Anything you are doing and you are paid salary for it no matter how big the salary is, is slavery and a WRONG JOB.

Because of ordinary salary, person no wan born! Abeg your salary reach 5million Naira month?
How can the excuse of not giving birth be because of work that you earn salary?
Work that they won't hesitate to sack you if anything goes wrong.
What if the company shuts down?
I hope you will still stand in this same position in 15-20yrs time.

OP, if I may ask, what and what are in the list?
If they say you should buy suit, buy suit or is there any required quality??
As far as its marriage list, una go still quarrel and will almost fight so get ready especially when your father in law to be have no say.
It's nothing personal they want to milk you as much as they can because after this, you will probably have nothing to do with them.
So just swallow it and face them and tell them the ones you can do at the moment.

You can be the next whistle blower you know

Very educating but No 4, Use the appropriate names for private parts. It's not a "willy," a "pee-pee," or a "dingy." Teach your son he has a joystick.
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But the appropriate name is still not "joystick"

I can tell you that this your brother in law is having the money and just don't want to pay. When it's business, keep emotions aside. You just have to go to his house face to face and ask for your money. He is just trying to intimidate you so you can forget the money maybe like your husband. If you no open eye for him, you won't get that money.
In fact report him to your parents inlaw.

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The easiest way to solve a problem is admitting your own fault.....i tell you that the problem is 60-70% solved. All you need now is to start working on yourself. Those things that he does that makes you angry, stop taking it to heart by always telling yourself that this man will not intentionally make me angry and he just did it by mistake and as human, mistake is allowed.
With time you will be surprised how fast things will change.

In which country will you get a photo book of 28k?

Hmmmmm, something is seriously wrong somewhere, I guess you tell her to confess so you can forgive her. That may make her open up to you.
But your wife is very very ungrateful sha....... Extremely ungrateful.

Oga, having sex 3 times in a week is cool for working a working class na. If me as a man, 3 times is very cool with me. Obviously your sex urge is higher than hers you just have to control it. If you guys can have sex 3 times in a week and you can attest to the fact that she doesn't cheat and works will her phone most times when she is home, she they try na.

Whistle blowers should handle them

What is in the bible is sex, style is not there so however you do it with your married partner is strictly your business

What do you think attracted him to you in the first place?
Yes wife should continue to look good and sexy even after marriage because your husband didn't meet you while you are on wrapper. If not wives will loose their husbands to the young and even older ladies that dresses good......for men that lack self control sha.

In African settings, Poor man live many on natural and organic foods while the rich live mainly on processed foods and the expensive chemicals called wine.
Poor men will eat pounded yam, soup made with lots of vegetables whole the rich consume lots of processed food like imported rice and semo with variety of meat.

450k
Serious buyer

Your wife gives birth like rats, who they give her the belle??
Castrate yourself for a change

needforanswers:


He wasnt forced into marriage. On the contrary he wanted it more than me because his people were pressuring him to get marriage due to his age. He told me after the wedding that a great weight has been lifted off his shoulder since he is now married.

My own personal belief for why he is doing all this is that he knows I will provide food and money no matter what he does so now I want to be lazy and stop providing as much as before.

Maybe he will sit up.

But from what you said, he married to satisfy his people not because he wanted or was ready mentally to marry.
Always pray that she changes.
This kind of thing can be very difficult to deal with.

What kind of life is this??
Can she honestly admit that she is happy??

Mystery that can't be explained

Just paint it the color you want

How can you not know where your husband is working before getting married to him?
What is the circumstances surrounding ur marriage??
Was he forced to marry you?
Am asking all these because I can't understand why a full grown man will be this lazy and uninterested.
He may be doing all these to get at you.
Something must be wrong somewhere.

But you still never tell us when you are getting married

divinelove:


Love is simply a choice to commit to someone dt meets most of ur needs in a partner. All those movie love n if I dnt see u I won't eat kind of love is for immature ppl

Lol
Funny you.
Love is very important

divinelove:


I agree with u but love is jst a choice and he can choose to love any woman he likes

Not just choice completely

divinelove:


Lol u r still living in fantasy land. Op is jst a coward and cowards r afraid of everything n die many times b4 their death.

@ 34 any responsible man shld have marriage on his priority list if nt married already. Living with one person for d rest of ur life is a tough decision love or no love n it requires a lot of courage n maturity to take dt bold step once u see someone dt meets 50% of ur needs. No one is perfect.

Except u r jobless with no source of income, a man @ 34 shld be thinking n planning to marry except he is an irresponsible man.

You don't live in fantasy land when you are happily married with kids.
As for OP, I still believe he still need to meet that person he loves before getting married. Am speaking from experience.

jobsat34:


and in a situation whereby my mum n dad are my small god, i can split it between them right?

Do you pay your tithe to your parents?

Tithe is between you and God so you can give to church or churches any way you think pleases God and you.

It's means that your sins are forgiven. Faith in Christ after praying and asking for forgiveness and believing that your sins has been washing away by not going back to the same sin

You are not ready because you have not seen the one that you love so much that you can only think of a life with her. Until that happens don't marry. And when that happens, you will discover that marriage is overrated when you are with someone that both of you love and understands each other.