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Rostel2.

Truth is....Your life is in your hands. You can choose to continue expecting manna from heaven without any appreciable work or you can go out there and fix things and pray God bless whatever uyou lay your hands on.

When faced with challenges, you need to first understand what the problems is/arefrom there you can chart a way forward.

YOU had 2 outstanding courses in school but you are just relying on heresays about they sending your result to the senate so you can go for service.
Question is, have those results been cleared?
Have you passed them with verifiable evidence? If yes/no proc3ed to school, spend at leat a week there and make sure you know the true status of things.

If that's sorted....at least you know what's your next move. Service or going back to write those exams(if you hadn't truly passed them)


But in the interim. I would advise you get something doing. Even if it's a primary school that offers you a teaching job or somewhere you are able to earn something. Even if the pay just covers transport and feeding.. STAYING HOME and doing nothing is the greatest disservice you would do to youtself. There's that confidence that comes with going out daily, having a purpose and waking up looking forward to doing something worthwhile than sleeping at home.

I am more concerned about the portuding stomach.

Is the man pregnant with another?

And 99.8 percent of people you follow are women.

The truth that vast majority don't know about Sexually transmitted Infections.

We currently live in a world where most of our young ones and even adults are not properly educated about diseases. With the advent of social media and raging Pop culture we daily see the glorifying of sex and other actions on the frontpage of most of our screens. With this many have been conditioned to such stereotype and have become loose and now engage in illicit Sexual intercourse and have many partners. A scroll through the romance section of Nairaland would show the thoughts that runs through the mind of most youths to the extent that we see threads asking if there exist relationships without sex and the partners being faithful .

First you need to throw away that high school or whatever sex education you got from your friends about how wearing a condom can protect you from all diseases and keep you safe as long as you use it properly. That's so wrong and very untrue. There are actually many STIs out there that can't be prevented by using a condom.

On this thread I would be listing the various diseases we have and with this I hope we would have armed more people with the right information about STIs rather than the half truths and many lies you hear on broadcast mediums.




1. GENITAL HERPES
Living With It: May seem invisible but very dangerous.
Curable: No

RAW Score: 13 Partners
Condoms Protect: No

So I have good news and bad news. The bad news is that a shit-ton of people have herpes. The good news is that the vast majority of people never show symptoms and don’t have the viral load required for it to show up in their blood levels.

There are two types of Herpes: HSV-1 and HSV-2. HSV-1 usually causes breakouts around the mouth — we just call them cold sores or fever blisters. A large % of the population has HSV-1, although at any given time almost none have a break out. HSV-2 causes breakouts around the genitals. Herpes never goes away and it's dangerous for pregnant women and they may need a C- Section as a natural birth could lead to the baby being blind or cause still births. Question is ladies, do you want to give birth through surgery?

2. CHLAMYDIA
Living With It:V. Uncomfortable
Curable: Yes (2-4 Weeks)

RAW Score: 36 Partners
Condom Protects: Yes

Chlamydia is a bacterial infection, mostly transferred through intercourse. In men it’s uncomfortable and a bit harmless. In women, if untreated, it can cause pelvic inflammatory disease, which can lead to complications with pregnancies or even infertility.

Symptoms include burning pee and balls might ache. While 25% of men don’t experience symptoms, a full 70% of women do not experience any symptoms, which actually makes it more dangerous for women (most doctors recommend women screen for chlamydia at least once a year).


3. GONORRHEA
Living With It: Painful.
Curable: Yes (within a month)

RAW Score: 179 Partners
Condom Protects: Yes

Gonorrhea is Chlamydia’s big brother. In fact, the two often occur together. The difference is that gonorrhea can be transferred via any orifice: penis, vagina, anus, mouth. It often takes a few weeks for symptoms to show up, and it’s even more unpleasant to deal with. The symptoms for gonorrhea include painful urination, aching balls for guys, swollen urethra, sore throat, and pus coming out of your genitals. Yes, that was pus coming out of your genitals.

Apparently there’s a new strain of gonorrhea which does not react to antibiotics. This STD has made a bit of a comeback in terms of riskiness and it is very prevalent in Nigeria.

4. SYPHILIS
Living With It: Itchy. Then 15 years later you go insane and kill yourself from dementia. (Seriously)
Curable: Yes

RAW Score: 1841 partners
Condom Protects: No

The famous philosopher Nietzsche was a bit of a lush and had a fondness for prostitutes. Somewhere along the way, he contracted syphilis and his body began to wither from the inside out. Over the course of this torturous process, he famously proclaimed “God is dead” and slowly slipped into dementia and died. Although there are contrary tales I have read that he died of cancer.

Syphilis was the 19th century’s version of the AIDS epidemic. It was famously cured by Alexander Fleming in 1928 but it is on the rise, especially among gay men.

Syphilis plays itself out in stages. The first stage is you develop a sore or sores (usually just one, but not always). This happens a few weeks after contracting the infection and the sore is generally painless. From there, after a few months, you break out into rashes. These rashes go on for weeks or
months and eventually subside. From there, you may have no symptoms. Then 15-20 years later your internal organs start bleeding, you lose control of your motor functions, and you start losing your mind and die.


5. HPV
Living With It: A nuisance. A few years of awkward conversations. Hopefully just one painful operation for women.
Curable: No but it typically leaves on its own in some cases after a few years. There is also a vaccine for women and men now (get it!)

RAW Score: 4 Partners
Condom Protects: No

HPV is where things begin to get interesting. HPV is the latest STD freakout in the media. If all you’ve heard is the few
tidbits that get passed around, it sounds horrifying. Most sexually active men and women will get it at some point in their lives, it causes cancer, condoms don’t protect it.

There are over 100 strains of HPV. All except for about six of them are basically harmless. For men, all but two have no symptoms. The two that cause symptoms in men cause genital warts. Warts sound terrible and can be removed with basic surgery. The other four high-risk strains can, if left untreated, lead to cervical cancer in women.

Actually, HPV is the leading cause of cervical cancer in women. New studies are also showing that MouthAction with someone who has these strains can potentially lead to throat cancer down the road. But HPV throat cancer rates are still insanely low and the other rare types of cancers caused by HPV are uncommon and almost never fatal.

Also, women who do get lesions can have a procedure that prevents them from getting cervical cancer, but it’s pretty painful and follow ups with your doctor are necessary.

Also, there is an HPV vaccine for women and men can get it now too.Women should get regular screening for HPV, assuming they see their doctor regularly.

Unfortunately, most places are unable to test men for HPV.
The only way men can know if they have it is if someone you’re dating tells you they have it, or if you happen to find a wart.


6. HIV
Living With It: Expensive and debilitating.
Curable: No

RAW Score: 1,250 Partners (significantly fewer partners if engaging in anal sex)
Condoms Protect: Yes(but not 100 percent sure proof)

HIV is no longer the death warrant it once was but it is awful and surely life-altering.

There are some demographics which are far more likely to catch HIV than others, primarily gay men and drug users. In the US 80% of all HIV cases come from gay men or drug addicts who use dirty needles. When it comes to vaginal sex, it’s almost impossible for a man to catch it from a woman (but would you risk catching other STIs in the process?), while a woman can catch it from a man.

Anal Sex seems to be the big culprit here. Africans account
disproportionately for a large portion of all HIV cases in the world.

The symptoms of HIV are flu-like symptoms a couple weeks after contracting it. From there your immune system slowly shuts down over the period of years. There are a lot of therapies and treatments available and most people who contract it are able to live functional, mostly normal lives, assuming they get proper medical care.

Credits:
1.Centre for disease control(CDC)
http://m.cdc.gov/enHealthSafetyTopics/DiseasesConditions/STDs/

2. http://markmanson.net/std-guide



As for RAW scores, that's the average number of partners you do have sex with to run the risk of an infection. However this are just probable scores.


Question is, do you still think hopping from one bed to the other beneficial and sampling as many girls as possible clever? I hope someone makes a rational decision today.

5minsmadness:
Thanks for this your contribution.
@bold I don't understand, are u saying i should buy the TV from them? I get two tv for my house already o.

Please do not intervene or even show your hand at all.

They don't need a third party now. I doubt they have exhausted all avenues of solving the issue they are facing by themselves.

You can only advise the husband but going over to talk to the wife is a big breach of their privacy and they may never recover from such. Let them sort it out themselves. It is not life threatening so all third party should keep out .

andromida:
Na as the trouser tight i come see am . You dey wear that kain trouser?

Nah ...

My fashion sense never high reach that level.

luxanne:


Pls to the guys on here and everywhere, I really would like to know and understand why you love wearing tight pants? What's the motive and essence? I can't seem to understand this walahi.

This guy is just an eyesore abeg, even tho he cracked our ribs hard, I want him heavily fined. Everything he has on reads 'disaster', pfft!

It's personal-you know choices. Some want to look smart and tailor mishaps happens. Also the way some love baggy jeans is the way some like tight fitted pants.

andromida:
Yeah nice shirt, nice trousers, nice body

Is it me or is that his erm kini outline in the trouser.

I know you would notice that.

Wetin carry your eye go there. ?

luxanne:
Lmao. Is that so? But that's the definition of a bully na, or are you one?

Just come to class jor. Trust Joywendy na, its gonna be an interesting one

Not a bully... Just enjoy the benefits


I dey come class soon.

luxanne:
How about I give you the class captain of the class?

Class captain ke. I no want that one.

Wetin class captain dey collect? Special food? Monthly allowance or he gets to eat all the lunch packs of his fellow students for 1 month?

Fix that and I may be interested.

luxanne:
Dissuade me ke? Lai, lai mind's made up on learning chess, I love the game

Be seeing u there then. U berra hurry o cuz the lessons has begun already

Encourage me. I am feeling lazy.

Joy... ok o. As you say. You the boss now.

joywendy:
see them 'why should i seat and defend always' BLAH BLAH BLAH

na fast game una want.

blitz chess will fit u both , you don't need to think too much but you got to play fast and think fast. Timer is involved, sometimes even more fun than the normal classic deep thought chess. Too much of it though can somehow spoil your classic chess game.

Now you are talking. where you keep that blitz chess before wey you dey come show me d1, k1, k2 and stuff?

There's no time to check time. So we want fast games, action parked ones infact.

luxanne:
Lmao I feel u jare

That defending ish can be damn annoying until they make a wrong move. Even in scrabble, u'l find them - ppl who would never open the game up while playing but would jump at any chances u create. If am playing with such kind, I usually just end the game sharperly by saying 'I can't play like this' what's the point boring myself up with them...nah, that one na no go area abeg or perhaps, I'l employ dis ur coaching techniques but with sense

Yeah true. Can be very annoying when people just sit back and wait for you to take the big step.


Let me not dissuade you o. Learn from the pros like joy.

I would join you guys later.

Not bad ...

But looks like someone going to a boxing match.

luxanne:
@onegig, u should join me in taking the classes. Not only does chess increase ur tolerance and patient level, it aids critical thinking as well but know this, I'l be your senior in the class u hear

I no say na that senior dey trip you pass. I dey come madam senior.

luxanne:
Tah! I disagree x 100
How then will you learn or find the game interesting if u are allowed to win most of the time? The wrong moves u make while playing is what you need to learn in order to be better and win an opponent. Do you know how many times I lost before I had my final breakthru? Dude was surprised when I won him

I can play fairly well if I want to but when it comes to things involving leisure like chess I like to just cut corners and just end it. Why would everyone just sit back and try defending always, trying not to make errors when you can just bring the Big boys out and just check mate everything and make some fireworks happen?

Just take the high risks, go all out and just chop things. If i were a football coach, na attack from start to finish. In chess what I find interesting is termed a bad strategy.

joywendy:
Good morning.

Never say Never

lol! chai

YES!!!! * dancing shoki*

FINALLY

Glad to hear, i can take you in some simple basics and movement. There are also chess ebooks too that can help

I would love to see you dance etighi instead.

Just allow me win most you hear. So I find it interesting else I might just get pissed off and just forget learning at all. I can be a "spoilt kid" when the circumstances are right.

joywendy:
Thanks so much, you are so nice.

* Collects coke sips like a boss gives more popcorn to luxanne*

me? good? just on the average and no one can really boost of been that good in chess unless of course you are the world chess champion

Do you play?

God knows I can never know how to play it. .

Never patient to wait to see the end. Just want the game to end and I may just take the big risks to win. Carry the Queen, bishop and whatever out to cancel you out.

Maybe I need to learn it. Might increase my tolerance level and make me a bit more patient.

ilugunboy:
such people don't really know what they talk about....

Most have not traveled out of their rats infested houses. So they always talk out of tune and pass judgement blindly on places they have not visited or people they have never commuted with.

joywendy:
why does your topic have so many signs?

He is confused.

We need to do something drastic about the education sector in Nigeria.

We have to many silly people who can read and write but can't process basic information which is the ultimate aim of getting educated. Not the garbage in, garbage out we witness daily on this forum.

This thread just shows that we have many educated illiterates in their millions. Can you imagine the hogwash the op typed?

bukatyne:
@bold: I no dey

They are sanitly

The guy is a good man and loves his wife... I guess the 'settlement' into marriage did them (I hope he does not cheat because I would withdraw my accolades )

The wife too is loving and quickly switched to loving as the guy retraced his steps...

She did not start forming power or victim

I like to always explore all the options in a story. Lets assume the other lady played along and never introduced her husband or made the banker a family friend I.e friends of both. The story would have been different.

Intending to do something is like you are 50 percent across the line to accomplishing that act. if the opportunity presented itself the husband would have cheated. We can only say thumbs up that he regained his senses or he was just lucky.

That's why married folks need to first realise the fact that your spouse is your best match. YEAH you would always meet people of the opposite sex that are more beautiful and do things better than them but it doesn't make them better than your spouse. Contentment is a big deal.

Having that basic understanding would make you resolve to always make it work and give it your all. Have two people with such ideals in a marriage then you got a blissful one.

Dyt:
Not picked it up, I just hope that man don't spoil things when fixing them broken places.
I hope it works fine else I will so hold y responsible

I trust mumsy not to give it to the wrong person.

It would be fine. Just relax. Take care


Missslimbody....Sorry for derailing your thread.

Dyt:
Iyaf vex gan ooo
Mum actually took it somewhere yesterday.

Ahhhh...Ema binu.

Seriously , I had forgotten about it.

Lots of things on my mind and hands. Just came in recently. Your post here reminded me about it.

I am so sorry. But I guess it's working fine now?

Good Story and Quite inspiring.

It gets monotonous and a bit boring with time and having kids can be a bid drain of one's creative energy.

I guess one just needs to sit and talk and find something new to reignite the passion instead of seeking thrills and that lost happiness outside.

If only couples would learn.

@Dyt. Just remembered after seeing your post. I am in lag now but make it this week else I am off again.

At long last.

The naughty boy pays us back.

Good Balloteli