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I can’t ascertain whether you are a feminist or not. Are you against feminism? Or are you speaking against those who are on the extreme end of it?

You are an idiot for this write up.

Op, I blame you for all these nonsense that you are going through. See me, I have a very strong personality, so I can never ever be with a man that I can overpower bc I can never respect him at all. I need a man who can put me in my place when I overstep my boundary,not an abuser, but a manly man. I am an alpha woman so I like alpha man.

You are in a reverse relationship, you are the woman and your wife is a man. You have given her too much control and too much power. Until you start acting like a man and putting up some boundaries, my dear I pray that you will not die of high bp or stroke before then. If you are just naturally soft and you can’t set boundary without fear, please leave the marriage. Because you can never get upper hand again until you do something drastic. No prayers, bible verses, vigils will solve this. You are the wife and your wife is the husband. She knows this and she will use it to the fullest. Marriage is not by force, you only get one life. This relationship has cost you the death of your father, are you waiting for your mother’s turn?

Wow, this is serious. He actually brought the stalking of you online. Please if he is still based in London, go report him to police ASAP. He is a psycho.

JoshVI:
Dr Gilbert, I have all evidence of your lustful chat with my woman, if you dare me or provoke me, I’ll send them to your wife and kids. Just dare me and see! What an ingrate, after all I did for you? You came to London because of me, you had no where to stay and I housed you and fed you for years. I paid the first rent for the house you and your family are living currently, remember? You went to Nigeria and started saying all sorts of evils and trash against me. I know what your problem is, jealousy, you can never get my woman and can never dine with me. If not for your beautiful kids, I would have gotten your wife fired and sent packing to Nigeria. Ingrate!

I fear London men. I don’t know why women deal with them.

Dyt:
Oh
The both of you registered to start throwing jabs?

Pls post with your known usernames

London men
Hian

Josh we are waiting o

genq:
Dr. I know exactly who you are.

Is this post is about your short, egocentric, fair complexioned wife who has no friends because of her disgustingly prideful attitude?

Have you twisted the story slightly to hide ur identity? Claiming that you've  been dating for 4 years when in fact you are married with a child.

Is the reason for ur latest fight because she snooped on ur phone and found that you've been flirting around?

Is it true that your mother has decided to be careful with her ever since the day you took her home and she ordered your father to switch on the fan "because she is hot".. I mean why won't she have such boldnes when you literally lick her a**!

Is it true that the relationship with one of your closest family members has been strained because she continuously disrespected him and you turned a blind eye?

Is it true that you are madly in LUST with her especially because of her skin tone and 'beauty' and thats why you continously post corny epistles online celebrating her whilst secretly wishing her attitude will change for the better?

You are free to deny what we both know

Oga no vex o. Just think of me as your sister that sees that you are about to enter fire that will destroy you and she is trying to talk some sense into you before you allow love and tight toto to cloud your judge. No vex.

JoshVI:
im not being savage please, y’all adviced I leave the said lady, But the way the lady I quoted up there posted her reply. It’s not supposed to be like that. What has calling me useless and demonic got to do with she advising me? I bet you Oyindidi can’t take that. It’s not necessary. I’m human like y’all and not what she should be venting her anger on. I came here to learn something and which I’m learning.

Sweetie it is called tough love. You and her have no business being in a relationship at all not to even talk of marriage. Have you for once thought of those innocent kids you are planning to birth? Do you think they will be happy in that toxic environment? Please think of those children that are yet to be born and go search for your own true wife while she go search for her own true husband.

Or else if you continue this into marriage, you are going to breed more abusers and abuse receivers into our environment. We, as citizen, are tired of domestic violence stories. We want to reduce it, not expand it.

JoshVI:
ahh, aunty, did I or my lady offend you? Demonic relationship ni? I only asked for an advice, but this is too much, I don’t need advice again. you just destroyed my day. Using pliers to crush my balIs is better than what you just did.

Both of you are very useless people. I pity the innocent children that you two will bring into this toxic environment. You will end up raising boys that when they become men, they’ll think it is ok to beat women and you will raise girls that when they too become women, they’ll think it is ok for a man to turn them into his punching bag bc it is love.

You both have serious ego problems. I am taking you as the type of man who likes his ego to be stroked all the time so you can feel like a man and when she doesn’t, you will beat it into her. She also seems like the type of women that like to be beaten bc it means love and good sex.

For the sake of the innocent children that you two are planning to selfishly bring into your toxic relationship , do those innocent kids a favor and part ways. You are not compatible at all on any level. But if you both insist you must continue on with your demonic toxic relationship, please please please, do not bring innocent children into it, just so they can suffer and have a misconstrue mind of what relationship is. We are tired of self parents breeding abusive men and low self esteem women that think abuse is ok.

I am having issue with you stating that you discipline a full grown adult like she is a child. I have a feeling you might be the problem, not her and she is acting out due to your treatment of her

Yomi just needs to come out of the closet. He is a woman stuck in a man’s body. I am not surprised he got involved in this matter.

You are a very wicked person. Some people should just not be parents.

babyfaceafrica:
That he is sending subtle threats ,will make me never to contact him..and I will take record of all his threats message ,save and send it to the authorities.... What rubbish!!!....be it my son or not....I have my own family with kids....he should take things up with his mum....all this teens with fish brain..by the time I get him arrested..he will know the kind of person I am..rabbish child and mum

You are an idiot and you can kiss my black ass. Leave me with bible quoting nonsense

richdad555:
You who claim to have a good job and have two kids without another for the last 10 years, I see you really lack an atom of the wisedom of God which surpasses all wisedom of men. No precautionary measures of this life can save you from calamity or the storm of life when it comes, "be you BILL GATES with billions of dollars and one child will still not save you". Pls, be wise and wake up from your foolishness because Proverbs 18:2 says ; A fool has no delight in understanding but in expressing his own heart.

You were surposed to judge righteouly and plead the cause of the poor and needy as the book of Proverbs 31:8 said; Open your mouth, judge righteously and plead the cause of the poor and needy.

The bible said in proverbs 17:5 He who mocks the poor reproaches his or her maker; he who is glad at calamity will not go unpunished.

I think you are being too sentimental on the number of years you have been together. It is not about quantity but the quality.

I foresee a lot of Wahala in the marriage if you go through with this. They said you can manage a bad spouse but you can never ever manage a bad in law.

I don’t want to read a post from you in couple of yrs complaining about your wife and in laws.

erictus:
Thanks for your candid advice, it's my desire to prove it to them that our night will be more glorious than our morning and afternoon if only my girlfriend would not succumb to there evil seers. one fear of her mother again is that she doesn't want my girl to also fall into that pit her elder sister fell into cos she is not in a settled home as we speak. I know there fears but it's my wish to prove it to them that we guyz would not separate at the later end of the marriage.

My advise, let her leave. There is nothing more worst than a wife that goes from one pastor to another pastor. If you marry her, it is the churches and pastors that will be controlling your home, do you really want a life like that? Let her go and marry a man that her pastor approves of. Cry for a week more and get over it. Go and do thanksgiving for dodging a bullet. Your own person with common sense and mind of her own will come.

Where is your husband in all of these? Why is he not helping? I see all your children are 2 yrs apart. If you are so broke, why do you keep getting pregnant every year for the last 6 yrs?

I don’t get how people can be crying poverty but they have more children then the rich people. Even me that have very good job, I am scared of having more kids after the 2 I have already. I have not gotten pregnant in almost 10 yrs.

Please sell this phone you are using and first thing, go do family planning. You can use the remaining to feed your children.

Flogging is child abuse. I have never ever flogged my children and they are well behaved children.

Punishment in our house is taking things away. It always does the trick

I don’t see the good news here. This is pure selfishness. By the time those kids reach 20, she will be 77 and her husband will be in his 80s. What is even guarantee they will be alive at that age? Do they have things in place in case they die? Not just financial things. This is just pure selfishness at the highest order. Those poor kids.

I am a java person but due to work I have to learn how to use python. I have never really worked with API before. I just need crash course on APIas we use it a lot at work.

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I will love to mentor you. You need strong positive women in your life. Please go focus on building your career and empowering yourself. Find a man who will love you for you and accept you for you. A good man will make you a better version of yourself, he will not try to rob you of your identity and strip you of your self worth. Any man who tells you that you must be someone else before he can accept you , please RUN.

Date but your number one priority right now should be your career and empowering yourself. Don’t ever quit your job for any man ever again.

BukkyDan:
@chubhie... thanks so much, I'd try

@tabithababy... I pay my bills complete... thanks

@chii8...seriously I wasn't thinking at all, but it is all well

@missdee384...thanks so much, I'm grateful

@GHoJes thanks alot, you've helped... I had no one to share this with, I had to come up here cos I was suffocating

@Acidosis...#smiles
I was actually looking out for your comment, I respect you alot... thanks Man. I'm not using my mum's money, I'd never do that. I used mine cos I felt he'd mirror it, you know... I thought he would learn. I never thought he'd be controlling. That orgasm part? Hell no! I feared something like this was going to occur so I enforced a no-sex rule (I'm happy I did), we've argued over that, but thank God I was able to stand my ground.
But being a disgrace? oh well, but I think this is a great mistake on my side.

@skyfornia thanks so much, you've really helped, thanks

@OmoAlata1...My resignation was a mistake or more like a sacrifice. I try not to regret but I've learnt from it, you know... this is someone I've known for years... I guess much pressure pushed me into this. and No! this has nothing to do with sex. I'm a no-sex before marriage kinda person. thanks sis

@safiaa, thanks sis, you've done well

Does he have big dicck and fucck you well well? Because I am trying to understand why you are so daft at this your tender age. Quitting a job for a man that is not even your husband, his dicck must be really good. Please describe the dick and sex to me. I need a good dick that will turn me into mumu.

Please don’t waste your time advising him. I pray he will just end the relationship with the poor woman so he can safe her from unnecessary years of pain.

Gallant12:
#Smiles

I wonder where the fighter is??
Use whichever hand you want or better still why not create your own type of woman with your hands. The hand yu wish to use in your marriage won't take you anywhere. Mark my words, not in this generation, it would have worked for you if it were to be in the olden days but in this era sorry guy, oppression and suppression is a killer. I hope your wife is wise enough.

Wow had no idea. I pity the mumu that calls her a wife

joudini:
You must not know the woman you quoted. If you have been on NL long enough or been abreast of events among old timers, she had never hidden her thirst for money and affluence and would do anything to get it or get affiliated to those who have it.

Before she got married, she was linked to men on NL who alluded to wealth, even those whose family situations were known to those here.

Did you read her claim unapologetically that she will fck any man for material things? Best believe she will.

Plesse free this woman and allow her to go find a man who can appreciate her. I can already see how you will frustrate the poor lady in marriage. Please for the sake of her happiness, self esteem and self worth, end this relationship so she can go find a man who will truly appreciate and love her as she is. You are the type that will make a woman age 10 yrs after 5 yrs of marriage.

Go to your village and the type of ladies you desire are plenty there

How am I poke-nosing? It is on public forum and he asked for advise. Abeg, go and educate yourself on the definition of pokenose.

We know your type very well. I bet you will not even dare raise your voice at your husband or even voice your opinions to him. But you want to come online and act like you are the queen bee.

Go and get a better hobby than to come online and make outlandish statements that you know they have not born you well to dare commit or else you will lose the title Mrs. that you have worked so hard for.

UjuJoan2:
And you know me so well to know I'll never do any of the things I mentioned?

And your life must be so exciting for you to be here poke-nosing in another man's business.

Anyway consider yourself ignored!

Your life must be really boring and miserable for you to come on NL to make outrageous comments that you know deep down you will never dare do in your life, all in name of getting attention.

Na wa for you o

UjuJoan2:
Honestly I don't trust myself not to do ooh . . I'm only human you know

Besides I know that all that glitters is not gold, but nobody came to this world to suffer . . . and I'm ready to face the consequences of my actions. Besides oga knows he has failed in that aspect. Shebi my mates are driving Range ni? Why should my own be different!

Please ooh, I'm not saying it's right to cheat when your husband goes broke. But you people should try and understand us nah.

Some men will be broke and still be making mouth. What gave you the right to talk? If you are broke be humble, and don't annoy us too much.

I don’t get why you guys are saying she is a good woman. She cheated on him for goodness sake! That is one of the biggest betrayal in relationship. I also believe she slept with the man. She did not tell him bc she was a good woman and wife, she told him bc the guilt was eating her alive, that was why she couldn’t sleep with him and was forced to tell him half the truth. Even if she only kissed him, she still cheated, that is a very hard pill to swallow especially on the husband’s ego. So I fail to see where she is a good woman.

She is not a good woman, bc of small financial difficulty, she went and fancied a man with more money. OP, this is totally your call, if you can forgive and truly let it go, then go ahead and work on the marriage. If not, then it is perfectly understandable.

I will advise you to tell her to go look for work in another organization, bc she might be tempted by this man again. Also, it will affect you trusting her again, if she continues to work in the same office with the said man.

Why would you want to arrest his mother? Was she there when her son was shooting his cum inside your sister? How old is your sister? She has 4 kids for this man so she must have enjoyed the sex and has indirectly accepted the consequences that come with it.

If you guys are adamant in arresting his mother for having an irresponsible son, then you must arrest your mother too for having irresponsible daughter. It takes two to tango. Your sister is not innocent here. The men can just runaway whereas the women are stuck. In her next life, she will think with her brain, instead of her pusssy. Please leave that poor MIL alone.

I only feel sorry for the 4 innocent children in this matter because they are born to irresponsible parents that do not understand the concept of condom.