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Bianda24:
When I was reading your comment my heart skipped because initially I thought someone that knows me was relating my story. Bro, your friend's story is similar to mine.
My dad chased us (3 boys and one girl) out of his house in 1989 and brought in another woman with a child. I was barely 8 years old at that time. He abandoned us all and remarried scores of other women. He even assisted some of these women to build house. The irony of it all is that non of those women is with him.
He did not know how my siblings and i went to school.
Fast forward to the present time, he has lost everything, he now wanted his children back but the love is not there particularly from my end. The sad thing is that my mum who had been there all these while died shortly after i secured a job. It was really sad and still sad. She toiled so much for us her children.
Well I have since forgiven him but the love is not there and I cant do more than I can afford for him

eyya, may God console you and your Mum continue to rest in peace, when I said he should forgive, people really misinterpreted it.
The luv can't be there again especially if you remember ur mom that didn't enjoy d fruit of her labour. I will forgive him, but when I'm eating Chicken, they will be eating starch and ponmo bcuz they don't deserve Rice and chicken. The pain is much but guy should just forgive.
I myself have someone I don't get along with, my maternal Uncle, my late Mum trained him and he was doing as if he was appreciating then, he later got married and life was ok, we lost my Mum.
Initially we were d one calling as per our Uncle not to ask of anything from him. He didn't reciprocate the same, he thought maybe my younger ones might be begging him for some stuff, I was lucky cuz I was working and married, so I seek for my hubby's consent if our last born could stay with us and he said no wahala. D boy finished sec school, and gained admission in Unillorin and finished school, my uncle wasn't aware.
He couldn't even pretend at all to call for once.
My little bro mark waec and neco exams, he went to submit papers in Lokoja and saw my Uncle in waec office, that was how he knew d boy is even a graduate. One thing in my life is this, if I discovered I don't matter to u, I will distance from u and keep my pain, failure and success all to myself. Now he's d one telling people to beg us.
He told someone one that he's own sister's Son snubbed him when they met somewhere. U see I have completely put a gap between us forever, but if na fada, u have to forgive but d luv can't be there again. People who were never in your shoes will be reminding u he's ur fada no matter what.

If u can afford to buy for d kids then it's not big deal getting some for him too, after all he's a responsible husband and dad.
Not the type that stays home and sleep while only u work

solmus:



Can't waste my RIP on Obaseki's paid thug


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I even hope he's not dead

Clonepops:
yeah... AND EVEN carry their financial burden... Or.. No wait.. He should collect his salary and give them everything then wait for them to give him whatever they wish out of the salary... Forgive ko.. Forgive ni

lol, for where? Forgiveness doesn't mean he's going to be taking care of dere financial wahala now, nooooo, it means he accepted them as parents, but d gap is already there and there's nothing anyone can do about it. He should help as if he's helping a total stranger in need and that's if he has d means.

LaReinaa:
They’re not his parents, parenting goes beyond bringing a child into the world!

I know really, u are right.
I have children and they are my life. We were to my late Mom too, anytime we were going back to school den, no rest of mind for her, calling every 30 minutes to know our present location, so we don't used to notify her of our coming back. So I can't understand that of his mother.
He should forgive dem abeg

Obynolee:
The concluding part got me,"don't commit sin out of plain ",what do you mean exactly, what sin?,what moral right do they have to call him," son"?.Is he indebted to them, how?.

honestly I understand his pain, showing kindness to our parent is mandatory on us, irrespective of what they might have done.
One thing is sure, they are already regretting, especially d mother. They will surely reap what they sow. Let d guy forgive. Forgiveness usually brings peace of mind.

Clonepops:
Very very stupid take.... They deserve nothing from him.. Religion makes people greatly stupid sha.... Even the Bible said.. Thou shall reap why you sow

for sure they will reap what they sow, but he should forgive too.

Ishilove:
He should not abandon them even when they abandoned him? What if he had died along the way? Abeg leave matter. The only sin he is commiting is the sin of unforgivenness. He can forgive but still be far from them because they are leeches with no remorse or shame.

what's the essence of forgiveness if he will still retaliate the same way? They are still his parents and that's the angle I'm looking at.
God has been merciful to him despite all he went through. May God bless him with a virtuous lady too. Let him liv vengeance for God. Wether or not he takes care of them, they will still reap what they sow, there's no point in paying them back d same way

SmartProf:
Once Obaseki gets re-elected this one will run to an IDP camp in Chad. He thinks thuggery can succeed at all times. We dey tell dem since say Edo no be Lagos but their dirty ear no go allow dem hear. See as the margin reflect social distancing .

lol, people get mouth o

Awol1:
Don't tell me Kabaka couldn't deliver his polling unit.

You shouldn't have brought this news here.

Any suicide by drinking of Sniper by Nairaland zombies, shall solely be blaimed on you.

4+4 Torgba

lol

Nawa

Slawormir:
Damnnnnn niggarrr
They are still going to lose

u have this positive mind you know, no matter what happens, u said Obaseki is 4+4. some supporters mind don dey shake o

Nawao, ur case is like that of someone I know, but his mum was there all tru, she sacrificed all she had. The dad was completely absent, he didn't even know when he finished pri/sec sch.
God bless d guy and he got a job, he lost his mum shortly after.
Now d dad is really in a bad condition and not that he remarried after the separation from deir mom, he wasted his life to alcohol.
He was a serious drunkard. He has 3 kids from d woman and my friend is d first born and only male. The younger ones are married, d man will be calling dem and be reporting dem to people as if he was there for them and the children are now neglecting him.
One woman told my friend that he should look at the whole thing as a challenge in life and as a test from God.
Your parent failed themselves and God, don't be like them, God will continue to protect and bless you more.
But do only what u are capable of doing and don't go extra mile for them, cuz they don't deserve it. But inorder to get total blessing from ur God, please take care of them in any little way you can but don't abandoned them, don't commit sin out of pain.

All I can say is thank God

akure1stson:
your glaucoma cannot b treated again, e don turn to blindness

lol

garfield1:
Can't you see that his defeat is clear? Whoever cries foul first ends up losing

yes, Dino is an example

Following

Mkayfrenzy:
Hmmmm, na so Chadwick boseman look before he peme, u also thinking what I'm thinking

I thought of it, but that won't be His case by his Grace and Mercy

AMvanquish:
Fear North

u see urself. When did Anambra become North?

Funny enough one of his friends or relation would be his killer. RIP

LandMann:
Asking them not to shed blood while your government has armed weed smokers around Benin with live guns in the name of vigilantee groups and your deputy is being praised for being the leader of strong cult group in Edo and also commander of political thugs, some of which where captured on video removing roof of house of assembly...

Sir, you're a big disappointment and you deserve to be voted out

Oshiomole taught him how to remove d roof of house of assembly. All politician na d same.

Simvan:
Ahh is this our own Righteousness89?
Lol

for where? Look at the spelling of his own righteousness

Xisnin:
Before you judge this alpha male, remeber that there are 3 sides to a story.

Women should watch their mouth.
They should stop bringing out the beast in beastly men.
Some women with their sharp mouth can wake the dead.

even his own mother?

Juliusmomoh:
Good to have u here.. Am from idah.. ... I sent u a mail

ok bro

Juliusmomoh:
Eyaaa .. Do u know idah?

of course yes

haiti007:
Who are the celebrants? The masses or the politicians?

thanks for the question, but who can answer it?

Juliusmomoh:
Hmm.. I pray oo... Wait o, are u also from kogi state ?

yes now, ADV LG

Juliusmomoh:
Wait o... Our own okene ?.. Op, where did u get this news from?

hmmm I wish it wasn't true

BlackfireX:
This small mark.....

lol, u wicked

Simplyleo:
Go shout at a soldier man and when he treat your fvck up, run to social media and start posting. Na you still dey feel the pain.

From his head, I know say na dem.

he said they were on mufti

BIGGESThead6:
This is strange, I was expecting to see one Chukwudi. I really disappointed.

lol, na u sabi. North is synonymous to evil. I mean evil of all types.

urchcoded:
My father even on his sick bed kept reassuring me that he would pay my final year school fees and give me money for my project immediately he is discharged, sadly he was never discharged. I feel bad because I had payed my school fees and also gotten money for my project but I refused to tell him because i thought he was going to recover and give me the money. If I had known he won't make it I'll have told him that I've paid everything at least to give him peace of mind. Who otedola help.

eyya, may God console u