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Yeah Sussie, You're right. I ususally don't comment on such topics as most seem unreal.  Had to check his profile too, that means he's genuine and the story is real.
@Poster
Realy sorry about your case but honestly don't know what to tell you. it's really a difficult situation but just like everyone else have advised, Please do all you can to restore the Happiness in your marriage. Divorce should be a last resort. Communication is the key here. Try talking to your wife and find out where either of you is lacking in your responsibilities and sort it out. No marriage is irredeemable. Commit it to God in prayer and please, stay away from ur subordinate! I hope you know that's adultery and concentrate on restoring your marriage.

Ehm, Mr Baba, I quite appreciate your efforts at trying to help reduce the unemployment rate but why at such an exorbitant fee- 7500?
These are unemployed graduate for crying out loud. Where do you expect them to get that kind of money?
Dragnet is not doing anything new that other consulting firms have not been doing for graduates even without collecting a dime from them. I am a beneficiary of one of them. I got my present job through Mactay Consulting without paying a dime. Why can't you guys do the same if you realy want to help after all the Companies you are recruiting for will still pay you.

@Poster
If you really want people to comment on this topic, pls make it shorter. I for one couldn't read it and am sure same goes for a lot of people out there. So please do us all that favour ok?

Thanks dear, just sent my cv to you. Hope I qualify.

Check out these links
http://www.mtnonline.com/careers/vacancies.asp
http://www.careersatceltel.com/careers/celtel/VacancyList.aspx?CompanyID=36&BusinessUnitID=272&DivisionID=0&CityID=0&Keyword=
http://www.shell.com/home/content/nigeria/careers_recruitment/dir_jobs_and_careers.html

BlackMamba:
With the number of Nigerian men living abroad, I wonder how those unrelated incidents reflect on the character of every Nigerian man abroad. There is bound to be saints and murderers in any given population. Don't twist facts to suit your goal.

Thanks Blackmamba, U took the word right out of my mouth.
@ Finemocha, I've noticed from your previous posts here https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-22287.64.html#msg1637376 that u really have a big issue against nigerians. Fine, our image as a country is nothing to write home about especially in the International community, but that does not mean that all Nigerians are bad, and putting a general tag on Nigerian men in Diaspora as 'wife murderers' is taking it a bit far don't u think so? Nigerians may be known for their fraudulent activities(419, Internet fraud etc and of course other countries are also involved), but when it comes to cases like this, the Americans are usually the culprit. I'm not saying that Nigerians are not capable of murder but putting Nigeria in the box of anything 'bad' is not going to help us. It is still our country and we are and will still remain Nigerians. We can't run away from that fact, and the least we can do is to individually and collectively do our best to redeem our image and stop giving other countries reasons to continue having a bad impression about us.

1 Cor 7:39
"The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord"

So my dear poster, there's nothing wrong in that. The much you can do (I beleive you're an adult and matured) is to talk to her and guide her in making the right choice if that is what she wants and PRAY for her. It is well.

dennylove:
AND SO WHAT!!!!! IS HE THE ONLY ONE,MY DAD IS LATE TOO,WELL, WHERE YOU SAY YOU LIVE SELF, OK CALIFORNIA? KAARE OMO DAADAA,WELLYOU ARE TALKING FROM THE AMERICA EXPERIENCE

What has her staying in America got to do with this? What she is trying to let u and any other chauvinistic male out there know is that as long as the husband is late, there is nothing (morally, socially, religiously ,read 1Cor 7:8-11 e.tc) wrong in the woman remarrying. God! sometimes I get tired of the hypocricy and selfishness of our menfolk. If it were to be the other way round, then nothing is wrong with the man remarrying, but when it concerns the Woman, she doesn't have any need for a companion except to take care of her children abi? Na Wah for men O!

dejosh:
wetin we go invest with?she na our teeth?abi u want make we go steal?we no get job u say make we invest.Abi d moni go come from heaven?
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LMAO! ha ha haaa! dejosh abi o! U don talk am finish.
Nairaland!, there's always something to make one's day.

Are U serious?
Wonders shall never end!
Did youraunty and her husband do anything about it? Is there no authority to report to, at least so that people can be warned b/c am sure most of the mothers that left their kids there are ignorant of this as no mother will want another woman to breastfeed her baby. God! I can't even begin to imagine this, so disgusting.

Bros, na your view, not the creation account. The woman was not created as an afterthought. Let me explain - when God asks man a question, is it because he doesn't know the answer? or he wants the man to realize and see himself? Did God know beforehand that man would sin? He did; and he already made the provision via the lamb that was 'slain from the foundation of the world' (Rev.13:8, 1Pet. 1:20).

God is omniscient. Verse 18 of Genesis 2 clearly shows that God knew that it was not good for man to be alone, here he had already purported to "make him a help meet for him" - showing that that need could not be met in any of his existing creation at that time (ie animals), yet in the next verse God decided to show him animals and let man realize this need. The fact that God decided to show man his need (ie for a wife) does not mean that he had not been aware of the need himself, nor that he had not planned to create the woman. It was to allow the man to realize the special place the woman has in relation to him and God's creation in general.

So again, no need for the rest of your post. Cheers .

@ Ricadelide
I love this. Thanks.

@ Topic
Polygamy was never God's ideal plan for man as has already been explained just like so many other things that came up as a result of sin. But though not categorically called 'sin' in the Bible, God sort of 'allowed' it probably due to the fact that it was the prevailing culture in the society then, but that did not make it right. And for those qouting the patriachs that were involved in polygamy, a closer look at their lives , you will notice that with the exception of the Kings(David and Solomon) and a few others, circumstances led the others into polygamy. Abraham took another wife b/c Sarah was barren, Jacob was tricked by his father in-law into taking Leah his first daughter instead of Racheal who he actually laboured for. Even at that, they could not escape seeing the
consequences of their choices. It brought problems and strifes within the homes; Hagar despising Sarah which eventually led to her been driven away, Jealousy and envy b/w racheal and Leah which led to an unhealthy competition for their husband's love, this was also extended to the children (remember Joseph and his brothers). And this is still happening today. Even David and Solomon were not exempted, check their family lives and you can't help but notice the negative impact of polygamy especially among the children.

@ Dennylove
Which planet are u from? What is cursed about a single mother remarrying? With the exception of divorcees, even the bible recommends that a widow can remarry if she so desires. So what are u saying? It's just that we don't have the full jist. But if the father is late, nothing and I mean absolutely nothing is wrong in the woman remarrying, GETIT?

Nice Documentary , but no comment on the sharia issue
As long as they accept it and confine its practices within and among themselves, then no problem

Although, am a guy but i find this statement funny and ludicuros,  . If couples are fighting, what else can a woman do to prove her point if not by witholding sex?. So during a quarrel in the marriage, is that when the man should have the ballz to straff his wife? What should the woman do? open her legs and allow her husband hump her while she forwns, then when he's done, he turns his back and resume the quarrel, right?!.

That singular act of opening your Vajayjay is enough to escalate and elongate the quarrel because the man is getting what he wants and he's not even feeling any pain, so bobo would think he's actually right, while you the woman you are getting double suffering. First, you are been ramshackled and bamboozled on the bed, secondly, your husband is still quarrelling with ya and he doesn't seem to be the easy one to bulge, Hahaaaa, haba! where in the world is this done apart from Naija, it doesnt even happen like this in war torn Darfur or Mogadishu   .

Deny a man of sex and see the baby in him. He Gonna be sulking around like a 1year toddler not only that, thats when hes Gonna be looking for one unlost  pen & paper in ya bedroom,don't mind his antics, he's finding it hard to tell you he needs some @ss tonight!   After some time then he starts to compromise and renegiotiate his stand and before you know it the quarrel is over. For the ladies : If you go open ya leg during quarrels, don't eva expect your wahala to end then!

CAVEAT: PLS READ WELL; This advise is very very conditional o!. It would only work if you know your husband very well. If your Husband is like me, i would crawl back to renegotiate with ya because i detest Infidelity like Sh@@@t. Its filthy, Gosh away game sucks   . However if you know your husband would chase anything in wrapper and skirts, (including a chicken wearing G-string or a Fulani cow wearing a lingerie) then this advise aint  4 ya!

ROLFMAO!  

Rikkyjen, u're a clown. I don laugh tire here o!

You're right in a way you know, It doesn't really make any sense for the woman to open up to her husband when she's angry. The man will be enjoying himself while the woman is dying in silence (I wonder how that kin thing go fit work ). But anyway,  I think the principle that Texapette is trying to lay down here is that couples should'nt let any disagreement b/w them get to that extent. They should Try as much as possible to resolve it before dawn, that way the issue of 'banning' anyone will not arise.

Na Wah!!!! _{shakes head and zooms off}

Hope this is not coming late

The Old Rugged Cross

Stanza 1
On a hill far away, stood an old rugged cross,
The emblem of suffering and shame
And I love that old cross, where the dearest and best;
For a World of lost sinners was slain.

Refrain
So I'll cherish the old rugged cross
Till my trophies at last I lay down,
I will cling to the old rugged cross;
And exchange it someday for a crown.

Stanza 2
To the old rugged cross, I will ever be true,
His shame and reproach gladly bear,
And the dear lamb of God, left his glory above;
To bear it to dark calvary.



Also, 'He Touched me'

Shackled by a heavy burden,
Neath' with a load of care
Then the hand of Jesus touched me'
And now I am no longer the same.

Refrain
He touched me, oh He touched me,
And oh the joy that floods my soul,
Something happened and now I know,
He touched me and made me whole.

If you don't mind working in a bank, you can try applying there since most of them recruit ONDs (though mostly on conract basis), At least I know of UBA, Union Bank, and Oceanic. Don't ask me how you can apply because I don't know, but you can walk up to any of their branches and make enquiries or better still go to their head offices if you're in Lagos.

This is really a difficult situation. The fact that you gave the guy all those information about your SIM made it easy for him to tamper with your line and will make it difficult for you to convice anybody in customer care otherwise. I will suggest you go to any MTN friendship center nearest to you with your SIM pack and Certificate as proof of ownership of the line and the supposed text message from MTN ie if you have not deleted it, I'm sure they'll take it from there. Goodluck.

Banks are not the only culprits, other sectors like the Telecoms, Oil and Gas are also involved. I am a victim in one of them- MTN. I also hear celtel does the same. For Oil companies, it's not that obvious since they pay them very well, but contract is contract sha.
It's realy unfair that these organisations are taking advantage of the prevalent unemployment in the country to exploit graduates. The discrimination is something else, no allowances, no benefits, no provision for healthcare, you can't make use of the staff bus and yet you do the same work with the full staff if not more. Infact initially there was no provision for leave for contract staff in my place of work. It took a colleague that put to bed, loosing her job (since she had to go on a compulsory leave) before that policy could be reviewed.

I think it's high time the Govt and Labour do something about this, at least if they can't stop it entirely,there should be a policy in place stipulating a time frame for one to be under contract after which the company absorbs the person. Can you imagine someone being a contract staff for more than three years without any plans in place of absorbing the person and when you leave, you leave with nothing. It's really disheartening, God will help us sha.

I have found out that a larger percentage of people, particularly youths listen to music for the words, not necessarily the aesthetics of the music

I don't agree with that o, The rhythm and 'aesthetics' are the first and major attraction. Or what do you have to say about a music like that of Awilo which I'm sure most Nigerians don't even understand the lyrics and yet even small children will sing and dance to it from A-Z. No wonder the gospel artists now had to come up with their own gospel Makossa because they know that's what appeals to the senses of the youth and my dear, this is where we need to apply caution as Christians. The devil is a master in the game, since he can't get you to dance to the secular makossa, why not the gospel makossa since the lyrics are good abi.There is just a thin line b/w so my own is, BE CAREFUL!

Did u say 50K? My God! That is more than some people's salary o. See what unemployment is causing. I think it is a scam, though I don't know about Workforce, but are they not suppose to reach an agreement with the coy they're recruiting for to deduct the amount from the employees salaries if they're genuine? At least I know that's what most of these consulting firms do. They don't collect physical cash from prospective employees, but will rather deduct an agreed percentage from ur salary. So pls guys, let's be careful o.

wosiljoy@yahoo.com:
did this happen in Nigeria - u fool.

So until it happens in Nigeria, then you can heed to the advice abi? When we heard about the spread of HIV/Aids in other countries, people thought it was not their business and so couldn't care less about protections against it. Now what do we have today- a country with a good number of its citizens living with HIV/Aids. Anyway, the choice is yours, you can take it or leave it but you don't have to be insultive.

Pls can someone help me with the paper where it was advertised and the date?

+osisi:
these men should stop running home to marry ,
There are plenty of women here to go around.
Women who are already here are not tickled by those things that will shark a girl coming from Nigeria.
But no,you men want "untouched girls from isiekenesi"
give them 3 years and they'll become more american than an akata.
that is the problem

ROFLMAO
Osisi, you realy cracked me up there. You be real Igbo woman o.

Thnks, just sent in my application.

Sorry if it came out like an insult. But i think we have a forum for showcasing ur business or 'Enterprenural ideas'. And even if u must post it on the Job section, then create a new thread for it, instead of digging up old threads and posting the same thing all over like he did.

@Forex Guide
Go get a life!

Warfy Boy:
NA WA OHHH, I GO think am 2ice ohh, because i no fit sit down 4 house make my sholy dey tell me say make i go dey arrange [wash] her ondies ohhh, insohrt to b honest, any house were woman b breadwinner the man no dey get say @ all, n na the woman the children go respect pass because na she dey provide 4 them, there may b peace and harmony in the family bt the children go respect there mom c pass pile
bt e still get some woman wey dey find husband to help am control moni ohhh

BUT THE FACT IS THAT ITS HAS ADVANTAGE N DISADVANTAGE

Says Who? I can tell u that for a long time now and even as at now my Mum has been earning and still earns more than my Dad and It has never changed our respect for our Dad. It all depends on the Woman, if you have a responsible wife, then that wouldn't be a problem. Infact, we the children never got to know until we all became adults and it was even our Dad that told us. Even the car he drives was bought by my mum and we never knew cos she doesn't drive.

Pilgrim! Pilgrim!
Go Girl! You tell them.

Thnx fo the info. Pls I have a brother, though he is not a graphic artist by profession (he read Physics) but he's got the talent. Can he apply?

@ Osereka and Kinkydawg

Fine, such things happen but pls let's look at this particular situation. If the girl was deliberately seducing the sister's husband, wouldn't she had been happy that her ploy was yielding fruit? Does it make any sense that she should be worried even to the extent of leaving her sister's house, if that was actually what she had wanted. Besides, she only asked for advice b/c her parents and sister obviously don't understand her decision to move out of the house, thus complicating things for her. So pls guys, inasmuch as we've not heard from the other side, one does not need more than common sense to analyse the situation on ground. Let's stop being insultive & trying to justify the man's actions and give our advice and if you don't have one just ignore the thread, period!