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Most of the wives after few years redirect their love to the children and less concern about the husbands unknowingly.

Men being always active , will seek attention somewhere and thus engaging in extra marital affairs. Instead lovers living together many marriages are just there for social purposes minus marital obligations.

But despite all these odds some people are still enjoying the marriage because they knew early that what grow marriages are trust, respect and understanding and by reading handbokks or " my pastor said"

Advise

Watch your back because you are not safe. They know you are a threat to their dealings and by this , they already tag you enemy. So, if you report, they will be ahead of you. From personal experience, the whole matter will turn back at you if you report them to the owner of the company but you can stiffen the internal control to frustrate them out of the evil deeds and the owner will notice what you have done through the blockage of the loosed processes that encourage frauds.

Sorry for the pains. The company has not done anything wrong base on what you narrated. The problem was all about expectations from your uncle by the company and these expectations necessitated the pay and these included but not limited to what he was doing before and when the company discovered he could not meet up the expectations , they hid under weakness of your uncle to achieve their target.

The Solution

He should resolve it politically, increase his productivity level and make himself indispensable in the operations/ system. If he can do these stated tasks , they will pay him more than the 60k.

My Advise will be to make sure you are both ready to face the reality ( out casting by relations who you might need for help in near future). If you are through with that , then will she allow to convert to your religion? If yes , go to the registry to consummate your marriage. The grandchildren will resolve the crisis .

Note :

It will not be easy at the beginning but with time ,the whole matter will resolve itself.

The summary of the story :
1.You need attention and respect and she is not giving any .
2. She needs apace because she is not psychologically balance thereby underreacting and overreacting to all issues .

My Advise:

Be patient with her and behave to her as if you are on auto pilot to show her love and not reactional love .

Once a while sit her down to point out the reality of things to her and the likely implications. Don't pick fight with her reactions

Show her more love and respect .

She will change because the issues you raised are attitudinal and not extra marital affairs or domestic abuse .

God will see you through in the journey .

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Alaganature:
Boss you don't need to attack him..from the looks of things..she is from a wealthy home so there is tendency that her parents can pay any bills just to give her child the best education.. someone who went to Ire might just be an opportunities for him to even get the degree..abeg no just conclude like that instead advice him.

Brother, the whole stuff narrated was part of my life experience and I advised base on my experience and how I escaped the embarrassment. I am sorry of I by any way insulted the OP . I was rubbished by a polytechnic lecturer in Federal Polytechnic Ede who happened to be a foster father of the lady then and how I responded was what I advised and I ended up marrying another person that is better than the one I was rubbished because of

AmazingELixir:
She attended Babcock for her first degree and Convenant for her masters degree both private universities with heavy tuition fees and you pass through Osun state polytechnic, a state school for that matter ...you no even fear to carry yaself to the geh papa hous ....you get luck the man no even shoot you..

To compound issue I bet your job no fit pay pass N60k, Mr man you better go find Basira near una village there marry

What were you doing when the lady was developing herself ? I expect you to have made a step that will give tne man hope or you expect the man to accept another liability in the name of love ? REO and Juliet are dead

The issue is not the certificate but the father of the lady was frustrated because nothing to build faith on . The lady has a better job with masters while you a factory supervisor in osun state and you want the man to open hands to welcome you?

My Advise

Put on hold your marriage,

Go for PGD and Masters of your level

Work harder and

After the 3 years , if you still love the lady , go back to the man . He will not only welcome you but will kill goat to welcome you .

Instead of looking for sympathy that is not there, get down to work and prove the man wrong also make him apologise through your achievement

Forget the hunger story . What will happen in Nigeria is just migration from the urban areas back to rural areas which will afford people to farm to keep their family going . Silently , people are already investing in farming by acquiring lands ( hectares) in rural areas especially in Oyo states .

If Nigeria can vouch of producing varieties of rice within the shortest period of time then it won't be a major issue to produce more maize/ corns , potatoes and vegetables that take less than 4 months to cultivate .

No to dooming reports

Oyostatemedia:
This afternoon, Gov. Seyi Makinde was at Dugbe-Alawo, Ibadan to access the degree of damage caused by the Inferno of Wednesday, April 15, 2020.
He empathized with the people that were affected while describing the incidence as unfortunate and heartbreaking.
The Governor said the incidence was least expected at a time when the state is battling with the social and economic impact of COVID-19.

He however added that the state government would launch an emergency fund to address disasters and emergencies.

He noted that he believe there is a need for the state to have a Disaster Management Fund, which would have given the state the opportunity to give palliatives to those affected immediately.
He assured that the government will ensure its best to assist the people affected amidst the current challenges faced in containing the COVID-19 pandemic, while admonishing shop owners and residents of the state to take precautions and safety measures within their community in order to avert unforeseen circumstances .

He would have done better by investing in the fire service agency . The content of what he said has shown that there is no palliatives for the traders that lost fortunes .

It seems the guy is overrated .

A Special Adviser to Delta state Governor, identified simply as Ngozi Ijei was shot dead in Ekpan, Uvwie local government area of the state last night.
The killing of Ngozi, who was a key player in the political unrest in the area since the last decade, has led to fear and tension in the area.
Already, it was gathered that youths were mobilizing at the time of this report to attack perceived enemies of the deceased and burn down their properties.
Prior to his appointment by Okowa in 2016, Ngozi was standing trial for sundry crimes, including murder, but was controversially released from prison before being appointed SA on Community and Youth Affairs to the governor.
His murder last night was the latest in a bloody chapter which has seen a spike in insecurity in Ekpan and Jakpa Road areas of Uvwie LGA.
It would be recalled that at least six persons were killed in the area in the last couple of weeks in the latest upsurge of violence before the botched February 16 general elections.
Uvwie is usually a hotbed of crisis since 2003, because of the usual contending political forces and interests of key players in the Urhobo community.
The current Delta South Senatorial candidate of the PDP and incumbent House of Representative member in Uvwie/Sapele/Okpe Federal Constituency, Ms Evelyn Oboro, hails from the area.
Oboro is locked in a supremacy tussle with deposed chairman of the council, Mr. Henry Baro, who is the APC flag-bearer aiming to succeed Oboro in the lower chamber of the National Assembly.
The governorship candidate of the APC , Mr. Great Ogboru, has a strong fellowship in the area, and in his 2003 failed contest with then incumbent James Ibori, dozens of houses were burnt in Uvwie by supporters of the PDP and Ogbodu’s then Alliance Democracy

Where is Ekeremadu ? If there is anybody the PDP needs even more than Atiku , it should be the man but much has not been heard about him . This shows there is uneasy calm in South East PDP

Lies . What happened was the part the road was diverted to central hospital warri and to link because of the activities in okere market. The vehicular diversion was less than 3hrs please . You forgot to say that the state did not announce or prepare people's mind for the coming .

When GEJ visited Warri more places were totally blocked for more than 6hrs and atlast he came with a chopper to warri stadium .

Why is your state still far behind thesame lagos state you claimed has been eaten deep .

Lagos is building Atlantic city and so many other ones despite your accusation . what is your state building or have achieved since her creation . Sanwo Olu has been campaigning for a while and telling the real lagosians his plans for them .


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Wiseandtrue:
Coke head! So what plan do you have for Lagosians

APC's projects are on hold because election is around the corner!

How do you rescue Lagos from an individual who has eaten it deep?

It's not all about sweet talking, what do you think you can do differently

Are you fit to wear Fashola's shoes

Tell us!


Modified:


He is only dribbling himself!

Where you see electricity

Report the matter at any efcc office, within 6days you will get your money in full with a strong letter of apology.

Darachi:
Saraki emerged as the senate president againest the wishes of APC.Ngige is in political wilderness in the South East.Why did the APC govt refuse to reward Ogbonnaya Onu for political loyalty by appointing him Sec to the govt of the Federation?Enough of lies and propaganda.Buhari is our president and he has four years to either impress NDIGBO for their votes or face the same 2015 scenario in the 2019 election.Igbos may not be good politicians but we are direct to the point when we take a stand...This APC govt is an embarrasment to Nigeria。To make matters worse,the only APC governor in the South East is owing salaries,engaging in political tomfoolery and erecting statues.You will not decieve anybody again.Show us some tangible project please.

The same Onu that is lost in Ministry of Science and technology ? I am waiting the manufacturing of pencils he promised to begin in 2019.

Saao:
is the husband the dg or her?

The husband is the chief whip . Professor Adeyeye Olusola

Saao:
she's well qualified no doubt but where she has been living and working things are done in the right way even a graduate of business administration can perform in such role but here in Nigeria, things are done in abnormal way. How can she understand the work environment? Dora never work in nafdac but she work, experience, affected by Nigeria situation all through her life which made her to excel.

I wish her all the best

Are you aware her husband is a serving senator in professor Adeyeye

HzRF:
Don't be fooled
Those schools weren't build by him

It's a private partnership

Public schools are now paying for it although lesser than private schools

My friend's sis is attending Ataoja High school

He's commissioning these to boost his battered image

The airport op fuming about is a fraud


I live @ owode ede not far infact I need N50 bike to get to where the airport is located


He cleared the land and refuse to touch it for over 2yrs


Suddenly he woke up one morning and said somebody is ready to build the airport at 69 billion naira, will then manage it for 20yrs and transfer it to the state

He's has started paying "leave bonus" he has refused to pay for over year

Rumors has it he will soon be paying backlog of salaries


He's doing all these cuz of 2018

After his candidate was hammered in the senatorial bye election

You Amy hate aregbe for all I care but when your brother Serubawon was there what did he do ? Aregbe might be have disappointed a lot of people but you can't compare him with the predecessors and even Fayose your hero .
To me the best that has ever happened to the state is Aregbe . The cost is moderate and the school is scattered all over the state . As you know even though you are hiding it , most of the towns hosting the schools apart from few are small communities .

There is nothing bad in Aregbe seeking for investors to complete the airport nor involving people to join the state to develop the state including the cocoa processing company in your domain .

freeze001:
O Nigeria!
First, innocent citizens now have to trek longer distances to get cabs just because of administrative issues gone bad; then the Army is once again deployed in peace time and within a civilian populace just because they have 'intelligence' that same civilians may come to demonstrate.

Somehow whoever the hell was interviewed needed d world to know exactly what security details and formation they've got including snipers in the towers? How is it that this administration just doesn't understand information management and dissemination?

If I were Kachikwu, I'd find d first convenient reason to travel out and just stay away and then resign from there cos clearly we are back to the times of intimidation and assassination.

I beg how many people dem do assassinate in the country since the present government assume office ? It doesn't make sense to raise false alarm because you don't like some faces .

minke:
The best way to end all these calls for secession and state creation is to restructure the country and make every state autonomous.

What have we achieved from the autonomy granted desopadec . I believe in restructuring of the minds and failed institutions

Annabelkelvin:
Seems more like the real war is between Yorubas and Igbos... What is Yorubas business with this biafra issue even the Hussas get sense pass Yorubas.. Yorubas are back stabbers slaves forever I prefer a Syrian or even a boko haram to a Yoruba person #fact

Nawa o ! What do you know about the Yoruba people to warrant the abuse ? Is Igbo or Hausa better than the Yoruba ? You small children of nowadays aha . Na so Nnamdi Kanu take start now when the wahala don ripe for him to prove himself he is nowhere to be found .

You don't deserve an insult or reply anyway but I just want to give recognition to make you fulfil your destiny .

ZorGBUooeh:
I just dey pity una..
You guys said ibos can't leave dia business to protest before kanu was jailed..we proved yu guys wrong.

You guys said that if the army kill some protesters they won't protest again..we proved yu guys wrong again.

You guys said ibos will be silenced when the army occupy dia land..we proved yu guys wrong.

You guys said ibos can't pick up arms to fight for freedom..yu guys will still be proved wrong.

Are you going to lead the way ? For me to take you serious take a stroll with your ipob Jersey today and pass the army check point nearest to you .

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backtosender:
UN should roll in heavy tanks and jets close the border ASAP they nigerian government is aiding genocide

Thanks for the correction . But, dont you think the Njc should have been allowed to sanction as prescribed by the constitution

mapet:
First off, Justice Mohammed Liman, one of the judges in question is of "Nothern extraction"...and is that a justification for the alleged corruption of these judges in question?

Are saying no judge from the northern extraction is corrupt ?

patriotic9jaboy:
This is commendable. The corrupt judges homes have to been invaded and they must be locked up so as to serve as lessons to other judges not to undermine the powers of the executive. Too many corrupt judges hiding under the wig. They are hell bent on frustrating buhari's anti-corruption fight. The judges have never ruled in favor of buhari ever since be began several trials. Do you expect him to fold his hands and watch? How can a sane judge grant bail to the likes of Dasuki, Nnamdi kanu and El-zakzaky? Are the trio not a threat to national security? Buhari has to enforce his powers and forget democracy so he can clean up the rot in the system. Wike should not dare an order from above. Buhari obviously sent them and That is why he is the commander in chief of armed forces. He can get whatever he wants

Wake up from your sleep . Can the Ecowas be wrong in condemning the impunity of this present government ? If you follow what Tanko Yakassai has been vomiting of late then you will know that there is a plan going on to weaken other parts of the country .
While the herdsmen are ravaging the south east, there is political war in west . There is farming in the south and abundance in the north .

Wake up !

If your family members are part of the people that has been killed by boko harms or the military personnel that were denied of the necessary weapons then you will see beyond what you wrote .

WombRaiders:
Buhari is boko haram.

He is fighting those who know the truth about him.

He has since purged the NSA and DSS of officers that know this and in their place he has placed his bokos.

The war in the NE is being lost deliberately by the Bokos in the Nigerian Army. They are abandoning cache of arms for their bokos.

How can 107 officers go missing only for civilian JTF to push the Bokos back.

The north wants 13% derravitive and paid amnesty for Boko haram.

By next year boko Buhari will unveil his UN monitored boko peace and reintegration plan.

What concerns Raymond Dokpesi with arms deal?

They are arresting this man for being a staunch opponent of the Buhari regime.

Buhari is back with his nonsense.

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