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[quote author=naija_swag]The name Joe Igbokwe attracted me to this post. Whom the gods want to kill they make him go mad. This is a man that has been in the news because of a gang up against his brothers. This is a real efulefu. Now he has taken his battle against the churches. CAN should reply him, I am very confident that the CAN president who is ever vibrant will have something good to say to him.

I remember reading Awolowo's Awo where the gods fought for themselves by killing a man who killed fishes in a certain River. An attack on churches is an attack on God. God will fight the war himself.

The last time I travelled from Lagos, the president was commissioning the construction of this same road at Sagamu interchange. Am sure Joe should be aware of that. Or is it just the hypocrisy of being in another party which is not the ruling party that has blinded his eyes or made him deaf to read or hear about the awarded contract on the news...

Joe Igbokwe, I weep for you.[/quote]i don't normally abuse people but sir you are a real fo.ol for posting this. Instead of you to address the message you go on talking like a rabid dog. If you had ever spent numerous hours on that road just because a religious organisation wants to organize a programme then you would understand better what this is all about imp.

[quote author=Maria-Goretti]you know, at first, I thought your emotional level was ZERO.....but now, you just need to understand yourself first before you can be able to understand others.



Now, my question is this...
HOW WELL DO YOU KNOW YOURSELF?[/quote]This is going be epic having someone commute with mr cork... Wonderful

brightk: how many ram slot do u have.. and how many ram stick is on ur laptop..

if u have 2 rams.. i would advise switching slots with first ram.. if notin works out repeat it with the other... if it still has d same problem.. try n put ur laptops ram stick in2 another laptop and power it.. if it doesnt show up.. i guess ur sticks are bad..but if it does theres no harm in trying another set of sticks on ur laptop .(make sure they in working condition---test on other pc be4 insertin in2 ur own pc)

try another stick of ram probably same type 2 avoid mismatching.. repeat the same process above if it is 2 stick.. even with one stick u can still repeat d process..

now if the above doesnt work at all.. den i guess its time 2 take ur laptop apart.just try n above n get back........

if notin happen..den its time 2 take d laptop apart..try removing the processor and power d board ordinarily

Yeah very true.


Continuous beeping of the caps and light means bad processor or incorrect power.

The ignorance that reels from this thread shows the alarming learned but illiterate scores of youth we have in nigeria. No wonder some youths can not even differentiate between north or south and where the sun rises from.

Celyt: Thanks Madam CC for the response; hope to see the link as soon as possible.

@ onegig; my dear i no get the liver to post a thread here as some peeps here can be very judgmental and insulting; it would really be a waste of time.
Anyway thanks for the suggestion.

okay. I understand your fear. The kind of posts you see can sometimes be very discouraging but sometimes you just post, take the good ones you believe would work and ignore the rest. I have a little experience from lessons i have learnt with lots of sisters and other relations around although am no professional counselor but You can pm me or someone else in the interim till we get some professional help here on the dilemma you are facing. Your privacy will be respected. Take care.

Profeme: I need to buy a laptop system.pls can anyone recommend a HP model or any good model that is strong,robust and reliable .It should be ok to handle high graphic package and other high capacity applications. Thanks

whats your budget

[quote author=Becacia_Barbie]LMAOOOO! some gals don suffer! btw not every lady out there likes it when a man starts talkn about marriage at d early stage of d rship...shws signs of being desperate to get a wife and all! so u guys shud stop feeling ontop of d world! we ve so many men out there aswell, dying to get a woman just to share their surnames abeg!

btw this thread is really hilariousss! made my night last night...made my evening today. lol[/quote]You know we all do love our ladies. This thread is just for laughs. Nothing posted here is a reflection of how we see things even they truly happened
.in mr cork's voice. Sweary..are you fresh and have no pimples. Are you also a stress free wife material.lol

Some sentiments here are very true.: i just took my nephew for a short walk to get some things now only for him to fall asleep midway. I picked him up and carried him on my shoulder. You need to see weird way people were looking at me and from their expression i could read their mind saying "where is the mother". It seems fatherly bonding is kinda alien go this clime. People feel like its wrong to play with your kids as a father.

Celyt: Madam CC you just bared my mind as i have been thinking of getting an online marriage counsellor but dont know how to go about it. I really have marriage issues affecting my peace. Just hope we hear from these professionals here soon as i am at my wits ends.

afters; Madam CC are you sure you are not one? I really need help before i make a hasty decision.

anyways; thanks for bringing on this thread.

create a thread about it. I believe you would get the best advice.

v3: 2GB or less, if i'm not mistaken. Which shouldn't be much of a problem.

yes bro 2gb or less.

moshoodn: My mum has a laptop she rarely uses. Maybe just type and print a document like once a month.

She brought it out yesterday to use and discovered some of the alphabet and numeric keys were not working anymore.

Same happened to my dad own too cos he rarely uses it too.

Pls, what can I do to it to get both my dad and mum keyboard to work again.

Give it out to charity so that the keys don't get sticky again


It's the way they stored it....I guess the place had high humidity and was cooler than room temperature..You might have to open the system and take the keyboard out. cut the flex at the mouth with a sharp object then strip it before reconnecting. Give the model of the pc and i will give you images of the step by step mode of getting to the keyboard.

coogar: naijababe nailed it in her post....
it's a very subjective issue. what i see as quality time might have a different hue to what you see as one. people should search themselves and ask if they can do better than what they are giving at the moment. the thread ended with that post - the rest is just edutainment.

I thought you would have sensed my sarcasm and overt use of the word "black" in my first post.

I was just leading you on ... Lots of people have posted great comments in here.

And I was just poking fun at the other comments i.e "edutainment" which derailed from the main purpose of the thread.


So here's my head...

[quote author=-Mr Cork-]..guys...when waz the last time u meet a female that didnt wanna talk about Marraige,kids or settling down?...when waz the lst time u saw a female ever Obey a guy?...or who even want to hav conversation sef! [/quote]Don't mind them. Just talked to one for the first time last week and guess what she did yesterday...sent a pic of a pregnant woman with her hubby at the back to me with the caption "very soon"


Na so i run comot... Switch off my phone ....lol!


Vacancies also exist for Stress free Wifey material...just like Mr cork wants

deji2009: What a classic error !

Nice1 Ongegig

Thanks bro...

hardniola: soryy to ask dis que huh
@onegig did u av idea how much one canget 320 HHD both new nd london use.

I guess samuel or so two pages back gave the prices he would be selling fairly used ones. The highest price for new ones won't exceed 10k.

Rhemmymatician: Pls what's the implication(longterm or short term) of hibernating your system often instead of shutting it down?

Only that the system saves the hibernation files which take up hard disk space.

[quote author=-Mr Cork-]..^^^^no oofeince but can u imagine a *Human been* marryin a woman like Ms Chima?...U will age quickly..truss me!! [/quote]guy have you considered acting as a career. Lol . As PEr the topic i support you 100%.. Lol.

coogar: you mean you have not achieved anything after 7 pages? i should tie you up and beat your head with a pocket translator.

i will readily avail my flat head for your grandfather sized dictionary if you can point to me one thing you have learnt. Apart from the back and forth ikebe dance steps of our beloved commenters who rather than plough and till the land go on watering the weeds.
;-)

Isn't the thread beautiful ? Black people and their dramas. You wonder why we never get anything done or progress. Because we talk too much without taking actions. Na oyinbo invent english na naija people dey tell you how appropriate or inappropriate a word or sentence used is. With seven pages what have we achieved? Who is ready to be more closer to their kids due to the exposure or little he has gained from here? None i guess.

Just talking out loud. You all deserve a ban for floating the rules.:-S

[quote author=wondaboy_romeoo]my pc problems.[/quote]update your device driver. Some systems audio are not made for loud sound production. So just chill with yours if the update does not improve it.

[quote author=wondaboy_romeoo][/quote]update your device driver. Some systems audio are not made for loud sound production. So just chill with yours if the update does not improve it.

[quote author=SEYI_KP]HAVE TRIED CITADEL MOKOLA OFFICE, MAYBE I WILL TRY THE UI BRANCH. PLS IF ANYONE CAN GET IT FOR ME IN LAGOS I WILL APPRECIATE THAT. MODEL PA3591U-1BRS. THANKS ONEGIG YOU ARE DOING YOO MAN JOB HERE, MAY GOD BLESS U .[/quote]would have loved to help but i am not go lagos as of now. Thanks for the prayers and you too.

Dikachiii: Good evening guys, pls I need an urgent solution.

My Dell D610 is having this problem, if I turn it off and want to turn it on it will show the normal green light as if it will boot then make a small click noise and turn off. I've tried all solution.. Draining static power still it won't boot. If I remove battery and plug power direct it still won't boot. It is charging when I plug it but to boot is wahala. Sometimes after many tries it will boot and work fine I will be using sleep method till whenever I turn it off then to bott again is wahala. Please help.

Hope this is not too long.

Check the RAM first and clean the slots before installing new ones. If you change the RAM and same reoccurs then your VGA is/has gone bad gradually.

hardniola: pls guys i just change d HHD for ma system but it work smothly at first....but now is just bring this
pxe-e61: media test failure, check cable
pxe-mof: exiting pxe rom

reboot nd select proper boot device or insert boot media in selected boot device nd press a key
pls guy ma use del i5040. Nd av choose boot from HHd several tyms was d problem.

PXE is in the bios setup. The PXE option allows the PC to boot from a network server. PXE is not in the filesystem. The location in BIOS of the Boot setup will vary, Some BIOS allow shutting down PXE, other simply move it to the bottom of the boot device list. Go to your boot order. If your Hard drive is higher in the boot list than the pxe or network option and you still see this error then there is a problem with your hdd. Do the hard disk test in the bios to ascertain your hardisk health

you can also solve the problem by holding the F2 button, resetting all settings to default, and saving and exiting.

tbaba1234: It is reported in multiple hadiths so there is no controversy.

If the prophet said it, it is Law. Follow what he gives you, leave what he forbids for you.

There is this erroneous perception that it is 'just hadith'. Through out the Quran, the name Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him) is mentioned 4 times and as Ahmed once.

Each time, it is closely followed by the title 'Rasul Allah'. Except in one place. In Surah Muhammad.

Why?? Each time the prophet gave an instruction, some hypocrites at the time would ask him whether it is Quran or not.. Indicating they won't take any other thing seriously. In surah Muhammad, Allah responds to them by saying believe in Muhammad and omitting the title. Meaning Obey Muhammad (peace and blessings be upon him).
As regards the story of Yusuf in

Okay...Jazakum for the heads up!!!

Sissie: Saying action is judged according to intentions and one should do what's haram is not right.

What if the culture required you to bring bottles of schnapp (alcoholic drink) for the introduction, will you go with it and say it's all about intentions?

Besides leave what's in doubt to what's not in doubt and be on the safe side.

thats a different ball. Alcohol is clearly prohibited. My main skepticism stems from the fact that its only reported in an hadith although am working and reading it up now . You do learn everyday.

Not like am sceptical of the hadith but its First time am seeing the hadith...am sorry if i don't acknowledge it straight i just wanna understand things better. don't we have Quranic verses where prophets in islam have been greeted by prostrations or they doing it to someone else? Maybe thats a discussion for another day. If you still have a link to the thread where you discussed it please kindly share.

here's another view. Its the intention that matters. All actions would be judged based on your niyyahThere are two types of
prostrations in Islam,
namely, (i) Prostration of
Worship (Sajdah-e-Ibadah),
and (ii) Prostration of
Reverence (Sajdah-e-
Tahiyya or Sajda-e-
Ta'azeem).
Sajda-e-Ibadah
(Prostration of Worship) to
anyone other than Allah (
ﮧﻧﺎﺤﺒﺳ ﻭ ﺎﻌﺗ ﯽﻟ ) is Shirk in
Islam. A person who
commits shirk is treated as
out of Islam.
Sajda-e-Tahiyya is a kind
of greeting. In earlier times,
when a person used to meet
a dignitary, he used to
prostrate in front of him.
Sajda-e-Tahiyya has never
been an act of Shirk. Angels
prostrating to Adam ( ﮫﯿﻠﻋ
ﻼﺴﻟﺍ ﻡ ) and brothers of
Youssef ( ﮫﯿﻠﻋ ﻼﺴﻟﺍ ﻡ )
prostrating in front of him
are the examples of Sajda-
e-Tahiyya. Since Prophet
Mohammad ( ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ
ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ ) stopped people
from doing Sajda-e-Tahiyya,
it is forbidden in Islam. Now,
if a Muslim greets a dignitary
with Sajda-e-Tahiyya, it will
be treated as sin.
The reward or torment
(Thawaab or Azaab) for an
action depends upon the
intention of the person.
It is in Hadith - Narrated
Umar bin Al-Khattab (ﺊﺿﺭ
ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻨﻋ ) : I heard
Allah's Apostle ( ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ
ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ ) saying, "The
reward of deeds depends
upon the intentions and
every person will get the
reward according to what he
has intended. (Bukhari -
Book #1, Hadith #1).
Thus, a person's act of
prostration will be judged
according to his intention.
(a) For instance, if we see a
Sahih-ul-Aqeedah Muslim
prostrating in a mosque
towards Qibla (Kabatullah), it
will be considered that this is
'Prostration of Ibadah'.
(b) If a Non-Muslim is seen
prostrating in front of a
Deity or Idol, it will be
concluded that his
prostration is 'Idol Worship'
because he associates
divinity (Uloohiyah) with that
Idol.
(c) If a Hindu is prostrating in
his house or in a Muslim
mosque where there is no
idol or picture of an idol, still
it will be concluded that his
action is Idol worship
because while prostrating he
imagines a particularly
shape in his mind and
considers that shape to be
his Divine God.
(d) Suppose a Non Muslim
declares himself Muslim and
goes to Masjid-e-Haram in
Makka and Masjid-e-Nabawi
in Madina and performs
congregation Salah there,
but in his mind he continues
to imagine a particular
shape to be his Divine God,
then the Angels who record
peoples' deed will write his
actions to be Idol Worship
only, even though he is
apparently doing Salah in
front of Kaabatullah or in
Masjid-e-Nabawi. The Angels
may add an extra
qualification of that person
in their records and write him
an 'hypocrite' (Munafiq) also.
It is in Quran - 'They seek
to deceive Allah ( ﮧﻧﺎﺤﺒﺳ ﻭ
ﺎﻌﺗ ﯽﻟ ) and those who
believe. Nay, themselves do
they deceive, though they
are not conscious of it.
There is a disease in their
hearts, so Allah ( ﮧﻧﺎﺤﺒﺳ ﻭ
ﺎﻌﺗ ﯽﻟ ) lets them increase
their disease and for them
there is a grievous torment
(Azaab) for the false
assertions they have
made' (Al-Baqara - 9)
It is in Quran - (O'Prophet -
ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ )
Convey the hypocrite the
tiding that for them there is
a painful torment. (An-Nisa -
138).
It is in Quran - 'Indeed, the
hypocrites (will be) in the
lowest depth of the Hell Fire
and you (O'Prophet - ﻰﻠﺻ
ﻪﻠﻟﺍ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ ) will not
find any helper for them.
(An-Nisa - 145).
(e) If we see a Muslim, Ahle
Sunnah Wal Jama'at (whose
Aqeedah about Allah -
ﮧﻧﺎﺤﺒﺳ ﻭ ﺎﻌﺗ ﯽﻟ is
correct ), prostrating in
front of a Mazaar of a Wali
Allah, we will question him
about his intention of
prostration. If he says that
he was not prostrating,
rather he was kissing the
Grave of Wali Allah, or kissing
the entrance or threshold
of the Dargah out of
reverence, it will be
concluded that he was
acting upon Sunnah and the
widespread practice of
Sahabah ( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮫﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ
ﻢﮩﻨﻋ ﻦﯿﻌﻤﺟﺍ ). We have
provided over 50 authentic
Ahadith and Quranic verses
which confirm the fact that
visiting the graves of Awliya
Allah and Muslim relatives
and Eisaal-e-Thawaab are
Sunnah which was the
widespread practice of
Sahabah.
Click here to read about
50 Quranic verses
and Ahadith in this
context
If the person says that he
was prostrating in view of
his excessive love of Wali
Allah, then he will be
counseled that though
'prostration of
reverence' (Sajda-e-
Tahiyya) is not shirk,
however it is forbidden in
Islam. What he was doing is
not appropriate, and is sin;
therefore he should stop it
because Awliya Allah get
annoyed if someone
prostrate in front of them.
Kissing of their graves is
allowed because it has been
the practice of Sahabah
( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮫﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﻢﮩﻨﻋ ﻦﯿﻌﻤﺟﺍ
).
It is in Hadith - Narrated Anas
( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻨﻋ ). "A
camel came and prostrated in
front of the Prophet ( ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ ). A goat came
and prostrated in front of him.
(Looking at this) Abu Bakr
Siddique ( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻨﻋ )
and other companions also
sought permission to prostrate
(in front of him). But the Prophet
( ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ )
said, ‘It is not appropriate for a
human being to prostrate in
front of another human being’.
(Ahmad, al-Bazzar).
It is in Hadith - Narrated Abu
Huraira ( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻨﻋ ):
Prophet ( ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ
ﻢﻠﺳﻭ) said: "If I were to
command anyone to
prostrate to anyone other
than Allah ( ﮧﻧﺎﺤﺒﺳ ﻭ ﺎﻌﺗ ﯽﻟ ).
I would have commanded women
to prostrate to their husbands.
(Tirmidhi, Ibn Maajah).
It is in Hadith - It is narrated
that when Mu’aadh ibn Jabal
( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻨﻋ ) came
back from Syria he
prostrated to the Prophet
(ﻢﻠﺳﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻭ ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ ﻰﻠﺻ) and
he said: “What is this,
O'Mu’aadh ( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ
ﮧﻨﻋ)?” He said: “O
Messenger of Allah( ﻰﻠﺻ ﻪﻠﻟﺍ
ﻪﻴﻠﻋ ﻭ ﻪﻟﺁ ﻢﻠﺳﻭ ), I saw them
in Syria prostrating to their
bishops and patriarchs and
they narrated that from
their Prophets.” He said,
“They are lying, O' Mu’aadh
( ﺊﺿﺭ ﮧﻨﻋ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ) if I were
to command anyone to
prostrate to anyone else I
would have told the women
to prostrate to their
husbands because of the
greatness of their rights
over them. O' Mu’aadh(ﺊﺿﺭ
ﮧﻠﻟﺍ ﯽﻟﺎﻌﺗ ﮧﻨﻋ ), do you think
that if you pass by my
grave you will prostrate?”
He said, “No.” He said: “Do
not do that.” (Ahmad and
others).
(f) If we see a Sahih-ul-
Aqeedah Muslim, Ahle
Sunna Wal Jama'a kissing
the feet of his parents or
his Shaikh or bowing to kiss
their hands, it will be treated
that he is acting upon
Sunnah.

[quote author=Soraya-Carvalho]Female ,30 years old ,still looking for a job, the only friends I had were the one talking behind my back and saying all these mean things about my looks.I am now by myself,I am afraid of getting hurt again that's why I mostly keep to myself.
thanks guys talking to me [/quote]Sorry i assumed you were male earlier.

Some people have been know to gossip and back bite. The greatest disservice people do to themselves is letting the society or peer pressure determine their course in life. Yes, you aren't married but does that change anything.

Everyone has his/her appointed time for doing things. Life is not a rat race or competition. Do things that make you happy. Let me sight another example. Look around you at the ladies who have been pressured into getting married just because they wanted to conform to societal standards. They married for the wrong reasons and today most have not too happy homes or even broken homes (funke et al).

You will get married and have a happy life if you feel that you would do. 30 might seem old to you but if you have the right attitude you could just meet the man of your dreams and in three months get married... but mind you people both male and female are attracted to people who are positive thinking and looking radiant. Radiance here doesn't mean physical beauty but the inner beauty(self esteem, confidence). i used to have a friend who was overweight but because of her poise, character and radiance guys flocked around her.

If you look gloomy and not positive no man would want you to be his wife or mother of his children. It's the natural law of evolution people are always looking for a better part to join to so that their off springs will be better off. I guess you might have had relationships in the past but you must wore out these guys with your negative outlook of life. I am not beautiful, i cannot make it in life, i am a loser. Who hears such things and still stick around if not a select few. You need to work on yourself a lot and it takes a step by step approach.


First thing....Please stop comparing yourself to others. you are different and unique. Everyone have problems. all those people you see painting a beautiful pictures of their life have some things going wrong for them at one point or the other they just choose to highlight the bright part of their lives.


About your been jobless.. With your writing. I guess you must have a minimum of either OND, or even a degree. Schools are resuming next month. Most of these private schools would be recruiting. Some don't want to scare away potential students by pasting on their walls that they don't have English, maths, science, business teachers. Look for one around your area. Meet with the principal or whoever is in charge. Tell him your capabilities. The pay might not be okay but it is a start. NEVER BE IDLE. JUST GET SOMETHING DOING. Even if it just pays for your transport and daily upkeep. Just get busy. Once you start getting busy, you start forgetting those good for nothing friends you have. Focus on yourself. Save money, Go to your workplace mons-fri. Look for a vocational centre around you. Learn things like hair dressing, braiding e.t.c you sure know what you like or what your passions are. Continue applying for jobs you qualify for. Write down a list (bucket list) of things you would love to do. Like i will like to travel to Abuja and see the Aso rock...Try and achieve this little you have written. With time your outlook of life would change.


Mind you it is gradual and not something that yields results immediately you need to be disciplined. Try as much as possible to forget your sorrows. Focus on the positives of your life. Best of luck. If you have other things to discuss just post it in here.


Lastly...Get close to your God, but seriously getting close to God without positive actions would not yield any result. We have over 6 billion people in the world although God listens to all but let me tell you he listens to those who seek his help and are ready to take positive ACTIONS to achieve their goals.

kayword: Prostrating is adjudged by some scholars as a form of worship, dat means u may actually be paying obeisance to ur in-laws without knowing, something meant for God alone. That could be a sin u know

When I or If i do prostrate to someone it will be as a show of love or as a form of greeting.

The first hadith has already covered this...All actions are based on your intentions.

My intention for greeting them by prostrating is not because they own me or they are lord over me but just a representation of the word "good morning or good day" and as a mark of respect. The Prophet preaches respect for the family and we all have our ways of showing respect. It all boils down to the intention. If you are bowing or prostrating to someone as paying homage or obeisance then that's when it is termed sin.

But as for me and from my own understanding. I don't think there's anything wrong in this. I don't have to prostrate on Third Mainland Bridge before God knows am paying obeisance to HIM as long I believe HE is ONE and The Only One nothing else matters.

kayword: Salam, talkin about mixing culture with religion, ow about cases where the groom and friends are required to prostrate before the bride parents. Wat can d groom do in such a situation?

Very funny...You mean you won't prostrate to your in laws when seeking the hand of their daughter in marriage if it is required by the culture?

Hmmm....you are taking it way too far..


Pray tell me what else would you do? Walk away when asked to do so or plainly refuse...Everything is judged by your intentions bro.

Atleast we have a little preview of things... practical solution to your problem is first. Take it that the solution to your problems lies in your hands. We can go on and on giving advise in here but it dosen't change anything if you don't believe you can change for the better just like greatgod advised also don't strive for instant results because the change you desire wont happen overnight.
First thing i would advise you do is take a break from the environment you are currently in. You have families or relations you can go to who are accomodating. Travel down to their place and spend atleast two weeks. During this time temporarily forget your problems and do things you enjoy and help the people you are staying with by doing simple things like house chores and stuff. Go out and enjoy the fresh air.This is to take your mind off the problems. I will get back to you with more tips. Am mobile now