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The Permanent Damage To Nigeria By Buhari’s administration.
Sometimes, I want to laugh at our people and say, it serves you right. Some other times, I just want to “siddon look” at Nigeria, apologies to our Cicero, the late Chief Bola Ige. And yet more often than not, my first instinct when they are complaining about the “strange” goings-on in government is to say, some of us told you so. You see, a child who fails to heed the warnings of elders to stay away from fire, will run away from ashes after suffering the consequences of fire.

The 2015 presidential election has come and gone but the lies, tone, texture and frenzy of the campaign will stay with us for a long time to come. It was not so much about the issues of governance or the vision and ideas of the contestants, but much more about the full-blown demagoguery and even debauchery on display by forces determined to wrest power at all costs. Many simply lost their ability to reason normally and behaved like addicts high on opiate. They became jellies and zombies of a feudal hegemony disguised as “change”.

Otherwise highly respected intellectuals and people of great standing in society got sucked into a make-belief change; their endorsement helped in no small way to bolster the false narrative of the 2015 campaigns and drove the ordinary people into a frenzied march on a path that has pushed the country rolling towards the edge of a precipice.

Now, we are at the moment of truth; stripped of all pretences and completely disabused of the illusions of a changed Muhammadu Buhari. The truth is, we have never had a president, who by his deliberate actions and inactions sowed the seeds of mistrust; who is so utterly insensitive and so brazenly determined to stoke the fault lines of the delicate balance of this ethnically diverse country like we have now. We have never had a man so clannish at the helm of affairs of this country like we have today, a president who declared that he would not treat those who gave him 97 per cent equally with those who gave him 5 per cent.

The tragedy of it all is that the signs were there from the word go, so was the evidence of his tenure both as a military Head of State and the Chairman of PTF – that Buhari’s history and career is steeped in advancing narrow ethno-religious interests using national public offices – but were waved off as “contrived handicaps” by those who were all too determined to rewrite his past in flattering prose and poetry.

Surprisingly, many people, some of us had previously ascribed historical knowledge of events to, suddenly turned themselves into fanatical spokespersons, purveyors of falsehoods and embellishers of “true lies” and half-truths. Some took a blind leap of fate on a man they knew in their heart of hearts had not changed.

They told us it would be purblind to insist Buhari has not been chastened by the intervening experience and – most critically – by a vastly transformed environment – both localised and global. Now the joke is on those who stood as guarantors for a changed Buhari as his actions since coming to power at every turn have contradicted their claim. They even told us all his domestic workers were from the South-east; that one of his daughters was married to an Igbo man and that he would celebrate the 2014 Christmas in the South-east with his in-laws as evidence of his detribalised nature. But it was all a pack of lies! Some of us could only shout ourselves hoarse and look on helplessly as too many people signed the “suicide pact” that has doomed nation building.

I know someone who swore by the heavens that Buhari was God-sent to fix Nigeria. That was when the euphoria was still fresh. Less than two years into Buhari’s 4-year term he started to avoid me. Why? Because he simply ran out of excuses for the man’s failure.

There is a proverb in the land of my fathers which says you do not need a lamp at night to identify a person you already know very well in the afternoon. But those who should have known became willing drummers for a candidate who represents all the things that divide us as a nation.

Since the ascension of Buhari to power, we have not seen the promised change. Rather, we have seen a deliberate and systematic northernisation of government agencies to the alarm of both those who warned against electing him and some of those who marched to support him. I had stated in my first intervention in the Buhari debate, titled, Buhari: When Facts Become ‘Contrived’, that he is not the right person for the office of president of a modern Nigeria because he would reverse the little progress made in the quest for nation building. And more importantly, that the only reason he wanted to be the president was to regain the power he lost when he was overthrown in 1985 as well as the overwhelming ambition to right the perceived wrongs done to the North since the democratic experiment began in 1999. His body language then said it all, but either many didn’t understand it, or was misread by an overexcited, foolish and gullible public. It didn’t take long for him to eagerly put the agenda of his mission into practice following his victory in the poll.

It is instructive that Buhari’s first consideration following his victory, even before he was sworn in was the Grazing Bill. It started with murmurs, whispers, and then a subtle push. Many were in disbelief at the mere thought of it by the president, let alone preparing a bill to the National Assembly. Then it was denied, and of course, it soon became clear that it was real after all. Buhari only quietly backed off when faced with a determined pushback. In that whole drama, it was also quite instructive that the president never uttered a word but was working hard behind the scenes to push one of the clannish provincial policies dear to his heart.

Soon after the failure of that bill, the Fulani herdsmen as if they were watching the direction the pendulum would swing, unleashed wave after wave of bloody massacres on innocent communities across the country, killing and maiming thousands. Some revisionists and other mischief propagandists even denied it was Fulani herdsmen that were doing the killings despite the clear evidence (talk of exoneration by denial), all in a bid to excuse Buhari’s culpable guilt by his cold indifference and failure to take decisive action against his kinsmen. And as the saying goes in the land of my fathers, “Indifference is always the friend of the enemy.” It emboldens the aggressor to further violate the victim.

According to Wole Soyinka, revisionism is a travesty of history. Strangely, many even alleged that describing the marauding killers, as Fulani herdsmen was a smear campaign targeted at Buhari because of his Fulani ancestry, and that those guys were not Nigerians. Really? Up till today, no one has given us any rational explanation for Buhari’s inaction against the “foreign” herdsmen. When Buhari, under pressure from the public finally acted after months of silence, it was a feeble, half-hearted response to what had turned into a full-blown national security crisis.
You see, since his ascension to power, Buhari rather than by his conduct, dispel that well-deserved ethno/religious irredentist toga he earned by his utterances and actions years preceding his rise to the presidency, or at the minimum, disguised his agenda of righting the perceived wrongs done to the North, has done more to strengthen that appellation by way of appointments, actions and inactions.

He started by filling up the Presidential Villa with people of his ethnic stock. All his personal aides and nearly all his assistants and special advisers are from the North. Take a careful look at the following and you would feel a chill in your spine: Kabir Daura, son of Mamman Daura, Buhari’s personal assistant, Air Commodore N. B. Bali – Commander, PAF; Nura Rimi – PLO, Abdulkarim Dauda – CPSO, Yau Abdullahi – Chief Detail, Sabiu Yusuf – Personal Assistant, Lawal Mato – Snr. Personal Assistant, Brigadier General Musa Yusuf, Commander, Guards Brigade, Dr. Suhayb Sanusi Rafindadi – CPP, Usman Bashir Abubakar – CSO, Mallam Lawal Abdullahi Kazaure – State Chief of Protocol, Lt.-Col. Muhammed Lawal Abubakar – Aide-De-Camp.

The headship of the entire security architecture of Nigeria is firmly in the hands of one section of the country. Who does that in a multi-cultural and multi-plural society like ours? Only our “changed” President Buhari. It was written in the book of old that a leopard never changes its spot. But those who were too eager to ditch the wisdom of old for the brand new marketing manual of shylock politicians waved all the danger signals aside and crowned him the new messiah of our time who would save Nigeria.

Again, take a look at the following out of the many lopsided appointments and tell me if this man is not an ethno/religious bigot as former Vice President Atiku Abubakar once described him in the run-up to the APC presidential primary in 2014: the Inspector General of Police, Idris Abubakar, the Director General of the Department of State Security Services, Lawal Musa Daura, the Chief of Army Staff, Lt. Gen. Tukur Yusuf Buratai, the Chief of Air Staff, Sadiq Abubakar, the National Security Adviser, Babagana Monguno, the Chairman of the Economic and Financial Crimes Commission, Ibrahim Magu, the Minister of Defence, Mansur Mohammed Dan Ali, the Minister for Interior‎, Abdulrahman Dambazau, the Comptroller General of the Nigerian Customs Service, Hammmed Ibrahim Ali, the Comptroller-General of Immigration, Mohammed Babande, the Controller-General of Prisons, Ja’afaru Ahmed. It is bad enough that they are all from the North, it is even worse that they are all Muslims.

The recent lopsided recruitment into the Department of State Services (DSS) is another direct affront to the delicate balance of Nigeria’s unity. It was reported that 51 officers were picked from Katsina State, the president’s own state, while Akwa Ibom and Lagos produced only 5 and 7 respectively.

As if the huge outcry that skewed exercise generated was not enough, the just concluded management reshuffle in the state oil company (NNPC) has shown the clear danger Buhari poses to Nigeria’s unity. It is frightening that he doesn’t care about the implications of his actions and is therefore carrying on despite protestations. For goodness’ sake, how can one justify the following appointments?

Malami Shehu – MD Port Harcourt Refining Company, Muhammed Abah – MD Warri Refinery, Umar Ajiya – MD NPMC, Bala Wunti – GGM CP&S, Usman Yusuf – GMD STA. (Tech), Ahmadu-Katagum – GGM Shipping (Downstream), Kallamu Abdullahi – GGM Renewable Energy Division, Shaibu Musa – MD NNPC Medical Services Limited; Ibrahim Birma – GGM Governance, Risk & Compliance Division; Farouk Ahmed – MD Product Mkg – Retiring.

Others are Adewale Ladenegan – MD Kaduna Refinery, Adeyemi Adetunji – MD NNPC Retail, Bola Afolabi – GGM Research & Development, Roland Ewubare – Group General Manager 2, Diepriye Tariah – MD of IDSL… Conspicuously absent from the list is any name of a senior management person from the South-east. Even the South-west and the South-south are scarcely represented.

Ohanaeze, in a statement by its President-General, John Nwodo aptly captures Buhari’s disdain and modus operandi to governance: “As long as President Buhari continues to ‘live out his speech abroad’ that his government will favour those who voted 97% for him against those who voted 5% for him, so long will the dissatisfaction and unrest in our polity subsist.

“There is no oil well anywhere in Northern Nigeria. Four of the five states in the South-east have proven oil resources some of which provide our nation’s revenue, yet our people are not found fit to be adequately represented in a key corporate institution like the NNPC.”

Now, just imagine for one second that it was former President Goodluck Jonathan who appointed people of his own ethnic stock into strategic national positions to the exclusion of a section of the country, like Buhari has done; all hell would have broken loose by now.

Wounds take a long time to heal. Nigeria will need a lot of healing from the damage done to it by Buhari long after he has left office. Those clamouring for him to remain in power beyond 2019 disparage and trivialise the harm he has done to our individual and collective psyches in our quest for nation-building policies and programmes.

https://www.thetrentonline.com/permanent-damage-nigeria-buharis-divisive-leadership-must-read/?utm_source=&utm_medium=twitter

EU Condemn And Caution Nigerian Military, Rejects The Declaration of IPOB As A Terrorist Organization
Following the brutal and inhuman video of the Nigerian army against the invasion, terrorism, and killings of IPOB members, which has been going viral over the internet. The president of the EU commission Mr Jean-Claude Junker has openly made a serious touching statement as well as warning the Nigerian security personnel against their ill hearted and unprofessionalism in handling democratic issues and the rights of the people… Junker directed a serious caution towards the Nigerian Military chiefs stating that they must employ every democratic tenet in handling issues that concerns disgruntle and agitations.

“It is the people’s right to agitate and make a request from their government, self-determination is a right enshrined in the United Nation Charta. The people of BIAFRA have every right to request for a referendum, they have been in this struggle for a while now they have never killed or shot a bullet instead they are the victims of attacks and murder. The entire EU hereby condemn the brutal attack on IPOB members and leadership under the pretentious disguise of a military exercise (Operation Python Dance) Nigerian military is warned to adopt democratic tenets in handling citizens. The EU will not sit and watch things go undemocratic in the largest economy of the West African region

Furthermore, Mr Junker has promised to raise the issues concerning the people’s request for a REFERENDUM among the caucus of the EU. He further stated that the Biafra request for A referendum is no different from that of the Catalonians and the Britain. Nigeria government must rise above insubordination and handle issues with every tenet of maturity and democracy

Ashley86400:
And this one will go back to thr country to his country and tell his people what a Nigerian did to him. .leaving those to generalize.

But why, why does the love of money drive Nigerians to do the most horrid things? Are we the poorest country in Africa?

It because our society embraces and celebrate wealth (weather illegal or legit,they dont care) more than our values and honor..he is the product of this same society which i think need redemption.especially here in the south.Greed greed and greed.God help us all.

Adebola02:
Why is so much evil in the heart of men nowadays

For what reason will someone try to kill his benefactor.. ..

He will surely rot in jailed

To the Oyinbo Man. please just pack your things and leave

My brother..the thing tire me.

igbeke:
Don't tell me you are referring to Oga Tinubu o.

I think he is.That one na only voting period nai you dey see am..he will never speak up against the terrible leader he sold to his followers and the present situation we are presently facing due to Buhari's bad leadership..what a shame.

SalamRushdie:
You seem to have described Buhari perfectly you know

GBAM!!!

oladeebo:
Yoruba christian!
pathetic
mean the summit is Yoruba christian summit!
why color it Yoruba summit then?

Thank you for responding to that...maybe he can tell us if religious coloration is put to play when these people across parties share and embezzle our money..when they know that the people are coming together to form one voice against bad government they will now bring religion and ethnic coloration to divide us. yeye people.

obyrich:
Leave the dead body for them na make it smell them.

leave wetin?if they dont claim the corpse, it will be enlisted as one of their unclaimed bodies and as such, would be turned into their medical carderval for experiment for medical students...the family should appeal to LUTH for a lesser amount so that they can claimed and bury their dead.

Guruboi:
I just dey pass go my weed smoking joint

abeg make sure the thing clear from your eyes before coming back here ooo!

hammerFU:
Dont even mention us together. That is where u are getting it wrong.

please grow up.

EvilMetahuman:
free from what bondage exactly?

how can I forget kanu's speech?
Who are those bashing us day and night on the internet? Are they northerners?
So far, kanu seems to be speaking for these people considering how he commanded them to stay at home and they followed like zombie. If majority supports something, minority like ohanaze don't have a say.
Can ohaneze command igbos to stay at home?

United south my black ass.
Have you ever wondered why there is less tribal/religious violence in europe compared to everywhere in the world?
Its because french/spanish/danish/english etc. Are not lumped together and be doing one country.
That's why it looks like north is more united than south.


United south will definitely be another failed project plus yorubas don't need anyone in the south to fight their battle.

All man for himself.

hmmmmm!! bye

EvilMetahuman:
The point is,
All this calls for restructuring, sounds like another political gimmick.
I don't give a fhuck about apc or pdp or buhari.
I give most fhuck about my tribe.


While the likes of tinubu are trying to sell us to fulanis, the likes of ffk and fayoshe trying to sell us to the Igbos.

Kanu insulted us on daily basis, threatened to kill us. That's ffk and fayoshe's friend. They lost their way in the name of shitty politics.
Which makes me doubt their so called for restructuring as probably another gimmick to wrestle power apc not because they give a shiit.

forget Kanu hate comment against your tribe for now by brother...and think about how to solve our present situation.... remeber that united we stand and divided we faill..you should stand with people that have common ideas as yours....would you rather align with the northern people? If the Yorubas want to fight for their oduduwa republic then so be it but i believe they must have exausted all the opputunuty to push forward thier request for restructuring.

However i still believe that a united south with one voice over the whole norther region will give us a good edge..while the north are united to fight us to remain in this unjust system of government, we should know very well to unite in the south to convince them or force them to come to the round table to discuss the Nigerian Marriage.If we start bickering and fighting among ourselves we will continue to be in bondage and a second class citizen while the Hausa/Fulanis will trample on your right and strip us off of whatever dignity is left of us. We need to put aside our differences for now and face the north ...after which you can come back to address your grievances with Nnadi Kanu..remember Kanu does not speak for the entire Igbo people.He has a large followers...yes..but the Ohaneze who us the voice of the Igbo tribes is still in tune with the agenda for restructuring. Put aside the hate for now..let us face our greater obstacle.we need to be freed from this bondage that is like a curse nation wide.I am from the Niger Delta

Naijiant:
1. It isn't the current structure that stole the resources of the states. It is their governors.

2. Your governors like Tinubu, Gbenga Daniel, etc have fed fat on the resources that should have been used to develop their states.

3. The stumbling block to imbalances in the country is the corruption of the people in power in the north, southwest, southeast, Niger Delta and every part of the country. While they are robbing you, you are busy blaming the north. Tinubu is a billionaire and you are blaming the north. Gbenga Daniel, Fayose, Mimiko and co are all stupendously wealthy from looting public funds. That is where the imbalance is - money in their pockets, no money for development.

4. What is best for Yoruba criminal politricksters is to rob their people. It is not what is best for ordinary Yoruba people. That's why they deliberately keep you in ignorance and bamboozle you into thinking that what they want is what you want. A fox and a chicken from the same place don't want the same thing. The fox wants to eat the chicken.

Mr born to rule..a time is coming when you would not have to count your goat and chickens to represents as human being just to collect government allocations..you guys are bunches of lazy ass..you are the reason this country is still backwards..imagine bringing down jamb score to 120..just becos some people who are suppose to study their books were busy taught to love their Islamic books more that their academic books, and yet you want to drag the southern part of the country along with your archaic and barbaric lifestyle.

Naijiant:
More: https://www.naijiant.com/articles/yoruba-summit-politics-ignorance/

Yes they are known to be the Devils but what is your solution to the Nigerian problem? you kind is to dispute all progressive movement but you have no alternative to show..what is your solution Mr man..wicked Nigerian..just becos you are eating from the crumps of this present administration does not mean it will keep feeding you for a life time..what happens to your children and you unborn generation? Donald was really right..you really fit into his description of a typical black that only wants to eat and enjoy lavishly what he has as wealth but lack the foresight to plan for the future and his unborn generation.you lack foresight and you are one of the enemies of Nigeria..just know that.

I think there are there to settle their marital problems.

EvilMetahuman:
As much as I support restructuring and complete movement back to regional government, The likes of ffk, fayoshe, mimiko and the rest of ediotic, traitors, loud mouthed, digruntled pdp members don't speak for me.

Those people listed are omo ales and complete sell outs.

Especially ffk and Fayoshe.

I understand your dislike for Gov Fayose and Fani-Kayode..for their crude comment on the dailies most of the time.But you should also realized that these are the guys that will first to raise alarm over injustice against your people by the Buharis Government while your Political God father Tinubu and other APC leader kept mute without saying a word to condemn the unfair administration of Pres Buhari's government but are busy saving their head. Sometimes we should look at what these people stand for and not their personalities.Though what they stand for might be opportunistic but they are in support of what most Nigerian wants..what then would you say concerning Tinubu that have been quiet ever since. I am sure that by 2019 you will see him all over the place telling people who to vote for. Sometimes look at the people that rises up to defend your people against in the face of injustice and oppression when no other APC Yoruba leaders could dare voice out their displeasures.

WHY HUMILIATE HIM LIKE..HE SHOULD HAVE BEEN HANDED OVER TO THE POLICE.NIGERIA..JUNGLE COUNTRY

All you ranting and showing your displeasure about the Nigerian situation are still the same people that would hail corrupt politicians, and become blind loyalist in the face of oppression and massive corruption. We fight with one another here on Nairaland and call ourselves names but cannot unite to form one voice to speak against bad governance.We Blind ours eyes to the ills of our political leaders from the same party and fight fellow Nigerians that are in the same situation as you.

You guys don't have any right to apportion blame to anybody. We all deserve the leaders that we have because we are just like them.The only difference is the position they occupy and I bet that if we were to find ourselves in that same political space and position as them, our languages will change against the people that have been hoping on us. We will finally join other bunches of political sycophants that have been chocking our political space in recent times.

All Nigerians need to change their way of thinking..where you think that doing things through a short cut is the way to go..expecting gratuity from where you did not sow; seeing the crime of a man from another tribe as crime but would turn your heard the other way when your ethnic person is involve..we are a sick nation. seeing your self and your ethnic group as more superior than others..this things has to stop from the grass root.

Kizyte:
Dem go shoot us tire but at the end we shall triumph!

is that your pic, men you are very cute.

ProudtobeaMUMUM:
35 is small man, go to winners chapel during shiloh and you will have mercy on some ladies, 40 and yet unmarried

And why are you crying for the bereave?..did they pay you to complain for them? some single women that are in their 40s are way better than some so called married women who have never known peace since they got married ..especially here in Nigeria..leave them alone and go and face your own financial inadequacies..dont come here and start blackmailing women, calling them all manner of names for them to marry an endure with you while you have nothing and living in penury but when you now become rich your loyalty to her will now be tested.That is the time your bogus ego and arrogance will be too much for your house to contain.when that time comes will this same girl be the apple of your eyes? abeg shift jor.Yeye.. 40 ko..40 ni.

DouglasH92:
You keep casting aspersions at me but you are obviously the one who those aspersions rightly describe. The only slowpoke here is you and you aren't just a slowpoke you are an ignorant and mediocre minded one. This question is not excluded to people who live in Northern Nigeria and when you give answers you shouldn't couch your answer in a Northern Nigerian context. We are talking generally, based on the economic situation of Nigeria and based on the kind of needs people in general have, irrespective of where they live and I say it again: 35,000 a month can't give anyone in Nigeria a comfortable lifestyle. 35,000 a month can't afford many needs a couple would have, talkless of their children.

You have lived in northern Nigeria and I've lived on the Island. It's clear we both have different perspectives on how we view comfortable living. But for godsake, there is more to life than living on breadcrumbs and managing in low standard environments. Open up your mind, aim for better and better will come to you. A man who earns 35000 a month should aim to better his life not aim for marriage. And you should stop making excuses for such an unwise man.

Of course you have work to do - Like going to another thread to post your ignorant comments. No wonder you are making excuses for financially mediocre lifestyles. When all you do from morning till night is comment on Nairaland. How can someone like you break free from your poverty mentality and financially inadequate lifestyle?

GBAM!!!!!!!!...

castro316:
The funny part is that you don't even know the guy you are insulting like this. How do you know he is earning less than N35k. Look at how you are so quick to lay insults on someone? For the fact that you are independent doesn't make you mature from your rantings. That's why I don't like dating some girls biko kwanu. Nothing will happen to you if you had ignored him or counter his argument. That's my contribution

Thanks. what he said to me was pretty annoying. noted though.

goingape1:
look at them!

I'm sure you are a disgrace to your family.

the message pain you, no be small.. .ee be like sey you fall into that category..go and hustle and leave women on Nairaland alone.

segunojo866:
what concerns me with God and his stupid carpenter son Jesus Christ. Am an atheist

really?

segunojo866:
am sure you will leave all the expense for the man. Women are sick pathetic people that love going to church all the time.

you left the wonderful messages that i wrote and decided to attack me because you are one of those low loafers that are earning less than 35k per month.Wake Mr man..I pay my bills and i cannot remember the last time i ate a dime from any man because you are are too immature in the area of money and women..rather its the other ways round..lazy guys wondering around and looking who to devour..there are hard working men but you never catch them ranting rubbish here on nairaland..So Mr Man, go and get a proper job and stop looking for a woman that would suffer in penury with you..deliver yourself from poverty stricken mentality..in Jesus name Amen and i cast that demonic spirit of poverty out of you..Ameeeeen..Dream big and you will be great.Life is all about planing and dream of a better life for yourself and that your family.

kennygee:
Obasanjo and Oshiomole aren't.

Correct, even money could not wipe the ugliness off their faces.

falconey:


Bloody moron_ visit the northern part of the country and see how people comfortably live with below 20k I'd school there. I don't have time for baseless arguments, I've got to work now.

and do you like the way they live up north? do they look healthy as compared to the children of the average class and upper class there..why bring your children into the world of hardship especially in Nigeria.If you were talking about marrying some with a lower income outside this country where all the system are functioning very well, such as good medical insurance, affordable food, free public school and so on..i will understand..but not in Nigeria where ordinary ten thousand Naira cannot even cover a child pampers and food without feeling the pinch..Pls let us be realistic..if they so love each other very much they can marry and plan their life very well...that will mean there wont be any kids till the both of them can afford like a 100-200k combined just to be modest.

Kenturkey048:
with little enuf money to meet up the little essentials of live....the marriage go sweet like toxic and sugar...I go with love ..I also go with money...love and money very necessary in marriage

true talk

nice one

rosalieene:


so I saw this post on facebook,
"Ladies can you marry a man who earns 35,000 as salary? "

Lol, ladies gat no chill.

One said "Can't even buy me a wig let's say the truth here NO"

lady B said "When Human Hair 16inches cost 35k.. abegi!! Double your hustle .."

lady C said "Please you people should stop asking all question..
35k cant even completely pay bride price...
Even self contain house rent...
So why this question"

another said "But oh, 35k, how will he pay my bride price biko, I dont want to marry myself"

Another funny comment: "Would he give his sister to a man earning 35k monthly? Let's be realistic while answering, biko. Leave materialistic talk"

*sighs*

my beloved ladies, so am throwing this question to you.

if the man presently has his own place he is staying..they can get married low key without having kids for some time( this is becos children cost alot of money and stress which might put a strain on the newly wedded couples with limited cash).with proper planing and searching for other sources of income they can be able to start their family bit by bit..this can only happen if they both love each other and are ready to sacrifice their time ,finance and effort for a healthy home

No problem with sharing finances and responsibilities 50/50 as long as he did not ring it in my ear one day that he is the head of the family for i will remind him of how he sold his birth right and shared it equally among ourselves because he is not responsible to take care of his family.This same men on Nairaland will still come to boast of why they are the head of the family and why the women folks are contesting it..this is the reason..when they dont even have the balls to take responsibilities of their family affair. Men that do 50/50 looses the little respect they have in the eyes of their wives..men should have some Ego and pride intact that is why they are men..and not the sissy we are seeing these days..I believe in men taking charge of the major affairs in the home while their wives support them or when when things are bad the woman can step in to support major responsibilities pending when the man is able to stand on his feet again..it called covering each other lapses.