@radiant and Ezinne
There is no hole in the story joh

I have cousins that have a step mum and lived with them for a while.
I used to believe their stories about how bad and devilish their stepmum was, until I was opportuned to live with them.

Mehn, I use to feel sorry for that woman. She was always going out of her way to please them but despite all her efforts trying to make friends with them,My cousins made life terrible for her.

They simply refused to acknowledge and accept her as their mum, they don't respect her, hardly go on errands for her except when their dad is around and puts his foot down. At a point, the woman stopped trying to make things work. In fact she was practically ignoring them. They were just 12 and 14 yrs then. Her own was even worse as they were staying in the family house with my Grand mom. And trust Grandmums now, the children are always right. So the woman found it difficult handling the Children the way she ought to for fear of what people will say.

Believe me, most step children already have this hatred for their stepmums even before she comes into the picture. Its a kind of defence mechanism they create around themselves against 'the evil step mum' who supposedly took their mother's rightful place. And they grow up with the same animosity if not nipped in the bud at the early stage.And it will only take the grace of God for them to have a change of mind.

My cousins are adults now, though not living with their parents anymore, but their r/ship with their step mum havent realy changed much except that they just try to tolerate each other each time they meet.

@OP
Am sorry but you may have to accept it and pray she gets married, cos at 29, I doubt if there is much u can do. But you can try the advise of talking with her and see if it works.

Obviously the father didnt make enough effort to drive it into her head when she was still young, that you are now her Mum and she had no choice than to accept that; because the truth is that He was the only one who could have done that.

@Ifyalways

Attended Ado Girls Secondary School Onitsha too but obviously not the same set, as I don't know any of the names u listed. Finished 1995/96. My younger sister also finished from there, I think that would be 97/98 probably your set cause one of the names rang a bell- Ngozi obunadike. Guess she  was my sis classmate. My sister is Nkechi Akwarandu, u can send her a mail at kechai2k@yahoo.com.

@Ifyalways

Attended Ado Girls Secondary School Onitsha too but obviously not the same set, as I don't know any of the names u listed. Finished 1995/96. My younger sister also finished from there, I think that would be 97/98 probably your set cause one of the names rang a bell- Ngozi obunadike. Guess she was my sis classmate. My sister is Nkechi Akwarandu, u can send her a mail at kechai2k@yahoo.com.

Hollandis and Yicob exactly spoke my mind on the issue.

The job section is no longer what it used to be. It was this section that made me join nairaland 2years ago when I was still jobhunting and the informations I got then helped me in securing the job that I have today.

Sadly, this is no longer the case, I still do come here hoping to get job links for my friends who are still searching for jobs and all I get are bloggers directing one to their sites with outdated vacancies and spammers copying and pasting the same vacancies over and over again. I think these should be restricted.

Siena:

Another reason why it's best to be upfront and transparent.

Why would he lie, that his distant cousin was his brother?

A lying priest setting a bad example.

Lying Priest? Oh Pleaaaase, you probably know little about the African or Nigerian culture.

jenni81:

That was done because he is african, i think afro immigration should borrow a leaf from their european and american counterparts. Detain any white on a slightest mistake, put them inside the most dirtiest prison around. I think when they travel back and tell their ordeal their immigration will slow a bit when they see afro passport.

Somebody posted a topic here that they denied Bill Gate Nigerian Visa on the ground of a mistake on his form, most of you including those that posted above called the action a stupid one but will be very happy to say the priest lied. For the Bill Gate made a mistake(Whiteman) but the priest Lied(Blackman)

Well said!

Yes, Virgin Nigeria is a good place to work. I'm with them now by God's grace. Refer to this link https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria?topic=108453.msg1902197#msg1902197

whiteroses:

that wil be so impossible in naija because people are very sensitive about what people think think of them in that country as far as you have family and neighbours you are not free to do anything you like if you trying to marry same gender person there will be some kind of discrimination peole will think you are crazy

Before nko, are they not?
Why would any one in his right mind think it is okay and normal to have a sexual relationship with a member of the same sex. Even animals know better. _{Wonder what the World is turning to}.

I can't believe I actually fell for this. Spora, U no well.

femol:

I wonder where you people get your facts from. There are statements here made out of emotions. If you care to know how MTN treats her staff, approach an authoritative source. The amount mentioned of contract staff here is misleading. Maybe there is a category of contracr staff earning that with MTN, BUT WHY DIDNT such a one declare what role he's performing.

I know what obtains because I have first hand info; d contract staff members I know wt MTN earn far above waht is being posted here.

and MTN has a robust package for its staff, good training- locally and internationally- and lots of other benefits,
So, be careful not to let your emotions becloud your thinking.

Which category of MTN Contract staff are u talking about? Maybe u are refering to the Expatriates or the Top Management and Technical Consultants, definitely not the graduates employed as Call Center Agents. The poster is right and take it from me, that is the first hand info. And for those saying MTN takes in SSCE and OND as Call center agents, I can also tell u that MTN takes nothing less than HND as Contract some even hold Masters degree. Infact, it is even among the permanent staff that you can get people with less qualifications like OND although most of them have now upgraded their Qualifications courtsey of the Benefits they enjoy through MTN learning and training Program.

his_grace:

because you just met this person and he is calling you - just because he wants to insert his di ck - oko - inside your pu ssy - obo - he calls you every minute and you are now comparing his call rate wih someone who has been fu cking you for all those years? wait until he fuc ks you for that long period of time and see if he will find it necessary to call u on minute - well - u love the other guy - do you love this new one? you didnt tell us - well, whose di ck do you enjoy sucking and licking the most? let us know - who di ck is longer and fatter? let us know - who makes you cry and sweat the more when you're mess ed? who sucks your clit the better amongst the two of them lets know so we can advice you better - please-

If this is all you can come up with, then am sorry to say you have a very dirty and disgusting mind

Aww, She's such a cute baby Congrats, am so happy for u.

I was told many years ago that I wouldn't ever be able to have another child, but here I am proving the doctors wrong

 
See why God always have the final say in everything, guess the Doctors didn't know that  .

Our little girl was born on Feb 11th

We share the same birthmonth, mine is Feb 6th so you start paying royalties yearly to me

2cantango:

She burps like her mother  and farts like her father  her bottom has been named 'mustard gun' because she has shot me twice now with what looks like mustard / curried eggs!!

LMAO @ 'mustard gun'!!! What a name. Btw, what's her real name or she hasn't been named yet? I dont' mind sharing mine with her afterall we're birthmonth pals

Thanks for letting me share our news

Thanks for sharing with us and putting a smile on my face this morning with those cute pix   Take good care of her and pass those kisses to her from me  

4Him:

Your parents are right. The bride's family shld get priority when it comes to the wedding venue and plans.

Your hubby shld find a way to get his family and friends here. He can't have everything at his own convenience.

I agree with 4Him but some other things still have to be put into consideration.
Will it be easier for your Fiance's folks to come to US for the wedding or the other way round for your parents? You said almost all your family members and that of your fiance stay in Nigeria. Now except if you don't mind having a wedding with only your parents and a few guests in attendance, I think you should consider having it in Nigeria. Weddings in Nigeria are 'family affairs', where every extended member of the family incuding great-grand uncles will like to attend
Talk to your parents and weigh the options available. As per the wedding venue and plans, that should be your family's prerogative. The Wedding should be in your own Family Church not that of your fiance.

Jeez! Nairaland . This is more like the 4th World War. _{Yvsck, where art thou? Your thread has been hijacked}

Thanks hunters777, realy appreciate.

Please Musacool, Kindly shed more light on this as some of us can't get The Guardian Newspaper. Is the format to be on excel sheet or is it for one's cv? If it's in excel, do we save in a paricular name and do we still attach our cv to the mail? Any Title for the subject of the mail?

@mamaput
What the heck? I think you are taking this too far . Please take a chill pill .

Have you been contacted for interview?

I agree with rman. I think they're one of the few companies that are transparent in their recruitment processes. I applied sometime last year when they advertised for customer service position. I didn't know anybody there but was called for the test which I passed, went for the computer assessment test, passed that too and was finally invited for the interview. Guess I didn't make it there cos I didn't hear from them again. Those that didn't make it were told to reapply after six months and they sure kept to their words cos I was called again for the second time after applying to the advert they placed 2 months ago (I still do not know anybody there) and hopefully I'll make it this time around. So pls keep checking their website and keep applying, U'll get there.

Ooops! Sorry. Didn't read Uche's reply b/4 sending mine.
@Uchetobi
Concur.

Oh well, I think you may have to take the risk or better still if you're not yet sure of when they will transfer you, you can go ahead with the Part-time pending when you will be tranfered, then you can tender in your resignation letter. Who knows, it may not be so soon.

Is it not possible for you to run the programme on a part-time basis? This way you can still keep your job until you get a better offer, since a bird at hand is worth two in the bush.

the singing was still going on,i went back to the bedroom because i was so scared for my dear life-i do not understand efik mind you,and everyone looked at me like i was the devil himself.[b]a short while l8r,i heard a lady saying in english'where is she?please bring her out here let me thrash her thoroughly like a criminal'[/b]my hubby now walks in and says'ehm please come and greet my mom's sister'.mind you this mom's sister was the 1 saying she wanted to flog me

Richyblack, Did you read the statement in bold? Now whether it was an actual intent or not, the point is that they disrespected and ridiculed her right in the presence of her husband and mother and I bet you, few mothers will condole that and to make matters worse, the husband did nothing about it. So quit blaming the woman, it was her own way of expressing her anger and protecting her daughter.

make we hear word jare, its a pity how destructive nigerians av become,isnt it obvious that for that note to tear it must be cut with a razor or sumtin sharp, and u sit there and say soludo shld apologise did he make nigerians so senseless as actually testing if the notes cld really tear and by so doing cutting it themselves some nigerians are so irresponsible

if u notice well its not easy for u to tear that 20naira note unles u use a sharp object, now so tell me is that not dubble enough for naijas currency?
i mean other countries use paper and av no complain so y should we, y shld we always be different as usual and always think backward
them try again, give us another kain note wey no dey suppose tear,only for some idiots to tear it un purpose and some others defending the stupid act foolishly by posting to defend them ad say soludo should apologise

Laughing my ass off
Abeg take am easy on the guy o , but seriously, I agree with u. Nigerians can be so annoying. The material used for that note is like nylon and should not tear easily if handled properly, it has to take someone actually going out of his way to try it for it to tear. I think what Nigerians need is serious orientation on how to handle the currency which the CBN and the Fed Govt are already doing. I just hope it will work.

@Olabowale
What has the discussion above got to do with the Trinity?  Don't dabble into a discussion you know nothing about. The topic if am not mistaken is for christians trying to get a better understanding of what happens to the dead in Christ from their understanding of the scriptures and not about the Trinity. So please, kindly shift _{to a muslim thread} so we can learn from the house.

Why can't we stop being sarcastic for once?

Guy i sorry for you, bank na work??
Sha since u are hapi, good for you, bt i'd lik 2 see this much excitement in a month plus time!!!

So Bank no be work again abi? So many graduates are praying to be in his shoes if you don't know with the level of unemployment we have now. Learn to appreciate what God has given you first, then He can bless you with a better offer.

love mi,what kind off job.hope its not security

And what if it's Security? no be Human beings de do am, abi no be job. Some people will rather be doing something than to be idle. Half bread, they say is better than none. Besides I've seen a bank manager who started his carreer as a security personel. God can promote you from any level, so don't despise your days of little beginnings.

Help me 2 praise d lord

Congrats Bro! and I Thank God for you.

I thot evil spirits only come to steal kill and destroy but why didnt those evil spirits do that, if they really were evil spirits which i totally doubt

Not only to kill and destroy, but also to deceive and make people believe a lie which is exactly what the devil is doing. This he started doing right from the garden of Eden when he lied to Eve that 'she shall not surely die' and went ahead to deceive her into eating the forbidden fruit after being warned by God not to or else they will die. And since then, he has not relented in his efforts to make God a liar and thus leading millions astray which is why the Bible calls him 'a liar and the father of all lies' Jn 8:44

Thnx Belgium for the info. Pls was the interview a one on one or by a Panel?

olabowale:

Adam was a Muslim. And he died as a Muslim. He was the first of mankind to sin and he was the
first to ask for forgiveness. All Muslims follow the tradition of seeking forgiveness, with hope that
God is Merciful and will accept repentance and therefore forgives His Slave Servants who is not
too proud to seek His Mercy. And not too timid that he sets up intercessor between himself and
the Creator. That quality in Adam, is a quality of a prophet, a Muslim.

davidylan:

If this is the "quality" that determines prophethood in islam then just about any ragtag muslim can call himself a prophet.

I thought I was the only one who came to that conclusion too after reading the post above.
@Olabowale, over to you, pls can you explain that?

grafikdon:

When I said the fanatics were the most dangerous people on the planet, I wasn't referring to beheading and decapitation, rather I was pointing out that the mind is incapable of comprehending the magnitude of malevolence and idiocy exihibited by the ArchedBarism and Beheadism cabal. The moment you try to force your mind to understand these 'prehistoric' vagabonds, you will end up up with numerous ailments, including but not limited to cardiac arrest, brain tumor, typhoid fever, hepatitis and acute bronchitis.

Very true. Personally I've tried to understand the reason behind their actions but I just can't get it. Even putting religion aside, as in thinking from an aetheist point of view, it still does not make any sense to me. I mean, don't they have consciensce? How do they find it so easy killing their fellow human beign all in the name of religion?

I wept when I heard about the murder of that teacher by Gombe students . These are SS1 students for crying out loud!! What does the future hold for Nigeria with these little terrorists who we hope will be the leaders of tomorrow?

@Glorya
Infact, 'getting on my nerves' is an understatement compared to my own feelings about the whole issue. I just can't believe this especially after reading the comments from olabowale here on Nairaland. It makes me begin to fear for my own life o. If someone as educated as he is, can think like this, then what do we expect the illiterate muslims scattered all over Nigeria to do? I just don't understand the rational behind their actions. May God help all of us.

Follow ABJ001's advise and don't bother urself about getting any BSc. Besides you have an upper credit which gives u an advantage even over most BSc holders, so getting a good job won't be difficult for u. There are so many Organisations that don't discriminate against HNDs, Just put your ears to the ground, find out when they're recruiting and keep applying. The sky will be your limit.

Not every graduate. I for one don't want to work in a bank .
And I have so many of my banker friends who would prefer working elsewhere, but since about 80% of graduate recruitment in the country is from the banking sector, one doesn't really have much choice than to join the bandwagon instead of staying jobless . At least half bread they say, is better than none.