There are many Yorùbá names whose meanings are now lost due to the fact that the words forming their roots are no longer in use. For instance, ask the young Master Ọlọ́pàádé the meaning of his name and he will probably tell you that his name means “the policeman has come“. Ask Mr. Ọlọ́paádé, his father, and he would probably tell you it means “the owner of the staff has come“. The two of them would be wrong as Ọlọ́pàádé actually means “the Ọpa (re|re) devotee has come“. The same goes for all other Ọpa names like Opadotun. Those names show that the ancestors of the bearers of the names were worshippers or devotees of the Ọpa Cult otherwise called Awo Ọpa, one of the religious cults or secret societies proscribed by the British in colonial days.
Or imagine another scenario: Pastor Ọbáfẹ́mi (re|mi|mi|re), the pastor of a Pentecostal church, is asking Deacon Ògúnyẹmí to change his name because he believes that the name of the deacon is associated with Ògún, an idol (so-called), without realizing that his own name is also idolatrous in its origin.
Even Professor Wọlé Ṣóyínká in his book “The Man Died” gave the meaning of his surname Ṣóyínká to be “surrounded by wizards“. This is far from being the case. Names like Soyinka, Sonuga etc. do not derive from “Oṣó“(wizard) but rather they derive from Òrìṣà-Oko, the Yorùbá deity of agriculture. The name Ṣóyínká in full is Òrìṣàokoyínká which became shortened by a gradual declension to Ṣóókóyínká, Ṣóyímiká and finally to Ṣóyínká. It is the same for all the other “Ṣóó…” names. If a whole Professor Ṣóyínká, a master of literature and language can be thus mistaken on the derivation and meaning of his own name, what about we lesser mortals. It is in order to put these various misconceptions right that I am publishing this little work via this medium.
This list is by no means exhaustive and others inputs are welcome so it can be in writing for generations yet unborn so that the knowledge of the meaning of our names will not die out. Also, if you want to know the meaning of your Yorùbá name, you are welcome to ask. Àgbà ò ní tán lórílẹ̀ (the elders’ wise counsel will never be scarce in our midst).
The “Okù” (re|do) names like Okusanya, Okusaga etc are not derived from “Òkú” (dò|mí), a dead person. They are derived from “Okù“, the Ijebu deity of wealth which corresponds to “Ajé“, the Ọ̀yọ́ Yorùbá deity of wealth. Thus, Okùsànyà means the deity of wealth has rewarded me for my sufferings and not dead person has rewarded me for my sufferings.
Ọrẹ̀ (re|do)names like Oresanya. They do not derive from Ọ̀rẹ́, (dò|mí), friend, but from Ọrẹ̀, (re|do), a deity. A phrase like “A kìí ọmọ Ọrẹ̀ bọ Ọrẹ̀” (you don’t use the child of Ọrẹ̀ to propitiate Ọrẹ̀) comes to mind.
Igbin names like Onigbinde etc do not derive from ìgbín (do|mi), snail, but rather from Igbin, (re|re), a drum beaten for the Òrìṣàálá or Ọbàtálá worship. The ancestors of people bearing these names were drummers for Òrìṣàálá worshippers.
Ọ̀pẹ̀ (do|do) names like Opetola do not derive from Ọ̀pẹ, (do|re), palm tree, but rather from Ọ̀pẹ̀, (do|do), an Ifá appellation.
Ọnà (re|do) Onasanya; these names are not derived from ọ̀nà (road) but they derive from Ọnà (craft). The name bearers of these names would be people who were craftsmen like sculptors etc in their origin.
Alalade (re|mi|do|do|mi) does not derive from àlá (do|mi), dream, but derives from Àlà (do|do), white, symbol of purity – the insignia of the Òrìṣàálá or Ọbàtálá deity and it means the owner of àlá has come, the Òrìṣàálá devotee has come and not the dreamer has come as many have supposed it means.
Elégbèdé does not derive from egbé (re|mí) – the supposed magical means of teleporting – and is not supposed to be pronounced as Elégbédé (re|mi|mi|mi) as Sunny Ade sang it in one of the records, on the Erelú of Lagos. The name is derived from ègbè (do|do) meaning support. Thus, the name is more properly pronounced as Elégbèédé (re|mi|do|mi|mi) – the defender, the one who will fight or support my cause has come.
Onipede (re|mi|do|mi|mi) does not derive from ìpẹ́ (do|mi) fish scales, but derives from ìpẹ̀ (do|do) – consolation. So, it should not be pronounced as Onípẹ̀dẹ́ (re|mi|do|mi) the owner of scales has come but rather as Onípẹ̀ẹ́dẹ́ (re|mi|do|mi|mi) – the consoler has come.
Baba (re|re) and Ọba (re|re) name such Babasanmi, Babafemi Obasanjo do not derive from father or king. They both derive their roots from Ṣọ̀npọ̀nná, the deity of small-pox, which used to be referred to in reverent tone in olden days as Baba so that he would not kill them. If you will recall, in olden times, the marks left on the faces of anyone who recovered from small-pox attack used to be referred to as Ila-Baba, that is father’s marks. In Chief Olúṣẹ́gun Ọbásanjọ́’s book, My Watch, he gave us an insight into the origin of the names starting with Ọba. Such names are related to Ọbalúaiyé (also calledṢọ̀npọ̀nná), the deity of smallpox. So the Ọba in Ọbasanjọ́, and Ọbafẹ́mi, is derived from Ọbalúaiyé and not from king. So, Pastor Ọbafẹ́mi, in the hypothetical case mentioned above would do well to remove the log in his own eyes first by changing his own name first before insisting that Deacon Ògúnyẹmí should change his name.
Oloko (re|mi|do) does not derive from the word ọkọ̀ (re|do) – lorry or canoe and it does not mean the owner of a lorry or the owner of canoe, but it derives from the word ọ̀kọ̀ (do|do) – spear, and it means the owner, master or lord of the spear. It is a war title which has become a name. It is the title borne by the group of warriors whose chosen weapons of warfare is the spare.
Adekogbe (re|mi|do|mi) does not mean the crown rejects excreta as the word ìgbẹ́ (do|mi) in the name does not mean excreta; rather it means a bush or a light forest. The name means the crown rejects the bush, that is to say a prince shouldn’t be involved in manual labour or farming activities. Adékọ̀gbẹ́ is a name much favoured by the Ìjẹ̀bú, as they are of all Yorùbá tribes a tribe that is more averse to farm work or manual labour than any of the other Yorùbá tribes. They prefer to trade instead.
Adé (re|mi) names like Adeboye Adebayo, Adebola are not derived from Adé (crown) but rather they are derived from the verb dé which means to come. Adébóyè means he who came at a time when chieftaincy has just entered into the family. Adébáyọ̀ means he who comes to meet when a thing of joy has just come into the family and Adébọ́lá means he who comes to meet when wealth has just come into the family.
Apart from the misconstrued names, there are other names whose meanings are now recondite as many people no longer know what the names mean. Sadare, Sadela etc, these names derive from the Òrìṣàálá otherwise called Ọbàtálá deity. Ṣàdáre is an hyphenated form of Òrìṣàdáre. The word Orisha whenever used alone invariably refers to Ọbàtálá otherwise called Òrìṣànlá. So, those names are names of people named after the Òrìṣàálá deity. Ṣàdáre then would mean Ọbàtálá has vindicated (me). Ṣàdẹ̀kó would mean that an Ọbàtálá worshipper has arrived at Èkó (Lagos). Ṣàdẹ̀là would mean Ọbàtálá has arrived into wealth. Akeredolu (re|mi|mi|re|mi) means he who reduces himself in order to become a king. He who humbles himself to become a king like the title of that play “She Stoops To Conquer” by Oliver Goldsmith. Adewuyiì (re|mi|re|do) means the crown grows honour, that is, the crown produces honour. Olofa (re|mi|do) means the owner of arrows or the master or lord of arrows. It is another war title that has become a name and it is the title given to those whose weapons of war in battle is the bow and arrow, that is archers.
Alokolaro (re|mi|re|mi|do|mi) means he who has a large farm and also has a cooperative society to assist him to do the farm work. Aarọ́ is a cooperative system among the Yorùbá whereby the members agree to work jointly in the farm of each member of the group in turn until they have finished the farm-work of all the members.
Olowe (re|mi|do) means he who has an ọ̀wẹ̀ (do|do) cooperative group. Ọ̀wẹ̀ is another type of cooperative society whereby the members assist each other to work in the farm of each other. Olowe is thus somebody who has a large number of people at his beck and call whom he can call upon to assist him any time in his farm or other work
Apara (re|re|re) is short for Apara-ogun-bí–ẹní-palé (re|re|re|re|re|mi|re|mi|re|mi) implies he who sets war at naught. It means literally somebody who gets ready for war as easily as other people get ready for home affairs.
Okoya (re|mi|re) means the hoe has torn into pieces. It is an Àbíkú name. It implies an imploration to the Àbíkú not to die again as the hoe for burial has torn into pieces.
Ọkọ́ṣẹ́ means the hoe has broken, same as Ọkọ́ya.
Popoola (mi|mi|re|mi) means the avenue of Honour or nobility. Pópó (mi|mi) means a broad street or avenue, Ọlá means honour or nobility.
Adesiyan (re|mi|re|re) means the crown is good.
Adelabu (re|mi|mi) means the crown has passed through the deep (the sea).
Banmeke (mi|re|mi|mi) means hold or sustain the rafter of the house with me. Ẹkẹ (re|re) is the underlying structure upon which the leaves used to roof the house was be placed. It served the purpose now served by the rafter as forming the superstructure of the roof. It thus a very important part of the house or family.
Falade (mi|re|mi) means the god of divination has intermingled with royalty, probably a name given to a child who was born of an Ifá priesthood parent and a royal parent, like the mother of the first
Olowu (re|mi|re) who being a princess married his father’s priest.
Oláníyan (re|mi|mi|re) means nobility has swagger, that is to say noble people have a special way in which they carry themselves.
Adeleke or Délékè (re|mi|mi|do) means he who comes to become a very important part of the house. Eke (the rafter) being the superstructure of the roof. The Adé there is not crown but is from the verb dé meaning to come or arrive.
Oluwusi (re|mi|do|do) means kingship has increased. Adebosin (re|mi|mi|do) means he that came to meet kingship. Osinbajo (re|do|mi|do|do) – Ọṣìn-bọ̀-làjò – means the king has returned from a journey. Ọṣìn (re|do) means king. Bọ̀ means to come back from àjò (do|do) which means a journey. Asaju or Aṣíwájú (re|re|mi|mi) means the leader of the van. It is the war title of the chief of the unit that fights at the head of the army. Seriki derived from the Hausa word for king Sarkin. He is the head of all the junior war chiefs. Sarumi (do|do|mi) is another war title given to the head of the Cavalry, that is the unit of the army that fight with horses or on horseback. Aláásà (re|mi|mi|do) is a war title that has now become a name. It does not refer to aasa tobacco, but to asà (re|do) the shield. Aláásà means the owner or lord of the shield, that is the shield bearer, perhaps of the king.
Sadipe or. Òrìṣàdípẹ̀. The deity (Obatala) has used this one (the newly born baby) to console by using him to replace a loss recently suffered by the family.
Sonibare (mi|re|mi|mi) – Ṣọ́-ẹni-tí–ò-nbá-ṣe-ọ̀rẹ́ – means be careful in choosing whom you allow to get close to you.
Eesuola (do|mi|mi|re|mi) means the pool that is the reservoir of honour or nobility.
Bangbegbin (mi|re|mi|do) means assist me to carry the Igbin. It is a name borne by drummers for Orisala worship. (Igbin is the drum beaten in the worship of Òrìṣàálá/Ọbàtálá deity).
Tẹ̀là (Tẹ̀llà) (do|do) – Tẹ̀ẹ́-kó-là (do|mi|mi|do) – is a name borne only by Ọ̀yọ́ princes and it means bend or bow in order to become wealthy.
Oladoyinbo (re|mi|do|do|mi) – Ọlá-da-iyì-bòó – means Honour surrounds him.
Olasope (re|mi|re|mi) means honour has emerged completely.
Kotoye (do|mi|mi) is short for Kò-tó-yẹ́-sí (do|mi|mi|mi), which means not worthy of being honoured, a name given to a child believed to be an Àbíkú because the Yorùbá believe that such a child if shown any love or regard by being given sweet and affectionate names would go back to his group of bad children but if shown he is despised and of scant regard and is expected by his parents to die anytime, he would stay; because Abikus have a perverse tendency to do just the opposite of what you expect them to do. For that reason, they are given derogatory names like Kòtóyẹ́sí Ajá (dog) etc. Bamgbose (mi|re|mi|mi) means assist me in carrying the Oṣe, that is Sango’s wand. It is a name given to children born by Ṣàngó Copied
Thank you so much for these enlightenment. Honestly we all need to dig back into our roots. We are being water washed and drastically diluted by the influx of these defiling western ideologies. Unfortunately our elders don't even care
SultanOfPuna: God knows me and my wife no go do this nonsense social media anniversary.
Writing paragraphs like secondary school English Essay.. Once a man start writing long paragraphs for his,wife on social media. Just know the man is a bloody SIMP
It's better a lady write long paragraphs of love No Alpha man will write such epistle for a woman.
God give these SIMPS wisdom.
I agree with you. I have come to assume that whenever couples start posting all these love up craps on social media, there is problem in their relationship. A happy relationship is a constant work in progress. Focus your efforts in making your relationship work
This Reno guy has no chill at all. What exactly is he trying to achieve? He literally goes for everyone. Hope he knows he isn't untouchable, he would be repatriated to Nigeria the same way Nnamdi was brought back in from Kenya.
After he stole his own finish from under GEJ, he won't allow others to rest.
Be strong brother. You did the right thing. Don't be scared of her threats. If you had allowed her to stay on, worse thing than whatever she is threatening you with would have happened to you.
And if you are also the spiritual type, reconfirm your faith in Christ as your LORD, Savior and Redeemer. Then leave everything to God. You really did the best thing to break-off from her.
She obviously has the spirit of jezebel which is the spirit that tries to Intimidate you, Manipulate you and then Dominate you.
Give400: This is going to be a long write cos I want to go into details so you all will understand everything. Sorry for the typos in advance
I dated this girl for years. We used to live together before I relocated to another state.
So here is the full story. We started dating in early 2014 we were still teenagers. Tho I wasn't the one that disvirgined her but she was good then. Her breasts and everything was firm and standing. Two years later she started giving me bad behaviors. I endured till I got tired by the end of 2016 and moved on because she started disrespecting me as well. I couldn't take that and moved on.
Fast forward early 2020 she contacted me I asked how she got my number cos I changed numbers then. She said she got it from my sister. They were kind of close. This girl pestered me and I don't even know what she told or did to my sister but I found my sister begging on her behalf that I should accept her as well. On a norm I wouldn't have accepted her but because I wasn't in a relationship then and konji was so on my neck I had no choice than to accept her back.
Thats how we came back and free sex was enough.we lived together I was the one paying the rent. I was providing and even got her a job she used o work and contribute and everything was good in the first 4 months until the fifth month she lost her job cos she made some mistakes and lost some money and her oga arrested her. I paid up and she said she won't go back so that's how she became a sit at home gf.
Fast forward I found out she was in contact with one of her exes. I even stumbled on their Facebook chat where she was asking the guy why he got married. The guy responded that he got tired of her ass the moment he realized she was dating one reverend father. Then I knew after our initial breakup this girl went on to become a LovePeddler.
So this girl kept disturbing this guy she will call him even though he told her was married she didn't stop. The same way she was disturbing me early that year to come back. Anytime I confront her about this guy she'd lie that it's the guy that's disturbing her.
Lemme not bore you guys...so this girl proposed a business idea and since I had spare funds I wasn't using then I found it cool and I gave her 200k to buy 20 bags of groundnuts. She said she had a woman she knows in her village that used to do the business. She was to send her the money to buy the groundnut and save it then when the prices go up we will sell and make double or triple profits.
So she sent me an account number to send the money to claiming it's the woman's son account number. Alas it was her ex's account number because the account name matched with the Facebook name. When I confronted her she denied at first but later opened up and promised me not to worry that the guy was only going to withdraw the money and give to the woman as she didn't have a bank account. I kept cool even though I felt betrayed.
Now instead of 20 bags of groundnut they bought only 15k. That covid affected the markets as people were scared to go to the markets and there was no groundnut to buy. OK send me pics of the 15 bags they bought it became wahala. It took weeks of postponement before the guy sent pics. At a time I got angry and collected her phone and called and the guy picked. I asked why is it a problem to send pics of the bags. The guy blatantly told me he doesn't have any business with me that I should not call him. That really got me and I said it's enough.
So I made my own plan. I exercised patience and forfeited the 50k. Cos it was obvious I wasn't going to get the funds because when I asked to get my 50k they will say they are going to buy that I should chill. They are going to buy turned to weeks and months till I gave up.
So I waited and when it was the right time which was December we sold the groundnuts and I got profit of 100k. Cos it was sold at 20k each. So in total I made 300k. Minus my 200k that's 100k profit. They ate the other 50k.
So i got the money and played along. I acted as if I don't even know what was going. In fact I changed and started adapting to her games. I smash her more often than I used to and squeeze whatever was left of her fallen boobs to nothing. Like I made up my mind to use her and dump on the road side where she belonged. I accepted she was damaged and that was the only way to do away with someone like her. Rent was due by March 2021. I started looking for a new apartment we was in January then. I got an apartment in another neighboring state not so far just 2k transport.
Fortunately enough for me she got a job and used to work 5 days and come home only by weekend. So I had enough time to orchestrate my plans cos this girl refused to leavve. I know some people might be wondering why I chose to run. She refused to leave me. She even called the police me when I told her I don't want to do again. They said since she's living with me and I was the one that brought her in town then I shouldn't chase her out. I said ok
So I got my apartment and arranged the placed and she left for work on a blessed day and I used he opportunity to park my valuables and important properties and left. When she got home she called I told her I had traveled to Benin republic. She asked why I packed my things and my gen I told her I sold them to add money for my journey that I will be back. I told her I will be back in a month that it's a bug business and I will eventually hit big in two to three weeks then I will be back. She bought it
Few days later I changed my Sim and that was the end.
So fast forward to last month we met and this girl has become something else. Very dirty and unkempt. Indeed I tried for her but she really deserved where she is atm. She was really pissed when she saw me. She said lots of scary stuff even some people at the event were like what's going on. She said she still has my pictures and I should think about that. That really spooked me.
The problem now is she's still threatening that she knows I played her and she's going to make sure she hurt me spiritually or in anyway for using her and running away leaving her with nothing. That she doesn't care if it's going to cost her life. She said this on the event day and just today someone called me telling me the same thing that she's going about telling she's going to make sure I am useless just like the way I made her. I don't even want to mention the number of curses she placed on me on the event day.
What I want to know is how do I go about this. Is she just making empty threats or is it something I should take serious. If that's the case then how do I go about it my brethren. I am seriously confused and kind of scared a bit to be honest. Cos someone else could hear her and use that opportunity to hurt me then place it on her. Anything can happen when people go about saying they will hurt you. Help a brother with the right thing to do. Thanks
Be strong brother. You did the right thing. Don't be scared of her threats. If you had allowed her to stay on, worse thing than whatever she is threatening you with would have happened to you.
And if you are also the spiritual type, reconfirm your faith in Christ as your LORD, Savior and Redeemer. Then leave everything to God. You really did the best thing to break-off from her.
She obviously has the spirit of jezebel which is the spirit that tries to Intimidate you, Manipulate you and then Dominate you.
Stop apologizing. It would only drive her away more. Accept your fuckup and learn from it. She isn't your wife yet.
Right now, remedy is to give her a break, allow her some breathing space. Also use that opportunity to work on your infatuation. Stop calling her, let her be for a while, if she truly appreciate you, she will come back but if she's still disgusted by your obsession, she will try to avoid you more. So please let her be for now. Moreover it's Xmas time, you will be able to save some money with her absence from your life
Menh! Even though what she did was bad, but the truth is that we all have different levels of ability to use to handle or deal with dejection from a broken relationship.
I remember my first breakup with my girlfriend back then, I thought I was going to die. I was shedding tears deep inside, had no one I could confide in because I was a terrible introvert. But the almighty God saw me through it and I realized a very big lesson. Never never ever Force Love or patch Love. It must be equal and mutual.
Silly man, you come here dey rant instead make you stand gidigba as a man for your family your Wife. She isn't satisfied, try to understand her needs and how to satisfy her, sex isn't just about satisfying your 2min needs, try to focus on satisfying only her own sexual needs at least once a week. She is probably suffering in silence remembering the good old days before she got married and used to get it very good
Reason for separation My only biological bro died from malaria My dad was unable to come up with money for treatment
My mum moved out took me with her She remarried 2 years after Gave birth to 4 leaving me with 4 step sibling Some years back I heard my mum saying my dad has other children ( I don’t even know them ) I don’t even know my dad
I am a graduate now
So comfortable in life Got lands houses and cars to my name
My problem now is I feel empty whenever I think of my dad More like I don’t know my root
I plan on visiting mums home for Christmas The problem is she hates my dad so much any thing about that topic gets her angry
I don’t know how to convince to go show me my dads house
I don’t know possible ways to get her to show me my dad hus
Don’t even know if my dad is good Don’t even know his family Don’t even know my village Everything I call family is just from my mother side
Zero from my dad side I wish I can know them
Which kin mumu story be this na? If you truly want to meet your dad, go on Facebook and place an advert targeted at Nigeria place his full name and what you can remember about him. Someone out there knows him or about him and before long, you shall have the answer that you are looking for.
Oberhiri141: Ever since i packed into my new house, my landlady and her daughter have been disturbing my life one way or the other.
One day, I gave my landlady 10kg of mama gold rice which was given to me at my place of work and then the following morning she called me and asked me to lend her 10k.
I think she has taken my kindness for weakness and as for her daughter, her own inordinate request for money is unbearable. If it's not meatpie today then it's recharge card or even hair cream.
Please, Elders in the house, how can I cope with this burden?
Come on man, they see you as their provider, Their husband and Daddy figure. Live up to it joo Lol
Congratulations Brosss. But why is she still your baby mama? I can see you are so proud of them, why don't you take it further and go exclusive with her? Wife her!
LaSenior: Mod please I want this piece to be pushed to front-page this is happening to me though I have prepared my Mind to do what is in my mind but I want this honourable house to look into this
I was supposed to go and do marital introduction but because of my dad's health which was going bad everyday I couldn't. I thought maybe when we stabilise him a little then I can quickly arrange for introduction but sadly my beloved Dad passed away 4days later
I have been crying endlessly and been so weak and saddened just this morning this girl I was planning on spending the rest of my life with chatted me up saying that she has looking at me since that I don't want to say anything concerning her Christmas things that she needs 50k to buy Christmas things. I was shocked to the bone haaaa why are you this heartless towards me? Does it mean you are not concerned about what I have been passing through, infact I don't want to speak more because God already saved me from a heartless lazy woman.
To the women in this forum is it right to ask your fiancee Christmas Money in the midst of seeing him mourning of his late Dad just few days his dad died this attitude of this girl is it right?
Please go ahead and give her the money. If that's truly her priority. Don't argue or quarrel with her. Sometimes you just have to keep mute and be looking like an idiot so as to allow people show their true nature. If I was you, I would give her the money as her severance package.
Yes everyone is on dating App in the overseas. It gets very lonely that's why and you need something to occupy your mind if it's not occupied by the Holy spirit of God Almighty. So Don't fret much over it. Just do quick whatever is still keeping you in Nigeria and go join your husband.
PS. Pls stop monitoring your husband if you truly love him. It's only immature people that monitors their spouses every moves .
YOu dont need this.....This is how judging people start. No matter the lifestyle he lived, the most important thing is for him to be encouraged to go to the hospital, speak with consellors and take his drugs regularly, so he can live a happy and fulfilling life. There are worse illnesses
I don't mean it in a rude way. I am just curious about how he contacted it so that some of us on here can learn a lesson or two from it. Some of us come to this great forum to learn not just for entertainment
Use your head and act like an adult,I have an 85 year old woman and an 8 year old boy I'm giving antiretroviaral,do you want to ask them which lifestyle they were leading too, a disease that can be transmitted as easily as using another person's clipper or a needle prick and you're here asking stupid questions
You can see that's it's you that's not using your head. I just asked a honest question to enlighten us others on how we might contact the disease because definitely he contacted somehow. I wasn't judging him. It could happen to me too tomorrow. But I believe the reason we participate in this forum is to learn from one another. By the way you just enlightened us with some of the ways we can contact it.
No1girl: after interacting with various immigrants abroad in different countries, and living abroad myself for the past 10yrs, there have been common challenges that immigrants face but don't like to often talk about due to shame and critics. life abroad could be your breakthrough but its good when you understand both sides of the coin. here are some struggles nigerians are facing in your dream countries (canada, usa, uk, etc);
- divorce: nigerian men like to complain about their wives growing wings once they reach abroad knowing fully well the system here is different. some women too no dey try, e be like say dey done ready the man, say once dey reach abroad, dey go show am shege. women love it here, the system empowers us. duh i would imagine these wouldn't be an issue for a healthy couple that love and support each other.
- fake life: yes it looks good here. thinking of the dollar rate alone, there's no way your uncle abroad can convince you that he doesn't have any money, because you won't believe anyway. so your uncle will choose to live up to the expectation of looking good, taking nice pictures in the snow (on his days off from work) and dropping it hot on your socials to impress you. you love and respect that uncle, don't you? well, at least until he doesn't send dollarz home.
- broke af: uncle is broke. he's trying to pay off the money borrowed and spent on visa, fraudulent travel agents and expensive tickets while coming abroad. and even though he has spent 3yrs in canada, well think of the small small money he has sent so far. uncle dey try na. plus he has monthly bills to pay, like electricity, car insurance, house rent, phone bill, credit card debts, internet bills, life insurance ........
- child neglect: i'm a single mum with 2 beautiful daughters and i japa from nigeria to provide better life for my kids. yes sometimes i works 16hrs shift, and my kids have to stay at home by themselves, the eldest is 12yo and her younger sister is 9yo. i don't like leaving them at home by themselves especially because of social services but money has to be made na, i have plenty responsibilities. there is no grandma or house help to look after them here but, they will understand the sacrifice i'm making, when they grow up.
life abroad has lots of positives and its good to experience it (if you want to), but its not all rosy. plan & strategize. wishing you the best.
Most Males are sick. It takes great self control to control the urge.
The wife obviously wasn't vigilant to notice his weakness and threw the sheep into same pen with the Wolf.
They should grill all females that he has treated. They might discover other hidden atrocities, Am sure he is the type of male doctor that has to examine the pusi or vag for a simple headache symptoms
Fools! When you bastards killed in cold blood Deborah Samuel no body did anything about it, now you desecrate our Holy First lady and you think you shall go Free!!
This is just the beginning. Karma shall seek out all the hypocrites in Nigeria and destroy you all.
Please type a full capital AMEN so that our Karma petition against Nigerian Hypocrites can reach The Almighty God
Oga everyone has their weak point. Simply because you are the lucky one that got to marry her doesn't mean she didn't have her childhood crush That can still bring up the butterflies in her.
I have 2 advice for you 1. Base on your insecurity, divorce her and send her packing and after the jealousy has cleared from your eyes go back and start begging her to forgive you so that you can get back together after you have driven her into the arms of the childhood crush.
2. Man up. Stand up for your family. Get her phone and chat with the guy letting him know your wife thinks highly of him, send your picture to him through your wife's phone and tell him to keep the communication between him and your wife very formal because she is now a wife and a mother and there was a reason the Almighty God didn't allow them get married to each other.
Don't condemn your wife, try to understand and relate to her weakness because this could easily have happened to you instead.
Women are way more smart than us men, she definitely knows what's at stake. But don't allow insecurity to make you drive her to the other guy.
By the way I am so sure of my advice to you because I went through very similar situations.
Just mind your business na. If they didn't take you in, you won't be seeing this na. Focus on achieving what you went there for and move on with your life before someone is accidentally poisoned
Aareona: Earlier this year, I went back in time to few years back when I was doing so well in Nigeria. The noises from friends and all nurtured the decision to move abroad inside of me. I became so restless till I finally leave. The first day in Canada was the day I knew this place isn't where I can be forever. Most of us would have come back before the time we had in mind except for the fact that I don't still have enough. If I want to travel to naija for vacation now, I will need up to $4k. If I take that away from my savings, I don't know how I can recover.
No one tells about the downside of this place. I feel lonely, depressed and empty most times. Because no one to talk to, just everyone in my workplace goin about their business. If I make attempt to talk to them, they just waive it with a smile. It's been 3years here and the people I still talk to on video call are friends from Nigeria. It's been 3years and my savings is still Short of $20k despite how much my friends in Nigeria do tell me how easy it is for me to make money abroad but I never tell them my situation. I can't wait to make enough and leave Canada for good. I know a lot will come at me with the usuall "come back to Nigeria na", please this is not an attempt to denigrate your abroad heaven, just for me to rant out and be fine
I can relate with you. Everyone that moves to another country goes through this. It's normal. But it can get very unbearable if you are trying to keep the good morals we are raised with from Nigeria. Western world is so fast paced, the things we count as bad habits are considered normal here.
Just continue to be strong, one way or the other you will find a way to make and keep your peace else you will just join them and flow with the fast paced lifestyle here.
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