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BrutalLafamilia:
I met this amazing girl recently, she was posted newly to my office, we got talking and I discovered she was homely and would make a good companion, we also have a lot in common and attended the same secondary school. I asked to date her and she told me she would think about it, she kept dodging and finally told me she was in a complicated situation.

She has been dating a force man for the past three years, that brutalizes her and treats her like a property, she comes from a comfortable background but she depended on him to buy her a phone, laptop and meet her financial needs as she was unemployed for some years, he in turn has not committed to any relationship, still frolicks with other ladies and harasses her in her family house whenever she returns late, he calls her security man to find out her movement.

I brought this issue here because I noticed marks on her hand this morning (he beat her up and caused a scene last night at her place when she returned late and wasn't taking his calls) and he called me using her phone to ask me funny questions last night. Should I take the matter up and ensure he is disciplined or leave her to continue to suffer in her current situationship.


Please I need wider audience.

U are a proper goat
Who told u she can't leave if she wants

Go and find love elsewhere u broke ass loser

Lamentations of bad markets

They should all turn to frustrated feminists make we hear word since it's always the fault of the man

So deji has spent 4 years for prison before? Yet he has refused to have sense

Probably a cultist，They should lock in prison for 10 yrs so that he will gain sense

op

hope u took correct okpa n coke

otherwise your experience is incomplete

Baby factory things

How much are u selling?

Male = 300k
Female = 200k

Standard market price

Just kidding not interested biko

RealEstatePlus:
The greatest gift this season for yourself is to acquire a plot of land.

Any land for 1million with flexible payment plan around Enugu, umuahia or owerri

Pepper soup n beer money

Is he a slave

Woman rapper spotted

Northern republic

Nepotism even few months to the polls

Cheap fabricated story

JayIlych:
If you're a parent, would you send your child to such school?

What will be your reasons?

There is nothing wrong with same sex school the problem is boarding school where students have school mothers and fathers.

I won't allow my children to do boarding school and I will prefer them going from my house daily to same sex school.

Same sex school is better than mixed school provided students don't do boarding

JayIlych:
If you're a parent, would you send your child to such school?

What will be your reasons?

There is nothing wrong with same sex school the problem is boarding school where students have school mothers and fathers.

I won't allow my children to do boarding school and I will prefer them going from my house daily to same sex school.

The problem is boarding school not same sex school

engine braking and hand brake are your best bet

Silver

Ashawo couple

see a laps like rock

The list is negotiable
tell them what you can afford

To make it in law you need
1. connection
2. more connection
3. much more connection

These connections will determine your income, if u are a pauper and hoping to make it in law which may never happen you must be prepared to work hard for over 15years just to put food on the table.

Just one brief from a politician can settle a lawyer for life but most will rather deal with SAN than a young lawyer

alBHAGDADI:
Advice to everyone.

Before you interfere in husband and wife issue, make sure you start off by siding with the husband. He is the head of the home and the authority over the woman as stipulated by the Bible which is the word of God. It is from that point you will be able to see clearly who's at fault between the couple. It will be possible to make sound judgment in their case because you started off recognizing God's rule which made the husband head. The same thing applies with parents and children. Always side with the parents first.

Now the husband might be the one at fault, but not siding with him at first will prevent you from making him say the stupid thing that lured him into doing the wrong thing he did. Siding with the wife instead of him will only render you foolish and horrible before him for interfering in his home where he has authority.

When the husband has stated the foolish thing that made him do wrong, which he might not quite be aware he's exposing himself, then you can now calmly make him see his fault.

As for the feminists on this thread, keep siding with your fellow females. You are making this life to seem like a battle of the genders. Look at the way you all are already advising her to quit her marriage all because of a rough time which she admits to instigating. One even said a man should no matter what beat his wife. What if he wakes up in the middle of the night and sees her about slitting his throat? He should just pet her and move on. No, I don't support domestic violence, but girls of these days think they can just get away with their acidic tongue. Such girls actually have men made for them. Instead of you to use this singlehood to learn to control your tongue, you are busy affiliating with a stupid ideology such as feminism.

Proverb 18:21
Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.

If you use your tongue to speak death, it will come your way. Your husband will beat the hell out of you untill you come to your senses. If you use it wisely to say lovely and soothing words, life will come your way and your husband will love you and respect you.

@OP move back to your husband's room and be his wife. Keep talking to him until he starts responding. Lastly, ignore the advise from the feminists here. None of them will share their husband with you after they've made you lose yours. They might even be going through worse in their own home, but they will never say. What you are going through is just one of the ups aand downs of marriage. It will pass.

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op follows this sensible advice n forget frustrated single parents looking to make u join their gang of satanic feminists

ImaIma1:
How come men conveniently forget the other part of the "submit" passage? It says "love your wife". When you read how the Bible describes love in 1corin 13, you will agree that a husband cannot be inconsiderate, a dictator or a demigod that cannot accept when wrong and apologize.

But all you guys see is "SUBMIT! SUBMIT!!"

once a woman submits to his husband the husband will love her dearly. submission is what a man calls love , men don't need the love of a woman he needs the submission of a woman which is a divine injunction.

christian marriage makes a man the master in the marriage that is why he is the provider and the wife helper. submission comes before the woman is loved more.

satanic feminist/hopeless pegans who doesn't believe in the Bible should not quote me, the Bible is my standard reference point for marriage

ImaIma1:
How come men conveniently forget the other part of the "submit" passage? It says "love your wife". When you read how the Bible describes love in 1corin 13, you will agree that a husband cannot be inconsiderate, a dictator or a demigod that cannot accept when wrong and apologize.

But all you guys see is "SUBMIT! SUBMIT!!"

once a woman submits to his husband the husband will love her dearly. submission is what a man calls love , men don't need the love of a woman he needs the submission of a woman which is a divine injunction.

christian marriage makes a man the master in the marriage that is why he is the provider and the wife helper. submission comes before the woman is loved more.

satanic feminist who doesn't believe in the Bible should not quote me, the Bible is my standard reference point for marriage

ImaIma1:
Your idea of marriage sounds a bit archaic. There is no superior in the sense that you speak. They are partners in the marriage. what brought them together is love and not a business contract.

The man doesn't just marry the woman. He asks her to marry him and she accepts. It is a two way thing. No one is doing anyone a favour.
And no one has the right to treat the other badly. If you offend or are wrong, you accept and apologize. Marriage is not a dictatorship situation.

In Christian marriage as ordained by God they are not equal partners one is the superior. a woman must submit to the husband that is the basis of Christian marriage. Husband literally means master or oga m. accepting to marry a man means accepting to submit to him forever.

The Bible is the word of God nothing like archaic

Saffi:
My God, the things I read on Nairaland. A woman has her own identity, she has her own life and if she decides to break up with this man, guess what ? HER LIFE iS NOT OVER! She still has much to live for, her children, her business, her family and many more. You can’t overlook somebody who could threaten your life, just because of silly stereotypical views that mean absolutely nothing. What type of husband beats his wife without empathy or concern? There’s no atom of respect for her, yet the wife should go and beg her king as she is nothing without him. Are you sure you’re okay? Are Nigerian men really this shallow and misogynistic or is this just an online fallacy?

I believe this woman is just scared as she’s spent a good 11 years with this man. She can’t picture her life without him. If somebody is making you’re life a misery and the relationship is toxic, no matter how long you’ve been with that person, you need to find your way out. She needs some time to find herself, to separate her identity from her husbands. Self love/care is very important, please try to give this woman the same advice you would give to your sister. Ah ah kilodeeeee

Ndi feminist has landed

well while I don't support violence in anyway, a woman remains under her husband in a Godly marriage. she must submit to her husband BC that is the will of God in marriage. if mountain will not come to Mohammed then Mohammed should go to the mountains. Husband literally means master ie why in Igbo we say oga m. The woman should forget ego and have a heart to heart talk with her husband n apologize for her false accusation naturally the man will do the same.

op

why the focus on men

statistics shows the in this era of feminism married women are cheating heavily and closing the gap with men

I don't know why it became unfashionable to marry more than one wife, men should be allowed to take 6 ladies to the alter at once, busty, booty, fat, tall, short, skinny guess it will reduce cheating as he has all the available shapes

The kind of kids that we have nowadays as fathers and husbands is shocking. who on earth tell his wife when and how much he sends to his parents? no woman will okay it BC almost all women are selfish, some will just keep mute about it but unhappy about it.

once you take care of your own home u don't need the approval or notification of your wife to give money to anyone. this is much more common with jobless house wives

Mizwisdom:
The two have become one, therefore since the in laws contributed to his wife's development and training, it means they've contributed to his wellbeing. If he gives his in laws too the wife will maintain her peace

what stops the wife from sending her own money to her parents or she is the usual jobless parasite hiding under wife to suck her man dry

no joy for this nairaland

your woman is presentable though an oldie

how come u r so skinny like toothpick, try chop something abeg before she will start beating u

Vibesking:
How about affordability, Did he consider that?
All these dimwits politicians advocating for the Federal Government to privatise all the sector of our economy are clearly living on a different world.
They privatised power and where has that gotten us? Some areas haven't seen a blink in months!
I've never seen a nation that wholeheartedly wore its incompetence and shamelessly delegate its duties to outsiders.

Privatise Federal Universities my foot! You think its every family that can afford the fees uh? Inconsiderate mofo!

And your chicken brain assumes that everyone must go to school. those who can't afford it should learn hard work or a trade

victorazyvictor:
When I was watching his apology video, I saw him quarrelling with someone in congregation that "he should keep quiet or go home if u wouldn't want to bring curse upon him or herself" I was disappointed. Imaging Jesus telling someone amongst the 5000 people to go, he is not needed. Fr. Mbaka needs prayer sha.

lol mbaka is not Jesus now

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martineverest:
many Nigerian youth have low IQ sha...u are a typical example

I don't engage people without brain and any atom of sense so get lost already

Lol

This is why your wife had no regard for a sissy man like you pathetic response. Your public response was even unnecessary. Poor pedophile hubby probably jobless and being fed by her wife.

If ur wife can't risky allowing you to bathe your daughter and it's not offensive to u then u r not smart at all