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Politics / Re: Former President Buhari’s Son, Yusuf Buhari Spotted In London by obowunmi(m): 11:45am On Jul 16, 2023
He still has the scar from the accident.
Health / Re: A Gym's Heartfelt Plea To Its Customers (Pics) by obowunmi(m): 4:28pm On Jul 15, 2023
meobizy:
“Beneath your beautiful.” It was obviously female members stinking up the place.

MEN SMELL TOO grin grin grin
Romance / Re: How Old Were You When You Had Your First Boyfriend/Girlfriend? by obowunmi(m): 1:56pm On Jul 14, 2023
28. angry angry angry
Romance / Re: Soul Mate : Is It True OR Myth? by obowunmi(m): 7:22pm On Jun 26, 2023
No such thing as soulmate.
Events / Re: Happy Birthday To Meeee!!! Maureensylvia by obowunmi(m): 6:59pm On Jun 16, 2023
maureensylvia:
The best of days is here and that’s today.

One word: GRATEFUL

Happy birthday to me❤️ Blessed and fulfilled.
Blessed maritally with three amazing Kids😊

What more else can I say than thank Jehovah for loving me unconditionally.

Friends celebrate with me 😍

Cc: Lalasticlala

A woman’s breast is my weakest point. Let’s marry.
Health / Re: I'm Addicted To Pentazocine, Please Help Me!!! (Warning Graphics Photos) by obowunmi(m): 6:28pm On Jun 13, 2023
So sorry for your traumatic loss. Addiction is hard.

Get well soon

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Family / Re: Delta Man Cries Out For Help Over Wife Allegedly Assaulting Him Repeatedly by obowunmi(m): 10:21pm On Jun 05, 2023
He is begging for assistance because he doesn’t have any money.

A man without money is not a man..

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Career / Re: Dentistry Or Pharmacy. Which Is More Lucrative And Who Earns More? by obowunmi(m): 5:05pm On May 19, 2023
Forexmax:
Dentistry or pharmacy in Nigeria? How lucrative and earnings?

Dentists.
Food / Re: Guinness World Records' Reaction To Hilda Baci’s Cook-a-Thon by obowunmi(m): 5:45pm On May 15, 2023
What if her win isn’t accepted by GWR ? That would suck. Because they had no representatives present.
Career / Re: I Am Approaching 40 And Am Scared My Dreams Are Not Realistic by obowunmi(m): 2:05pm On Apr 28, 2023
Accepting mediocrity is a great way to live a very normal life. grin grin grin

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Health / Re: TINNITUS: Cost of removing auditory nerves in Nigeria. by obowunmi(m): 7:49pm On Apr 27, 2023
kpakpakpa:
Humble greetings fam!

I will like to know if its possible to remove my auditory nerve or anything that can make me to stop hearing completely. I suffered a strange kind of hearing loss that comes with another condition called tinnitus

It happened since 2015 when i was admitted in a teaching hospital(doctors told me that my problem was typhoid) and treated for months. When i was about to discharged, i noticed that one of my ears was not functional which i complained immediately to the docs there told me that my condition was critical and was consequently administered hard drugs which is clearly the cause of my partial deafness and was given an appointment in 2weeks time to follow up about the new ailment. I came back home using only one ear.

After about 5days at home, i enter okada to the use an atm in town, upon reaching the bank, i joined the atm line to made my withdrawal, it was there that an old friend started talking to me that i discovered that both my ears were not functional.

Kent Taylor, the 65-year-old CEO of Texas Roadhouse, lost his life to suicide. He had been suffering from severe tinnitus, or ringing in the ear.

There’s no cure.

Stay healthy and hang in there.

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Health / Re: TINNITUS: Cost of removing auditory nerves in Nigeria. by obowunmi(m): 7:47pm On Apr 27, 2023
Unfortunately, there’s no cure for this disease.

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Family / Re: How Much Do You Spend A Week As A Single Person? by obowunmi(m): 4:13pm On Apr 24, 2023
I was in Malaysia recently and I blew thru $25,000 USD. I’m still in severe pains..

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Family / Re: A Married Woman's Facebook Post That Got People Talking by obowunmi(m): 11:29pm On Apr 17, 2023
I like that she’s HONEST.
Family / Re: Marriage Has Failed Me! by obowunmi(m): 4:05pm On Apr 11, 2023
BrighterThanDay:
As a child from a broken home, I saw marriage as my happy ending of finally having a home filled with love and mutual understanding. After the death of my mom, growing up with my dad and stepmom was hell. I was treated as a stranger in my own home, so I thought starting my own family will be a lot better.

After I completed my education and got a good job. I had a lot of suitors willing to settle down with me. Most of them were rich and accomplished men, but there was no spark, I felt they weren't genuinely in love with me, and since I was never a materialistic person, I turned them down. I get easily content with what I have and I spend prudently. Then I met my husband. It happened that I was his crush back then in school, in fact, he even approached me as a student then, but I turned him down because I knew where I was coming from and I never wanted to gamble with my studies, it was my only hope to leave my father's house and fend for myself.

Fast forward to when I met my husband after school. He didn't even have a good job. But I could tell I meant a great deal to him, we'll speak for hours on the phone. I fell hopelessly in love with him, I could already picture a happy home with him and our kids. Then he proposed, and I accepted. I met his family, they were nice on the first visit.

After the introduction ceremony with my family, I started noticing certain things. I was taking pictures with his phone when I saw a message from his mom telling him I'm a stranger and he shouldn't allow me to come between them. I was surprised and wondered where all this was coming from, I asked him and he reassured me that it was nothing.

Then his father told me that hope I know that a son should love and care for his parents more than his kids. I kept pondering this statement. Then the worse of it all was his married sister, she hasn't even met me, but she rained insults and abuses on me on his phone and why he needs to make money first and allow his family to enjoy his money, before getting married. She said I was old, and just forcing him to marry me. I was just 26 then, but my education was very fast.

I had to speak to her dad about this and he cautioned her. I tried speaking to her myself but she rained insults again on me. I called off the wedding at a point but my then-fiance begged and involved my brother and so we went on with the wedding preparations. The wedding went well and his entire family stayed with us for a week before leaving.

My husband got a good job, I was working, we were fine and money wasn't our problem. A few months later, my father-in-law died. I sent messages and called hubby's siblings to comfort them. I couldn't travel with him immediately due to the nature of my job. I kept calling to check on him and inquire about the traditional rites I might need to be a part of. Hubby said his father was a pastor so he won't need to do anything, while we were yet speaking, his sister who hates me snatched the phone from him and said I have to do this and that or I should pack my things and leave the house and then she shouted at me.

I was so pissed and acted in a way that wasn't right considering that we were all mourning. I sent a message to her, telling her to be nice considering that we are all mourning but if she chooses to continue insulting and humiliating me for no reason, I won't take it. She forwarded the message to the entire family, including uncles, aunts, and grandchildren. On the day of the burial, I was treated as an outcast by the entire family, she told them not to give my birth family food, even though they came bearing gifts and comforting everyone. Hubby had to step in and ask the caterers to serve them.

She kept fighting and shouting at my hubby throughout the burial and tried denying him of things he was supposed to do as the first son and child. I was humiliated and she kept castigating my name and insulting me to hearings of everyone. I wasn't even allowed to eat. I was quiet all through, when family members were asked to sit behind the corpse, she asked me to excuse them.

For fear of my life after the burial, I had to go lodge in a hotel outside. The next morning she and her brother kept shouting and complaining that why did hubby allow me to lodge and that I should have been with their mom. They continued the humiliation, I couldn't take it anymore or hold back my tears so I left.

Hubby later told me that she held a meeting in my absence with the entire family and told them I'm a bad wife and needs to leave her brother. This was when hubby stood up for me and said I wasn't going anywhere.

Our marriage was never the same. Even when we had our daughter, no one called, hubby was ostracized from his own family and he blamed me sometimes. I couldn't concentrate at work, and my job is performance-based. I was scared that I'll be fired, so I resigned.

Hubby's income wasn't enough to sustain us, so we started facing financial difficulties. He had to even go meet the same sister to borrow money, even though I discouraged it. She always mocked him for it and I had to pay off the loan at a point.


When she saw that we are now broke, she stopped fighting with him and they are on talking terms now, of course, she still wants nothing to do with me. I know that they are family by blood and nothing is too hard to forgive, but each time she calls and they are happily discussing, Ican't help but feel angry for all she has caused us. I'm sometimes tempted to leave this marriage because this is not what I envisaged at all.

My brother is also married and I have never felt the need to interfere in his marriage or fight his wife.

I don't know how long I can continue in this union, even my innocent beautiful daughter is hated by them.

If you died today, would you be proud of the life that you’ve lived ?
Romance / Re: Ladies, Is This Fashion Or Madness by obowunmi(m): 6:38pm On Apr 10, 2023
She’s trying to cover her scars.
TV/Movies / Re: 'Gangs Of Lagos' Movie Review by obowunmi(m): 9:32pm On Apr 08, 2023
Hannaz:
The way this film is everywhere is making me feel that if it's that good then they won't need to gather influencers to promote it. The promotion no be here

You’re on point boss. Very, very boring movie.

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Romance / Re: House Maid Is About To Crash My Sister's Marriage by obowunmi(m): 2:53am On Apr 08, 2023
Lovilla:
My married sister kept complaining how thier house help is about to bring her marriage to the mud.

She said her husband is no longer giving her attention like before just few months the maid arrived.

The maid is taking over her marriage slowly, as her husband only eats food prepared by the house girl.

She has been crying all day.
She said she has tried everything possible to chase the girl away but her husband always kicks against it.

She is afraid of loosing her marriage.

Please, what must she do?

The maid must be knacking your husband wella……tell him that you want to watch.

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Travel / Re: My Nasty Experience With Nigerian In New Jersey by obowunmi(m): 7:10pm On Apr 01, 2023
Controlla123:
I had a very nasty experience with a Nigerian in New Jersey recently. I recently just moved to the United States last Fall for my graduate school in New Jersey. Upon getting to the United States, I stayed with a friend that I have known from university in Nigeria so as to find my bearing as well as deal with transition. After styaing with the friend for a couple of months, I felt it was time to get a place to stay so as to be more independent and face my challenges.

Nigerians are mad people. Whites are better.

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Nairaland / General / Re: Happy Birthday To Me. This Is How God Transformed My Life by obowunmi(m): 10:16pm On Mar 30, 2023
God is faithful. Congratulations and well done.
Romance / Re: Would You Be Comfortable If You Friend Cohabits With Your Wife? by obowunmi(m): 4:58pm On Mar 26, 2023
Eazzii:
Okay. I've this burden on my chest for over a year now and they say a problem shared is a problem half solved (or multiplied)

So, I've this friend who lives with a woman and her little son. He and the lady are of the same age group. The husband, who is in the US is fully aware of this situation. Note: they stay in the same room and even sleep on the same bed. Also this guy's family house is just a stone's throw from the lady's house but he hardly ever visits there and hasn't passed a night there in over 4 years. If you're new to the area, you'll be forgiven if you address them as man and wife.


My main purpose of creating this thread is not to pass judgement on anybody but to seek your opinions. As a married man, will you be comfortable with your unmarried friend staying with your wife while you're overseas. As an unmarried guy, will you be comfortable living with your friend's wife.

Lao, masculinists and feminists, kindly keep off. smiley



PS: They are both active members of their church.

Everyone has agreed to the sex..ual arrangement.

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Romance / Re: What Are You Doing With A Man That Can't Meet Your Needs? by obowunmi(m): 11:19pm On Mar 11, 2023
EriMma1:
No no no... You tell me?

A man who cannot meet your needs should not be anywhere around you because he'll only be a stumbling block to your progress and cause you to miss out on great opportunities that would have come your way through those who understand the assignment. Don't ever let such men around you.

I've never been an advocate for starting small with a man after my past experiences even before the economy got this bad not to talk of now that it has plunged deep into meltdown.

A lot of ladies who went into such mess in the early 2000s are still carrying the family till today while the men are struggling to meet up with no headways or hopes in sight. This takes me to the next point.

As a single man still struggling, don't ever brainwash or be brainwashed by any girl to go into marriage and manage with you until things get better. Y'all have seen that e go better has become the prayer of a poor man. So run away from such trap. Make it to a reasonable level first before going for a woman.

I don't want to begin to go into details of the eventualities that may likely occur and become very grave due to inability to tackle them financially. Use your tongue to count your teeth.

I remember a long time ago when I was dating one struggling guy. The aunty asked him a very good question I'll never forget in my life and that taught me a lesson I've been applying in life's situations.

He invited me to come spend the weekend with him that the aunt was around so I could feel relaxed. When I got there and the aunty saw me, she called him aside and asked him the following.
You know we are struggling to eat in this house. Your salary is not enough and you brought in a young girl. What if there's an emergency in the course of her stay, what will you do? How will you go about it? When he told me, I became scared and thought the aunt was right. I now remembered one certain time I visited a friend. So that night we strolled out to buy suya. I don't know if it was from the suya paper or the unhygienic environment it was prepared that gave me food poison. That night, I didn't know where I was. Serious stomach cramps and I was just coiling up in the room that day holding my stomach. Again this lawyer guy no get shishi to even take me to the nearest clinic. In his confusion he gave me garlic to chew. That seemed to help a little but omor, I broke up with him.

So, with this few points of mine, I believe iv been able to convince and not confuse you on the need to stay away from a man that cannot cater for your needs.

If you attack me, it shows you're a struggling guy or dating a struggling guy. Una eyes go soon clear. My own don clear tey tey.

Enjoy.

You’re probably based abroad.

Nigerian women marry pe.n.is but find a *real man outside who can meet their true needs. More than half of women in Nigeria are cheating on their men.

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Family / Re: Its 2013 And I Am Still Single! by obowunmi(m): 7:34am On Mar 08, 2023
FalseProphet1:

Your case is spiritual.

This I have seen.

Okay. How do I resolve ?
Family / Re: Its 2013 And I Am Still Single! by obowunmi(m): 12:39am On Mar 08, 2023
fman:
this 10 yrs now!! U don finally marry

No, still single.

You get woman for me ?!?!
Sports / Re: Messi Should Not Have Won Best Player Of The Tournament (opinion) by obowunmi(m): 12:51pm On Dec 19, 2022
Mbappe should have won. grin grin
Family / Re: About To Divorce My Husband Who Sponsored Me In School. by obowunmi(m): 12:34pm On Dec 19, 2022
Hedgefunds:




She should move on without you listening to the husband side of the story.

You said nothing abt her cheating?

You show no consirn abt the man who paused his life and sacrifice everything to see her succeed and called such man a man-child?

You don't even care if the lady has exaggerated her story ,

Also advicing her to get a death certificate for someone who is alive . ALL YOU LISTED ABOVE WILL BE DONE TO YOU.





Are you the man in question
Family / Re: About To Divorce My Husband Who Sponsored Me In School. by obowunmi(m): 1:31am On Dec 18, 2022
advanceDNA:


As per your jappa.....Embassy will ask for his consent or proof u have sole custody of ur kids....u can't do it behind him, he can write the embassy and accuse u of kidnap...

So plan yourself well


She can say he is dead and procure his death certificate

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Family / Re: About To Divorce My Husband Who Sponsored Me In School. by obowunmi(m): 1:30am On Dec 18, 2022
piecuntie:
HI NAIRALANDERS ;
I am about to seperate from husband who sponsored me in school because I am fed up.

I came from a very poor family. I met my husband when I was 19. He wasn't doing well either, he told me he was an engineer in a public hospital but as time went on I got to know he was a level 3 plumber in the civil service.

Well I was young, naive, hungry and blindly in love. He went to trade school and I encouraged him to go back to school for HND or bsc but he said he was going to sponsor me first. I got pregnant for him in my first year in school when I was 20yrs old, my mom was against it. I got to know he was 13years older than me while pregnant. HE TOLD ME HE WAS 26yrs old.

My mom wanted me to abort it, instead i packed my things and stayed with him.
He abused my mom and I defended him. I gave birth while in school and he continued to support me both financially. We fought during those period, series of red flag but I decided to ignore it as long he wasn't beating me. He abused me emotionally. He knew my family was poor and there was no where i could go.

I finished school and my friends told me not to marry a plumber, I declined and told them he promised to go to school.

I finished school and i was scared of depending on him with my child, we were not doing fine at all.

I had no choice than to date a rich guy who helped me with a good job in the year 2017. HE got to know about the guy and i broke up with him. I apologized and we GOT MARRIED LEGALLY and got pregnant with my second child. We spent only 150k.

All the money i made from my salary, I made sure i supported him, i moved out of the family house in the year 2019, we have been there for 8yrs, he couldnt afford to rent a house, I spent 400k, both of us had no friends, we only had each other. I helped my brother and they did well in business. I asked my husband to go back to school, he was still adamant.

We went to a traditional person and they told him there is a curse on his head that i should bathe and do some sacrifice for him, which i did.

By year 2020 he was doing fine, we didn't even go hungry during the lockdown, I supported him with 2million naira and we did our traditional marriage.

IT was his business patners who were notorious cheat and neglected their wife that did his groom men, They introduced him to an association, i have asked him what is the aim of the association, he cant tell me, it is a secret.

3 months after the wedding, he started cheating and even beat me for the first time on our wedding anniversary becaus of the girl,
When he saw i withdrawed all financia assistant like paying half of the rent and paying one of the kids school fees. he called family members to beg me and we settled and i bought a family car for us to use.

Since then i have been walking on eggs around him, he tells me i should respect his age that we are not mate, he beat me again last 3 months saying i am as proud as my mother and i abused his mother back.

This monday i had to run after bus to go to work because i told im i was looking for mOney, and he said i just call him a thief. I had no money on me i had to call my brother to give me money. He wasnt even bothered. He doesn't call me again, WE DONT GO OUT AGAIN


I don't stress him for expensive outing our wigs or phone.
I bought my phone or trip myself out. He would rather hang out with his friends. He tells his friends and the kids i wear cheap outfits.

My mind is now strong. I don't cry again if he offends me nor complain.

I want to divorce him , sell the car and use it for this UK study route and take my children as dependent without him knowing. I am tired of the marriage already. He is 44 while I am 31. i want to move on with my life.

Sorry for the long write up

Move on babes. You married a MAN-CHILD

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Celebrities / Re: Nkechi Blessing Shames Her Ex, Opeyemi Falegan's Apartment Abroad by obowunmi(m): 5:44pm On Dec 17, 2022
Sweetplum:
Aunty rest naa. Leave this man. Except he duped you. And the two of you look like people deliberately giving out headlines to bloggers to get fame or catch cruise. Cos una matter don stale. There is a way to fight a man than ranting online. Just go to Ijebu-Igbo with his name, mother's name and picture.
You can even make him to be deported from abroad, smelling, peeing on the body, die of penury or just make him to be disgracing himself.
Aunty Nkechi, stop all these rant like say you be Putin. Follow who know road to Volence Headquarters and get your pound of flesh!


Love this grin grin grin
Jobs/Vacancies / Re: How Do Unemployed Family Men Cope Abeg? by obowunmi(m): 6:26pm On Dec 15, 2022
The women is how they cope. The women give the men money.
Romance / Re: This Girl Is Bugging My Life. What Should I Do? by obowunmi(m): 11:44am On Dec 13, 2022
Thebest12:
There is a girl I asked to be my girlfriend. She said no to me. But she keeps disturbing me. Chatting me up everyday. I have tried to snub her several times but she keeps sending messages.

Pls what does she want and how do I get this girl out of my life . I want to block her, if I do so am I not overreacting?

She’s an avoidant. People very attracted to those who REJECT them.

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