DrAda:
Funny thread. I applaud your vision but I doubt that it will take off.

You see, the main reason why women wear wigs is the ease and comfort. It is also cheaper in the long run.

Natural hair, which I have at the moment, is extremely difficult to manage, no matter the products used. Some of these prodcuts are very expensive. The time spent every morning trying to beat it into shape to align with your outfit and the occasion, is not for the faint-hearted. You will most definitely be visiting the salon often which again is an absolute waste of time and money.

Someone mentioned that natural hair shrinks. That is putting it mildly. Not only does it shrink to less than a third of its length, it becomes extremly hard requiring you to apply heat and more products just to straighten it out section by section. This alone can take hours.

If you are graying out, then be ready to apply dyes just to look good. And talking about looking good, not all women look good in their natural hair. In truth, most look unprofessional because again, it is extremely difficult to whip into shape particularly if you have short natural hair or if your long natural hair has shrunk and its texture is rough.

You talk about the whites/chinese looking after their hair to get that sleek, beautiful look. But you forget that most of them have tools/gadgets all of which requires electricity. You are a Nigerian, is this feasible? Are these tools affordable?

I can go on and on but I simply don't have the time. Your vision is noble but like i said earlier, it won't catch on. A lot of factors must be considered beyond creating new high-end local products and competitions for best hair. Good luck

You are absolutely right. I have natural hair and maintaining it is not beans. It is easier said than done. My natural hair is unusually softer and fuller which is why I am still able to wear it after all these years (this is about 8 years). I can easily pack and comb it and I don't have to spend so much grooming it. A lot of women are not that lucky, if you know what people spend to maintain their natural hair, it is financially draining. I have a lot of friends who went from natural back to either low cut or relaxing because they just could not cope with the demands. Well, whatever rocks the OP's boat.

I went through the OP's previous threads and was thinking I would see something like "wife cheated on him", is sleeping around or something serious like 'she trying to kill him' but I read nothing of such. So because of 'sex', this man happily divorced his wife, denied her assess to her children and is proud of saying it. Hei God, abeg o, nothing wey person no go see for this world. I sha hope you will able to explain this to your children.

Sleekfingers:
Lots f children in this forum.

Not just children, but very unintelligent and useless ones. There are very smart and useful children at least, but the ones on Nairaland eh, God forbid!

See as people dey dish advise anyhow while some are already abusing the girl. Anyway, I blame the OP for not including the information about the wife's siblings' ages in his original post. THEY ARE ALL CHILDREN for God's sake, the oldest is 17 yrs according to him, so leaving them behind or asking that they should work is ridiculous. It is definitely a sad and tough situation; no responsible elder sister would want to leave her underaged siblings out there on their own.

accordadoga:
Awon oloriburuku y.e.e.b.o

Dem wan start Biafra or Death in disguise using ‘the election was rigged’

THE LION OF BOURDILLON (ASIWAJU) IS BIGGER THAN THE WHOLE OF SOUTHEAST (x5)

You guys are very funny, it has become an Ibo matter now. An election that was obviously rigged with evidences all over and people are calling for due process to be followed. You guys are very pathetic. Tueh!

Afolue:
Your mum is seeking more attention. Not getting her involved as much as your mother in-law is where you made the mistake. Have you forgotten you hav married your wife into your family? And no more hers. Your mum should be the one doing what your mother in-law should be doing instead. Try and be sensitive!

How, please?? Abi you are reffering to a different culture? In which culture does the man's mother do omugwo?? Or I did not read well From what he wrote, the mother-in-law came for omugwo because the wife went into labor which eventually happens to be false. So, how exactly is that supposed to be his mother's responsibility? Omugwo can be shared among the 2 mothers based on understanding but the sole person responsible by culture is the woman's mother. So what exactly are you talking about??

Okealaaye:
If your friend were appointed Special Adviser to a Governor in May where will your present conduct lead you? I've seen it happen before. Learn to endure. You're complaining because you believe that your friend is lowly. Remember that Nairalanders will not be around when God turns your friend's night to day. Forbear, Ma'am, forbear!

Forbear what biko? If she likes let her be the president, so? With this kind of attitude?? OP is not complaining because she thinks her friend is lowly; in fact b/w the two of them who is more stable financially? Abi you did not hear that she is jobless and the so-called friend has a job; yet common sense did not tell her that she needs to help out with running a home that she has been graciously accepted into. She does not even help with house chores nor cooking; are you seriously kidding me now?? Please she has a stinking attitude and will even be worse by the time she becomes that your Special adviser.

oyin44:


All these are your imagination.

Don't be an educated fool.it won't work that way..

The political agents are the ones to do it

Structure is the only way out..

You guys are very funny. All these your structure thing; Except, you guys plan to rig the election, Is it the structure or the political agents that will force me to vote a candidate on election day?

Jennyclay:
Uber kwa? Biko, don't put someone's daughter in poverty. I will also leave you in the relationship if I found out that you're Uber driver. How much are you even making a day that you're bragging .

You cannot deceive us with all these audio millions you're quoting up there, you better go and work hard. Is it Love she will eat in the relationship ? Haba!

God Abeg o!

You sef, are you serious?? How does driving Uber equate to poverty? Is that even a priority in a relationship? At least, he is hardworking and trying to make a living. No wonder some men think women are all about material things.

jahsharon:


Kick her out. Nonsense without ingredients

Do you know what he did to his wife and 1-year-old daughter

Go back here and read: https://www.nairaland.com/5705389/think-wife-witch and the sequel here: https://www.nairaland.com/6787206/1-years-old-witch and then come back and analyse this your advise.

@OP:I remember this story well. Chai! You're even lucky the woman even agreed to come back to you oga. I wish you well o.

iamL:
Are u occult?
If no why do you avoid prayers?
U have a problem like this and u are you are not close to God? Bring God into your family as the head.

Have a family meeting and table this issue once and for all.

Take care of your childs medical needs do not leave it to your wife since she doesn't see it as a medical issue.

You see all this people going to prayer houses I don't even like staying the same environment with them cos Everyone is a witch to them.

The fact that someone avoids prayer does not automatically make them occultic. Everybody must not be a Christian, some people are not just religious. They might go to church as a custom, but that does not mean they are spiritual. There are people who are atheists and you don't expect them to like prayers of any kind. Besides. only God knows the kind of prayers his wife offers with this her attitude of jumping from one prophet to another. I'm a Christian but you see, it's not every kind of prayer that you will see me involve myself with eg all this die by fire prayer; they are not for me.

deepwater:


This is because the OP didn't start by bashing his wife....respect for his wife is written all over his post. You can't insult such a thread if the OP acts within reasonableness

You're very right. Even at that, I still see some yeye people insulting his wife calling her lazy and insinuating she must be cheating on her husband. In fact, some people can never get sense.

NoSentiment:



You are the real joke because u can have tolerance for people with opposing views and ideology to urs.

You still support Israel allow lgbtq to have kids via surrogacy even though it violates ur bible because of sentiment

Lol, see comparison! At least you said 'allowed' not 'forced'. That is the BIG difference, make una dey try to understand. Religion should never be out of compulsion.

Bishopsgate:


My niece was extremely lucky not to be statistic. She and some of her friends, who were helping an elderly man push his broken down vehicle opposite the school, escaped by jumping into the gutter. She got home crying and shaking. Her mother has been singing worship songs since she got home

So this is true, God! I was hoping it was a rumour. What is happening ??

Lostchild:


SHUT UP Your useless mouth and stop quoting me with your foolishness.

If you have f'vck too many men in your past, go and ask God for forgiveness and reap the consequences of your lust.

Everybody cannot be stupid and foolish like you. No wonder you are LOST. Idiot!

Lostchild:


Only few wise fellow like you understand this. Many people today are suffering over the sins and past life of their fathers and many keep doing worse than that of their father.

They will say, let forget the past.

Later, the past will start hunting their future.

This una Wisdom=foolishness; If you cannot forgive a 'LovePeddler', THEN DIVORCE HER. Nobody forced you to marry her in the first place, and if you can't deal with her past as a matured person, then do needful and stop acting like a child and claiming 'wisdom' Nonsense!

Oyiboman69:
after going through some comments on here...I really understand where you're coming from.

the only problem you have is trying to weave your spouse in your situation as the cause. however, you can take a break, tell your wife that you'll be traveling to a far away place, go on,drink beer,party, bang enough pussies,met different people and come back after one or two months. don't forget that there are some generation who don't use hand set and computer which we are enjoying today cos life is not always fair . I strongly believe this will ease your anger and you'll definitely see life in different perspective...happy marriage life

In your mind now, you have given a great advise. If the tables were turned and the wife is the OP, will you give her this kind of stupid advice?? Go on a drinking spree, bang enough men, and come back so she can feel better? And then you went on to wish him a happy married life. I really don't blame people who stereotype most men as women haters. Some things I hear on Nairaland ehn.

Do u kno wat was his intention? Is possible he is trying to be funny, wat were u even doing in his kitchen if non b trouble you dey find.
That guy might be your husband savior tomorrow.
U better shut up your mouth and avoid him, however I think your husband might also b a pervert like him too.
Wat were ur eyes doing in his errrecttion part. Bad babe turn good wife indeed.

Useless people everywhere. Idiotic comment.

Mercychen:


What exactly is your point because you've not made any sense as far as I'm concerned.

I'm a teacher, not her parents. The best I can do is warn her classmates to stop calling her that but that will not change how the girl feels because she's already lost her self-esteem and needs to regain her confidence back which requires practical solution ( feeding her fat) which only the parents can do and not the teacher!

What would counselling do for 5yr old by the way?

What a teacher!

This post is really funny Of all the things that should be an issue in marriage, it is travelling to the village. Even me as an adult, has not been to my villa for close to 3 years now and don't intend going there anytime soon with all the insecurities/unknown gun men saga.Na im you wan carry children dey waka up and down. My sister's children who are in the UK met my dad(their grandfather) for the first time after 5 years, person no die. Wahala for who no get village. Please, invite your parents to come see you if that's the concern.

apparentlylaw:
You are just like mom
No job yet ..still leaving with them but em Dey trouble my life gan
Reason I stopped entertaining friends both boys and girls in my home
My mama too dey worry she must always have something to say
By next year when I complete my house her eyes go clear (she doesn’t know I’m on a project)….
But she go feel am if I comot sha …she go even cry gan but I no care I like my freedom
“Your son hasn’t done anything bad”
You feel this way because she doesn’t have a job yet”
Women sha if you no see your pikin with woman you go complain
You don see am with woman you still Dey complain
“Just get to know the girl shikena and stop troubling the young man
This life no need too much seriousness
Just enjoy yourself and live

Of course she will miss you. Is she not your mum. You think she is troubling your life now, but I can assure you that much later, you will realize all she did was out of love for you. It is totally disrespectful to one's parent, to bring a girl to sleep over.

Bewiseedet:
Mind your business. Your son is matured enough to chose who to love. Isn't it better you try to know the lady better than just portray her as a prostitute?

Like seriously?? She should mind her business in her own house?? Total disrespect to his parents. This generation will not cease to amaze me. If the son is 'matured enough' like you said, then he should go get himself his apartment and live as he likes. What arrogance

Bekind123:
See them supporting evil. Had it been is the other way round, if it had been the neighbours wife that is cheating, they would have buried the woman alive over here. Rubbish

Like seriously. I don't like generalizing or stereotyping but from what I've read on this thread, it is obvious how most men reason and this is so sad.

Richy4:
This is just funny... A 19 year old is saying that he's almost a graduate and has nothing to show for it.... yet he got skills in IT?

Seriously... you are too young to act or carry the whole world on your head... do not let the pressure of family and extended family make you develop HBP..

@ 19 you are already thinking responsibly which is commendable but you need to grow up based on your age... u are still a kid to be thinking about all these.... Nigeria is messed up today because people wants to be rich in a fast way, some was because of family pressure...yahoo yahoo, assassination and kidnapping is rampant today because of all these pressure..

Please my dear young man slow down a bit... You are on the right track at the moment... there are 30plus who are yet to figure out where the world is taking them... we can't blame them because everyone got different destiny... but slow your role a little so that you won't die early...

You're very correct. Honestly, I'm impressed with his achievements so far.

@OP, don't beat up yourself, things might seem hard now but trust me, you will go places at this rate. Just take it one day at a time.

TheeDetective:
I repeat; let's see what her husband has to say.

And what exactly do you intend to gain by this To cause quarrel between the couple Human beings sef.

Limassol:
Spare me those lines bro...... You can live and wallow in self-deceit all you want. Your life,your cross! If your narrative is true which i doubt, then rest assured you will learn your lesson the hard way. They no dey tell man! However, To my fellow young buddies out there. DO NOT TREAD THIS PATH!

GeneralPula:
Somebody told the OP to post some pictures even if it involves blurring the face, OP ignored..

Believe this fake abduction at your own peril..

Please o, what exactly is the colour of you guys problems?? Someone successfully adopted a child legally to give her a good life, he did not steal or kidnap her. So what's the problem?

CHoccolaTE:


Not only will the man get help from left, right and center, insults would have flooded on the thread about how women are evil and wicked and useless. Nobody will accuse the husband of being a bad person or say he deserves to have his kids taken away.

I keep saying it that men have innate, default hatred for women but women choose to lie to themselves about it.

Honestly it's so sad.. This is one reason I usually don't like commenting on this forum. So many people with zero regard and human empathy especially for women.

Waohh! Just waoh! @the comments. I was just thinking, if this same story was put up by a man whose wife absconded with his children without his consent, I can bet that the comments will be very different.

Lol, ;DMost people here shouting Buhari has done so much in the East and I'm wondering if it's this same East or maybe there is another East. I'm sure most of y'all have never been to the East. Abeg, las las we go dey alright.

(Shakes head) You will never see a man putting up a post bashing and bringing down their fellow men, never! But women?? We are one of a kind, always bringing each other down and making ourselves topics for men to discuss and bash as usual. OP, welldone.

Dalil8:



Well that's her story. Reach out to your dad and find out the real reason he left her.

Abeg go and sleep. Which one is her story, just looking for ways to blame the woman. By the way, is that even the issue here?? Give advice if you have one on the topic at hand and leave the woman's history alone.

helinues:


Buhari might have not met with expectations regarding insecurities in the country, but the situation is not as bad as GEJ's time...

Not something I really wish to argue about but it's logical

Seriously Are you freaking kidding me?? Even a kid knows that we've never had it this bad in Nigeria. For once let us learn to call a spade a spade, Haba!