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Bukas, mama-put etc no qualms with them, so long as they are clean. I pick mine here in Warri. And I set standards. The place must be clean.

Now, there's this place off Airport Road where one Calabar woman cooks. For once, it's the cleanest mama-put in town. So, when I eat my sizzling hot semovita and edikaikong soup in the afternoons in that place, I know I will need more than one hour for break in the office!!!

conscience, kenflavor, babagana........don't know what to say.....

WesleyanA:
You can't say that if they were reading "physics" and "physics" only, no girl under 18 will ever have sex. actually there are more danger and hurt to a human than sex. social, emotional distress are just a part of it.

Gosh! Wes, how in the world could I be able to post anything here if I read only physics in my teens? See, all I'm saying here is that teenagers should devote more of their time to studying and growing up to be responsible. Coming here to learn about romance will not help them. Timing is also very important I'll suggest that sex education for any child should start at age 20.

I have read some entries from teens here, and from what they post, their entries leave much to be desired. If you ask some of those kids questions about their school work, which should be important to them, they will never be able to answer. But ask them questions on anything romance, and get to know what they'll specialise on in future.

Hey, cool down girl: The disease here is DIVORCE. Now, that should knock out all the other outbursts of yours.

Believe me Wesley, most of our problems in Nigeria were actually imported from the US in particular and Western Nations in general. And we are working very hard to retrace our steps and go back to our roots, no matter how crude those roots are.

You did not say anything about humans having sex with animals in some states in the US. Maybe you'd counter that one too, right?
You know, it all starts from not having enough with other women and men. So, the next thing is now animals! Lord have mercy!! And that's because teenagers are exposed to such things as sex at an early age that their sense of reasoning gets warped along the line and they start thinking of having sex with animals later in life - animals like horses and pigs. wow!!

As far as I'm concerned, gay marriages, and maybe very soon we'll begin to hear of men marrying animals in the US, is the worst form of marriages in human history.


Wes, you're still a child for christ sake! C'mon! it's going to be a bit difficult for you to understand me in these matters. So, as a first step to getting out of the woods, forget about those your cuddly sex education lessons, UNTIL you're 18 and above.

I've read about the the good, the bad and the ugly. Life's not a bed of roses. It's full of ups and downs.


I'm married. I got married 1st October 2005. That's some 5months now. Not much to say yet. But it's been a wonderful time with Arit all these while.

Dave, but he's done a bit of changing the face and all that, y'know plus and minus things....it's not like the way it is on the other sites you posted.

C'mon man! don't pour sand sand on this my guy's garri o...

Charliesco,
You make me proud as a Waffi (Warri) guy. Keep up the good work. Just display some waffi tactics for them here.

All these people no know say, who no go no know


Some people think say na only War we sabi

You like rice cooked on fire wood........hmn! Does that have any special taste to rice? Don't be offended, I'm just a bit curious, that all...

WesleyanA:
I'm actually 15 not 16 yet(i'll be turning 16 this year though).

....responsibility doesn't necesarily have to take the form of academics . That's totally different. That's academic responsibility and has nothing to do with romance. For example, physics can't train you to be a responsible family man or responsible headstart (day care) administrator. You have to be specific .
social, emotional responsibility which has much more to do with this topic at hand is what you should talk about.
i could also say that i was preoccupied with dancing/singing that i had no time for romance!! voila. i'm responsible!!

What makes someone responsible is knowledge/maturity. If you are taught at an early stage how to be mature through sex education (at school and at home), the better.

Those examples you gave from the sections, before i consider them you have to give me the  approximate ages of the posters. and give me info as to what extent you edited them or the link...............

Well, I said through rigorous academic exercise and learning - now, learning is an all embracing broad term. It sure embraces all the other stuff you've mentioned. And I sure did all that. I'd be a shrink if I did not.

Is there any gap between knowledge, maturity, age, and learning? Methink they are all inter-woven one way or the other. In fact they all depend on each other for survival, if you'd ask me.

Those examples you gave from the sections, before i consider them you have to give me the approximate ages of the posters. and give me info as to what extent you edited them or the link.

I said the girl's 17yrs old. Editing was almost zero, if not zero. You can see the sections already, from the heading.

...like gay marriages,....like the highest sexual abuse record in human history, all the rapes.We hear about men raping 8 year olds in the US, gangsterism, violence, occult, I hear  humans having sex with animals in some states in the US is tolerated etc etc...FROM CNN, and others. My friends over there tell me too. Need I say more?

They all stem from misplaced priorities, non-chalant attitudes from parents and American society in general towards the right way of bringing up a child.

Since this sex education thing was introduced to the world by Americans, how far have they been able to reduce, in anyway, the prevalence of sexual abuse amongst youths in the US in particular and the world in general? The US today, has the highest divorce rate amongst married couples in the world. They are even spreading their diseases towards Europe and Africa! We will resist it with our last blood.

Now, how do you think I will take one smith-lawfirm seriously on this issue? Pointblank, I will not take whatever any American law firm has to say on this matter seriously. For all I care, it's one of your lawyer friend website. http://www.smith-lawfirm.com/sex_ed.html

And, I find it hard to combine the fact that the American lifetyles is the best on one hand, and that many take it for granted on the other. Methink if it's the best, it will have zero tolerance for any lapses. So, check your facts girl, before going to press.

If you're a 15yr old girl, I'd better stop this our discussion before something serious happens to me. I like abiding by the rules. It pays in the end.

@ijebuman:Some points from your entry:

1) We should adopt the dialogue approach to the problems confronting us in this country. No fighting, no violence, no war.

I agree with you. But for how long are we going to dialogue? What is there to discuss again after all these years of dialoguing, ehn? But you can't tell me that at this time, we do not know what our problems are in this country.

2) The oppressors in the country are not necessarily from one ethnic group. They cut across most of the ethnic groups in the country.

True. So a first step at healing wounds in the land is to let the South-South get the Presidency in 2007, and let us see if there's really mutual, benefitial, and healthy relationship across all the hand-picked, oppressing, and all embracing ethnic groups. And if there's no such relationship, let that one start it.

Second, let all those, who are the accomplices of all these oppressors, who are really chameleon-like people in nature, be exposed, so that we can take them for who they are. These people are just after their pockets. They are praise-singers of our oppressors, sychophants, basketmouths. We will like to know them.

The unfortunate thing about the whole setting is that many of our people are illiterates. And I believe our oppressors actually want it that way. Otherwise, how could one explain the prevalence of illiterates in the face of such stupendous wealth. Is it a case of misplaced priority or what?

One other thing I've observed in the country is that of traitors in our midst. They come around and tell people that they are with us in the struggle. And indeed they are. But because they are sold out to their ethinc groupings, they bend at the mention of any harm coming the way of one of them - in this case one of their oppressing ethnic brother! This is one of the biggest problems we are currently facing in this country. Not many people want to die for a just cause. There's this ingrained ethic interests in many of us. And that's what led to the death of many Tutsis and Hutus alike in the Rwandan Genocide.

We really need to start thinking as Nigerians. Not as Yorubas, Hausas, Ibibios, Isokos, Ijaws, Itsekiris, Junkuns, Igbirras, Ijesha or it Ujesha, etc etc. And we need to put national interests above all other interests

That way, hopefully, we will succeed.

OMG Owo, you are too much..... Tell them about Alams. All those truckloads of sins heaped on the innocent man were lies from the pit of EFCC and SSS. Tell them.

Oga Ijebuman, I don't know what to say here, but we really need some level of force to get out of the doldrums we're currently in.  Granted, we can begin to monitor these evil beings accounts and ill-gotten wealth and all that, but we need action!!!! and that, NOW

Let me douse the tension brewing in here:

Owo is a very good friend, and

Oga Ijebuman, is way back my Senior.

Kola, well, Kola is a politician

Make una sheath una swords. Let the EFCC, SSS, Police and other OBJ's machines do the dirty job of arresting the man, if they can. Just sheath your swords.


And where is Conscience, the man who started this thread?

I just thot folks on the religion block will like this one:

For God so lo[b]V[/b] ed the world,
      That he g A ve
            His on[b] L[/b] y
           Begott E n
                  So N
                        T hat whosoever
       Believeth[b] I [/b] n Him
          Should N ot perish,
But have[b] E[/b] verlasting life."
                                           John 3:16




What do you think...

seeni4ever:
a 16 yr old girl is no more minor, come to colleges in maryland u'll see alot of sweet sixteens there, and are you trying to tell me that a college girl is not mature enough. iwill rather date a 16 yr old than to date a girl that will think she is your mama.

It's generally acknowledged the world over, that the present day American way of life is unarguably the worst in human history.

Um, wesley, how old are you? Read my words very well: I was much more pre-occupied - now that's supposed to mean, I had time for other things, but my energy and ample time were much more devoted towards becoming a resposible man through rigorous academic exercise and learning. You read such things as playing table tennis and football in that my entry, right? That means I sure had time for other things, girl.

WesleyanA:
It's not a matter of difficulty. It's a matter of knowing your right from wrong.
You hear about robberies and crime everyday ringing in your ear but that doesn't mean you're going to participate in it or break into someone's house the next day!

the key point is: right from wrong. no matter how much you hear about romance, if you know and are determined that you'll remain a virgin, you can.

yes, it can influence you but if you know your "right" from "wrong" it's not that difficult.

Now you're saying it's okay for girls to have sex (as long as they don't get HIV)! doesn't that contradict your argument?

At 16 yrs of age, you really do not know your right from wrong. Be truthful to yourself. You still need parental guidance. I read one seventeen year old reply on one of snazzy's posts. Let me share it with you. I deliberately removed the name of the person not to cause some sort of embarrassment. I've done some editing also.

2 Forums / Sexuality / Re: Your First Sexual Experience on: January 31, 2006, 02:44 PM

..........do u seriously think i should i mean i was considering doing it wit ma boyfriend i jst hd 2nd thoughts


3 Forums / Sexuality / Re: Your First Sexual Experience on: January 31, 2006, 02:42 PM
.........u guys i beg now stop makin me feel lk 'tasing it'


4 Forums / Sexuality / Re: Your First Sexual Experience on: January 31, 2006, 02:34 PM
........u guys i beg now stop makin me feel like 'tasting it'

Do you get my point now?



gentleaura, abeg help save me from the hands of these sex-infested sweet sixteens.

I stand by my word wesley: I never had the time to think of having any serious relationship with any girl. I wasn't thinking of romance then either. It's all physics, chemistry, maths and further-maths. In fact it was competition galore for many of us back then. It was called over-sylla as at then. genle, I remember all that one my dear. Who will forget back of 1938 block, by metal-workshop? wesley, you won't understand. So, just chill out!!

I attended a boys only secondary school. And I'm sure glad I did.

I concur.
Erm, Hot or Cold kinikan, Just go tell the babalawaos and other voodoo experts to find solution to the dark-angel called corrupton plaguing (plague) us, before we begin to help others.

First remove the log in your eyes, so that you can see properly to remove the pebble on other peoples eyes.

Na wa o.

http://www.radiolagosekofm.com/home/news/newsdetails.php?NewsID=626

More on Malu's talk.

We too dey like pretend say things dey alright for this our country. Even in the face of all the problems we are facing, we prefer to still go jolly jolly like nothing dey shele

Things dey bad, we dey talk am as it is, yet some people feel say make we dey look look like that. Me, I no dey for that kain thing o! I don talk my own.

I will take a stand now:


Gen. Malu is entitled to his own opinion, views and regrets. Full STOP.

You're just one in a Million!

We're stuck with Nigeria, lets look for ways to solve our problems as a united entity. The people oppressing the majority are a small minority that cuts across ethnic groups. This group of 'elites' will still oppress the majority in any configuration that emerges from Nigeria.

But we know what our problems are. Why can't we just get done with it!! This is the most frustrating part of it all. When you know what your problems are, it's assumed that it's half solved. But when you turn a blind eye and pretend as if all is well, as the saying goes...''while Rome burns'' , then what do we stand to benefit?

This 'elite people' lets get them out of our way and move ahead as youngsters; can't we do without them and their cohorts? This is annoying!!!

@nferyn, I don't know the ethnic configuration in Vietnam, and I think they may not be more than two. As such, I think comparing Vietnam with the Nigerian case may not work. The network of ethno-centered interests in Nigeria is indeed overwhelming.

Bros Ijebuman, it's because there are so many warped vested interests in the Nigerian Polity that we're as at this point in the history of our nation facing all the problems bedevilling us. The other day, one chap in the North said he's ready to declare a Jihad if the Niger Deltans are given total control of their resources. That's one big problem here.
Nferyn, you'd see why we can't make any progress?Nigerians generally see oil as their lifeline. Nothing else matters. Why can't we look at other sources of revenue for us in this country and see how we can put them to better use for all?

Also, Owo rightly observed that there's this palpable fear in everyone that bloodshed will ruin us all. We've been through so many traumatic experience in the hands of law enforcements agancies that our basic rights as humans can be denied and we cannot do anything about it. Read http://www.vanguardngr.com/articles/2002/editorial/ed02022006.html and get to know how our justice system works. The whole thing resulted to the docility Owo is talking about in his entry. I quote Owo:

''This docility is the the current curse on the land. It has been exploited and is still being exploited by the powers that be. Forming a group/movement based on an idealogy or even being an idealogue is a taboo to some segments of the population''

Now, in the light of all these facts, forming grassroots political organisations will really amount to nothing

And like I stated in an earlier post, most Nigerians (the oppressors and the oppressed alike) simply throw up their hands in exasperation and pray to God for help from above.

Yeah Wesley, that one's a long post.

The important thing here is self control Forget about controlling hormones flow and all that thrash. Believe me, at 16 and with all these romantic words ringing in your ears, It's going to be a difficult one for a teenage girl not to think of tasting or eating the forbidden fruit, or is it[b] popping the cherry [/b] you girls call it?

As at 16, I was much more preoccupied with how to finish Nelkon's Principle of Physics, cover to cover. I remember reading Osei Yaw Ababio's New School Chemistry Book about twice, cover to cover that time. Maybe it's because I attended a boys only secondary school, but I really never had the time to think about girls until towards the end of my stay in the University. Those days, fun to me was playing table tennis and some football. Not getting to know what's meant for adults.

In all, girls should have fun o. No wahala, as long as they did not get infested with HIV.

Well then, good luck to underage girls with abnormally flowing hormones, lacked self-control and respect, and romancing on the web!

On a lighter note though, girls should have fun, but with care. What you read and see sure have a lot of effect on you. I'm talking from experience.

This is all I've got to say on this one. Nice time Latoya.

I controlled myself for 28 years until I got married, my friend! If you must know, I was a virgin through and through. And I believe if I post my pix on my profile box, you'd fall flat like a pack of cards!!

All thru those 28 years my hormones flowed normally and I got a very highly developed brain. I'm a well-baked, well cultured and a profitable addition to my society.

All my advice above is what I used to tell my younger sisters. They heeded my advice and they are better people today.

Good luck to girls with abnormally flowing hormones, lacked self-control and respect, and romancing on the web!

I think we were better people in days gone by than nowadays. All these sharp people coming up nowadays are really half-baked, wasted, and uncultured crops.