love is your agenda stick by him. If sex is your agenda; only you can tell that he measures up. If marriage is your agenda; go for the one who is ready. Mind you, be ready to live with your choice. I've seen a man who did not seem like he'll be ready in 5 years take a woman to the altar 6-months after his ex-left. And I know a woman who 5 years after still watches her once-upon-a-time-Hot-pie linger on the line of bachelorhood.

Three things,: request, acceptance and commitment. He asked for you to go out with him, you accepted; if he is committed, that's all there is to this particular contract. You may choose to make a counter offer or wait for a new bill.

You can't give your best or be you when your head is in the Oliver Twist mode. Calm down and consider laying the cards on the table; the game would go either way - win or lose.

I'm not here to querry you. You are an individual entitled to your beliefs. The worst person to explain anything to is the one who has made up his/her mind not to understand. But I dare say there is no problem inherent in the Living Word and that's why we all have separate minds to interprete and live with it the way we deem fit.

Freedom to act is what has gotten us to where we are today, tomorrow it may be a coalition of humans fighting for their right to make love to animals or animals demanding for equal rights.

Rather than give your self headache, write yours or live by what you deem right.

Christians preach. Jesus saves. When it's time for your salvation you may not have much choice; Saul-Paul did not.

Awo Richylaw,
Be ba so'lu Minute bo se gbona yi a jo rau rau. E ma ni lati f'omi la ni o, bi o je be ede ko le ma ko o

While you enjoy the success, map out a plan for if/when the money runs out or if/when the money becomes a reason he wants to rule the world beginning from the heart of other women. If you have a problem thinking through that; think about Abiola and how many of his women (there should be something like womenses) still live (not merely exist) after he died.

The living are those who planned!

Richylaw,
Ki l'on mu ni Glasgow. Awon ogboju babalawo nwa e o.

E ranti lati ko awon omo yin ni ede yi o, bi be ko, ogun odun si igba ta wa yi be bere iru okun bayi e ni r'eiye,

When you want to buy a good tie or shoes; you go looking for the best. At times you invite a friend along depending on the occasion. When women starts shoving towards 30, they are told "You must have wasted your youth", "Just buy, you can fit it later", "Since he's paying for the ride, why worry", "You may never find a perfect fit, go with this", "Fine doesn't matter, you'd learn to love him", "Just marry and carry this shame over us".

I've been around and I've come to realise it's not a Nigerian thing. In India, South Africa, United States etc most people will look into your eyes and ask about husband, significant other etc. They take a long second look if there's no answer. People don't usually ask when you are building a house, buying property, getting a second degree etc They ask for spouse, then children. It's so sad; it puts a burden on females the most.

If you are a mosque or church woman, the burden is more, yet there's no help in sight. Married sisters see you as a threat, younger sisters' won't confide in you, bosses think you can't be responsible if you don't have a man-handler. And the pathetic thing; more men are signing up for singlehood; scared to their third leg of responsibilities.

I would have said "Don't worry, be happy" but the man who did that song committed suicide though he made the world believe he was beyond worry. Your environment makes it almost impossible for you not to worry. Do what I did, sign up into happiness and enjoy each day as it opens up. There's so much to live for.

Vows reside on paper, life is here with us. Does he have an out of station apartment? Is it in the same place you live? Were you out on a business trip? I can understand when a man dares to check out another abunna but it beats me that he would do it in your matrimonial bed.

Would he have considered forgiving you, if he caught you in the same situation? How protective was he about the she involved? Were you out before then or that ignited your move out? You really don't just pack out after you get home to find him doing the unimaginable; my guess is that you have been having issues.

If you can't do without him then make him really beg before you return otherwise you're better off without him. Mind you, if he's done it once you would have to live through the second, third, fourth, unless the previous one occured in a rare moment of insanity.

Mo ti rin arin ta'kiti, eyi le ju comedy lo. Awon to de ti so'nu abi ti won ti s'omo nu bi oko, eleda a je ke wa ri o. Ede wa, asa wa, ti a ni; e je ka gbe l'aruge.

Mo kira, mo tun gbe di fa'won to moye okun yi o. Ise'dale a gbe wa o. Ase.

Chelsea4su,
If na you dey wheel chair nko?

Indeed you have a problem and the problem is you