₦airaland Forum

Larryslim:
I don't understand, I'm a Muslim but why can't I have my father or mother's picture in my house??..
These are the reasons why majority doesn't wanna join Islam,I was talking to a friend about converting to Islam and he was like "Your religion that has too many conditions"..
Conditions like this are what pushes people away,when an unbeliever hears that if you hung up your parent picture the angel of mercy will be far from you,how do you expect him to convert or even think twice about converting??..
May Allah continue to guide us and may he shower his abundant blessings and mercy upon us..

Nobody forced you to join islam, you feel it the right thing to do that why you joined also islam is not a religion of higher population, it is the WILL of God, you either accept it or wait till the day of qiyamat and ask yourself questions.
Allah knows best.

guterKerl:
Talking about dogs and having been to the northern parts of Nigeria, from my experience I know Hausas who keep dogs at home and they are Muslims too. How about that?

you should not use a person or people behavior to judge a religion, that is myopic.
Also don't we have Muslims that don't observe their solat and they call themselves Muslim while islam said the main difference between a believer and non-believer is solat.

pocohantas:
Nah, he isn't nice. He is broke and it has obviously affected his self-esteem. Men are not magnanimous enough to forgive a cheat and not bring it up later. This is the reason I would break-up with him, if I were you. You're definitely not going to start a marriage with him, having that in mind. That's me assuming you guys will marry, which is highly unlikely, considering the pressure ladies face and how long it takes a young man to stand on his feet.

You both are definitely going to part ways, LATER.
So, why not now?


If you like the other guy, give it a shot(with your head). It's a vicious cycle. Some young guy has to lose his girlfriend for an older financially stable guy to get married

But this your title sha @ jobless boyfriend. Looks like his joblessness is a problem o. Try not to cheat on your next.

thumbs up

I have not registered for any, and I have been trying for so long

still the site for Nigeria Prison Service is not going through, likewise Fire Service and Frsc.
Please who else is experiencing this

Lazyreporta:
Not up yet

good job anyway, more grease to your elbow

Lazyreporta:
Women have their own secret language, and yet they expect men to understand it. Pay attention guys. It is not what she says, but what she does that is the key to breaking this code. They are more subtle in their responses, instead of direct, like men are. For example, if you ask a woman something, and she responds with: I’ll think about it. It means no. Chances are, she may have put on a bland face to go with that remark, but if you are watching closely, you can catch the clues in her face.

If you ask a woman you just met for her phone number and she says: Well, I don’t give it out, but why don’t you give me one of your business cards? It means: I’m not interested. As I mentioned before, we have trained women not to reject us to our face, so they have had to develop more subtle ways of getting around to saying: No.

It is about understanding what all the cues mean. When a woman says: You never listen to me. Or: You never do this for me or that for me. In that moment, it is simply what she’s feeling. It doesn’t mean that you have never, ever done this or that for her. All it means is in that present moment, you are failing as a man to give her the presence that she is looking for from you.

That is why women tend to generalize a lot when they are saying things. They will say: I can’t stand you, or: You’re such a jerk, or she gets really mad and says she hates you. It doesn’t mean that she does not love you any more, but right then and there, in that moment, she is feeling that she hates your guts, because you failed, and she’s simply expressing that to you. Again, don’t take it personally.

She may be completely shut down to you. By your presence and communicating with her, you are going to work to open her back up. Once she is back open, she will usually apologize for what she said, with something like: I was just really emotional. Or she may be all over you and say: I love you! That is just her being a woman. It is part of the weathering of the storm.

Understanding the secret language is all about understanding what her responses mean. Guys think logically, and women think emotionally. Most of the time, women giving advice on other women are not going to come out and say: Well, she doesn’t like you. They do not want to come right out and tell you the things that hurt your feelings.

The more pauses a woman uses during speaking is an indication that she is thinking hard about how to try and word something. Listen carefully to her wording at this point. She is trying very hard not to be impolite or rude, but the actual words and where she places inflections on those words will tell you exactly what she is trying to say.

For example, you go up to a woman and say: Is anyone sitting here? Compare these statements: No, it’s open. Or she hesitates, shrugs, looks down or away and says: ...No...It’s open. The first one says that the seat is open and you are welcome to sit next to her. The second one says: If you really have to. The seat is open, but I’d rather you left it that way.

With a guy, language is like simplistic, straightforward dog commands: Sit, stay, lie down, and roll over. With a woman, it is like the cat analogy. You have to read her actions. You always judge a woman by what she does, not what she says. If she breaks a date and then tells you that she can’t wait to see you again in the same sentence, the bottom line is that she still broke the date. That tells me that she has a very low attraction, and she doesn’t really care to see me. When she says: But I can’t wait to see you again, it is her way of trying to make you feel good, and not be upset or mad at her for breaking the date.
She hopes you will just figure it out. Women will understand what that response means. Most guys don’t understand what that response means.


LAZYREPORTA

give me the link to your blog

Dboy55:
speak for yourself bro,not all muslims,

a Muslim is an ambassador of Islam so he speaks for muslims.
Islam forbid cremation, take your cremation to your suppose developed countries

yabas:
The reason why I opened this tread is to know if other guys are experiencing same.

you are right, most girl nowadays only know how to demand, I have meet quite a lot too but my girl doesn't demand at all that one of the reason why I cherish her so much.
there is a girl I meet last month, can you imagine that just the first day of having a conversation with her, she start tell me about her family issue and how she need a man that will always support her. I just laugh in my mind and avoid her

RuthDaniels:
Good riddance!

The way you present yourself is how you will be treated!

coming from a woman, thumbs up At least u understand why every Harry would want to grind her well.

PrettySleek:
May u guys not encounter a liar in your lives! Only then will u understand, so because her breast is outside she deserves to be maltreated? U guys should learn to reason things out before u talk, if u don't love somebody, u know u are never going to be with them, don't waste their time. Some Nigerian men do this a lot, dem no dey wear ring, some even work in another state, away from their families. If some people pretend, u can never know. It's just God that is saving us o.

no man will take that kind of woman serious believe me, every man will always want a piece of her national cake.
she caused it all are dressing speaks more of the kind of guy she is looking for.

IsaAbubakar:
my name is sheik Isa Abubakar Usman
a Muslim scholar from Kebbi

any Muslim supporting buhari is an extremist and not more than or better than shekau Osama bin Laden etc

I am talking about the word you used not buhari, the word Insha Allah is not what you toy with based on emotions.

IsaAbubakar:


any body still supporting this government is a criminal and a blood sucking demon
and Insha'Allah calamity will never depart from the person's life

he'll suffer a fate worse than death

amin


cc
CilicMarin aka ngeneukwenu Clerverly ikpunnu ikpummiri

please be careful what you say when angry and that word Insha Allah is very powerful, you don't joke with it.
your name looks islamic

Hanseel1:
the guy didn't say he was the one who initiated the date so how did you come to this conclusion?

what if it was the lady who initiated the date


BTW... @your post if the guy orders for 3500k food I see no reason why should order for more than 4k food

smh.. that is poverty mentality

...

I will tell my boy okorocha to build a statue for you in Imo state

Hanseel1:
guy 3450....lady 11800k

are you normal?

no mind them Na so dem dey do, they always want wat their father can't provide and are quick to give various names to men

Silentscreamer:
So childish guys like dis still exist...

one of them spotted, they form Porsche without having anything in their head and account.
Always quick to label men scum while they are the greedy ones.

jazakumllah aikran for that piece

Amaraokafor:
It's normal for humans to be desperate to get happiness. As a young man yourself, if you are not desperate to make money and have a happy family, then there's something wrong somewhere. The thing is, one should not allow desperation to to block common sense.

Like I pointed earlier, I was never that kind of lady who is desperate. I only realize, of course with this present issue that I may just be wasting my time and removing other opportunities in my life. I'm not docile. I'm industrious and I want to be happy and have my own family BUT I'm also careful and that's why I'm seeking for advice despite several attempts to make my man sit up and at least establish as much physical contacts as possible so things can begin to take positive shape. As it is, I don't even know where I stand.

it a two way scenario,
first, if you decide to stay and at the end he just wasted Ur time or if you decide to go out with another guy and you later regret your actions then he won't want to take you back or pretend to take you back for revenge.
my suggestion is you best know this your guy than us here, deep down your heart does his actions speaks he loves you, forget the fact that he professes love, talk is cheap watch is action.
it may also be that he is too introverted if so then I will suggest you leave him because you both don't have the same love language, I won't suggest a marriage where you will have to be the one to always put your husband through in every situation. it won't last.
I am not saying you should break up with him but I would suggest you play a smart game so you won't loss on both side.

we men can be cunny at times, what ever step you take use your head so you won't loss on both sides

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jazakumllah aikran

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Peacefullove:
Interesting point, I read a post by a certain " Ginaz " , and I can't stop smiling , Little did she know the havoc this girls cause with their indecent dressing . consider a typical scenario


A lady walks into the office of a married man seductively with her cleavages open . if the man is disciplined , he will surely try to Look elsewhere of course as a mature man . but Emotions don't think, if he saw just a little of that , the eyes sent that picture to his brain immediately for further processing, that's where thought's comes in .

He can decide to futher process it or not , but the image will always reappear in his mind , but how many men are Disciplined ?

unfortunately , the way women give themselves cheaply for sex this days has led to having men who are not disciplined because sex is cheap and its everywhere , You don't expect this kind of men that form the majority to resist a side chick seducing them for adultery

am not justifying what this men do, I believe a Genuine man should love his wife heart and soul BUT some ladies need to understand the concept of emotion and seduction . it takes alot of discipline to be a faithful man.

but this immoral society is successful at producing Men who can't control themselves.

I am not surprised that as a male you reason from my point of view but the problem are still the females like I said before even here on nairaland you can identify them, they try to justify their indecency with civilization and if you try to correct them they tell you its a free world .
10 or 15 yrs later they complain of not having a husband, or their husband cheating on them or give birth to product that are worst than them. I just wonder what these world will turn to in the next century.
even Adam and Eve went to hide from God when they noticed they were naked.

thoth:
Under Abacha Nigeria whopped Cameroun, it's only under this imperialists installed Democratic rubbish that Nigeria lost every regard.

yea you right but how many people would way they don't want democracy.
the problem is our leaders, if we have a strong military force even america won't dare kill a ant from Nigeria. look at north Korea even with their small land mass not up to Oyo state america doesn't mess with them any how.

signz:
Hatred for my tribe has turned you into an I.mbeci.le.

Let Mexico kill 97 Americans and see if Trump or Obama won't return the favour.

97people killed and no strong worded release by our Minister or President and no recall of our Ambassador to Cameroon. I don't know if we summoned the Cameroonian Ambassador.

97 people were killed and your concern is coming on Nairaland to insult a Tribe because of the comment of 1 person.

Your hatred has turned to madness. You're mad and you don't know it.

if Mexican dare kill an america it could be trouble for them but that situation doesn't apply to Nigeria, we all know Cameroon has is been supported by France, is Nigeria ready to go head to head with France?
so you see why we can, repay bakassi evil with evil

ummmm....I think the main issue among we Muslim brothers is self discipline, don't just get married for the enjoyment instead do it for your deen.

edoboy33:
n power is a scam
its APC scam
sure p was better
I bought 3 of my cars and my friends did too during sure p
that more reason you should vote PDP
so we can continue sure p

that the problem I have with most Nigerians, they only think of themselves and insensitive to other peoples need
am sure you have a browsing mobile, please compare the ratio of success of your selfish sure p that you, your friends and few Nigerians succeed to the ratio of these intended npower even if it has not fully started and come back to see what you posted, then ask yourself if there is actually an atom of intelligence in your head except self centeredness.

itsmeurLady:
That is why it's called Faith!!! The carnal mind cannot comprehend it, it is foolishness unto him! Faith Conquers All!!! Thank uuuuuu all the same

u welcome

itsmeurLady:
Well i dunno, especially here on NL, most of the guys here are just too brutal when it comes to ladies issues.. it seems they are like lions waiting for a prey (female) to devour. Honestly, I can't stand being maltreated oo, I'm still praying for my husband everyday Cs I can't even say I want divorce at the end of the day Cs I'm against it. It's as if I will gaan marry a foreign man oo but who knows, if he might be worse. I'd just let God help me bcs I might just pick the wrong man if I rely on my own understanding

Nigerian men are not that bad, moreover tribe doesn't determine attitude....we still have good guys among us just that most of us think with the stick under us.

Diamondville:
Gosh, the guys on Nairaland have proved you right.. African men just love oppressing women and it's one of the reasons why Africa is still the least developed continent

lolz

itsmeurLady:
Oga I do not care what u or anybody thinks.... but My Man will not cheat on me Cs the fear and nature of God will be with him and guide him all the way and mind you, we women don't cheat not bcs we can't handle it, we do it bcs it's not In our nature to. So don't try to cover bad habits by saying that men will still be stallions after cheating bla bla bla... havnt u seen professional prostitutes still looking clean and agile after sleeping with different men I'm not trying to drag body with any man OGA and I'm not sayin Men and Women shld be equal... mayb u shld read again!! For the fact that it has been a norm doesn't make it okay. Nigeria has been suffering corruption since independence doesn't mean we shld continue to sit down and encourage corruption... don't use ur mouth to preach wrong messages for every word u utter, u shall give account finally

congratulations but I just hope you don't learn the hard way even your forefathers lived a polygamous life and your foremothers didn't complain.
I don't know if you have heard this before, virtually all men cheat some are open about it while others are not, only 2% are faithful, if you say you want the faithful one and other ladies also want the faithful ones I wonder what will happen to all the remaining women.
that is why I told you before to change this your notion of my man will not cheat or else you will injure yourself, am not saying you should support cheating but expect it so you won't be catch unaware.
it is girls like you that are very easy for fvckboiz because they understand that with a little sweet words and sign of committed, you are always theirs. like I said expect cheating from every man but not all cheat so you won't be catch unaware.
no matter how assertive you try to act you are, even from you chatting skills I can conclude you not that difficult to win over, all you need is more lies and few truth.
if you have been heartbroken before or had pass experiences that doesn't deduce for you to jump to this conclusion, attack the situation and not the individual, like I said again expect cheating from all men even the ones that act very decent but not all cheat, I pray you are not caught unaware so you won't remember today 13th of July 2017 and wished you took to my advice.
I wish you well in your adventure

itsmeurLady:
I Got this from a post and when I read it, I was troubled in my heart because this seems to be the norm amongst most of our Men even here on NL. I hope this passes a msg to any traditional selfcentered Man out der!!!

When a Man Cheats, they say Cs the woman doesn't satisfy him... When he beats her, they all say she is rude to him, when he likes anal sex they will say Cs she's loose and Marriage is for better for worse. Are Women meant to be Slaves in Nigeria self You Men make us feel like it's our own job alone to make marriage work. When she cannot still bear a child, they will say it's her fault. U forget one single detail... that our Men are selfish... so selfish that they think they are doing women a favour by marrying them. If a woman is more successful than a man... She's a prostitute. If she's not she is a Gold digger. Is it fair Oga If u turn out bad, They say Cs ur mother didn't train you well but if u are good, you are your father's child. Is it fair at all? It's OK for a man to cheat but it's not okay for a woman to cheat. Is it fair to your sisters and daughters If a woman is raped, it's her fault that the man chose to be an animal. It's not Funny!!!! Change begins with You and I!!! Let's promote Change, Fairness and Equity among ourselves so that tomorrow Our Children/loved ones can be saved from this tragic mindset.

i have noticed that you and your thinkalikes are usually very pretty,a group of people that think they deserve special treatment just because they are good looking or been pampered before.
what you are complaining about has always been like that since the time of adam it a norm,
you cant say because you went to school you want to change the rules. Even those that claim fenimist cant stay their entire life without a man(ask single mothers how they are feeling), they maybe acting strong but that manly space and pamper will still be needed.
women has always been surbodinate of men, even since the times of our foreparent women has accepted the fact that men would cheat and do some certain things without them complaining.
I won't dispute the fact that although our culture has spoilt we male gender to some extent but you complaining now or comparing that because a man cheats on you, you also have the right to cheat is irrational because with time your body go tell you while a man still remains a stallion(that is work of nature).
no matter how hard, you want to form actor, one day your boss go weak. with this thinking you will only attract a guy that want what is under you, no man want a bossy lady or a ladies that try to rub her right to his face. no matter the way you portray it without submissiveness and this your attitude of I know my rights, I don't think marriage will work for you.
it not a curse.

good job op, jazakumllah aikran

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