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Bola146:
People should know that friendship comes before dating, saying yes at first might be very risky, yes! She doesn't want to start what she can't come out of it. As for me, saying yes is like making a convenant with the guy, she needs time to think. Besides, most men pretend alot

All you said here is to justify why you guys friendzone potential boyfriends because y'all are too scared to commit. You don't like him, tell him to his face, I don't like you, and I can't be with you. Not keeping him at your side enjoying the benefits another girl who could be his girlfriend should enjoy whilst denying him his. That's bad.

SPOLO:
Abeg Bosses wey Sabi matter advice me on how to counter this.


I am not really the type that ask a lady out, i just make friends and take it beyond to dating level.

But recently i asked one out and she said she is gonna give me a reply and today she was like.... '' Can we just be a friends''?...


And i am not the type that do friends issh stuff is either you say yes or No.


Please what's the best response to this question ❓

Since you humbled yourself to ask us the ogas, I will also give you MHO.

Now, if you like a girl, and you are sure you want to date her, tell her you like her and would want to date her. The idea of being friends with her till it moves beyond that will result in of the following;
— It is weak a move that sometimes isn't positive, and for the times it was positive those girls have low self esteem issue and as a man you don't want that.

— It gives room for manipulation. You can be easily manipulated because your way of waiting it out till it moves beyond friendship is manipulative and remember, manipulation is a two way street.

— You will suffer a lot of heart break from actually not dating. This is the stupid kind of heart break because you are not in relationship yet but you are heart broken because a girl you like and is just waiting it out till it becomes more than friendship is taken away by a more assertive guy and you get to watch the whole the process.

Being direct and more assertive within the first week of meeting her, will save you a lot of the following;
—Time that you could have wasted on an unproductive relationship.
—Energy too.
— Also it gives you assurance whether through a positive feedback or a negative one.

Now @emboldened.

My response to her will be, I want to date you and not just be friends. And since it seems you are indisposed to grant me my desire of dating you, I don't think we can be friends. I don't want to be friends with you. If I wanted friendship, I would have gotten a dog or a cat. In a nut shell, I'd tell her no!

Why would I reject the offer of being friends with her since it's close to being with her but not as close as dating her even tho it may looks like I would have another chance when being friends with her?

I will reject her offer because of the following;

— She didn't blink twice to say her mind so why would I change mine?

— She told you she wanted you both to be friends because she wants to enjoy the benefits of a girlfriend without doing the work of a girlfriend.

— If you accept to be just friends with her, she has put you in a manipulative spot because she knows you will do anything to have her and this is to her advantage. Not yours, but hers.

SO WHAT DO YOU WANNA DO?

This is a sleep disorder. I do experience it not often but at times. So it made me to Google about it....

Westernlove:
Stop generalizing rubbish and nonsense..... With all your shitty half baked education In shiithole, Who recognize you foools In the World.....All Your shitty professors In shiithole, What have they Invented? A college degree holder Inventor In China Is better than all your Useless professors combined In shiithole.....

I can clearly see you are drunk. Everyone can never be an inventor. Cause if everyone was, who would use the invention. Then again I don't suppose you would understand what I'm saying. Might as well crawl back in your pity hole you came out from.

Agugbadin:
Is church not supposed to be a safe place

Also I want to ask, is church meant for studying?

Agugbadin:
Is church not supposed to be a safe place

Are we going to blame the church or blame the girl for being outside her home in the name studying?

If she could leave her house to study in church all through the night, then basically she can stay up all night to study in her house. She got it all wrong leaving her house to study in a church so late in the night.

Olatlaccon:
Bros...no talk like that.... school is on lockdown and she was preparing herself for resumption...it doesn't matter where she was studying.... imagine inside church and you right unspeakable things are happening

It's awesome she was preparing for school resumption, but what happened to doing it at home at a convenient time where it safe. Our safety is our right and also our obligation. We shouldn't fail ourselves because the government did.

NYSC na 1yr olosho business for both men and women. If you know, you know.

Tabbaz:
SCAM ALERT

I will follow you, and share your post on busting these scammers.

Why would anyone in his or her right sense create a useless thread like this?

I don't know, some people's got time to spare.

Mariangeles:
Well, to me, sexual relations is not a matter to be trifled with.
I don't agree with having intercourse just for fun.

Very good. If the guy is called a coward for having premarital sex, then his girlfriend should also be shamed too for having premarital sex too.

CAPSLOCKED:
I JUST LOOK AT HER AND WONDER HOW DIFFICULT IT IS FOR HER TO BE PUT BACK IN CHAINS EVERY NIGHT SO SHE CAN LET THE NEIGHBORHOOD SLEEP IN PEACE.
FROM THE FIRST DAY I SAW HER POST, I CONCLUDED SHE SUFFERS FROM A SEVERE CASE OF MADNESS, AND SHE FURTHER STRENGTHENS MY BELIEF WITH EACH NEW POST SHE MAKES ON THIS FORUM.

her own pass madness

CAPSLOCKED:
LOOKS LIKE SEXYLASISI COMES FROM THE MOST UNFORTUNATE SLUM ON EARTH. NO SINGLE MANNER OR HOME TRAINING.
FROM TROLLING MEN LIKE OMAR09, UBUNJA AND MARTINEZ39S TO TRYING TO GET IN THE WAY OF A SECURITY OPERATION.

OGA DSS IF YOU FIND THAT GIRL ANYWHERE NEAR YOU YOU'RE ALLOWED TO SHOOT ON SIGHT, AND DO US ALL ON THIS FORUM A GREAT GOOD. MAYBE SHE EVEN RUNS MOST OF THE SCAM PROFILES ON NAIRALAND?

The girl weak me. Must she talk? Sometimes she feels she's smart, but men.....

MxxM:
Corruption, Fraud, Theft, and injustice is for all of us to fight. If members of the girls guide association or Red Cross society find something useful they pass on the message to relevant authorities.

It seems you're a silly person. I haven't asked for money or for people to communicate with me. My posts have mentioned that the administrators of this site should allow people post their transactions with fraudsters.. So that others will avoid them. And if they wish, they proceed to physically tender their complaints with evidence to anybody, either army, dss, bank security, nscdc, inec, OR anybody.. And the case will be forwarded to the appropriate channel and the vilians will be dealt with.

Last December I and my team left Abuja to Kebbi over a stolen phone. Yes. A phone. You don't know what the work of the dss is or not just keep quiet and move away unless you plan to get yourself in trouble.

With just that scammer's email and phone number, we know where he is even as of this hour. But we can't do nothing unless there's a proper complaint with evidence.. Then we follow due process and channel cases to the appropriate bodies. Wetin concern FRSC with yahoo boys? But it is all of our duties to ensure a saner Nigeria... EVEN YOU. It is your duty. So don't make posts that will discourage people from reporting thieves. Why will I charge nairaland members money to investigate a case of 2k fraud? How much will I charge him? Do you know how much I earn every month?
How will you say I'm investigating "common nairaland fraud", this is just childish and I lack the words to describe you. I am a member of this forum and everything related to my occupation concerns me.

Kindly refrain from involving yourself in dangerous situations. If you like, take somebody's 500 NAIRA and let them come to me physically with evidence, and see if it is dss job to investigate theft or not.

If you're scammed of 200 naira, it is in the law of this country to report and expose those criminals and they will be jailed. If we continue to pamper them and keep quiet, from stealing 200 naira they'll learn to steal your millions.

Be wise.

Well served. If this reply na soup, na Egusi e be.

Mariangeles:
Only cowardly men sleep with women when they aren't sure where the relationship is headed.
I'm sure you're one those cowards.

As for you asking me stup!d question about the girl; was it the girl who brought the matter here?

I am not talking about who brought the matter here or who did not. I want you to tell me how a man is a coward for having sex with a woman without any serious relationship whatsoever bonding them.

Nwaotu:
If you guys don't help me, I will go and commit suicide and post the video on this forum. You guys should dare me and see.

How do you I get to dare you to do it?

Mariangeles:
You shouldn't be in a relationship. You're yet incapable of handling its responsibility as a man would.
Stop wasting her time. You had better not have slept with her. if you have, you're a coward.

You were getting it at the first paragraph and boom you decided to show 'a woman' you are. So he's a coward if he'd slept with her right? Like this sex thing isn't a two way thing.... What if the girl, shouldn't she be ashamed of herself for having premarital sex?

It takes nothing not to be stup*d really. It just cost nothing.

CAPSLOCKED:
OUR FAMZING IS JUST TOO MUCH IN THIS COUNTRY.

POLICE AND SARS KILL YOUNG MEN ALMOST WEEKLY HERE.
HERDSMEN AND BANDITS ARE CAUSING MAYHEM UP NORTH IN JOS AND KADUNA.
THERE ARE VIDEOS, PICTURES, STORIES AND NEWS FOR ALL OF THIS.

BUT NIGERIANS WILL CRY BLOODY MURDER FOR SOMETHING HAPPENING IN THE UNITED STATES WITHOUT PAYING ATTENTION TO WHAT'S HAPPENING IN OUR OWN YARD. PRAY FOR KOBE. PRAY FOR PARIS. PRAY FOR MINNEAPOLIS. BUT NEVER EVER WILL THEY PRAY FOR VICTIMS OF POLICE ABUSE IN NIGERIA. WAS IT NOT LAST WEEK THAT A HANDSOME YOUNG STUDENT IN JOS WAS SHOT DEAD BY THE POLICE? WHAT ABOUT HUNDREDS OF SHITE PROTESTERS THAT DIED IN ABUJA LAST YEAR?
NOBODY CARES UNLESS IT'S AMERICA.

WE'RE ALL BLOODY FOOLISH HYPOCRITES IN THIS NIGERIA.

You are going too far quoting things that happened at least last week. Just today I watched a live update on Twitter of a guy who was being harassed by men in uniform.

CAPSLOCKED:
SHOULD I REMIND US THAT IN THIS MAY ALONE, GUNMEN HAVE ATTACKED PARTS OF SOUTHERN KADUNA SEVERALLY, KILLING AND INJURING OVER A HUNDRED NIGERIAN CHRISTIANS,
OR JUST PASS BY AND KEEP WATCHING AS WE FOOL OURSELVES OVER LITTLE THINGS HAPPENING IN THE UNITED STATES WHEN THE WORST THINGS ARE HAPPENING IN OUR COMPOUNDS DAILY?

Well, it's the US, what can I say?

SweetCunt97:
If most men are dedicated and focused like you in Nigeria, we'll have very few broke men actually. So many prefer to put the cart before the horse and end up struggling.

Honestly, I couldn't agree more

Michealsmith066:
I am a young guy of 28yrs.. I’m a Youtuber and also a owner of one of the popular blogs on instagram. ( I make so much money there)

I run 8 Youtube channels but I managed only 3 other 5 are managed by people i pay to create content and upload to Youtube .

I started Youtube business in 2012..one of my Youtube channel has grown to over 400k subscribers. In my Youtube channel I don’t showcase my face, I create only content based on celebrities gists and gossips.

I make good amount of money. As of last year I made 14 milion naira from just one of my channel ( Screenshot below)

Before now I bought a land in a developed area ( big man area) so As God come blessed me last year 2019. I had to develop on my land an built a duplex.

So when people asked my laborers about me, that is, what I do for a living, the laborers who have no ideas answered they don’t know.

Now these people now assume that I’m a yahoo boy ( hahaha ) Going around spreading. So when people see me they assume I’m a yahoo boy.

These people ( mostly matured people) have never for one day ask me what I do for a living oh. They just assumed that I’m a yahoo boy, that I’m too young to build a house.

Should I call them an inform them that I’m not a yahoo boy or just ignore them.

I have all document of which Youtube ( google ) pays me.


Note during this period of building my house I have no time to chase women oh .... I’m i wrong ?

I will assume you are going to open another thread to tell us how you planned your life without a woman in it.

CalciumB3:
I found this medicine in my sister's bag, she didn't tell anyone anything. am just worried because the drugs are plenty and it shows that she has been using them for a long period of time. please what's the name and what's the uses of it??

Those are drugs for abortion. The one named Cenox is taken for abortion, while the one named Forte is taken after.

Na lie

Martinez39s:
Lol. Your "friend" still reserve the right to ask for sex in exchange for his money. Your friend doesn't owe you anything.

This girl is lying. Don't believe her. I've been with girls like her who would say I help out my friends whether in cash form or others, only to realize they say such to bait their potential victim who doesn't know he's being used. Girls like her would never lift a pin to help you.

Zabiboy:

Everyone is entitled to his opinion tho...
But for me, instead of asking for sex, i'll simply ask what she can give in return for the 2k(of course 98% of females have nothing to offer ...
And i WOULD NEVER EVER PAY FOR SEX OR FVCK ANYONE USING HER BODY FOR FINANCIAL RETURNS....so even if she offers sex, i'll decline cz just like martinez said, sex is worth $0.00...
To the OP, me, you and 99% of NL knws u arent a Virigin...so if stop acting like a saint....if you want to fvck the guy, accept if not decline...SIMPLE...who knows, he might make you have an orgasm
My 2cents

Omo your cent reach $1... Wait I still deh count am.

professore:
Someone like you kneel down to beg a woman in the room and u never discuss it with anyone so as to keep feeling like a macho.

You are an assh whole

Kirinwa:
Oga there's no shame in going after someone you care about. Why not ignore instead of further humiliating your fellow man or you think you are the only one that saw it?

There's a reason such words as persistence and patience were created.

This is an adult forum, stop forming nonsense like you are any better.

Right in your mind, you had made sense. Just look at you. So it's OK for that dude to keep pestering that lady? You know the problem is that one can't sue another in Nigeria for harassment. I think that law should be passed so that our boys go get sense. Which one is going after someone you care about, of what use will she be to him now that it's perfectly clear she doesn't want him? Don't he have ladies in his area who could and would be 100x better than this fiery girl (no offense)?

professore:
Guess what? I believe all you said here. You seem supportive and have standards too. That's how to summarize your perspective. With the pms, I know u didn't reply, I just felt may be one day luck will shine on me and you will consider replying. By the way, you can go through my profile to see if I'm that kind of guy that constitutes nuisance on nl. even though it's a faceless forum. Thank you.

She doesn't wanna reply pms, not just yours, but others too, move on! She isn't the only girl here and hell she isn't the only girl in your area. It's faceless, so what happened to distance?

The hell is wrong with some boys?

Paxie55:
Nope. 2bedroom flat might be ideal, just incase there's a visitor.

Hi baby. It's your broke lover. Been long.

purelyobjective:
Asking a faceless person or robot for their mobile number is not my thing

K