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quote author=LiftedMan post=85434385]So I just called the Nigerian Embassy in Qatar, And guess what? It's was Indian Guy that spoke to me, imagine that. Someone informed me that it's not strange to find foreigners working in Nigerian embassies.[/quote]

What is wrong with nigerians,are we so stupid,or we have become so ignorant.the french are trying to Bleep us over.the president is dealing with this treat,rather than standing for nigeria we stupidly start talking trash,if ghana wishes to return to slavery definatly not Nigeria.the Eco is a french scam,to control west africa economy .because they can not survive without our economy go and see what they did in haiti.

Welcome to marrage life,when i dey advice men of this generation to forget marrage them go dey talk rubbish until they enter,your problems in life just started give you another 3 years,by yourself you go run.for those asking didnt you people date.my answer no man knows a woman till you marry am they can pretend for 10years if need be.


[qquote author=Cheato64 post=85354662]I got married in 2018, I love my wife so much and I know she loves me too but my wife is too dramatic.

She always claim she trusts me but mehn she doesn't let me out of her sight. I do everything and it's affecting me, we have a son and another is on the way, she has refused to learn how to drive on purpose, I take her everywhere, antenatal, market (hate this one the most), I drop and pick her from work, am forced to go church or other programs which I wouldn't like to go.

She goes through my phone every 3 days most especially at night. She noticed I snore I asked for a separate room, she will never let me, she Insists we sleep with light on.

Sometimes I pray for Nepa to take light. The day I called an ex that works in bank to assist me with transaction due to crowd, she went through my phone saw it, I had to explain out of anger she smashed my phone she does this very often she has smashed hers b4.

I feel like running away for a week but I can't leave my work or our son and she might go to my parents which I wouldn't want.

Pls I need help on how to tackle this wahala[/quote]

In my experince women and the truth do not go hand in hand.women are very misleading and if you follow there mouth you go kill person.so until i hear your husbands account of events before i can comment.

Mrsprissy:
Good evening my brothers and sisters in the house. First , I am not a troll . I've been a member on NL since 2008 and am very active, but I prefer using a new account for my story to seek advice and also learn from other experienced people in this great group.

On christmas day hubby and I were invited to attend a special dinner at his friend's house and I picked a nice outfit for him to wear on the day, he wore another outfit, a t shirt and jeans his every day clothes so I asked him politely to go and change, he got angry at me and told me to keep quiet and he went inside.

He was in our room for an hour while the kids and I were still waiting for him, I even sent the kids in their room to play, he later came out he only changed his top but didn't changed the trousers and trainers. I had decided not to say anything for peace to reign, so as we were leaving, I asked him if we could take a family picture, he just snapped and slapped me and started beating me up so badly, he only stopped because my children were screaming and crying for him to stop.

I am so pained because before the incident happened, we were fine, no quarrel at all, I just don't understand his reasons for beating me like this and I swear to God, I didn't say something to make him this angry, he left me there and went out, his friend later called to know if we were still coming because he couldn't reach hubby on the phone, I told him we are coming.

I cleaned myself, changed my clothes and I left with the kids to his friend's house, to my surprise he was already there, we acted like everything was normal and I tried hard to stop tears coming because I was in pained.

For the past 3 days he has been acting as if I did wronged him, he doesn't talk to me, he doesn't eat my foods and he left the room and he is now sleeping in our son's room. I just don't know what to do again

First of all welcome to management,now it is a combination of power play and politics .you must never allow emotions.what you need to do is assess the importance of the old staff,draw out the plan on how to counter the effect of there sacking eg knowing your pupils parents,and getting people to understudy them.then sack them all,anybody who isnt loyal to you must go.at the top loyality trumps even efficency.but when it come to business your loyalist must be close to you and the efficent report to your loyalist.you become a master once you have gotten the efficent to be loyal.
Or in the short term fire the most powerful of them all and watch the weak run to pleadge loyalty,but do not get carried away with there fake loyality.

Jokerman:
Hello. I need advice on this topic

About a year ago, my Dad died, being an owner of a primary school with my mom, thereafter o assumed head of the school, although I run my own freelance engineering installation and maintenance service on HVACs and Diesel engines.

In course of this education line, I'm obtaining my certificate in PGDE( in view).

Now this is the case...

There are some old staff in the school then whom use to collect school fees on behalf of the school and you know Nigerians, instead of remitting the fees to the school, they divert and scam and even go as far as lending money to different people in the vicinity.

However since I took over, I forcefully stopped the collection, and redirected all fees to be paid at the bank. Mhen, it was not small trouble, fight, gossiping, spoiling me at the back etc, but I never listened to such, and right now no one collects these fees again... Everything goes through me coz I'm trying to sanitize it. I also required the services of a registered security company operator (sheriff deputies) for the school

Problems I needed advice

1. Sometimes these rebellion. They gossip and talk evil to people that I'm very harsh etc

2. I have changed 2 security operators because of compromises with these staff. I will give instruction, Buh those they'd do otherwise and bend to what other older staff tell them. Recently, the present security did something contrary and I scolded him toughly. Recently, he had an alteration with a parent and I asked him to just plead with her. He refused blatantly. I was surprised and even my mom too. He said he doesn't like the way I scold him and that's why bla bla bla, infront of all other staff. My mom asked me not to change him Buh I'm skeptical

I already feel like changing him with his company supervisor coz he lives around the vicinity and he now gossips with those old staff who might be telling him I'm too young to order him to do things

4. These old staffs are like friends to my mom and they already carry a lot of influence with most of the parents (which I also cut off too). One of them is wife to my mom's brother

5. My mother has been telling me to be patient even my wife. I do not want to employ an headteacher until I change a lot of things

The school has about 300-350 pupils, and employs 18 staff

Advice needed

I am listening to you and what i gathered is simple both you and your sister in laws are playing the same game a womans game.it is your husband that is the victim,you both are attacking each other and using him as a proxy for your war.you want the best for your family members while you do not want the same for his.in the end it is all about control,they want total control so do you.but because you do not have wisdom ,you have forgotten that you have the upper hand as long as he finds pleasure in you.if you keep up in this war you would loss.my advice go to your husband and ask him to direct you on what to do,and you follow his direction rather than planing and ploting.

Anifaza:
Please pardon me for using a new moniker as I am quite known here.

Friends and family, I really need your sincere and matured input on this matter.

I have been married for over 10 years with 4 kids. My hubby is a great guy save for this area that we will never agree.
 
 I have sisters-in-law who have vowed never to give me peace despite all my efforts to give peace a chance.  Most of them are all older than him and sort of influences his decision that affects my marriage greatly.

From the beginning, it has been if I am in their good books, my marriage will work and I will be happy, then if not, reverse will be the case.

My husband has refused to see all their manipulations and always tell me that he grew up with them and so he is indebted to them. I have never tried to cause a separation between them but they usually see me as an intruder to their unity.

For these 10 years plus, it has always been the issue,  I have begged, used gifts,  apologised ,sought for forgiveness from them  for sins I have not committed just for peace to reign yet, the next problem will be bigger than the previous.

Some are married while some are not. The worst that affect me most is the married ones with children.

Now, they all don't talk to me and this is affecting my marriage. Hubby gives me cold shoulders, no sex asking me to mend the relationship with his sisters  of which I am fed up with the whole thing and I don't want to beg again.

My mind is made up that everyone should stay on their own. Hubby is the only male, seems to be the only one doing well  and parents are no more
 
Please what do I do?

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Thanks for your input. I truly appreciate. It all started in my ist year of marriage when I had my baby and still in school. My mum came to look after baby and few months later, I took in again of which I left baby with mum while I continued schooling.

They accused my hubby of allowing my mother to be the only one taking care of baby and not them. That in their tradition, mothers of wife have no say and influence in family affairs. This was a major issue and still is. While in my culture, nothing of such as we see nothing wrong here. They disrespect my mother till date because of this. I have caught one twice giving my mother bad eye.

2ndly, a distant relative came with high risk pregnancy with fibroid and I asked she comes to seek medical help and go back, when she came, it was war in my house that it is forbidden in their culture for a pregnant woman to come to another man's house which she's not pregnant for. She later left but loads of issues after this.

My in-laws come anytime even with their children .Every other week and weekend is in my house.
My husband will not take us out unless they are around.

Hubby's lil sis but older than me lived with me for 5 years and that's where the whole wahala persisted with her giving information. I began to see their collaboration through her and frustrated me to the very letter.

We had a fight and hubby asked her to leave. They all ganged up not to talk to me or hubby again which hubby is feeling alienated.
Hubby said his position is threatened in his family and I am the cause. I took care of his older sister who had complication in her surgery for 6 months in my house, non of them came to visit her in my house nor call me. Rather , She got well and told others that I didn't give her food that was why when one called her and she said she was in a restaurant to eat. Hubby and I had issue on this.

I am so fed up . I work and I contribute significantly in the family.
They see me as the one who eats their brother's money alone.
Hubby takes great financial care of them. I am just tired.

Husband na proverty alivation program abi,if you where born poor,you work your way out of poverty.that guy needs to run,that woman would only drain him.what can not add to you must surely take from you.

SBL28:
The girl is just being truthful. She grew up poor and she wants to have a better life. Can't be drinking garri at home and still continue in her husband's house. We are praying for progress not stagnation.

Guy,10 bottles for you

Dayg88:
Truth is she wanted to push the Op to the wall. I guess she is a dramatist. Op, I want you to know that no matter how little the respect you had in the marriage before that incident, it is gone finally now. You can still get your dignity back, but you need to discipline yourself from calling her back. She wanted drama and she got it. Begging her will continue the drama. End the drama streak on your part. When she is in her right senses, she might come back, if not, have an arrangement for taking care of your kid. I know a lot of ladies will not agree with that, but hassling him for coming late isn't the best approach to solutions. What happened to waiting til the next morning. She hassling him doesn't reverse the act.

What is wrong with men of this generation,she wants to go let her go,women plenty,collect you pikin.she shouting on you is called emotional and psycological abuse.and if she can pack out over any little issue the she go soo pack out again.lock up tell her to file in the papers quick.no apologieses there.

Ekene161829:
I did something I really regret. My wife and I have an amazing marriage, 2 years of marriage and we are blessed with a 7-month-old baby girl.

She is 28 and I almost 33. Last Saturday I got invited to go out by some of my work friends , I got home late 2am, so madam wasn't happy. She was yelling at me, throwing hands and screaming at me. I ignored her and left the room to the living room but she followed me and I asked her to leave me alone but she kept going which made me angry.

I took the back of my hand and gave her a slap on the mouth. She cried out and held her face and started crying and her lips was bleeding. I didn't intentionally hurt her, I just wanted to calm her down since ignoring her was not working. I said sorry, and I was literally on my knees begging her. I tried to hold her but she refused.
The rest of the night was me repeating apology or i didn't mean to hurt you. She ignored me . She went into our room and locked the door.

She was in there for a long time and the next morning, her mother and older brother was at the house and she came out of the room with her and our baby stuff and she said she was leaving me for good. I told her how sorry I was but her mother told me to get out of their faces and they left the house.

I feel so ashamed and I've never done anything like this before and I never thought I would. I don't want to loose my wife and baby. I need both of them back. Should I attempt to contact her?

What do I do?

My dear you are a modern woman.entitled and lost.you have a long list of wants men must offer you,while having nothing to offer them in return.no worry your dad is not in a hurry now after 35 years you go know how far.

Harlequeen:
I opened this account because my main one is pretty popular.

I've had this issue and don't know what's wrong.
I can't seem to get into a new relationship. I am now 25, about serving, working a normal job

My dating history is not too rich. I dated just one guy for 2 years, i became sexually active with him, we enjoyed each other, but things didn't work out. I tried to be better, have moved on, and he has too. This was mid last year. I have been celibate since then not because i don't like sex, but because i had time to think, i read a lot of books, listened to a lot of relationship counselors on YouTube, reddit, Nairaland and so on. I decided to approach dating differently, with my head and not my heart . i would vet men out who were not in line with some basic standards, to avoid fuckboys and meet high quality men. He should be well spoken, either with a career or into trade, accomplished, way older by at least 10 yrs(no i don't have daddy issues, i just like mature guys because i think like a mature person) he could also have plans to leave the country, because i plan to do that also.


Here's the issue, the men that express interest in me do not fit this criteria. They seem to have no plan for their lives. I get this impression that they are broke, they recycle the same lines all the time, i usually see their bull sh1t tactics a mile away. some are in the army(i can't date men in the armed forces, they lifestyle is not what i want for myself, cannot date doctors either for the same reason)others are artisans, some are plain hustlers who just do whatever to eat. I have a soft spot for ambitious men, and i have not seen a lot in the area that i am in. I have been advised by my friends to try highbrow areas like lekki or VI or go to church, but i don't believe in religion.

But whenever i see these men, i am not attracted to them. I have even tried online dating with some male nairalanders, but i get disinterested easily. I get turned off when someone asks for my normal pics, it is quite frustrating. There's that fear that some of these men could use my pics to masturbate or one other creepy purpose. I block them if they ask for nudes. But the issue is, it is quite exhausting to keep chatting with someone without seeing them in person and some of these guys just want to smash and run which i won't allow. No man will have access to my vagina and womb without investment and commitment. Eventually it becomes hard to keep up communication and we just fizzle out like that.

I am not under pressure to marry from my parents, infact my dad says he won't allow his daughters marry until they clock 28 and i am the first. He wants us to have a career and a life before moving with a man. I just want to know if what i am doing is right?

To be honest, i just want some words of advice and encouragement, you can ask me questions if you want. This approach of mine? Is it the right thing? Am i being too smart for my own good? Am i afraid of commitment?

You are either evil minded or ignorant.let me educate you,when you get abroad it takes years for you to brake in.not to talk of blow anybody you see that return after one year with money is a criminal.so you lent him money rather than wait for you good deed to mature,you rather took more money to curse him.sha remember what you plant you must havest.

duduade:
At least he called you and promised to fund your account on Monday...


Mine.... I made sure I swore for him.. He eventually called me seven years later.. saying it seemed he was cursed, nothing was working for him.. He even had to come back to Nigeria.. He actually needed me to pray for him..

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quote author=godofuck231 post=84092477]look here young man, I like my life, and if you dear threaten to ruin my life and future you will hear from my lawyers, how can you suggest suicide for a man with a bright future as mine, am a brick layer and a good one at that what more suffering can you mount on me, am so emotional right now, in short I'll tell my mummy for you [/quote]

Give am your brother now.if you no learn from how she distroy poor churchill ,then make you go yourself

godofuck231:
Tonto needs a man in her life , she better went back to that her husband and beg for forgiveness or she will wreck her self , when a woman such as tonto has no one to handle her excesses she's like a kite in the wind .

I believe you view or choice of words are on bad taste

francababy:
You are all replying this guy. I pity you. Someone who is too lazy to type details of what he wants to do.You are replying him. If he is too lazy to type simple details, where will the strength come from to run a betting company. Nonsense

we know who you are,it will not work

bolaino:
The leadership of the MFPND (Movement For a Progressive Niger Delta) reject the stealth moves by the Russian federation to introduce Communism into Nigeria, Sub Saharan Africa and The entire Continent itself. We all know Russia is the inventor of the Ebola virus and for African leaders, Nay President Buhari of Nigeria to agree to work in alliance with communist Russia is a slap on the face of all Patriots of Nigeria who have sacrificed their lives and all to keep this democracy today. it's a disgrace that due to the failure of the leaders of Africa to provide good infrastructure and a stable economy to boost life on the continent they have been subjected to shame and after all is said and done posterity will judge them as the problem of Africa in the 21st century

that is why the MFPND is rejecting any attempt by the Nigerian government to forcefully bring Russian government and military into Nigeria especially in the Niger Delta, and refusal of the government to rescind whatever form of agreement they have with the Russians will be met with International consequences beyond the control of the Nigerian Army and President Buhari as Regional powers will be forced to take a stance of resistance to the Regime.

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Quite there if not for slave mentality you for fit talk.you hear say there police dey run,yet your soldiers dey stand die for you,you still dey blabe nosense.oya move go mexico as nigeria bad

Next2Bezee:
The patrol squad was ill-equipped to deal with the heavy resistance.

But, they made an attempt - that's what differentiates them from their Nigerian counterparts. In this country, even if 10 bullion vans move to and from your house every day, as long as you are in APC, you are untouchable.

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High laughable,all the nigerian stores in ghana there goods come from abroad not nigeria,they import pay the duty and sell,none from nigeria.so if ghana like close down all the shop,it is them that would loss taxes.so for nigeria we are marching on infact,i think ghana needs some leason after all 30% of there economy is funded by nigerian money.it is time nigeria begins a nigeria first policy as ghana and south Africa no like the one Africa policy we have been operating.then they must be reminded

chrisagyei:
****did you hear her.Nigerian goods are entering into Ghana freely buh you refuse these trucks who had already set off entry so they want to even return back.And GUTA was told to open Nigerian shops and stop the protest because you Nigerians run to these same ECOWAS to cry free trade agreement. Over 400 Nigerian shops were locked in just one town in another city called Kumasi alone which was just a spare parts dealership town.Imagine the millions of Nigerians who will go hungry in Ghana had GUTA locked up your shops and closed Nigerian retail businesses throughout Ghana. They just sounded a warning to the minister to inform you that if Ghana retaliates, it will be very ugly so stop saying trash.

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I said this same thing some time back people on Nairaland wanted to kill me, even me after I reach there I run.the worse part if you manage make am white man ready to bring you down with any means possible, police are angry that you are black and successful,you neighbor want to bring you down cause you are black and successful.it is quite messed up

of course the one when go marry tonto how the thing end, always marry from your class.poor people just want to be you and do not care about what it takes to be you

richmind2019:
The rich ball with the rich...
I think we all should stop wailing over these politicians, they care less about the poor citizens..

you can but, that may cost too much, its governments in South America you would deal with, so it is large volume buyers been sort, those who can do ship load

potosky:
I can't buy a whole container

It's quite funny how women think they can redefine men to suit their desires.the Man has spoken as a man.no serious man would want to have a serious relationship with a lady tweaking like that.that is a fact.come Bleep is different from come marry .and any girl who wants to open mouth should come and tell us if they would agree for there son or brother to marry such a girl

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