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For dinner, I had Beans. It was very filling and I enjoyed a good night’s sleep.

Beans- ₦300

For lunch, I love to eat light so i won’t feel lazy or sleepy while I work.

Rice- ₦200 (the woman selling is so stingy with her rice)

Beef ₦100 and ponmo ₦ 50

I also bought some oranges to snack on. I make sure I take fruits everyday.

3 pieces of orange- ₦50

LUNCH TOTAL= ₦400

Tip: if you want to buy food always make sure you go with your own plate. Don’t allow them to serve you food in plastic bag or styrofoam

For breakfast I had Bread and steaming hot Hausa KOKO (Pap) with No milk or sugar just enough ginger and cloves to spice up my morning.

Bread- ₦100
(This bread is the cheapest you can get in this region. It tastes like cardboard paper but it is very filling. Some people say it is so cheap because they mix the flour with gero millet and sawdust)

Koko -₦50

Breakfast TOTAL = ₦ 150

Butter beans with enough Palm oil

The workers held small party yesterday, I quickly jumped up and helped them to arrange the meat.

I pray I get this job. I really like the company

When I saw how they serve workers lunch, I asked God “is this how you want to change my story?”

All the workers are fat o. They are just enjoying here.

Last year, I complained about how my Uncle avoided me for 2 years because I asked him for ₦600,000 loan.

A wise Nairalander advised me to learn how to fish instead of begging for fish. This struck me and I went back to my Uncle’s house that same week and requested for a job instead.

He told me he will help me but I did not hear from him again. I had even given up hope not until he called me last week that there is a job opening in the company he has been working in for over 10 years and I should come and apply.

John Obavoh immediately dusted his bag and shoes and entered bus o

A lazy 42 years old man with a wife and 3 children. No job. Living with his mother.

I mistakenly invited him into my home to hustle with me not knowing I have opened the door to the devil.

For almost 2 months now this man has been with me, I feed him 3 times a day along with my family. We both get paid daily but for this man to release money for his own meal or transport na war Haba mana!

I wake up around 5am to go to work, this man will still be sleeping. When He comes to site late he will still ask me to pay for his transport fare.

At first, i was patient with him until his wife called to tell me that he has not been sending money to the family.

As if that is not enough, Yesterday, he was gisting our workmates how me and my wife wanted to cause earthquake in our bed. I was embarrassed but I had to laugh it off.

I don’t know how to tell him to leave my home as I had promised him that I will help him. I find it difficult to break my promises.

How do I go about this?

3. LABORER: This one I don’t enjoy. I do it in my free time just to have extra cash. I earn 2,500 to 3,000 a job.

At the end of the day I will use most of the money to buy paracetamol and malaria drugs.


I also do small farming for my family and sell the excess to market women, the highest money I’ve made from this is ₦ 30,000 but I don’t do this anymore as food is now scarce.

I pray to our creator for growth and consistency. May we not lack our basic needs in life. As long as we continue to breath we shall not beg for necessities.

2. HOTEL WORK: This job was secured with the help of my uncle. My job here is not defined. I can be an assistant cook today or a cleaner tomorrow.

I usually work 5 shifts a week and get paid ₦ ₦ 23,000 every month.

The job is cool and the shifts are flexible. I also have access to good food here.

Being a family man with 5 children and a Pregnant wife is not easy.

Here are the jobs I do to survive myself and family


1) MARKETING JOB: I do this part time and what I earn with this depends on how many products myself and partner sells. Usually between ₦ 25,000-₦ 50,000. On one good month I earned as high as ₦80,000.

The job is not easy as we have to travel and trek long distances just to reach new customers. You will talk and explain until your mouth dries up and some customers will not still buy.

Our boss is nice and gives us good food after each outing.

I am here waiting for her to return from work. We would have lunch together with the children. I bought juice and biscuits for everyone.

HAPPY VALENTINE. Stay blessed

I called my wife around 12am to wish her happy Valentine’s Day.

She was sad I wouldn’t be around but she didn’t know I had special plans for her.

I told her to wear red to work today and she sadly agreed

Happy Valentine’s Day!

I did not tell my wife I will be coming back home today from travel. I left two days pay at my place of work just to surprise my Angel.

I gave my wife younger sister some money to decorate our parlor. The theme is happy valentine

All mothers must be celebrated. It is not easy.

Each time my wife puts to bed I must always cook dry fish pepper soup with enough crayfish which I serve with fresh kunu kwakwa.

I serve it to her for at least 6 days after delivery.

No fridge to chill the wine but we drank it with love .

I would be traveling for work from the 9th of February to 16th so I decided to spoil my wife today.

I started by dropping off our 4 kids at a kind neighbors house this morning. I left only the last nursing baby at home to ease of the stress and noise for her.

I bathed the baby and dressed her and myself in red shirt .

I cooked delicious rice and stew for my angel and me for breakfast. She was angry I didn’t allow her help in the kitchen.

I killed a fowl in our compound and We opened a bottle of wine 🍷 to relax this evening.

I will still send her valentine packs on the 14th for her. GLORY BE TO GOD IN HEAVEN.

Benjaniblinks:
You are a begger. Allow your poor uncle to breathe please 🙏

I am not a beggar. It is a loan I will surely pay back. Why can’t he just say he can’t lend me , instead of playing my life like long tennis

After eating, the wife asked us to sit outside and served us some fruits.

As we were eating, my uncle came out and greeted us. This was around 9:30am. He went inside again and we waited for about 3hrs before he stepped outside.

He told me to go inside and collect a package from his wife, which I did.

When I came out, my friend told me my uncle drove his car out of the compound.

I was heartbroken.

The wife gave me frozen fish. My wife fried some and roasted the rest because we don’t own freezer

I have been trying to obtain a loan of ₦600,000 from my wealthy uncle for the past 2 years.

This man has the habit turning me up and down. Come today, come tomorrow is all I hear.

Yesterday morning, I heard he was in the village and my friend and I tracked him down around 6a.m.

We were told he was still in bed. His wife welcomed us in and served us breakfast

OUR VISIT TO THE MAIN BEACH.

There were a lot of men fishing and some women smoking and drying fish on rocks.

Some boys were swimming and I was shocked. I know how to swim but the water looked deep and intimidating, I could not even dip my feet inside.

Pic 3: We helped our elder sister purchase a motorcycle for her business. She is really making money. I am thinking of opening a small restaurant for my wife too.

Pic 1&2: My elder sister almost finished us with her delicious vegetable soup. She cooked it special for us

Pic 3: A small pond at the middle of the town. They say the water from the pond has healing powers. Immediately I drank it , I felt cold 🥶 , I told my brother but he laughed and called me superstitious but he drank it too

Almost everywhere you step on in this town is water. You have to always watch your steps.

My younger brother and I harvested some wild coconuts. Very sweet and refreshing

A QUICK VIEW:

Pic 1&2 : This River is just behind my sister’s house. The main ocean is about 45 minutes walk away from her home.

Pic 3:My sister’s self owned restaurant. She cooks the best meals and have a lot of customers.

Pic 4: We brought charcoal as gift to our Sister. She really appreciated it

My Brother and I decided to visit our Elder Sister who lives down South. We have been saving for months for the journey.

With our joint budget of 96,000 we entered night bus 🚌. I was so excited because I really needed the break from my wife and 5 children. I love my family but Haba, let me enjoy small…BACHELOR MODE!

When we arrived at our elder sister’s place, I entered her parlor and saw gadgets and appliances, I had to shout “SISTER YOU ARE A BIG WOMAN!”

This morning, after buying airtime from my bank, I shook my head and laughed after I saw my account balance ₦2,350

If I die today is this what my 5 children will inherit?

The truth is I don’t care about leaving behind worldly possessions for them to inherit. I have given them

•the gift 🎁 of life
•raised them up with love
•teach them morals
•basic education

Which to me is more than enough.
I will stay and perform my role as a father till I take my last breath as a man.

My uncle in Netherlands wanted me to leave my family in Nigeria come and stay with him to work over there as a taxi 🚖 man but I refused!

I can’t leave my wife alone to take care of 5 children even if you offer me $1billion monthly. God forbid!

My wife is 22 years old and the wicked men in my village could easily manipulate her to have access to what is between her legs.

I rather stay with my family, money or no money, at least we have love and peace.

I am happy with my ₦2,350 account balance

Yesterday, I came back from work and my children told me my wife is in the bathroom outside.

I carried my bucket of water to join her but through the wood door I saw the love my life squatting and applying a white powder between her legs.

I shouted and opened the door. She confessed that it was her elder sister that taught her and she is doing it to maintain herself for me after 5 children.

I told her that if she gets cancer, I will abandon her. She started crying and said I am praying for her to die.

She has turned the quarrel against me and saying if she does not take care of herself after 5 children I will carry another woman.

Her sister claims she has been doing it for years and it is working for her.

Is it good?

A lot of married men feel too comfortable after marriage.

They believe it is only women who should put in effort to make the marriage work. This is why many marriages are dead.

Tips I use to keep my wife happy:

- I always make sure I look good for her.

- I tell her I love you at least 3 times a day.

- I buy her small gifts eg kunu, roast corn 🌽 every day.

- I always compliment her beauty.

See how I dress, you won’t know I’m a father of 5.
Married men take note and stay blessed

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T FOR THANKS.

I don’t know why. a grown man is fooling himself.

Since 2021, he told the family he wanted to travel and we all contributed the little we could.

Only God knows where he is. My mum still sends him money as he lied to her that white people have refused to give him a job.

He keeps sending these photos as proof.

Can you believe some men were drinking tea while their wives were crying in pain??

Some men are strong. Hmm