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@op, personally, I'm looking at this scenario from another perspective.


Don't you think it looks and sounds somehow for your girlfriend to have started giving out her used clothes to your siblings? To me, it's somehow degrading.
Somewhere in your write-up there, you highlighted that you didn't like how your siblings dressed when you visited home. How did your girlfriend knew about this and how did your discussion ended up with dashing them her used clothes?
Isn't that selling your family cheap?
You know women now, the day you both fight, ehn, the first thing she will use to abuse you is how she rescued your siblings and mother from wearing rags.
This is not a good way to allow your girlfriend get closer to your family. This is nothing but see-finish syndrome,ie you have allowed your girlfriend to see your family finish.
Your girlfriend hadn't seen your sisters, even for once but she's already aware that they are short of beautiful dresses. Do you always discuss everything about your family with this your girlfriend?
What happened to fruits on her first visit?
How did she even know your sisters need clothes.
Even though, I don't buy into your mum's spirituality, but I love the way your mum dignified herself by rejecting those clothes for herself and your sisters.


Think about this.

How can you say you don't have neighbors? Do you live alone in the whole compound and by extension, in the whole street?


Well, I believe there are people you can celebrate Christmas with but you chose not to, for reasons best known to youand that's excusable, but saying, there's none, then, there's a problem or problems somewhere.

faithfull18:
Help me ask oh

Romanoff:
What were you people discussing when you were dating/during courtship?

For the woman:
Na the beauty, shape, (the figure 8 shape) and the firmness of her breast.

For the man:

Na the six-pack, size of his gbola and the fatness of his bank account.

Aren't these enough to discuss during courtship?

You sha wan show us say you just bought new jean and shoes. Ok, we don see am.


On a more serious note, price of everything has skyrocketed in recent times. No thanks to the mannequin at the helm of affairs of the country, with his wicked anti-people policies.

Even though, I find it difficult to believe this story but let's assume it really happened.

It's a very simple something, the marriage can be annulled based on deception. The wo-man knows herself very well, why did she keep such sensitive information away from someone she claimed she loved. How did she expect him to feel when he later found out, to me, that woman is a serpent, a cunning woman and a deceiver.

Givemehope:
This is why men should treat their wives right and desist from in fidelity.

Not only men but women also, because life can happen to anyone.


MEN, TREAT YOUR WIVES RIGHT AND DESIST FROM INFIDELITY.

WOMEN, TREAT YOUR HUSBANDS RIGHT AND DESIST FROM INFIDELITY.

madridguy:
A good woman will stay with her husband. I hope she is a good woman.

I pray and wish the same thing happens to you in your marriage so that you can have that golden opportunity to prove to the world that you're a good man and a good husband as well.

Mindlog:
You are in denial.

The present generation and the future ones, are becoming more daring and less comfortable with "eye service" and cover ups.

The emotional blackmail the society has been using to subsidize deadbeat parents is fast losing its grip on children of neglectful parents.

Publicly treating deadbeat parents mess ups is becoming the new cool.

For those conversant with the bible: Fathers, provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discouraged.....Col. 3:21

You're very right.

I like the honesty/truthfulness of the children.

That's why I'm always of the opinion that, you need to enjoy yourself, with your money before carrying family matter on your head. If you think any family member love you genuinely, dey there they deceive yaself.

Ki omo to j'ogun, maa je ogbon.
Enjoy your sweat while you're still living, e get why.

It can start with you, Mr op.

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I blame her parents who gave her out in marriage without properly training her and empowering her before selling her off to a man as a wife.

See, it's the duty of parents to ensure that their children, both male and female, are properly trained and empowered before talking about marriage.
All children needs education to cope in life. Education is not only to seek jobs, education brings light, exposure, empowerment, liberation, Independence and knowledge. If as a parent, you fail to play your role on your children before allowing her to face the rigours of life and marriage, he/she will definitely not be able to cope and this in the op is one of the ills of such arrangements.

In this scenario now, It is the duty of the parents to have empowered their daughter, either by education or skill acquisition before selling her out for marriage and not the duty of the husband at all.
I'm not saying what the husband did is right but the parents caused it by failing in their responsibilities. If the girl had been empowered by her parents before marriage, no man will trash her like that, and if the man tried it, she would have taken her leave when she could no longer stay with the abusive man. Her fear for not leaving was how she was going to cope without the man's money.

Parents, always remember that it's your duty to ensure that your children are well groomed psychologically, financially, emotionally, independently and in terms of career before allowing or encouraging them to marry.
Marriage is not poverty alleviation programme.

It is well.

Nearly all bottled and canned drinks are now like that. It's really devastating.

It is well!

Darammliveth:
All this pain because of we men ��

No, it's as a result of low self-esteem.

Nothing beats natural beauty. Artificial beauty always come with it's wahala, I no just like am.

Thank you for making me who I am, Lord

Zonefree:
If talk say na em go before em wife, the wife for don remarry since March this year.

Your hatred for female genders will consume you. I wonder how you relate with your female relatives, including your mother and sisters, (if you have any)



Every sane person knows it takes women more time to move on after the demise of their husbands than it is for men.

@op, marital contract expires at the demise/death of a party, so, he can move on.

fakum:
Tor, me i dont know ooo. Thats the only option for me now. i cant keep begging for sex or be disturbing someone not ready yet. when she is fully ready again, i will face her squarely, so help me God.
As i dey type like this we dey together on a normal level, if only she know what i'm typing, lol.

Ladies, pleas stop pushing your man out and it is also vice versa.

Get a sex therapist my brother. It's much more than you think. I can authoritatively tell you it has to do with indoctrination. You should have helped her to conquer it when she first confessed it to you. It can still be corrected my brother, especially, with the love you professed to have for her.

It may be tough and take time but you will surely conquer this together and she will forever be thankful to you.
Can I pm you?

If they can go to this extent publicly, I wonder what would happen behind closed doors.


Konjified couple..... Lol

Kingzeez10:
And no single Christian condemn this hateful thread.

Says who?

You can't know who's who through the monikers, you know.
And besides, no religion taught him to be this bigot, not even traditional religion. Even, morality is not in support of what the op did and is doing.

Let's just pray for him.
May light show in his path. Amen.

Age is just a number indeed.
I'm sure the op must have been more than 18years of age, and he's this myopic.


Live and let's live!

No religion taught you to be this bigot.
Let love leads!
May you be healed from this disease in Jesus name.

May God heal him and his wife. It's not easy losing one's child.
David, it is well!
Chioma, it is well.

Cute baby.

No be today!
We did more than this when we were also toddlers, ours wasn't indomie though, it was garri. In an attempt to drink the soaked garri by ourselves, we usually ended up with pouring everything on our bodies, from head to toe, the remaining on the floor.

Nothing new jare, as it was, so it is, so shall it be. If there was social media then, we also would have trended.

It's too early abeg,!

For baby girls, it should be 4months and above.
For baby boys, it should be 6months and above.
The reason for this is, boys need time to organically develop their backbone/spinal cord.
In adulthood, our backbones are really useful for so many things, especially, in the area of sexual ability and capability, so, please, op, tell your wiffy to take it easy with the little man now, so that in the future, he can massively enjoy his backbone when performing his manly duty in the other room.

Once again, that backbone need to develop very well organically, no need to rush, abeg.

And I'm sure the little girl won't like the discomfort but wouldn't know how to register her displeasure.

What a pity!

If she's worth being made a wife, she's worth being paid dowry on, regardless of her past.

One and only true God, I believe. I know there's nothing you can't do, I know you can bring something from nothing. Please, provide for me, I need a car to be taking my kids to and from school. Send helpers my way and also bless the works of my hands.

Lol...

By now, you guys should have known better that this obavoh guy is just catching cruise. He's a born troll. Stop talking him serious, please.

Let her also bring in her boy/manfriend to the house, infact, into the room sef.

Two can play the game.

Let her also bring in her boy/manfriend to the house, infact, into the room sef.




Two can play the game!