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COWBOYFAN:
Hello Ladies and Gentlemen

I just had a traditional wedding earlier this month. I'm not based in Nigeria. I provided all the finances for the wedding before I arrived Lagos. Everything listed to be bought for the wedding I provided all. To my surprise wedding that was suppose to take place in a hall had to take place in a cramped sitting room. No food, no drinks, no DJ etc. What did they use the funds for? I don't know. I asked questions and no answers given. To be fair to her family members, I didn't give money directly to her parents or siblings. I gave the funds to my wife to be.

Surprisingly on the day of the small wedding, her uncle was accusing me of not providing money to organize the wedding properly. My heart sank. I look in the direction of my wife to be and couldn't believe what just came out of her uncle's mouth. Whereas I provided money for everything. The wedding prayers went ahead and we were joined together.

After the dry wedding ceremony I began to ask questions but my new wife couldn't give me explanation. Fast forward to last week I was looking for money I kept in my drawer and couldn't find it. I decided to just keep quiet and watch. I set another trap. I had some US Dollars in my wallet and exposed the money for her to see. I went to the shower and lo and behold my new wife removed the dollars from my wallet. I got dressed after shower and we went outside to go somewhere together as my driver was in the car waiting. As we were going, I opened my wallet and saw the dollars gone. I blew a whistle right there and she denied it. I asked driver to return home. I had my parent and siblings at home on that day but I can bet my life on them. I told them what's going on. My new wife was all over the place and shaken. I refused to talk to her. I confided in my mother and explained how I set the trap for my wife. Surprisingly my wife started making moves. She planted the money all over the place which I saw as she was doing. I pretended I didn't see her. I refused to talk to her. All of a sudden she confronted me and attacked me that I suspected her to be the one who stole my money. She started saying she stoop so low to allow herself to be ridiculed in the presence of my family. I confronted her with evidence and she began crying and blaming devil. She has done series of money infractions that I couldn't list here. She fights me for money on daily basis since we got married. No money ever enough.

This is a woman that I gave a car to already and spent so much on to be comfortable. I just bought her another car to be given to her on her birthday. On the day she stole the dollars I had just given her 100,000 naira pocket money for the week. She's been crying and begging for two days saying it won't happen again. She has refused to eat.

Here is the bombshell I just confirmed she's now three weeks pregnant. I can't trust my life with her at this juncture. I'm leaning towards divorce. I'm too scared to be with her. She's too greedy.

you don't have sense, do u want to say you don't know her before marrying her or where you blind, deaf and daft while dating. please swerve you don't have excuse.

Kylekent59:
I smoked bro.

man was like many in my eyes.

sowi

wow,it takes alot of maturity for someone to admit his mistake...I SHOULD BE THE ONE TO APOLOGISE FOR RUDE WORD.

Kylekent59:
Fear bloggers


One person has turned into many

SMH

this one doesn't have sense, where is it stated that many? can't you read or are you this dull?

efighter:
Sense of looting? Or sense of commissioning 2nd Niger on the drawing board? Or sense of making your wife richer than all the states in the region?

Abi oooo, to show u how gullible most of our countrymen/women are, they will support Jonathan that his wife want to loot their destiny out.
what a big fool, they are.

ajebuter:
Honestly, Jonathan is a good man..

Given the bad press APC has given this man eh!

He should not even take PMB's phone call much less meet with him almost always..

I respect Mr. Jonathan a lot I swear

how is he a good man?
what bad press did APC give him that he is not guilty of, was he able to tame his wife while she was looting?
None of them is a saint but buhari is better than Jonathan, assuming Jonathan won the 2015 election I wonder what his subordinates will remain of this country after PDP 16 years of mayhem.
I DONT LIKE WOMEN THAT JUST TALK WITHOUT THINKING.

alsudan:
It’s obvious the dullard needs help and Jonathan being Jonathan is there to help. What a Lifeless Presidiot.

so Jonathan is better than buhari with his otueke wife that want to loot NIGERIA out of nigeria.

Azmanaty:
Their Oga knows about this. They have a target they must remit to their heads. I was in a police station last December and I know what I am talking about.

thank God u know

healthserve:
Indeed. The aid workers aren't human beings and the serial killer disguised as a war general is brandished as the victim... Smh

when he served as an ambassador to promote USA goal in 2015 he wasn't an enemy ba, but now when they are not on same terms he is now about to attack them, yeye dey smell.
like I said before HYPOCRISY

healthserve:
Russia the backbone to rogue/thug culture that promotes destruction of innocent lives


Russia you are not above God and will pay for your heinous crimes and hypocrisy in promoting destruction of lives across the world. From Syria to Iran. Russia is puffed to the third heavens but will crumble to the bottom of the sea, you chief supporter of destruction and death of innocent lives.


We dare you Russia to show where you showed solidarity to the slain innocent aid workers. Hypocrisy Shall anyone stand against the almighty and live to testify of the aftermath

this one doesn't have sense, what about Trump that killed a military general on foreign soil. it that not finding trouble enough.
stop being and hypocrite and think with ur brain

Preciousgirl:
And won't this guy too think I have some ulterior motives?

madam u are confused, u as a married woman is sending ur picz to another guy which u know ur husband will keep against. probably this is not ur first time.
Now u still want to continue the said friendship which u know can end ur marriage. Please what is the difference between you and Oliver twist, I pray you said the friendship and marriage without backfire.
Later when you man start looking outside you will be saying men are scum, ur husband has changed bla bla bla meanwhile u were the one that light fire in a gas station.

dannyla:
Hmmmmm, do your friends dictate when to visit your ex or when yo greet her mum?

all i am saying is the type of friends we keep has a huge influence on our lives.

dannyla:
I opened a new account to remain anonymous.
This story is a bit long but pls bear with me.

I met this man almost 2yrs ago at an event a friend invited me to. The next week, he collected my number from my friend and called me, we began talking from there and agreed to go on a date. He proposed marriage to me on the first date which I rejected. I told him that I can't marry outside my church and from the little I've heard from him, our life dreams differ. I decided to cut him off from that day and I stayed away for about 3months. Meanwhile he got my friend to introduce him to my sis, mum and another friend who happened to be from his place, I'll call her Grace.
He made them all aware of his intent towards me and my stand and asked for their help to change my mind. Grace became his biggest ally and convinced me to have another date. He asked that we date for a while and see if we can work out our differences. During the date I noticed he has a very hot and quick temper and he listens to gossip a lot so I do tell Gracethat I don't see a future with him but he was too persistent, Grace always had words of encouragement and considering the fact that for some strange reason, it was mainly married men always approach me for a relationship with stories of how they got married to a wrong woman and they are or are almost divorced, dating a single man with no kids was very tempting and I decided to give it a try.

He asked me to tell him everything about me so there are no secrets between us and I did. Starting from secondary school to that day, I told him everything, from my first kiss, the colleague who tried to rape me, my ex who lied about his marital status and disvirgined me etc. he did the same too and I felt a burden roll off my shoulder.

Few days later I began to notice changes in him especially towards my business. I thrive in a male dominated industry in a ratio of 9men to 1woman. He asked me to show him the pictures of my colleagues which I did, he also asked if they make passes at me which I said is almost inevitable but my boundaries are clear and rigid.

Fast forward to now. I noticed that whenever I drop my phone, he goes through it. Facebook, sms, WhatsApp etc. He even picks my call when I'm not close to the phone. He asked me about a certain colleague who cracks dirty jokes like how I rushed to get married (I told him I'm already married). I didn't think much about it.

He later began to complain about my partners and how I'm sleeping with them like the prostitute I am, called me an unrepentant liar, unsubmisive, manipulating etc. Said he regrets asking for my hand at all and he's just waiting forthe day he'll catch me redhanded so he can dump my sorry a*s.
I told him to end it now cus I'm fed up, family came in and I later found out that Grace has been telling a lot of lies against hoping to get him for herself as well as hate filled advises from some aggrieved friends who felt ladies from my tribe are no good and just there to "chop money". Apologies were said and received and we continued.

Another time I visited him and we had an argument, he gave me several heavy knocks on my head and I developed a headache and began to insult him which resultedin more heavy knocks. I broke up with him and left. Later my mum called him to ask why he laid his hands on me, he denied it swearing with his life. Said I insulted him and he lost his temper and insulted me back that he's sorry. He began to drop messages everywhere and I eventually gave in.

3rd incident happened on our way back from an event. He saw a message from a colleague he told me to stop doing business with cus he feels the man has his eyes on me which is totally not true. He flared up, stopped the car and was even threatening to beat me up. I came down from his car and stood by the roadside. He came down too and gave me the insult of my life in full public view and glare and told me to enter the car which I refused. I had no money on me and had to beg a stranger for money. By that time he was coming back, he quickly took a picture of both of us and sent it to everybody of how he caught me in the act with my lover on the road. He called me and said that if he must marry me, I must break my business sim card and look for a wife friendly occupation or sit at home.

He later apologised over it. Meanwhile he and my sis don't flow as before as he once called her a prostitute.

I want to call it quits but everyone around me feels it's a mistake and he is saying everything out of anger and if I'm patient enough, he will change completely.

I must admit that he has changed alot since we met but the progress compared to the timeframe and the heat I face everyday is nothing to write home about.

He loves me to a fault and I don't know if I can find someone who loves me like him but his other attitude is sniffing life out of me. Do I stay or quit?
Thanks for reading and pardon any typos

from what you typed, I feel the guy loves you he just doesn't know how to show it enough and he also don't want competition or loss you to another man which is a big sign of insecurity.
what type of friends does he keep, he is learning alot from outside. He doesn't know how to handle a woman but I am sure he loves you.
you don't need to sit him down and talk to him because he won't take u seriously, i was once possessive of my ex once

Kindheartedd:
I opened a thread sometime ago about my husband's attitude.

I won't just go into details but all I need now is leave, leave him for good.

My plan is to totally leave the state we live now to a different state to start life all over with my kids. I work, I will make sure they have the best. I won't let my family know my whereabouts. Change my phone number and live a new life.

I do not want any one to link me up with him again. I hate him now. I have heard enough, enough of abuse. He's done more damage to me than good. His is proud and ungrateful.

He is owing me a lot of money but I can let go.

I want to teach him a hard lesson by leaving with my kids before he return from work on Monday.

My advice to young ones especially God fearing ones, don't marry a man who is just a casual Christian, who answers on paper 'Christianity' when asked which religion.

He never believed I can move forward, I struggled to raise my status by hard work n prayer, I went to a private uni, he even insulted my dad to my face that he waisted money on my for sending me to private uni, Haa, my ears twingled when he said it all because I was earning about 100k, he was earning way more than me and he'd never give me peace because he earns more. Named me all sorts of names. I saved little n resigned since there was no hope of earning more money where I worked.

When I asked to open a joint account his response was my income was meant for eating not saving. And ridiculously told me to hide my face for trying to measure him to my standard. That we don't earn the same amount and we can't jointly run an account. For days, he shamed me with that.

I boldly took a decision to resign and I almost end it all but I was putting things in place to get the best in life no matter what. Alas, God helped me and now, I'm doing well and my monthly income is daily getting more than his. I painfully went for a training and have decided to get an office and employ more hands because I can no longer handle tasks alone due to work load and he is killing the dream.

I know him, he wants to frustrate me, he knows the sky is not my limit again even, but I want to teach him a lesson that in his next life he will never talk any human being down.

He is getting worst daily by being abusive, I won't know peace if so stay with him. Now he wants to do what I do, so jealous and unsecured.

I live in a recluse due to my work and I have an abusive man, if not for my belief on God maybe I would have taken my life since.

I was abused as a child, I think the best for me now is live alone. Human beings are not worth it, I hate relationships and marriage now, like it's all a scam. I just want to be alone with my innocent kids.

Am just weak, it's going to be a shame, my friendd n family won't like my decision but I want to send a message to this man. He must learn to respect me, called my brain fish brain,? My own father waisted money on me? I will surely break grounds to send him a message.

Am just in pain, am soo so so sad. Once I leave him I will be a celibate for life. I will never allow any man to make me experience abuse again. Never!!!

be strong ma, the Lord is your strength. some men don't know what they have till dey loss it.
I pray he still come back to his sense and show you the beautiful side of love.

Butterscotch92:
I know I'm going to receive a lot of bashing here but I don't mind as I'm looking for solution. I've been following other related threads on the topic and it seems most men don't forgive women that cheated on them.

I cheated on my man. This happened over a year ago when the relationship was going through a rough patch. Actually I didn't set out to cheat and never planned it.

In fact the person it happened with was a person I was confiding in when I was trying to get solutions to my relationship issues.

This person was my married colleague that I joined to work in his car. I thought I could get mature advice by telling him. I was weak and emotionally down and on one of such days of crying to him it happened in his car.

It happened like 3 more times because I go to work with him and come back with him. But I was overcome with guilt (because he was married and for cheating) that I had to stop. But my mistake was that I didn't cut him off completely.

I remained cordial friends with him since he is a colleague and I stopped joining his car. He also moved to another branch. He called occasionally to try his luck but I never gave in. Somehow my man became suspicious by his calls and one thing led to the other and I had to confess.

My man said he has forgiven but can't get back together again. I have been following other threads with similar topics and I saw that men find it very hard to forgive a woman that once cheated.

In this case I'm truly sorry, I have learnt my lessons and I can never make that kind of mistake again. I don't love the man in question, I never wanted anything from him apart from advice from the onset, I stopped on my own, I only remained friends because he was my colleague. I love my man and will do anything to keep him and win his trust back. I'm not a cheat by nature.

I'm heartbroken and filled with guilt and regret. I can't talk to anyone in my circle for fear of condemnation because I'm wrong in every area.

Please is there any hope for me? How do I go about winning him back? How do I convince him that I truly regret my actions? How do I help him heal?

I will advice you continue begging and add prayers but the truth is the scare will always be there, even if u tell him u want to go to the toilet, a part of him will still be saying u are lying.
that is we men for u.

Kiddinpoh:
Its happening!

Sowore is trending right now. They kidnapped (not arrest oo) someone in a court room. Someone that has FEMI FALANA as a barrister.. Do you think you are safe? PDP or APC, Sowore is evil with his words or not, let us stand up against this barbarism. I am bleeding...

One of the implications, how do you expect foreign bodies to see us? They must have lost confidence in our nation! SHame!

shame is an understatement.

shamsin6300:
Guy if wat u re saying is truth
I think de oda guy dt got her pregnant is nt a hustler, she bliv u re de1 capable of taking care of her needs.

Be Wise

you have sense.

Ghostfaze:
Kindly approve to the homepage, mods.


Hello everyone.
I have an unusual issue at hand and it's really giving me a headache.

I have a girlfriend I met in August this year when I traveled to my state from Abuja. She's beautiful, a graduate, and she's everything I have ever wished to have in a woman or so I once believed.

I loved her and our relationship was going to lead to marriage.

After we met in August I traveled back to Abuja and a few months later her NYSC call up came. She told me about it and we planned that she will serve in Abuja. I paid one NYSC man to work her posting but unfortunately, she was posted to another Northern state.

On her way to the state where she was posted she stopped over at my place in Abuja on the 3rd of November, That night we had sex without a condom and after the sex, I gave her a pregnancy prevention drug tablet I had collected from a doctor.

She refused to take the drugs not until after much persuasions. The next morning, some thick blood mixed with water started coming out of her and she was also having stomach pains so I called the doctor that gave me the drugs and he said we should come to his hospital.

We got to the hospital and after explaining to him what happened the doctor said she was already pregnant before taking the drugs that's why her body reacted that way to the drugs.

She denied that she's pregnant and eventually she had to undergo a pregnancy scan. The result came out negative but the doctor kept on insisting that she was pregnant and that the reason why the result came out negative is because of the drugs she took and how young the pregnancy is.

She left for home angrily that day and I had to beg her to forget whatever it is that happened.

A few days later she left for NYSC camp in the state where she was posted. After two weeks she started complaining to me that she's been feeling cold, hungry, and sleepy often than she used to.

I told her that it could be because of the change of weather and the approaching harmattan season. While she was in camp I was working for her to be reposted back to Abuja and somehow she didn't want to serve in Abuja again. She wasn't really open to me about that but she was subtly letting me know of her desires.

Finally, her reposting worked out and she came down to Abuja three days ago. Today she told me that she wants to go for a pregnancy test and I obliged and escorted her to another hospital different from the one we previously went to the first time she came to Abuja.

After the test and scan, the result said she's 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant. We went to another hospital and the result came out the same.

Remember that I first had sex with her on the 3rd of November. Tomorrow will make it a month I had sex with her but she's already 6 weeks and 2 days pregnant.

I could not understand why she should be 6 weeks pregnant when it's not been up to 4 weeks I had sex with her. I have asked her to tell me if she slept with someone else earlier before she came to Abuja but she has maintained that she did not.

I have equally asked the two doctors we met today plus a few other doctors I spoke with on the phone if they think that I'm responsible for the pregnancy but their answers are all contradicting.

Now I'm confused. She's in my house, with a child I'm certain does not belong to me. I don't know what to do. I'm really really confused. Please, any mature advice would be gladly appreciated.

Thank you!

lolz you don't know what to do.
ok, you will know what to do after training a child that is not your believing it is yours, she is never going to come out clean that is women for u even if u put a gun in her head she will play victim or emotional game with you. they are good at that.
I once catch my girlfriend with my two eyes kissing a guy, when she came to me, she denied she was not the one making me feel like a fool.
6 month later she confessed herself without me forcing her despite making me believe otherwise earlier.
Bros the ball is in your court, if you are expecting her to come clean then you are a gunner abi is it second baby Jesus she is carrying

Mcy56:
Hhmmm. Let me try........Pls know that I'm still learning also.
My ogas will be able to fine-tune it better and add quality to my answers if they're chanced

1. Knowing best stock to buy depends majorly on how healthy the coy is thru their quarterly financial reports. There are analysts who specializes in interpreting these results and can advice if its good, better, improving or simply not doing well. They also give recommendations on whether to buy/hold/sell any of these stocks. Also, some special news may trigger purchase of some stocks, maybe take over or acquisition news, etc.

2. Yes, there are strategies, like buying low and sell high, bear/bull period watch, watch your emotions, be greedy when others are fearful, always monitor performance of your stock, etc. Though I dont know about forex and therefore cant be able to relate it here.

3. Yes. You can start with as low as 5,000 depending on the stock broker you chose to open trading account with. Some dont collect such low amount for a start. Reason Morgan Capital or Mytradebook is recommended here. You can however maximize your profits if you continue to increase your fund by funding your trading account.

4. The likes of Afrinvest, Morgan, Meristem, Greenwich, etc are all registered stock brokers which you can open account with in other to trade. They give regular reports and stock recommendations BUT dont follow it verbatim without carrying out your due diligence. You can ask about it here to get experts' opinions. You dont stop reading comments and financial books. Follow some ogas here. Check this moniker, infinitisi, he has loads of e-books to read too.

Most importantly, continue to follow this thread. We have seasoned experts and gurus here who are always helping and ready to help. They analyse these stocks and give buy/sell recommendations as well. That's it from me for now. Good luck.

sure thanks

Infinitisi:
To succeed in the stock market you need knowledge, far more knowledge than people realise. Without adequate knowledge/financial literacy you are only going to crash. From your questions it is obvious you have little or no knowledge about the stock market. So what I advice are these:

1. You need to first understand what shares/stocks are and how the stock marker works. This is very important. Go online and look for books that explain how the stock market works in simple terms. You can try the one in this link https://zerodha.com/varsity/module/introduction-to-stock-markets/ pls note I haven't read the book and the author is Indian so he will be talking about the Indian stock exchange. But the principle is the same across the world.

2. Decide if you want to be a fundamentalist or a technical trader. A fundamental investor analysis the companies financial results and looks for good, financially healthy stocks to buy at prices lower than what they are worth. He buys to hold for a long time and enjoy long term capital appreciation and/or dividends. He may also sell if prices rises to a level he fills the stock is over prices. The technical trader on the other hand uses technical analysis (just like forex trading) to analyse stock charts and take advantage of short term trading opportunities, buying low and selling high. So decide which side you want to belong and study along that line. You can also combine both strategies. Some do it here.

For a basic intro to fundamental analysis download and read this https://zerodha.com/varsity/module/fundamental-analysis/


For a basic intro to technical analysis download and read this https://zerodha.com/varsity/module/technical-analysis/

3. Do yourself a favour and read the first 50 pages of this thread. Then you can read the last 50 pages of this thread too and from now on keep following the thread. A lot of useful information can be found here and some of your questions will have already been answered here.

4. LAST AND MOST IMPORTANT DO NOT PUT A KOBO IN THE STOCK MARKET TILL YOU HAVE STUDIED AND HAVE AT LEAST A FOUNDATIONAL KNOWLEDGE OF WHAT THE STOCK MARKET IS AND KNOWLEDGE OF FUNDAMENTAL AND/OR TECHNICAL ANALYSIS

Give yourself time. The stock market is here and is nor running away.

Good luck.

thank you so much

Heishere:
This guy is on a long thing. Even Jesus fit no know the answer to your question let alone us humans

the questions I asked are what is puzzling my mind about stock exchange if u can't help no problem.

Mcy56:
Bia, this is not the kind of elementary questions expected and even all the way from 2012.
By the time you reach 2015, we wouldn't have more pages left here again nau. Lol.
It's true you know no jack about this biz but I'll suggest you keep a pen and book beside you and be writing your questions down, as you read further you'll be getting answers to some of the questions by yourself. Some of the early guys were not even here again and those here may be too busy to attend to your questions.
You can however still ask but ask much more important ones.
Anyway, for the questions asked here, Units is the number of pieces or shares purchased. E.g. if you buy 100 oranges at 10naira per one, you pay N1,000 to the seller sheybi. Relate this to buying shares too.
The second question, all those datas/info are available on relevant websites such as company websites, Nigeria Stock Exchange, with the analysts, and all that. Financial books of each coys are made public and can be analysed by individuals/the gurus.
Think I tried.

Please don't be annoyed if I am not able to scroll through the over 5 thousand pages of the trend.
1) How are you able to know the best stock for u to buy and sell and when to buy and sell?
2) Like forex because I have little knowledge of it, are there also strategies used in stock exchange?
3) Also someone posted a question of if he can start with as low as #5,000 but I didn't see any reply
4) On a trend(can't remember the specific one) someone was talking about chaka, wealth.ng, I-invest, afrinvest that they are use to buy and sell stock so I decided to google chaka but the issue is how do I know when to buy and sell and which of them is the best u recommend?

Mcy56:
Bia, this is not the kind of elementary questions expected and even all the way from 2012.
By the time you reach 2015, we wouldn't have more pages left here again nau. Lol.
It's true you know no jack about this biz but I'll suggest you keep a pen and book beside you and be writing your questions down, as you read further you'll be getting answers to some of the questions by yourself. Some of the early guys were not even here again and those here may be too busy to attend to your questions.
You can however still ask but ask much more important ones.
Anyway, for the questions asked here, Units is the number of pieces or shares purchased. E.g. if you buy 100 oranges at 10naira per one, you pay N1,000 to the seller sheybi. Relate this to buying shares too.
The second question, all those datas/info are available on relevant websites such as company websites, Nigeria Stock Exchange, with the analysts, and all that. Financial books of each coys are made public and can be analysed by individuals/the gurus.
Think I tried.

u tried thanks

courage89:
UBA shares was suspended to effectively restructure the organization and to spin off some of the subsidiaries that does not align with UBA's core business. Those subsidiaries are;
1. Africa Prudential Registra Plc,
2. Afriland Properties Plc
3. UBA Capital Plc

As they come back to business now, you will still retain your 10,000 units of UBA Plc.
Also, if you've purchased your shares before December 31st 2012, you will own part of those spin off companies as well. Your new shares will be in the order below;

1. UBA Plc = 10,000 units
2. Africa Prudential Registra Plc = 303 units
3. Afriland Properties Plc = 303 Units
4. UBA Capital Plc = 1212 Units

This is based on UBA ratio of 33:1:1:4

is there a chart or page u were able to read these? please what is unit?

Mcy56:
My dear it's idea I have.
You;ll have to go to the first pages of this thread and read so you can get a grasp of what investing in Stocks is all about.
Thereafter, you'll open a trading account with a stockbroker , fund it and start trading. Morgan Capital recommended.
Always feel free to ask questions on what you dont understand here.
Dont be too forward or take rash decision, read financial/investment books and always follow this thread..........and, you are good to go.

thanks

Mcy56:
Loco, try and buy some units back and just keep for long term, the long might not even be long afterall.
Eyes are on UACN now.

I have checked your comments for a whole now and I see u have some knowledge about stock exchange, can u please put me through I am a novice.

stockbull:
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please read my disclaimer that's effective on any stock pick recommendation you get here
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YOU SHOULD CONSULT YOUR TRUSTED INVESTING COUNSELLOR OR YOUR BROKER BEFORE YOU INVEST IN MY RECOMMENDED STOCKS AS YOU KNOW STOCKS RESPOND TO NEWS AND NO ONE CAN PREDICT WHAT WILL HAPPEN TO ANY STOCK IN THE NEXT DAY AND THE FUTURE DECISION OF ANY COMPANY 'S MANAGEMENT

please I want you to put me through on stock exchange, I am a novice

Adviseasister:
Good evening Nairalanders,

I had to create a new moniker for this, but I believe my guy will know this is for him.

Sometime last year I received a PM from a nlder. After going through his posts, I was pleased and we started talking. One thing led to another and we started a relationship. I must confess he is everything a woman wants in a man, he brought out this part of me I never knew existed and he did it so easily. We started seeing a future, I was happy.

Fast forward to February this year, I noticed a decline in communication. I complained and he blamed it on work. It continued and I had to ask what the problem is, he maintained it was work.

By March, things got worse and I have not been able to concentrate at work. I send him voice-notes and he responds hours later. I send messages and he responds with one word. I must also add he doesn't pick my calls at night anymore, but his NL profile would be seen online, though he won't comment.

I do not know what to do as I can't bring myself to love someone else as I love him. It is a long distance relationship and I do not know what to do. Is it possible he is facing challenges there and doesn't want to share?

Should I wait for him to come around or move on? Has anyone been in this situation before, how did you manage it? I feel so heartbroken.

let me say this plain "DONT WASTE YOUR TIME WITH SOMEONE THAT IS NOT SERIOUS"

JaneKenedy:
I have always been a free spirited person. For instant, I don't segregate who I speak with, I accommodate all sane person except there's a reason I shouldn't associate with the person. Giving you my contact is not a problem for me, it's picking your calls or saving your contact finally, indicates you in my good book.
Then I got married, I stopped many of this but giving contact and speaking with strangers, I couldn't stop. My husband married me as a virgin at 30. Even while we were dating I still maintained my stand. We did everything but any form of sex. We are just I year old in the marriage by the way.
I already mentioned I'm a free spirited person but that doesn't mean I don't play mind games. I never hide anything even my daily encounter from my husband. But when ever I tell him about meeting someone new, what we discuss and how we ended, he would flare up and start quarrelling with me. That I talk to strangers, don't I know I am married, indirectly calling me a flirt. I have left the house several times for him. Everyday we would be talking about samething. I told him I cannot stop meeting people and telling him about it.
We are practically always together that he could tell where to meet me even if there was no prior calling to know my whereabout. If my phone is not reachable for any reason, he has and knows who to call to reach me. He knows my daily engagements like that.
Even when things happened in his absence, I tell him the exact way it happened even if I was at fault or not. Just the way it happened.
Most times he comes home very late but I don't have problems with that again, provided I was able to hear from him.
He is very caring and loving too.

Yesternight, his numbers wasn't going through, it was getting late as usual. I didn't know how to reach him and he was still out of town when I heard from him last. Around 9pm, I haven't heard from my husband, he hasn't called. I came out to a nearby bar where he usually spends his time, he wasn't there, I sat with my friend who sells food in the evening, a young girl, then I met his policeman friend and was complaining that I haven't heard from him.
Then later I went to our house to go and continue waiting oo. Since it was already late.

Around 10:20pm, no sign yet, I came out again now saw him. He was just coming back. I was angry a bit but I calmed my self down because we were outside and I also was thinking he must be tired.

So I beckoned on him to let's go, he insisted we sit and have some drinks.
We formed a table of four, the food seller friend of mine and one drunk guy, he said the guy is his brother.
So while we were drinking, he( my husband) needed to talk with one of our Compound's guy there, so he moved to their table.

I left the drunk, smoking guy at the table and I and my gf( the food seller) went to her table, every thing is within 7-9 Meters range.

While we were seated at the food stand, gf narrating her encounter to me, I was still with my drink in a glass. A guy came, all of us sometimes sit there in the evening. One thing led to another oo, he was thinking I was having a stout because my eyes were already weak. He said he would drink out of it to prove it, my husband and his friend were around watching us.
I said no wahala, let me finish, I would give him the last glass. I did.

My husband came to tell me, what that guy(our Compound's guy) said, that someone collected my drink from me, I was like wow, what's wrong in giving somebody my drink.
A drink I didn't want to take again. I was hearing, I am not supposed to give my drink to him, I asked if they knew what transpired....we started another quarrel. This time around he accused me of flirting with the guy. Me!.... I told him, he would have told his friend that that was nothing.

If we started listing rights and wrong, it was wrong of us to be outside by that time looking for who?

I have thick skin for what people think of me from afar but someone I share a home with...I can't really deal.

Please, what do you think about this whole story, if I'm wrong in anyway kindly point it out, and my husband what do you think of his reaction, if you were in his shoes and I was your wife, would you think or behave as him

I am beginning to feel my marriage is not right. Someone that cannot trust me, I don't understand.

Please, what do you think. No insult please . Call a spade, a spade, I wouldn't mind

your husband loves you, he is just feeling insecure and listening to hearsay. I would suggest u both visit a therapist where u could both pour ur minds out.

Hannah346:
Hi Nl,
I 've been in this relationship for 3 years now...
We were happy and loved each other..... Then three years into the relationship, my bf started behaving strange and funny...

He doesn't call or text like before and when I talked to him about it , he always pick fights with me...I decided to keep mute...

Then one day I was at his place and decided to go through his phone( something I hardly do unless I needed to send pics or videos on my phone)...I found out he has been cheating with a girl he met on IG and they have been seeing each other and having sex....they even send nudes to each other on WhatsApp...

I was really hurt and I woke him up...he begged and said he was sorry that it was a mistake but I didn't listen and left...later that week he called me and said it was over between us ..I was really shocked cuz I didn't understand what was happening..... I went to his place that day to confront him and there he said I was boring and am not what he wants ...I was confused cuz none of my ex or anyone else ever told me I was boring.... I begged him and told him I could change but he said it was over...

After a few days I started seeing pictures of him and that girl he cheated with on WhatsApp... I couldn't help but stalk him on fb and IG and it turned out they were really having fun and ....

I deleted his number and blocked him on all social media and decided to move on....I decided to stay off relationship since then around June

Then around October... He called and said we should meet up that he wants to talk to me....I met with him and he apologized for what he did..I asked him about what he said to me then and he said he didn't mean the 'I was boring' .I told him it was past and its forgotten but deep down I was still hurting and I felt like smashing his head right there but I was cool......
Since then we have been talking and chatting but I found out the girl left him for another guy....

He said he still loves me and he is asking me out again and I don't know if I should give him another chance cuz I still love him...I told him we should just be friends for now ...on the other hand am still hurting about what he did.....
We have Been hanging out alot and am loving him more everyday
Am very emotional and I think I might give him another chance if I continue seeing or chatting him...
Should I just forget him and move on or give him another chance
Pls advice.... Thanks

lolz, I will suggest a fellow woman like u advice u better because u don't sound serious.
You typed it yourself that the girl he left u for followed another man that why he came back for u and u are still saying u love him more. well it is left to u since u don't want to have sense now maybe after he shift ur womb or have countless abortion for him then u would.

midnighter:
I was seriously expecting to see "click here to read more" at the end of the post, but its actually real

Sister sorry oh, the thing is that you dont know what the friend will do Until you pick his call and see what he wants to tell you. Maybe he wants to have an agreement with you too.

Having said that, I think you would still need to come clean to your fiance at some point so that you dont start the marriage on the wrong foot and anyway, its not like you cheated on him. Are you sure he would really cancel the wedding over this?

Chai! What a horrible coincidence, sorry.

believe me if @lucyliz can confess to her man, although he might say he has forgive her but he won't forget, that is why we are men, the memory of his friend ever tasting his wife won't erase.
That is why I said it is only the friend that can help out by acting mature and forgetting the past, if she strike deal with the guy, he will sure take advantage of her. Let her just continue ignoring the guy, he won't be sure of what is in lucyliz mind, it is called mind game.

Lucyliz:
Please I am really scared and confused right now. I need serious advice.

It happened when I and my boyfriend broke up due to some misunderstandings, we were not engaged then.

We broke up and didn't contact each other for weeks. Then I traveled to Ogun state at my grandma's place for somethings. I met this guy and we got along well. We go on outings, had fun and eventually had sex. After that it dawned on me and I regret it. I ignored him for some days and later came to my grandma's place to look for me.

We talked and he told me he want us to start a relationship. I declined and told him I have no feelings for him.

After a week I left Ogun state and came back to Lagos.

Afterwards I got back together with my ex and now we are engaged. We haven't picked a wedding date yet but we planned it to be next year.

Fast forward to last Month, my fiance told me he needed to rent an apartment for one of his friends coming to lag to stay permanently.
He got the apartment and the guy came to lag..
I didn't get to meet him until after a week...
I was in a mall with my fiance and he called him telling him he need to go out since he was bored. He came to the mall and behold it was this same guy I met in Ogun State. I knew I was doomed .... I got really scared and nervous at the same time cuz my bf never mentioned or showed me his pics before...

He was only looking at me without saying anything except to my fiance... I was even scared of leaving their midst cuz I was scared he would tell my fiance....

Later that week he called me with a different line and told me it was him. I ended the call immediately on hearing his name....

I can't tell my fiance what happened btw us or he would never forgive me...

The guy has been calling but am not picking his calls am scared of what he might say...

I told my friend abt it and she asked me to have an agreement with the guy never to tell my fiance but am really scared about everything and confused....

But then I remember have seen his face on my fiance phone before but didn't pay attention cuz he was on lowcut there...

Have been acting funny around my fiance especially when the guy is there and he is starting to suspect something is going on...pls help me...

I can't lose my fiance and I don't want the wedding called off...

Pls kindly advice but I can't tell my fiance cuz he often tells me he can't have a taste of what his friends have tasted...

I can't stop thinking and crying...

Pls help me I beg u all

I can't advice u to tell ur fiance because if u do, he will neva believe u again. I can't advice u to make a deal with the guy because he might want to take advantage of that or use it to blackmail u.
all i can say now is ur past is haunting u, just pray the guy does not talk and don't try to form extra friendly just let things be, if the guy is matured he will keep ur secret but like I said before don't let him take advantage of u

infonet247:
Hello Nairalanders,

I am really in disbelief and in shock hence am writing this here for all to advice me on what to do.

I am a man of 35yrs old and have been dating a lady for three years now and told her this December 2019, my people will come for the traditional marriage having gone for introduction earlier.

After two months of introduction, she became worried and started feeling unease. I told her ok to make things easier and for you to believe I will marry you, I transfered 1.5m into her account for the traditional and white wedding, promising to add more wen we finally draw up the full list.

Then the unexpected happen, we plan going to Aba to get the traditional marriage items last Saturday, which we later purchased but to my utmost disbelief she had accepted another guy by Thursday in case am not serious!

Am shock because during the week of us going to Aba, I had sent 100k into her account by Wednesday to hold for the journey only for her to accept or tell another guy to come. Then by Sunday after the items have been bought, she sent the new guy a txt that she doesn't want again.

My question is, should I continue with her since she could act like this? Should I go ahead with the marriage or call it Off? Pls I need advice.

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all she wants is for a man to put a ring on her hand women like that after 3/4 years or more inside marriage are usually not faithful and that is when their true behavior shows