charles316:



your search for a husband has really intensified. God will do it for you.

Sweetlemon
DesperateLemon

Hater! She's happily married.
Don't convulse on your venomous bile obscuring your brain neurons from working properly

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Please guys, those who have experience with this lemme know how you went about it.


I m trying to print out chat history between me and my fiancé for past 1 year or so and the thing has too many pages
I ve reduced the font size and spacing but still too many pages
It's looking like a textbook and I fear they won't allow me to submit it like that? Cuz we have to submit at visa application centre first so it's not like I can carry along to show the ACTUAL visa officer. Those people at the visa application centre can be so annoying sometimes........they may not even agree to pack it along with my other documents for further processing.

Thx

joebeckz: I left abuja at about 2pm and entered a taxi to minna at madalla. I was almost about to use my car but advised myself and settled for the commercials as it was cheaper and I was not gonna stay long in minna. D driver was good at wat he was doing and I felt comfortable but never closed my eyes to sleep like every oda passenger did. I was in d front passenger seat with d driver and just as we passed lambata n headed for gurara,d driver made a decision to switch to a newly constructed lane cos the normal one we use had pot/drum holes. All of a sudden like a ghost a bike (okada) with a male aged passenger appeared in front of us from no where cos as alert as I was just like d driver,I cud not xplain from where d biker came from. All effort by d driver to halt d car failed n we hit d biker n passenger. Like a grasshopper I saw d biker in d air n he crashed on d tar and d head opened up. Instantly he died. We weren't in d best position to xplain how he landed cos we were havin a rough ride down d valley as we lost control n we were goin down d hole by d side of d road. A tree n thick grass stopped d car after about 5mins of goin down. I heard difrent languages as we rolled down,I bliv de were all callin on God in der difrent languages. I just prayed silently in my heart and held d steerin cos d driver leaned back n left d steering. I hit d door wit ma leg n helped odas out. We all climbed up to d road[size=18pt] and saw the lifeless body of the biker[/size]. When d police came around n asked after d driver, we were all suprised dat d guy was not found again n we headed to d car n found no plate number. He tot dat was smart but anyway dats all I witnessed as I boarded anoda vehicle n came to minna safely. Help me thank God.

And who told you he was lifeless

Nigerians as a whole need reorientation

The time you wasted standing there and snapping away, he could ve been taken to hospital

Let the doctor decide who is lifeless/ in coma/ with a concussion / brain swelling or not

From the pic (which by the way you have no right to post without covering his face)

The scalp is hanging like a flap away from the skull bone

He might have brain swelling which if relieved could save his life

But NOOOOOOOOOO!!!!!! Nigerians will be the last set of people to rush accident victims to emergency care

If Michael Schumacher had the same accident he had while skiing in Nigeria,

That's how ppl will gather round and be snapping his so called LIFELESS body

OP don't fall for any of these so called GOD FEARING HOLIER than thou people
It's not by mouth that we identify Godfearing
But by their actions and inactions

Suddenly every Tom Dick and Harry is professing how Godfearing they are
I didn't know there were so many of those in Nigeria
And you wonder why the country is worse than ever

Shine your eyes very well make them no use you do ritual
Pray before you do anything
Pray for discerning spirit
Don't meet anybody on this forum without loved one knowing your whereabouts
Don't give out your personal phone number
Get another line for this
Open your eyes and ears
Be very discerning.......in order to separate the chaff from the wheat

Most of the people who will contact you are opportunists
But some will be genuine people
Open your eyes it is well

britiko: Except its been done in a standard hospital, its always a scary decision to make in niaja o.
This is due to the high rate of un professionalism on d part of d doctors.
I met a childhood friend a few days ago and hugged her. While hugging, i felt some bulge of flesh underneath her clothing, there were two long painful keloids scar of a single CS she had a year ago.
The keloid Scars where so long and bulky,one was latitudinal and d other d other longitudinal ( vertically and horizontally).
Apparently, before d cs,several scans were carried out on her and they found out that d baby was lying close to her liver(breech) I think, but they forgot and cut her open just below her belly button(vertically) before dey remembered and cut her horizontally again.
She was cut open from one side of her tummy to d other end(vertically) instead of just a small cut.
It was such a pathetic story.
She said she spent over 4hrs in d operating room.
The stitches were not done neatly at all. A year after d surgery she still feels d pains. She said d doctors were busy discussing politics while operating on her.
I was so shocked. If I had not seen a cs done before, and see dis I would never opt for cs.
Unfortunately, only in niaja will such as narrated here happen.
Asked her if she sued d hospital, but she said NO.
So, I begin to wonder why such won't repeat itself.
Her horrible experience is due to negligence on the part of the so - called doctors.

CS are usually life savers, let's not ignorantly destroy d life's of mother and child.
It by no means makes d woman less of herself a s widely believed culturally.
But, in all if u must opt for CS do not think abt d cost, Go to professionals, reddington, paelon memorial, lagoon and d likes.
Go for good gynaecologists, not gbogbo ise doctors.
May God deliver us from quacks.

Those are very useless doctors indeed
They need to update their knowledge cuz I know for sure that breech can be delivered with even the bikini line type incision
This I know for sure
What a bunch of useless doctors

yesboss20:
Haha. I like ur reasoning: it's quite ubiquitous on this forum. Nonetheless, I intended getting opinions from people and it is apparently yielding fruits. Thanks for ur 1cent.

The only opinion you are waiting for is permission to commit adultery......since that is what you want to hear.

Mtcheeeew

Uncommon sense is so common

U

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Madam @ the top:




But I still don't get why people in this society have a problem with girls dating married men when at the same time they accept polygamy...I'm not saying I'm right coz I never prayed to get myself in this situation..I pray to overcome diz temptation soon

OP, you opened this thread for prayer but you are here justifying sleeping with a married man comparing it to polygamy. Are you his wife? This is not a place to justify your foolishness. You either stop or get the hell outta here

Pretending to be religious but then "enjoying his money and then allowing him to enjoy whatever he wants out of me".

So what do you want to hear from "people in this society" then? You re really a foolish young lady.

It's been a while since I read utter bullcrap like what you wrote up there.

If he's closet gay.......end of discussion
Anything else, we ll manage

babyosisi:

If you are already married,have graduated med school with house job and NYSC,I wouldn't advise you to spend 3 years in Nigeria pursuing a west African fellowship which you are not even certain to get in 3 years.
I know how dem dey chop people witch for that thing.
Whatever specialty you achieve will not be recognized in the UK
You will still start afresh with Plab exams
Nothing wrong in being a general practitioner
Sometimes with marriage,motherhood etc,somethings have to give
3 years is too long to stay apart from the one you love IMHO and as a GP you will still make good money
Go there and do the royal college exams instead
It has more class than the west African college.

Thank you so much Babyosisi.........appreciate it

OP so for point number 1, what do you advise the person to do?!

Continue fornicating rather than marry?? What do you advise then? Honest answer please

@ babyosisi.........God bless you for this thread, very gooD of you. This is for you please


I know this is about US but permit me to ask please as a daughter to a mother.............in your opinion and years of experience, would you advise giving up residency in Nigeria (mine is for 3 years and i get membership of west african college after this which os a major steppping stone in my career and on my CV as i can use it so many places round the world except UK....lol) OR to go join bobo in UK who is earning well himself and that ll mean just being a general doctor ( if I can break into that system at all sef.......I don't mind being a general doctor cuz bobos will provide and as long as they don't force me into psychiatry or sth)

It's just that nothing is certain. To leave this halfway or to stay on and complete it as a backup just incase

Thank you madam. I m hoping you can advise or you know friends who went through similar thing.

Bite me

All the big madams here want to show us that they can entertain guests very well
Okies, we have heard!

As far as the madam in Ops story goes, I won't judge her
Her condition I cannot tell
There are some families that are really strongly and that sometimes translates into being reluctant to cater for an extra mouth food wise
Accommodation is free so she doesn't lose anything
But feeding him breakfast now might mean he comes to expect it whenever he comes and trust me some people in Nigeria are really struggling. Don't compare your nice and comfy lifestyle in UK/US and proper upbringing with the actions or inactions of someone who is barely making ends meet in Nigeria

If someone was to ask some of you for the equivalent hospitality, it won't be bread and tea, it ll be school fees / sponsorship for a brilliant but needy relative and that is the real litmus test. Till that time please leave the madam in Ops story and stop judging cuz we can't see what your own house is like .

Bite me

These might be silly questions, but pardon me ok
1) can you change your name OUTSIDE Nigeria if the wedding was INSIDE Nigeria?
2) if the wedding was outside Nigeria ( and you re marrying a Nigerian) can you change your name in the same country you had the wedding or you have to go back to Nigeria??

Ladies and money??

More like, Men and pussssy!!


You had to go there didn't you
When it's clearly 2 adults getting married......always the ladies fault innit

Damn right you cannot get more time if you drop dead the next minute.
Stop behaving like the rich fool Iyanya
All these new money people sef........old money would NEVER do this!!!

It's my observation that when some (I said SOME) women reach mid thirties and they re not married and childless or not in any meaningful relationship, they just become so bitter and frustrated. Especially female secretaries . Last year I went to one MDs office and the secretary gave me hell...........I mean hell. I couldn't even make any headway and I had to return and let my boss see to it instead. Lo and behold this year they sent me to that same office and I was dreading it and I was pleasantly surprised when the woman welcomed me with open arms and even dashed me smile untop. That was when I noticed her marital glow and of course the wedding band on her finger.

In our own establishment here the human resources lady is a proper t.wat cuz she's not married( me thinks). She's frustrating people unnecessarily over needless issues. My Oga says she needs a husband and I concur. She needs a man to rock her to sleep every night and then maybe she ll mellow for us to have our peace.

Disclaimer: I never marry o but I no wan reach their levels. At least I get boyfriend .

Four times every night
Then one more at the crack of dawn for good measure...........academic marriage, PhD in bedmatics

The term "shengnu" - directly translated as "leftover women" - was coined to refer to professional women who have not married by their late 20s.

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A woman, who is looking for a spouse for her child, takes notes from a personal profile board during …
"Chinese people often think males should be higher in a relationship in every sense, including height, age, education and salary," Ni Lin, who hosts a popular match-making television show in Shanghai, told Reuters.

"This leads to a phenomenon in which A-grade men marry B-grade women, B-grade men marry C-grade women and C-grade men marry D-grade women. Only A-grade women and D-grade men can't find partners."

In Beijing, more than a third of women in their late 20s and 30s are looking for husbands, according to the dating website Jiayuan.com. Media reports say there may be as many as 500,000 "leftover women" in the capital.

There are plenty of men to go round among China's nearly 1.4 billion people but social status can conspire against single professional woman once again.

China's population is more tilted towards men than in many countries due to the government's one-child policy and a cultural preference for boys. The latest census in 2011 showed there were twice as many single men born in the 1970s as women of the same age.

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A man uses his phone to scan a QR code sticker, which is used to share personal information, during …
But unlike "leftover women", these "shengnan" or "leftover men" often live in lower-tier cities and do not make much money.

The Shanghai city government tries to help women like Xu by arranging regular match-making events. One in May attracted 20,000 single men and women.

Lucy Wang, a 32-year-old Chinese language teacher who attended the event, said all she could find were playboy types or momma's boys.

"I sometimes wonder if there is something wrong with me," she said. "Twenty thousand people and yet I can't find anyone I like."

Source:http://news.yahoo.com/leftover-women-china-face-tough-choices-looking-love-044726614.html

Better to be 'left over' than in a miserable marriage !

^^^^^Madam Callotti...how be?

Marriage is overrated........it seems impossible to get men to commit to me
Heaven knows I ve tried and tried
Even put my life on hold for them at a point
They are always ready to chop punny but when it's time to commit they tell you baby I need more time to get to know you better
But you sure as hell didnt need time to know the way to my undies did you?!?
Anyhow, I ve given up on the marriage thing
Rita Dominic never married and did t die so neither will I
Time for career things
Will adopt pikin while I m at it
And get a dog too....a cute one

God know I tried but this is the deck life played me
Every weekend small small girls in my office will be getting married
Me and my 30 year old ass go siddon look like lucozade
I used to wonder how they get men to propose again
But I don tire sef.....no be lie
I ve spent the last 5 years trying and hoping to get hooked
But never again, it don do
No need to pretend again sef........I free myself from this bondage


I said I d pull a Rita Dominic and this is the right time

^^^^^Self respect and marriage are not mutually exclusive me thinks

You don't have to give one up to earn the other

You can still be a madam at the top with a lovely family to show

dandadee:
dont think so..he didnt have bloody vomitus.the alcohol intoxication would have led to acute electrolyte derangements leading to cardiac arrest

That's also possible. I thought I saw bloody vomitus...........thanks for that

"But you've been saved from the gallows because your counsel sent a representation and the Attorney-General Chambers agreed to give you an alternate charge,"he said

What alternate charge??

Dont mind them

slap1: Okorocha dissolved his cabinet, why are you isolating Nkiru Sylvanus?

Mallory Weiss tear

Well done Omotola.........using your platform for a good cause.

funny thread

x-fire:

A lot of things we worry about end up not happening. We just worry and worry.
Personally, I can't propose to a woman I just started a relationship with after 6 months. 6 months and you are already damn bothered! Like a poster said, this is the time you need to observe his behaviour, attitude, likes, dislikes, strength and weaknesses.

I can also infer from your post that you want to marry for self centred reasons purely based on feelings and societal demand - respect, you need a head over you, bla bla bla. This means you are vulnerable. Do you even like the guy's personality? his family? his attitude to life?

Babe. Step back and think again. It happens to all of us once in a while - emotions and feelings override our thought process.

Yes I do. I like his attitude to life, personality, intelligence,integrity,humor, etc........the key essentials about him I love.
I wouldn't be with him otherwise.
We are very satisfied.
If its not with him then I probably wouldn't want to get married.......I'd probably forget about the whole marriage issue and pull a 'Rita Dominic'
I m not worried at all......I was just dreaming of what's ahead cuz I know it's coming anyway

Baby Jet!!!

Lol.......this is so funny it's unbelievable
OP you re a guest there so you eat what you re offered and stop whining
And she's not your wife so don't expect her to cater to your every need
But leave them alone and find your own wife to cook things the way you like!
Kapish?