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first she denied u sex....now she's yelling at your mum.....this Op na simp abeg

DNSPro:
Recently,

I discovered that a lot of Nairalander men have been wailing about their sour relationships with Nigerian girls and it is not surprising to me.

You would be foolish if you do not have a backup when dating a Nigerian girl and I do not say this because I am a flirt or womanizer, at least I can boast that girls I have dated is laughably very very very low in comparison to what is obtainable out there.

It is no news that most Nigerian girls are unstable mentally and emotionally.

For the ones who lamented about money they spent or how they almost went bankrupt, I am not surprised about one not let other guys bully you as if they never fell "mugu" to any Nigerian girl.

However, you will run into problems when start treating them like wife instead just a girlfriend. This is were we make mistakes.

Early this year, I was chatting with my girl and before I know what's up, her whatsapp line became inactive. This was surprising to me and I called her immediately to know whether she blocked me to which she said why would she block me. I told her to check and she said she will cos she was charging her phone. Next morning it was still same thing so I kept calling because I thought maybe the phone had been stolen.

I didn't think she blocked me. Why would I? Eventually, she picked the call and told me she checked but the whatsapp is not on her phone and some other things were wiped off. I believed this because he had been complaining about the phone for which I sent her money to fix it prior to this.

Anyway, I didn't bother about it after while and I stopped asking and just kept communications on normal calls, at least she didn't block me there and that didn't give me any reason to suspect I was blocked. I also didn't want to seem like a pest if prop further (you know how Nigerian girls react when you do)

So last month, I was calling her and when I do, she would cut the call. This was unusual to me. She did this for almost a week until I reached out to her friend in order to know what was happening. The friend let me know that the mum's health is bad. Her friend sent me pictures of the mums condition and it was an eyesore.

I know my girl(I may not be her guy lol) to be one who does not like bugging you with her problem but why would her friend know this and I do not? I thought about this for some seconds and waved it off. I probed the friend further to know the expenses and the friend told me about 300k is needed. I wanted to sent 100k but for some weird reasons, I sent 60k with a plan to send 40k after a while. At least that will help start something.

few days after that, I noticed that the friend was getting response from her faster and relaying them to me on whatsapp since when I called she does not pick. I had to ask the friend if she is communicating with my girl (I may not be her guy lol) on whatsapp and the friend said yes, she is. I said okay.

Thereafter, my girl (I may not be her guy lol) called me, probably to thank me for the money, but I missed it so she left a text message. She told her friend that she called but I didn't pick and wondered whether I was angry. The friend messaged me in the morning and queried why I didn't pick the call or whether I am still angry. I told the friend I missed it because the phone was not with me and that I am not angry.

So this is where it got interesting...

last week, the friend upload a picture that looks like one from my girl's status wishing her happy birthday and today the friend uploaded another thanking my girl (I may not be her guy lol) for the cake.

At this stage, I was wondering whether I did anything wrong that made this girl not give me her "new" whatsapp number because that was what I thought. I looked at the status of her friend again, saw old pictures of both of them and concluded it is impossible to have new phone and still have this old pictures that were stored in an old phone.

I called her today after that and asked her whether there is any reason for not giving me her "new whatsapp number. That was all I asked and she went defensive and aggressive, saying am I not aware of what happened to her phone blah blah.. same phone I gave her money to fix? Was she expecting me to bring out another money to fix it again? She ended by saying she is not ready for this talk and that we talk about this later.

I said I know but it is just a question. She refused to answer a simple question. I told the friend her reaction when I asked and guess what the friend did? She tried to blackmail me like Nigerian girls do and said my girl is trying to make me understand something and that women like to be listened to all the time. That I should listen instead of reacting. I smiled and within me, I said this one think I am a JJC. What she meant is that I didnt do anything about my girl's phone and that is what she (my girl is reacting to ). WTF?

So, I installed whatsapp on a new line to check her status. Lo and Behold, the profile is active, which means I was blocked all along. I didn't waste time to let the friend know my findings that I was blocked. Same friend only replied "it is well"

Well, I went back to the new whatsapp line and told her I am aware she blocked me and it is good. At least I now know I was blocked instead of assuming

I am not so pained though because when dealing with a Nigerian girl, I have learned to always have backup... we move!

u pained bro...it's obvious

Oluromantic:
Theres no hope of you knowing in the next 12months. You're too closed-minded to see it even when it glares

u so mean bruv lol

but it's right for a guy to approach a lady right?...the way u guys reason sometimes is annoying.

OkpanachiMax:

This one is strong, blocking

I was dumbfounded bro... I just closed her chapter and didn't bother about her anymore.....then boom! her mssg popped up yesterday...smh
I guess thats what happens when u think everyone owes u a "yes" cos of your beauty.

op ..I think it's kinda common when u turn down their offers......A girl asked me out two weeks ago,I said NO that I preferred to be just "friends" with her,she basically told me she doesnt wanna be friendzoned and that she wanted a relationship,I was adamant....before I knew what was going on,she don block me....lol, funnily enough she unblocked me yesterday.
this girls eh

they all start with the same mumu storyline like ...."I've been dating this girl for the past 2000years and we really love each other so much,infact she's all I want in a woman.....I really love this girl and I believe she loves me too(mumu,who told u that), so 2056 her father died and she decided to drop out of school"....The superman/Mr loverboy/Romeo in em wouldn't let em think twice before taking a decision.... they'll be like "so I decided to shoulder the responsibility of paying her school fees,I even rented an apartment for her(you are a mumu man)" whereas youve got a mother and siblings at home who gon be forever grateful if u used the money u spent on your supposed girlfriend to better their lives.
so they'll be like " so oneday,I went to visit her in her apartment without telling her beforehand.....on getting to her apartment,I saw her naked with another guy" .......ahn ahn I thought she loved u too na lol....their last line is always hilarious, they'll be like " I'm really depressed,I don't know what to do...I feel like I've been used,she has been calling my phone for the past 3hours now, I dont know what to do.... I really love this girl, Nairalanders what should I do? should I forgive her or simply move on ?" bunch of big-time stupid douchebags,I'm tired seeing this over and over again,most of y'all won't learn,all u do is brag online about being an alpha male but offline u just a weak ass cunt......theres a lil love out here,only infatuations and thats that.

chumzyprech:
We dated for 1.8 years I used to have little change when I started dating her , I was in 200l she was in 100l. I don’t have time for any girl but when I first saw her I loved her I we started dating for, and then 9 months later we started having problem because of a boy she met online I will as her she will say the are just friends that the boy self he don’t know the boy the boy leaves in abroad but, I lockup and I will say we should brake up anytime she start giving me activities she go call her friends to beg me but to cut the story short they where Already dating online I noticed when I told her I’m tired this time she agreed once, a weak later the boy is I’m town she started uploading pictures the took together I begged her That I love her, she blocked me everywhere and when I’m able to reach her she will say if I want to die I can go and do that that they are other girls, she will say all those her friends dat are rushing me I should follow them she will end calls I, 2 months I begged her then later forgot about her because I know definitely one day she will regret all this. Well the reason I know she did this was that she started having eyes for big things at 18 she use all her money to by iPhones and human hair the worst was that I spoiled her , all the first thing she did with a boy was with me. Lol �Girls wicked Sha. I cried self

guy....cut the crap...u are still pained she dumped your ass for another guy...not like I'm applauding her for this act tho but u was clingy and needy...da fuq?? cos of gyal,u turned yourself to bambiala.....where your balls?

op....you've really been through a lot no doubt but I tell u...a lot of people have been through worse but came back better and stronger.......I understand the fact that your parents messed things up big time but u gats make peace with em and start life afresh... hopefully,u are in level 1 in the University.....u made your hatred for your present course known several times in your write up,well I guess it's not too late to change your course or probably write another jamb....it's not too late.

Liliantalks:
that’s a beautiful course !! Cmon please just discipline urself,, many people r fighting for admission but hv non Dear , please just study,, focus ur pain in being a better person !!

health environment,a beautiful course? in this country? da fuq? tell him the truth.

chukwuka123456:
Please I want to know, this is directed to all the Nigerian ladies out there - why must you wait for a guy to approach you first? Why not make the first move?

they do......two asked me out and I turned em down ,I am not cheap.

AkeNathan:
From two weeks before news of kyari death till today na so so fire burning federal government parastatals.

I'm sure illegal dealings spearheaded by this man are being burnt to ashes, for government not to be reactive to it, is enough evidence.

so, u don't know?

Ussycool:
I see, when i make advances she will say stop it...

don't be surprised if she eventually teases u that u a weak man if u eventually stop..... most of this vagina people are confused bro.

Ussycool:
Over heard a group girls discusing about porn and sex styles.
Weird

weird? damn bro..... girls love sex more, most of em are just being hypocritical.

There was a Jamb Tutorial centre close to my hostel, so that day I was in my room when i over heard this jambites arguing... I think they were in a relationship apparently, so the guy accused the girl of cheating on him with one of the guys in the tutorial.... the argument really got heated then out of the blue the girl bursted out " what's your biz if I actually fvcked him? ... do u think this " thing" is for u alone? "...... I just felt weak straight up.

irrespective of gender... I'll always advice people in a relationship to lend their partners what they can easily give out without sweat.

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Paxie55:
Just agree that y'all are born rapist and uncontrollable rabbid dogs.
Going by the shameless comments you guys are making on this thread. Truly, women are in trouble especially in a country like ours.

he made a valid point,u failed to counter him with facts but resulted in spewing bullshits.... u lots never seize to disgrace yourselves.

LordShiva97:
I went through the first thread from the main post to the last comment, that thread was created to massage y'all s ego and overstate your importance in the lives of Nigerian women.

And yes, I'm a beta male. I wholeheartedly accept. Is that the hardest hit you can come up with?

i ain't tryna throw some hits here, I was only stating out the obvious, same thing the first OP did and this Op confirmed to some of em..... if facts is what u call ego massage then the joke is on u man.
further more when u take your and scroll in the first thread several folks admitted that it was one of best thread created because of the way they handled comments in a more mature way and devoid of insults.... now u just check the first page of this thread and see things for yourself..... Most Nigerian women and Toxicity go hand in hand�

LordShiva97:
Can y'all make better logical arguments or shut the bleep up?

90% of the males countering the OP's well structured rebuttal can't and haven't made any meaningful point so far. All I can see here are weak insults and sly digs targeted at the lady's physical appearance and manners, nothing reasonable.

and u couldn't see anything wrong in the female monikers trolling the male monikers at first? ... typical thinking of a beta male....... moreover, there ain't much difference in what was stated in the other thread and this thread.

TrippleEEE:
You peeps should stop confusing niceness for stupidity. The nice one is the friend that showed him the text.

he's an OG who respected the bro code.... if he wanted to smash that babe, he'll effortlessly.

Mikechinos:
guy I'm not even considering marrying her. I just heartbroken. she filled my head with lies it's not bad to fall in love. and that doesn't. make me weak or have looser instinct, my friend just suggested that because he has had that experience before

ok I got u bro.... it's obvious that the girl doesn't love you, she doesn't have an iota of respect for you ..... u can make her your Bleep mate but do not make the mistake of involving her in your future...... infact if u plan to make any Nigerian girl a part of your future... thread carefully cos everything is a game, stop being soft when it comes to girls, love with your head and not your heart, do not show this girls the emotional part of you cos on the long run... they'll use it against you.
this one just did.

lol hell yeah,chronicles of a Mr nice guy..... after all this, u still asking questions ? like for real? y'all ain't ready to learn and judging from your write up, u still wanna walk her down the aisle.... nice guys and loser instinct.
one time for your friend, he's the real OG.... but as for you, I do not pity you.

I don't know if this sounds weird or somewhat.... but I still don't know how to PM on nairaland and I don't wanna know.... Everything that starts here ends here.

saving 300k even when I was a teenager

patiently waiting for atheists to spew their usual "these has nothing to do with any God .... infact there's no God" false theory...... better sit your ass down, believe it or not... the end of the world is NEAR.

donbachi:
One stupid girl tried pulling dis on my friend..only for him to open his gallery before her lawyer,police and parent at the police station,with her nude pics littering his gallery...dpo shouted "Jesus.but u say u know sabi am,how all dis ur pics take enter him phone.even d ones u snapped on him"..her parents were so shamed,they had to apologise to my friend.

what the hell?! I think I got a brother from another momma

it is what it is... pull the damn plug, u a king.... A fucken king!!.... if she ain't gon beg for forgiveness over her rudeness then she should forget bouh the relationship.

judging by that shit u put up there..... there's one thing involved... it's either you trying to be Stupid or you are naturally daft!

I think the last time I fought was when I was in jss2 yeah.... and it was with my best friend.... we attended the same sec school and live in the same house(4flats) .... so, there was a place that we kids in the neighborhood used to chill at and then play football. on that fateful day, there was no ball available... so we all sat down to gist, moments later my mum sent me on an errand.... so when I came back,my guy had already left for his house, the other guys on sit told me how my friend spoke Ill of my mum when I was on an errand... damn!! I was literally mad!! so I went straight to his house and beckoned on him to come outside whilst the other kids looked on.. when he did, I didn't even say shit, I hit him straight away and was like " who gave u the guts to insult my mum... u son of a bitch lol... your mum is a whor.e ....)we hit ourselves for quite a long time until we were separated by the other kids..... he apologized later on tho and we still very much cool till this moment.

for posting these dumb shit triggers something though..... it triggers the fact that u either a kid or a clout chaser..... if u weren't gon reply pms then shut your trap and bounce,stop chasing clout on the wrong platform......your mates dey chase premium clout for Twitter , u here spewing shit on romance land.

most girls out here cant keep an interesting convo, they depend on guys to do the convo while they sit back enjoy like it's a monopoly even though they crushing on him��lol
so guys, share your experiences..... what's the worst shot a girl had attempted to shoot at you?
I think I've got two.. yeah
the first one
outta the blue, she just sat next to me, pulled out her phone and started showing me her gallery thinking I'll compliment her.. mtcheew I didn't say shit!! ��just looked away.
the second
she hit my dm with the wackest and unrelated bio I've ever seen, then she dropped her phone number with the instruction " call me" ..... caller tunes ni mtcheew