the $12billion must have been made from the Nigerian economy in the first place anyways, but thanks for investing it back

am I the only person who has never visited her blog even before it was shut down. Just wondering....

ENDTIMES: Nigerian government really amazes me, legislators elected to checkmate the governor went to the governor to inform him that they are decamping to be with him.

Honestly, we don't have any reason practicing presidential system of government, it is a colossal waste of resources.

It's just ridiculous. and i wonder how people would trust and support politicians who decamped so easily, doesn't it matter people need to stand for something anymore before they get our votes. Don't vote for parties rather vote for persons.

Take home lesson: Never act when angry or overly excited. because there is tendency to make bad decisions you may not be able to take back.

Arial.bold:


yea of course. even Boko haram members to have their lives to live. they may be cotrributing to Nigeria's demise but all of you are entitled to continue to destroy the country. Nigeria is Nigeria.
what else is new?

You should take things easy you know, and work on your temper.

"so she immediately stayed back to study for her Masters Degree which she achieved in 1983". This doesn't specify any school so i would wait to hear her response of what school the masters was from and her evidence before i can accuse her of fraud. It is looking interesting at the moment though.

lola.luv:
I don't think you should tell your sister. At first, she May be glad But I tell you, She might Later resent you. The messenger is the one who suffers for the bad news carried.

If I were the one, I'd leave their house jejely. Come and touch my boob in my father's house if dem born you well. If I won't tear you better slap....


But even you, you eff up. How did he have the guts to touch you that way. I'm irritated for you.

Best comment i have read from a lady on this thread, always good to see such non-sentimental comments from ladies once in a while.

What does it matter. Just train them in the way they should go and they would make you proud.

You may also want to educate your husband and his mum so they know your husband solely determines the sex of your child and not you. A family doctor can help with this.

opetu: My wife has been a torn on my flesh, giving me headaches daily. It happens dat I met her in my final year in school (fellowship), we got close just as friends nd within 7 mnths of knowing her one thing led to the other nd she got pregnant for me, well i accepted my responsibilty. telling my parents also, It was actually a thing of mixed feelingz, bein dat i am the only child of my parentz, at least thats like having a second child for dem. Long story short i decided to marry her cos of the baby..wit the notion dat we woud build our early relationship in marriage ..

Now issue is dat My wife doesnt like d idea when my parent come see me in my home, alwayz grummble, she doesn have a close relationship wit my mom, mom is alwayz sad about this..I ve been married for 5years now, ma kids ve only visited my parents for a week, anytime i bring up d idea of dem goin to see them..we always quarell!! just last week sunday ma parents left their home so dey come take d kids for d nu year break, i ddnt tell ma wife, but she found out, it was a fight that happened ....wit her tearing my clothes.. my old man nd momma both cried seein dis, dey had to travel back dat evening seein dat my so called wife ddnt welcome dem in my home, Dis is just d little i can narrate !!


I have two kids now, i kinda hate having a second child wit her, now am thinking divorce, which i dnt want to, tried to b patient, but its like shez getting evil advice from sumplaces everyday, how many years more does my parents ve on earth dat i wont make dem happy at least to be wit their grandkids!! at first i thought dis was normal, or is it a normal thing for mothers to cling to their child dat way?? maybe am too soft on her!! sigh i wish i never married her d first place, i only wanted to rewrite my mistake by marryin her.

Pure nonsense. She tore your clothes. Doesn't get along with your parents. Be the man of your house dude. Get a divorce and marry a humble woman. And guys please if you are dating any lady and she doesn't make an effort to get along with your folks or even inquire about their welfare, ditch the relationship as this is an early sign of things like this. Op being too much of a gentleman has it's negative aspects learn to bring out your fiery side once in a while, that's the only way women wouldn't take you for granted. Do the needful, stay happy in your own home.

Dusting cane on assembly was in vogue during my days. You practically looked forward to it as this makes you look tough and Impressed the Girls. The whole school talked about it for weeks. A friend read a book while he was being flogged which angered the flogging teacher who then gave him 40 strokes but he never moved an inch and kept reading. The whole assembly stood up to clap for him. Lol.

xtervaganza: listen, my point about Mikel not scoring wasn't to demean him. Mikel is a good player but its idiotic for anybody to suggest he would flourish as an attacking midfielder, he would have failed miserably as an AM.


and let's not compare Makelele to Mikel, during Makelele's time, he was peerless, no defensive midfielder ever came close to him so much the post ion was named after him. Have u ever come across the term “Makelele role in football?



Makelele was the best DM of his time so him not scoring was never a problem. Is Mikel the best DM of his own era?

makelele was one of the best, do not forget Patrick Viera too, so it's highly debatable. Never stck out your neck when analyzing football.

Pretyangel25: Ever since I step my foot in my sis house, the husband have been disturbing my life, first he sent me message and I taught it was a joke just last night he purposely touch my breast when I was in the kitchen cooking and I became so angry that I refuse 2 eat and my sis ask me why I'm that angry, I couldn't utter a word because he was staring at me.

He sent me another text this afternoon telling me that my sis is travelling on wednesday this week 2 come back on sunday and that he will have me all 2 himself, can u imagine? should I tell me sis and how will she feel? Because I don't want to create problem btw them. Advice please

It's unfortunate. The last thing you want to do is tell your sister, if you do there's a high chance her wedding is going to break up. What I think is that you should find a decent excuses to leave the house. Also if you tell your mum she would likely tell your sister, so guard your sisters feelings and leave the house. Also do you know if they are having issues in the marriage, they may need to spice up things a bit.

One thing i would like to see banned is states being governed by religious laws. Nigeria should be a free country with it's own rules applying and not a religious one ( I believe no religion should be imposed on any Nigerians by the virtue of where they live/work). But am sure our senators don't have the courage to face this type of fundamental human right issues, they would rather chase minority issues.

Quick word of advice from my little experience....
1) do get into a relationship with someone who is not emotionally mature
2) self centered (the types that only ask what they get from a relationship and never what can i invest in it)
3) someone who doesn't communicate appropriately and goes silent when hurting expecting you to be a mind reader
4) someone who doesn't value you as much as you value them
5) for me i also include, anyone who isn't humble in this list.

Applies to both guys and ladies. All the best.

Wow! it's a shame i do not know any player in the local league. just read through the team list

Op,
You mentioned he has always been like this before you got married and dosen't like you speaking your language (does he speak his own language with his people too, if he dosen't then he is not biased but probably has issues with maybe speaking local dialect because he wants the kids to learn English alone and feels local dialect may influence their spoken English) so if you knew this back then and agreed to marry him, am afraid you should not try changing it now as this would only cause more tension. Also if this continues you two are already frustrated about this and can only lead to a separation faster than you think so you simply have 2 options.

If you still love/want your marriage, quit doing this thing he has told you he dosen't like even before he married you (stop trying to change things and begging him later as this clearly dosen't augor well - to him you simply trying to frustrate him and being a disobedient wife).....this is not in anyway justify him for being over sensitive about speaking local dialect, just that for some reason this is who he is and you shouldn't have settled for him if you couldn't tolerate it.

Or if you really want to speak your dialect with your people as this makes you happy, this is clearly your right, you can forgo the marriage and seek a separation to be happy. Then you can go for NYSC, get a decent job and gain your financial indepence as a graduate.

Do whichever makes you most happy.

OP... I disagree a bit on your views, you seem to ignore the fact that CAF awards prioritises national team performance far more than club performance which I actually support. So on this basis I think mikel deserves it. Enyeama was also spectacular for the eagles but mikel was more influencial. Except you disagree that African awards should be influenced more by performance back at home rather than european performance.

Wish all aspirants the best. Happy new year.

PocketEconomist: you may be right, but from my experience, the chinese co operate, the indians/pakis co operate, but the Nigerians? I don't go near, they are nothing but trouble, always trying to show off and prove they've arrived. Smh, inferiority complex. I have more hispanic/asian/white friends than Nigerians/black and to be truthful, i feel more comfortable this way.

LOL!....Exactly the same here. Feels like you took the words out of my mouth

PocketEconomist: oh that's interesting. And what are we doing about it? We are busy tearing each other down. We should learn from the Asians. If you school in the US, and you see the relationship between the Asians, especially the indians, pakis and koreans, and see the relationship between the Nigerians, you would be ASHAMED to be Nigerian. Truth hurts but must be told.

On the contrary i think Asians dislike each other the most. The Japanese, Chinese and koreans all look down on each other and try to prove they are superior to one another. They don't mix from my experience. My Asian friends also tell me this. However Asians from the same country are more united and form stronger social groups than other races so it depends on the angle you view it from. The indians and pakis are however more friendly to others.

Wow! Am impressed! Seeing such constructive posts and comments on NL (except the childish go back to your state, who is your own governor posts)...Nice one UYI and also the moderator who moved this to the front page, couldn't agree with you more going by the amount of internal revenue generated and federal allocation to Lagos. Happy 2014.

just maybe if the innocent who get attacked up-north armed themselves there would be less insurgence. Boko Haram is only capitalizing on monopoly of firepower.

Good health
Family
Job satisfaction
Financial stability

You might be having sleep apnea. Go seek medical attention.

Here's a piece from a friend Mo' i thought i should share.

Ok, could you stop the wacko Jacko moves in your mind right now and stop humming for a bit to answer this- Who sets out to build a house and doesn’t stop to first consider its cost? Seriously, who does that? Or who sets his hand to a business and doesn’t stop to consider/envisage what it would entail? No one you know right? Didn’t think so too.

To embark on a fruitful journey, planning and cost evaluation are imperative. From saving for the trip, to making reservations, to shopping and packing up for the trip, it would require good planning to actualize a fruitful and rewarding trip, most of the time. Same as wanting to write an exam….we have to prepare for it to do great in it. ‘He who fails to plan, plans to fail’; this saying ain’t a cliché…it’s the gospel truth my brethren.

So, boy meets girl, and they are really feeling each other, the sparks are there, the chemistry is very on point and amongst all other prospects around them, they have never felt anything as profound as what they feel for each other. So, they decide to take it to the next level and make it official, they become an item.

I ask again, is it ok to begin to build a house just because you desire to or have the funds for it? Is it okay to buy an expensive wristwatch on your tight budget just because you like it? Is it ok to change your major like four times, just because your interest shifts? Is it also expedient to start a relationship just because you have feelings for each other?

Emotions are powerful and can decide a person’s mood and life, same as your thoughts. While feelings can be very profound, they usually are also very fleeting and misleading. One cannot afford to base his/her decisions on feelings, that’s a danger alert right there. What happens when the feeling is gone? When you begin to see clearly because the rain is gone? I cannot help but think that perhaps if people stopped to consider the cost and evaluate the dynamics of starting a relationship before committing to it, the number of breakups, divorces and casualties would reduce.

A relationship shouldn’t be based on what you feel for that person or how you feel about the person, it should be more about what you know about the person. A relationship should be founded on a number of convictions which should be focused and based on compatibility…..can two walk together except they agree?

A friend of mine recently had some boy drama. At least five guys were all around her, seeking to date her, but she particularly was drawn to one and as they interacted she found out she really liked him…….they were just about to make it official when an incidence occurred to cause a break, boy came back asking if they could still be an item and my girl told him she’d consider it. So, she did consider it and it was leaning in the direction of her feelings for him, but thank God for the prayer radar! When dude passed through that radar, he didn’t come through. Turns out he was just a two timing scumbag who was over 30 but had the maturity of an 18-year old! Now, my friend would have eventually discovered that about him, but if she hadn’t been patient with her feelings, if she hadn’t managed her emotions, she would have suffered not only a break up, but a waste of her energy, time and resources oh and some heartache to go with it.

I’m just saying dear people do not let your feelings and emotions decide your actions and decisions, let us try to manage our emotions and act based on what we know and not how we feel. To wanna be starting a relationship, I’m not saying your feelings don’t matter, of course they do! I would never go out with a guy I don’t have feelings for, what I mean though is that the feelings aren’t enough to even start. Back it up with a number of convictions, how compatible are you on many levels? Does he/she complement you well? We should make our decisions because of what we know rather than what we feel…..don’t just start out and see how it goes, if the foundation be faulty, I tell you ain’t building nothing, it would all crumble in due time, don’t build your house without counting its cost.

Give it time, time heals all diseases. Let your feelings and emotions pass through a lot of radars to see if it develops into something more substantial, see if it’s stable, see if it stands, see if you are not deluded. Time will reveal a lot to you. Now, I know there’s only so much you could get to know about a person, but the message is to know just about enough that you need to know to be convinced. It’s relative and that’s where values come to play- talk for another day. I also know that by giving it time, it doesn’t mean the relationship would work out, but the difference is that when you are not controlled by your emotions, you can make rational decisions. Even if the relationship doesn’t work out perhaps for some issues or reasons, you would have had a fruitful and enjoyable time together and can end it amicably. Save yourself some heartache baby, don’t start something only to end it 3 months later, oh that happens, and Ido know some. You feeling the boy/girl? Cool, take it easy and take him/her through a lot of radars. If he/she comes through, then you are good to go. Hey! It’s just my opinion…….


Muchos lovos!

jewel4Hiscrown: Pocket Economist, if you see this: please know that any woman who calls a man "beneath your league" in your hearing will one day call you beneath someone else's league. How people respond and deal with those they don't know, don't need, or have never met says a lot about their character.

The one thing we women often get wrong is we sit down with other women and decide amongst ourselves what men want and need and how they should be treated. There's no difference between that and the "brilliant" scholar from the west who has never set foot in Africa but will be called to all sorts of talk shows and news segments to give his recommendations on how to solve African problems. In threads like these, I think the wise thing for a woman to do is to take other women's histrionics with a grain of salt and read between the lines of what the men are saying. I also think it's a waste of time and effort for any man to try and reason with a certain type of woman unless he is doing it for the sake of entertainment because the 2013 woman will never cede ground. Many men have learned to just look at a woman and let her talk wetin she dey talk until she is sitting somewhere by herself at 55 years old and he goes, "So... you were saying?"

Someone will ask, is marriage the be-all end-all? It is not, but from what I gather, it is very sweet... so yes, I think it is terrible for a woman who was called to be a wife to end up by herself at 55 and the reason for a lot of bitterness on this thread and elsewhere is fear, because she has misinterpreted submission and does not want to be seen as a doormat but yet the woman in her is crying to be a help meet.

Men and women are equal but different. Things hit the fan when one tries to become the other. There is such sweetness in femininity, ladies why don't we just give this humility thing a try for some time and see? Submission does not mean a woman is less intelligent, less human, less anything. Again Delilah got what several armies failed to get and Bathsheba secured a kingdom for her son not by shouting all over the place but by bowing and HUMBLY saying "My king, you promised."

Stop by YouTube when you get time and see that the US which peddled this feminism nonsense has had several conferences, documentaries, etc seeking to know why so many of its women are unmarried. It is so much more than ratios. If that phony independence were such a beautiful thing and marriage did not matter, who would care, who would find time to do hour-long shows and movies and so on? If things continue at this rate, many women on this thread will soon be sitting on panels in similar documentaries trying to find complex solutions for something that is very simple.

I admire the level of maturity and experience behind these words. Very true.

lomomike: Seasons greetings,

Please this isn't a politics section thread/topic, this is a car talk thread please DON'T insult anybody, tribe, religion or party, DON'T politicize this thread, DON'T tribalize this thread, and DON'T derail this thread. Please stick to the rules of cartalk section.
Thanks for complying,

MODERATOR

Same to you Sir. Hope you had a great Xmas. I have always wanted to know who the moderators here on nairaland are, so i guess i can relay subsequent concerns on the site to you. Happy 2014.

vislabraye: Wonders !! India is full of all kinds of mysteries. May God have mercy.

It's no mystery, it's just a congenital malformation in an animal and people have attached myths to it.

I see no reasons why Ghanians and Nigerians should abuse each other on a thread. If only we knew what privilege it means to have ourselves as African brothers and sisters. Rather lets be constructive in arguments and copy from each others strengths. e.g a thread like this should lead to discussions on economic concepts on determinants of prices and how this can be improved.

maureen5: I just want to get this out. It's about time I do. I like you. Like. A lot. I know we are just friends, but. I do. I can't help it. But I want you to do me a favor. Think. Just, think. Think about what it would be like to give me a chance. Think about what it would be like to be with me. Just for a moment, and if the idea is terrible to you, well, I hope it's not.

I've tried flirting, to maybe hint at you. But I don't think it has worked. But then sometimes I think you maybe flirt back, but it's hard to tell. I know you're a people person. You are a really nice guy. You can't help it. But sometimes you come off as a bit of a really serious minded. And it breaks my heart, because i think you don't even notice you like me.

We met on nairaland, you helped me when i had some issues with my phone. you are quite a tech guru, intelligent and smart. ever since then you always help me out whenever i have questions. i have a huge crush on you.

DANG I SAID IT. . i just hope you read this and don't hate me.

Nicely put. This here is how to get any guy to like and appreciate you(sincerely expressing your feelings). I hope he's still single and reads this. Good luck

PetroDolla2: what is this fool saying? It is obvious you don't know anything about Ghana and Ghanaian men,mor0n! Ghanaian men are weak? well, I am a Ghanaian man and I am not weak, neither does my woman run my life,ediot

nigerians are only known to be 419ners, yahoo yahoo, corrupt, pick pockets, exam cheats, ritualists, militants, oil bunkerers, armed robbers,pirates, pr0stitures and pimps, terrorists. what a shameless bigot

I apologize on his behalf, he doesn't speak for all Nigerians -it's his personal opinion. Likewise you shouldn't also generalize those things you said about Nigerians as the people who do these are far less than minority in the population and are present in almost all countries.