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sistawoman:
Thanks yall for the imput.  I am enjoying reading the responses to this one as i enjoy my glass of wine.

Before I go for a refill i just wanted to comment on the statement that married sex is boring sex.  I would beg to differ.  My husband is the best i have had in bed and I enjoy him every single night (althou we are trying to regulate this).

i don't live in New England but in Maryland.  When they try to toast me I just explain that I am happily married and their response is i wont tell if you don't tell.  My response is I will tell, so lets not go there.

I will not cover up my big ole bootie, i will not stop letting it bounce when i walk and my girlz will always and forever be popping out my blouse (tastefully).  My husband loves to see me dressed like that, he loves to see me feeling and being sexy and I will not stop.  Because if i do the next hot sexy thing that walks down the street will have his attention.  When we go out it is my arse that he is looking at and my waist that he is grabing.  I intend to make sure it stays that way.

1. yeah TMI
2. You do live in New England
3. Go ahead and strut your stuff.
4. you should try martini's instead, my personal fav is lemon.

StephenP:
Still, if you like him, rather than take desperate measures to make him notice you, I think you should just go to him.

Easy for you to say. Because there are some guys out their who might get turned off by a woman approaching them. they might take it as the lady being intimidating. and i don't want to go through all that jive. And most of the time a lady approaches a man, it is just awkward. I rather be the one that is approached.

StephenP:
While you're waiting for him to come meet you, other ladies are taking their chances.

Im not saying that i don't occasionally go and make the first move but i mean i rather have the guy come to me. And besides when the guy comes over, it is way easier. When i have to go and talk, you constantly have to keep yourself in check. You don't want to come off too intimidating or over confident.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=155482.msg2578332#msg2578332 date=1217367904]that happens across all races and it is not an excuse to neglect yourself.[/quote]and what about you??

ibkaye:
yeah sure we all make mistakes dear, i was just a bit concerned about the statement you made 'You would strike me with something?? ' as if it would be a shock to you after you clearly stated that you might hit him, not saying that he should though, bear in mind, men also have emotions, not just women

Yeah i know. but i have yet to hit anyone with any type of an object. and i probably will never, well i hope i will never.

HCH3COO:
  thank you hun.   I can use the same excuse of coming back home from work throwing knives at her because I've had a really rough day.

Onyinye, please if you're serious you need some anger management counseling.  There are far better ways to cool your steam.

Yeah i don't have any anger issues so cool your jets water boy.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=155482.msg2578290#msg2578290 date=1217367368]before you fell in love, there was an attraction, and the attraction more often than not was based on the womans physical features.
oyinbo women usually do a lot to keep their physique but most black women are complacent. they believe it ends when they get married and they don't need to take care of themselves. don't get me wrong, i dnt have a bias for white women, in fact i cannot even marry a white woman.[/quote]I know a lot of women who keep themselves looking good to only have it taken for granted. A women spends countless hours in salon and such to look good for her man to only have that ignored.

StephenP:
I love a woman who isn't scared to get what she wants. Ladies, if you see a dude you like, don't be waiting for him to get at you first because you might lose him forever. Go get him; if he rejects you, at least you tried. To me, it doesn't make you any less of a woman if you try to get at me. In fact, it's somewhat like a turn on.

Really?? because i see it as a turn off when i have to go and make the first move. I rather the guy do it. it just seems more right.

ibkaye:
Hmm, just wondering why you think you have the right to throw something at him but he does not have the right to throw it back at you, this does not mean that I am for men hitting/throwing things at their wives etc

I know i sound like im contradicting myself. but i will admit that there are times that i get really upset. I mean really upset that i might act out on emotion then logic. Im not perfect you know im working on it. I have already experience what happens when i let my emotions be the driver to logic. and it is a day that still do truly regret.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=155482.msg2578259#msg2578259 date=1217367033]when i get married (thats if i do), ill make sure my wife tries to keep in shape after childbirth. u no dey see oyinbo women?[/quote]Alot of i mean alot of those oyinbo women you speak of have surgery after childbirth. And shouldn't love your wife no matter how she looks like? And some women can't help not to gain weight. And after childbirth, a woman's hormones are still raging so all that exercise might go to waste.

ibkaye:
Just wondering sha, why would you throw something at him?

I wouldnt intentionally throw something at him. . .

HCH3COO:
Nope I wouldn't. You threw something at me so I'm just throwing it back.

What if i had a really bad day and i came home really upset and just needed to release some tension and we got into and arguement, you would still throw it back??

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=155482.msg2578226#msg2578226 date=1217366664]onyinye, wetin i do you now?

i might not do all the shit you do (yoga, belly dancing, martial arts, etc) just to maintain your shape but i make sure i work out every weekend.[/quote]Let me ask you this, when you get married and your wife has your children, do you really expect her to stay the way you met her?
I work out not to impress anybody but because i like being fit and athletic.

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=155494.msg2578212#msg2578212 date=1217366520]nailing a married woman is the apex in the game.

if you can nail a married woman, then your game is extra-tite.[/quote]NO, your game is extra weak and sad.

Sisikill:
2 Reasons

1) The Ring - You already have one, so they don't have to promise you one to get in your pants.

2) The Ring - [b]Tells them you are married and as we all know, married sex is BO.OO.OO.RI.NG!! [/b]So they figure you'll be up for some excitement, a l'll sontin sontin, a wham, bam, thank you ma'am, back seat of a car, no string attached, lose my number afterwards kind of sex.

Truly questionable!!!

[quote author=gabe_logan link=topic=155482.msg2578199#msg2578199 date=1217366413]it is possible

they are always comlplaining that they are tired when it comes to that time, and they seem to put on a lot of weight after they get married.[/quote]Oh watever!! i don't see you still fitting into your wedding suit.

StephenP:
@poster, I am scared to ask how you conducted the research.

probably with one sexual experience.

HCH3COO:
Just saying don't be surprised if I too throw something at the wall. . . _{throw it back at you}

You would strike me with something??

Anytime Sisikill

i Highly Highly doubt that is the way of the people in the states. Then again you live in New England so that is whole different story. it is just probably some fellas that just want some sex. dont let it faze you.

HCH3COO:
That's a death wish, onyin. I would advise against that mental error.

and you would do what??

I just feel everyone should do their part when it comes to keeping the house clean and tidy. And never will i ever hire house help or a maid.

I must ask you guys how it feels to be approached by woman? because yal are so use to making the first move.

HCH3COO:
You become Leila Ali?  Na wa ooo, and you people say men shouldn't hit women no matter what.

And you shouldn't. i don't get that upset, i might throw something at the wall . . . at you.

My husband better help me with the house hold chores. Im a neat freak so i need the house to be clean. same with our kids. I aint raising no lazy ass children.

HCH3COO:
If my fists aren't enough I will embed video cameras everywhere in the house.  That way if the cops come at me I have proof it's self defense.  Just kidding o 

You are crazy. you are probably going to need those cameras though. You haven't seen me upset before.

@post

May i ask where you have gathered this research from?? hope you didn't get it from only experience.

HCH3COO:
I might need a couple of shots of estrogen to keep my testosterone from making me lose control.  But it's okay baby I can take good care of you.

I mean really, i will admit that i am quick at the mouth and i have already confessed to hitting a guy. You better come with armor.

@post

It truly depends. I rather have the guy make the first move but i have no problem taking that position. If i see a guy that im interested in, then i'll just turn on the charm and head his way with a smile.

albridge:
which translated means women deceive themselves

Oh quiet you.