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the truth is when a woman know you love her, she wont take you seriously again#fact
that why we have a lot of FUCKBOYS

most females actually take a guy that loves and pamper them for granted, I am talking from my experience

2buffagain:
Why do you feel people should be going around putting all their personal stuff out on social media?
Her caring or not caring about a man has nothing to do with that.

if she really doesn't want us to know, then she shouldn't be posting his pictures online while using emoji to covering his face, it non of our businesses. all I see is she is confused by either wanting to show us his identity i.e posting pictures of him online then hide his identity so as he won't get snatched aways from her, if she is truly a feminist as she preaches then a man staying or leaving shouldn't be a deal at all.
I hope you get my point.

lefulefu:
could be it was the agreement made b/w her and the man.might be very possible she paid a man to impregnate her and the guy agreed on one condition that he be made anonymous.

that also a good point of view. THUMBS UP

lefulefu:
she's just protecting the identity of her baby daddy so nigerians wont enter his instagram or facebook page and start bashing him. Its not about protecting his identity cos she's afriad dat women will snatch him.

why is protecting his identity necessary, if she truly doesn't care about a man. she is just as confused as her fellow clan.

Robynwelo1:
Trash.

The truth is bitter but that doesn't mean it will ever change.

Robynwelo1:
Who is Linda Ibeji? You don't know jack about me though. Please name for me the people that have died because they couldn't survive without a man. Feeling so self important aye!

ok I have heard you but let me ask you this simple question, SO YOU WONT GET MARRIED OR SETTLE WITH ANY MAN THAT DECIDE TO CHEAT ON YOU ABI?
even Linda ikeji has come to realize that you can't change somethings in this world that why she decided to settle for a baby daddy instead of a husband(this shows a sign of desperation to me) why didn't she make the identity of her husband known? I guess because she doesn't want other women to come snatch him from her but she was the one forming self made woman, I can live without a man. then why is she protecting the identity of her husband.
I just hope it doesn't get too late before you read between the lines.

Robynwelo1:
It's fun. Hahaha

I love the comments I have seen so far. More and more women are beginning to realize that marriage is not a do or die affair, it's a choice. Knowing this, there would be more respect in relationships, especially coming from the men, as time goes on.

we know your type, Linda ibeji sister, BE FORMING INDEPENDENT MEAN WHILE THEY CANT SURVIVE WITHOUT A MAN.

majekoam:
Correction. Most of the guys you've met or been around with are pricks.

Also of all the women that have commented about men. Have you met all of Us... Those comments are wildly ignorant.

The tables can be turned...alot of men have plenty of stories of being messed over by women so lets not be partisan and hypocritical.

The fact is that most ladies would prefer a well to do guy. The problem is that SOME of those well to do guys prey on it and take advantage....

Then Ladies you have a choice... Take a risk and suffer with a guy that might not be all set but is going places (Usually the nice guy or the quiet ones who are either overlooked and exploited) and is more likely to end well (but not all the time)... or continue to "Enjoy" with "Bad guys", who are Fresh, Paid, will most likely be using you and then dump you (The writing is on the wall - He is a "Bad Guy" and then you come on every social media platform to then call the male gender a bunch of P-nis led demons...

....Oh and if your thoughts are Id rather go with the bad guy because he has money....then I dont have any sympathy for you.

One last point....there are maaaany women who are in great relationships and marriages...they just are afraid of letting the world know because they know there are many low-life women that would be willing to snatch their boyfriends/husbands if they could.

Essay over.
Peace y'all.

nice one

Biglittlelois:
Wrong!!! opposites attracts, it's now left for either one of them to be influenced or walk away.

opposite attract doesn't apply to this situation, YOU ARE EXACTLY THE KIND OF PERSON YOU ATTRACT, THE WAY YOU DRESS OR BEHAVE IS SIMPLY THE WAY YOU WILL BE ADDRESSED.

MOST WOMEN THESE DAYS JUST BLAME GUYS FOR BEEN FUCKBOYS BUT THE MAIN QUESTION IS WHO GIVE THEM THE PRIVILEDGE?
toke makinwa is a very good example, all she knows how to do is show her boobs and ass online for men to drool then later she will complain of not getting serious men coming forth, how do you expect a responsible guy to appreciate you when you paint this kind of image of yourself, although she might be of good character but impression counts alot and it goes distance also, And we have a lot of women like that.

JAMESOJAY:
Islam is the religion of th devil
All they do is to kill,rape and use drug

this trend is not for you, you shouldn't have clicked instead of typing rubbish

HEseesall:
I am not a blogger who wants traffic, you can choose not to believe if you want, i just need advice and other options,

telling him to his face in the first instance that the house is not in his name is enough for him to be this annoyed. I won't suggest you change the house name to his in order to protect your future in that house Incase issue like this happen in future.
the fact still remains he won't easily forget the incident because it like telling him that he is not man enough, why don't you change the property to the name of one of your kids and continue begging him even if he doesn't give you attention.
let him know you still care about him and your marriage. he will still come back if he cares about his family but it all depends on how you handle the issue.

ivanG07:
I am a christean,i can tell you that i love that keeper more than buhari because he practise real moslem doctrins and i can also tell you that is why he is bless,if other religion will practice their religion faithfully like him,i believe the world will be a better place to live.

exactly

oshe11:
Why didnt he REJECT it like the EGYPTIAN GOAL KEEPER, abi MUSA no be MUSLIM?

we have different Muslims, Egyptian goalkeeper feels it is not right to collect the award because it is from an alcohol company so don't judge him for that.

jazakumllah aikran

angelboy01:
Read your comment and you are so on point bro. For those saying that I should forgive her yes I have forgiven her but to take her back is a no no. Most people don't even know what cheating means, a cheat will always be a cheat. And if I take her back do you think I can take my mind off the fact that she cheated? Some guys thinks it's easy to take a cheat back and that's total crap, you are digging your own grave. I even had a dream that she strangled me. Shortly after she came back from her boss meeting I contracted a PID disease from her which I used about 11k to treat myself. Yeah I can forgive but can't forget, I am a kind of guy that once the trust is lost its gone for good. There are many women in the world and why would I take her back. I am even glad that am free, I am focusing more on my life and my daughter. I only wrote this so that guys should learn from me, Never rush into marriage and make sure you read the signs before engaging. I didn't write all of this to ask guys on whether I should take her back or not. I have realised my mistakes and God help us all. Guys once again don't rush into marriage and read the signs like I said.

I won't lie to you I'm really scared of getting married, I have also had previous bad experiences which I won't like to share here.
if things continue like this, it will reach a point when men will see marriage as obsolete.

mistacoco:
Dear Narialanders.

I and my girlfriend had a hitup conversation this afternoon that we even quarrel after then.

This is the issue, she read medlab in school and she is planning to go for her internship by Gods grace soon. I told her that after our wedding I will be giving her five million to setup a LAB and after 8 months she can start contribute for the upkeep of the family and when we start having kids.
My Dear brethren in Christ, do you know her reply? She said NO, she can only provide when the husband exhaust his money on the family. I then asked her whats the point opening a bizness if you cant make a joint contribution with your husband at the end of the month for the upkeep of the family.
She said said her work is a HELPER she can only help her husband when the husbands own finishes. My Dear I was shock.

She Even said I will be giving her money for her hair, cloth e.t.cs, when the bizness is still functioning fine. My reply was that what then will you be using your money to do? She said I don't have business with her money, I should face my responsibilities as the man, she can only assist me when I don't Av cash.. I told her is better you even be a house wife than acting in such manner.

Her Female friend was siding her oo. .
What's you take on this.

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women like these only understand their own emotion and are usually very selfish incase your broke one then or for a while then you will see what I am saying.
you can test her if u think it a lie,assist her with some funds and maybe 2 or 3 days after(be sure she still has money with her) then ask for her assistance.
they only understand when things are going smoothly, but are quick to take their husband lazy in case of little hardship

mimimile93:
Is that lady a naija girl? Because that's how naija girls behaved. They don't have manners. They hate being corrected. Na over sabi dey worry dem

abi many over them are even here on nairaland...always trying to justify their species

lefulefu:
then its obviously bad home training

God help us, we have some here on nairaland. from their comment you shall know them

lefulefu:
there could be sumpting b/2 the two of them that u might not know about

well you could be right tho, but I am sure this man has nothing with this girl. this is not the first person she would be talking to like this, it 's her norm

lefulefu:
there could be sumpting b/2 the two of them that u might not know about

well you could be right tho, but I am sure this man has nothing with this girl. this is not the first person she would be talking to like this, it 's a norm

Ishilove:
Op, first of all your syntax is atrocious. I had a hard time following your narrative because of the lack of proper punctuation marks that pushed your presentation to the edge of incoherence.

Second, you have made the abominable error of generalisation. A rude lady does not represent the entire feminine gender, and how you managed to link a workplace altercation between two adults to the high rate of divorce in modern Nigerian society baffles me and has left me scratching my head.

I thus agree with shaybebaby that your article is a stinky mental far, fouling up the atmosphere sorrounding logic and commons sense, and leading me to the conclusion that many Nairaland youths are irreedambly puerile and are always quick to write jejune epistles on things they no little about.

sorry about any error I have made before, I was actually busy so just typed these in a rush moreover I think you said this to gain attention.

austyn0:
Exactly....This is the kinda thread you find senseless ladies opposing the poster without laying emphasis on the positive side of the message...

I can relate to what op narrated,, after I sighted a young girl incessantly insult an old man who happened to be a commercial bus driver over a mistake on her change,, there and then I decided you did better wrestle a lion than engage in a heated argument with a mannerless lady.

after reading all there comment then I know majority of them are even here on nairaland.
arguing with them is pointless

austyn0:
Exactly....This is the kinda thread you find senseless ladies opposing the poster without laying emphasis on the positive side of the message...

I can relate to what op narrated,, after I sighted a young girl incessantly insult an old man who happened to be a commercial bus driver over a mistake on her change,, there and then I decided you did better wrestle a lion than engage in a heated argument with a mannerless lady.

after reading all there comment then I know majority of them are even here on nairaland.
arguing with them is fruitless

lefulefu:
when you see a young girl insulting a much older man thats old enuf to be her dad then know for sure they both having sex or the old man is toasting her

no they r not, I am sure if it. the girl is just plain rude.

shayubobo:
What is this one trying to say??

that what am saying, mannerless child I just pray you won't talk rudely to someone that will knack you charm one day.

ibkayee:
Lmao he needs to cut it out

because I was doing something so didn't really had time to analyse my point.
yes it a reason for high divorce rate, women like these get to their husband house and also feel they are always right(even when sometimes wrong), they would talk to the husband mother, sister or any other relative anyhow. please tell me which man would ever allowed that even if he settle down with her, will the marriage last.

pocohantas:
So this is the reason for high divorce?



You know we have good women, yet you are asking us who you will marry? Find one of the good women and marry na.

Abi you think as you guys are swallowing tramadol and all sorts, we are not scared of marrying drug addicts that'll butcher us?

yes we have bad men also just like in women

oyb:
The office is not a village. People respect authority, not age.

I guess you are someone like that also you wouldn't mind talking rudely to your father's mate in your place of authority as well.

this happened this afternoon at my workplace, an argument occur between an old man(in is late 50s) and a lady(around 22 or 23).
what happened was that there is this particular guy the man said he doesnt want to see in our work environment although the two were joking but this lady doesn't know that so she was trying to see what the man will do and told the boy to come inside that the baba can not do anything.
This actually made the man angry and the decided to chase the boy out for real and still she was stubborn while trying to make a meanless point. this lead to a heated argument that the lady was extremely rude to this man that I had to try to beg the Bros to please overlook the girl's deed. My opinion:-
1) For this young lady to talk to an old man like that definitely that how she talk to her parent at home
2) I asked my self for this lady to behave like this I wonder how she will treat her husband's family especially her husband mother. most of the time you don't have to be right as a lady, but still you must learn to overlook things
3) Either she is right or not does this give her the audacity to insult a man that is up to your father's age if not older than your father just to prove a point.
4) This are the kind of women that go into marriage and run out claiming victim of domestic violence which I don't support in anyway.
5) Although I am posting this as an example I have had countless experiences, majority of the women we have nowadays have no respect for anyone. then how will they respect their husband or his family at large? please if this continue who are the women we will get married to?
I know we have good women but the rate at which women are refusing to be submissive is becoming alarming

geezynoni:
i wasn't judging

I just think you should know.

geezynoni:
nb: i'm not a muslim

i see people paste niyass' pictures on their walls
some even wear a necklace with his pic on it.. i was curious.. what's it all about?


but brother why u jump into conclusion like Micheal phelps.

yes you right, not only niyass picture other use picture of their sheikh's but the truth is islam condemn all that act.
we have Muslims that listens to music but islam condemn music in fact it said it is an instrument of shaitan so please don't use muslims behavior to judge islam make your findings accurately.