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HCH3COO:
We men know women better than they know themselves.

Nwoke, what do you know??

HCH3COO:
Sister thank you o.  At least here's a woman that can appreciate a night in paradise.

Last i heard, paradise including more than being thrown on the bed and stripped of your clothes.

ibkaye:
I'm not saying I don't want those romantic gestures, just saying that it isn't always necessary, it is not a must that it happens everytime

That is how it starts. First they cook you dinner, light candle, play the soft music. Then slowly it goes from maybe music, a quick snack, no candles. To finally no music, no candles, and what is dinner again?

DeepZone:
Didn't God build and wire man to take the pressure of hormonal imbalance in women? See why i complain that real men are going into extinction.

Truly Hilarious!!!

HCH3COO:
How does she expect fulfillment of her desires when she's swinging from left to right because she's chemically unbalanced.  Showing romantic interest in your wife only to slapped the next minute because she thinks you misplaced your priorities.  your temper tantrums are like earthquakes waiting to happen.

Oka come on now. you can handle it.

HCH3COO:
All of that has been taken care of.  I made dinner, soaked her feet in cold water, dimmed the lights, played our favorite music, want to relax her with a breathtaking massage followed by a good sh*g . . . but as soon as she saw the roses she flipped.

I Highly Highly doubt she would care at all about the rose petals on the bed. if you really did set the mood right. Look at virgin boy.

HCH3COO:
That was part of setting the atmosphere. .
The plan was to take care of everything else as the night progresses.

So that is it? You would lead her to bedroom? No dinner, no music, no candles?? BORING.

HCH3COO:
If Nigeria cannot be improved why not polish other areas of interest   .  Interested in improving our methods of sexually satisfying our women.  I think it's good discussion since y'all want a man who's good in bed.

Dont you think your time should be spent with more reasonable topics?? seriously that is just sick.

HCH3COO:
Everything has being fuilfillled up to that point. . .
It was a night to fulfill another one of her desires: she wanted romance.  
That package would allow me to show her just how much I love her by pleasing her physically, exploring her emotionally, satisfying her with pleasure . . . but noooooo! she yells that the roses are played out.

You can't just surprise a woman with roses on the bed with out fully setting the atmosphere.

HCH3COO:
Women do?  One minute you want a guy that's financially stable.  You find him . . .oh his butt is too big.

Oh whatever. you want a woman who is faithfully then pull up a pre nupt on her.

HCH3COO:
She says she wants you to be romantic

you dress the bed with roses for a night of passionate love she yells at you for wasting money.

What woman are you talking about?? And if that is all you would do to be romantic, please step your game up. It is not about the money involved, it is what you do with it.

HCH3COO:
Who said confusion?  Don't you lot suffer eternal confusion when you decide to spend 8 hours at a mall deciding between a handbag or a purse    Or when you keep hitting us with that misleading doubletalk, only to change your minds 1 hour later.  Ohh! I know . . . you just don't know what you want - your clearly the lost ones here.

1. If you can't decide between the handbag or the purse, you just buy both.
2. Doubletalk, please man rule that language.
3. alot of guys have no idea what they want in a woman.

Pataki:
Brothers who spend on ladies without any future prospects in sight are called Shinamanias.

Truly Questionable!!!!

HCH3COO:
Nope. Just feeling jittery. Needing final verification.

Well then if you feel jittery, then i will jitter myself out the door.

HCH3COO:
I'm asking you to show me you love. Not signing that piece of paper is enough to convict you of gold digging.

If you still need to ask me to show you i really love you, then you don't need to be marrying me in the first place. Because it shows you still have doubts about me.

@post

I really don't know what this woman wants. Those she want a guy who treats her bad but kisses her and gives her sex or what she has now?

HCH3COO:
How true is that? You are not choosing . . . you are protecting your assets. There's nothing wrong with a little insurance, is there?

Insurance for what?? If you really love me, there is no need for insurance. When you approach me with a pre nupt, what you are basically saying is that your material things are more important then me.

doe82:
@Okija
I feel deeply for 4.No doubt the fundamental and values of marriage have been eaten deep by the monster of divorce.This is caused by the fast and negatively impacting effects of civilization and poverty.Why would a woman want to marry just to part with a 50% of her "huzzys" whatever and mortgage the life of her children to unhappiness and bitterness.

I think you really have to get the fundamentals right,we are Africans and we ve our marriage values.Once u build a marriage on the right foundation,it ll sure last your lifetime.I ve seen more marriages work in my life time that i ve seen them fail.get the basics right and u ll live in paradise on earth.
marriage is fun!

Marriage can be fun. but as soon as that pre nupt thing enters, saw good bye to the fun. Your foundation is no longer love but distrust. You are basically choosing your MATERIAL things over your own WIFE.

Well acid water and Okija, well im tired of all this jive. Hopefully i have shed some light into what a pre nupt really means. It is not just a piece of paper, it defines your relationship. It becomes the core and the foundation.

Kachifoo

HCH3COO:
More like poison. But umm there's no reason to feel any pain if you are more concerned with the love you have for me. i'm not doing it to hurt you

But you sure as hell aint doing it cause you love AND trust me.

@okija
You really wouldn't want to meet me. i would change world from upside down.

HCH3COO:
we should continue this discussion over the phone.   i'm hurt that you would even think of leaving me.

You would want me to stay and do what?? tell me acid water, how would take that pain that i would feel after you pulling a stunt like that??

HCH3COO:
but he does.

Not for me because i will be gone as soon as he reaches for his pen.

HCH3COO:
Since we have both parading we should be ready to arm ourselves to disarm their scams.

But for me, i don't need no pre nupt to do it.

HCH3COO:
.  It is a necessary certificate to protect us from scam artists.  Too many goldies running around these days.

Too many insecure distrusting males parading around.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=154844.msg2573318#msg2573318 date=1217304145]Thank you, very much.    

But I must admit that HCH  and my other pro-pre-nupt supporters actually put up a good argument in support of our Opinion. We had some irreputable points. All you, onyinye and akin_sumtin did was play the emotion and distrust card.       [/quote]And what stupid card the yal deal? the "Oh i just want to know that she is in the relationship for me" "Oh i want to secure my material things." "Oh i want to protect my heart from being hurt" yal dont even know what the fruit marriage is yet you want go take bite.

[quote author=Ruby_Pearl link=topic=154844.msg2573312#msg2573312 date=1217303873]bia! oyinye,

cut him some slack! Okija that is.

He sounds more worthier than any other man so far[/quote]Nne, the only thing i want to see cut, is the idea of spawning a pre nupt to woman with sincere intentions.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=154844.msg2573293#msg2573293 date=1217303385]Nne calm down.

I can't compare her to any other girl. I know her, lived with her, been through alot with her, I trust her, I love her, we basically worked for everything I have now. Shes different.
I am more or less comfortable now. So lets say we don't get married, I don't have another 7years of courtship to put into another relationship, the next candidate will not have the same opportuinity she had to endear and prove herself to me. SO hence the pre-nupt.
The pre-nupt is going to help speed up the process of trust building, cut courtship by over 50% and fast track our marriage.[/quote]Nwoke, i see what you are saying now. You are just scared and lazy. You don't want to go through all the time and patience in really getting to know someone so you rather use a pre nupt to as you said "fast track" things. Oka now i see.

HCH3COO:
YEAH!!!! If Halle Berry pulls a prenup on me . . . . I will happily sign it. It's about facing reality and knowing that you can still trust your wife but be real to catastrophe.  Your pain will go away in two days.  After one week of great sex you will forget you signed a piece of paper. You will not ever remember signing that paper unless you were planning on gold digging.

Look at virgin boy talk. tisk. Anyways you actually think that things will go back to being the same, then you have a lot of experiencing to do. Things will never be the same no matter how much you want to sex the girl up. noting the girl might be waiting till marriage. That pre nup is like a stain in the relationship. Sex will not clean up or remove it.

HCH3COO:
Onyin, you are really funny mehn.  As I told you, the prenup is a security deposit.  Landlords do it when you rent, you do it when you buy a house, etc.  But you are feeling all of that because you signed a prenup?    Leaving will only prove to him that you are what you said you weren't.

You are not seeing it in my point of view.
1. Can you imagine the person you love pulls up a pre nup on you?(im asking HCH, Okija, Joseph)

I mean can you really imagine the hurt that comes with that? seriously just imagine that all this time you thought you loved the person but they still don't trust you. Why would i stay? If i stayed and signed it, i would never look at myself and still say "You did the right thing, Onyinye" i mean i would just hold in all that pain that comes with it. to you it is just a piece of paper to me, it shows you don't believe im with you to be with you.

HCH3COO:
Aphrodite    your number please    
Come on, why would you let a simple thing as signing a prenup prevent you from continuing your relationship  

You guys obviously don't know what the word simple means. And hell yeah i would discontinue my relationship if i was giving a pre nupt. I will leave hurt, turn, heartbroken,weak,played, but i will still leave. Because when i walk down that aisle, all i will remember is you still questioning if you really see yourself spending the rest of your life. When i say "i do" all im going to remember is that these vows mean nothing because you feel this marriage aint going to last. When we are on our honeymoon, at time of love and passion, all im going to think about is that the man i said that i will give my mind, soul, and body to feels that im only in the marriage for the money.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=154844.msg2573255#msg2573255 date=1217302276]@ Ruby

I am comitted but not yet married. When or if we do get married, it will be in the states since we are both citizens.[/quote]So have you spawned this pre nupt jive to your girl friend??

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=154844.msg2573213#msg2573213 date=1217301369]To a woman it means "this guy is too smart". "When I dump his rich ass I will leave with nothing". "Wrong investment".[/quote]What women have you been hanging around with? better yet i might be head strong but i know when someone was obviously hurt.

HCH3COO:
Onyinye, correction: to a man it is the ultimate sign of love.  Wouldn't you like to show your man just how much you love him?  Well here it is!

Are you telling me, onyinye aka aphrodite, how to show my man love?? seriously come on now. If that is how you would want me to show you that i love you then, i wonder what distrust would look like.

dudu19:
@akina am lost who told u am married, and didn't ask 4 a lecture on pre_nupt. am still waitin 4 d right answer u deceitful little actress

@onyiye i did not remember sayin anythin about 2 soul friends,  i've based my facts on the people
around me am not married but i can tell u am a lot happier than they are

Please just promise me you will stay single. You don't understand the core of marriage.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=154844.msg2573173#msg2573173 date=1217300563]Nne, You are have also shown the interest in the other parts of marriage that does not have to do with love. You are more interested in securing your interest should the marriage go wrong. If you really love me,, then a simple pre-nupt should not be an issue.[/quote]That is the point. It is not simple. It will never be simple no matter how much you want to sugar coat it. A pre nupt to a man and to a woman means different things. To a man it is just a way to secure his material things. To a woman, it is the ultimate picture of distrust.

[quote author=Okija_juju link=topic=154844.msg2573145#msg2573145 date=1217299998]Women!!

Just imagine sitting your ass in a court room seeing the woman who once told you she would stick with you till the very end scheming with her team of lawyers to fleece you of all you toiled for your entire life, Imagine seeing the woman you placed your trust in smiling as you move your stuff into a You-haul truck and leave all your stuff behind, Imagine your friends laughing at you when you move from crib in berverly hills to a shanty in the projects, imagine going from a Rolls Royce to a Renault, Imagine the pain of loosing both your love and your wealth all to the same person, Imagine the regret and psychological trauma of being fooled by the woman you thought was the one.[/quote]Nwoke, are starting to show your true colors now. You don't give a damn about love or your wife. You only give a care about how you look upon others. You care so damn much about how your boys will view you, that you will allow it to go against your better judgement.

dudu19:
Most married guys I know are working their asses off to pay bills, rarely to get to spend time with their families, mediocre or no sex life, and have wives that spend as much of their money as absolutely possible.

So you are basing every woman to the two soul friends you know??

HCH3COO:
These are not women, these are girls.  

They think life is cinderella.

You think a marriage is like a bank account.