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My dear friend, there is a collective consequence. You’re a wife to a criminal, a lover to a looter, and a close friend to a money ritualist, your own is just to chop the money abi?
it’s a matter of time, wait for it. Yes, you are not directly involved, don’t worry the consequence will also indirectly find you and embrace you.

Perhaps if this lady had listened to me when I asked her to leave her promiscuous husband until he repents, she would today, be alive to carter and protect her three children.

But my counsel then was considered extreme, and the general reaction to the potential danger of her husband’s bad behavior was, “God forbid, it won’t be her portion”, it eventually was her portion, as wisdom is the principal thing, prayer is good, but wisdom is the principal thing.

The family and religious group who wanted to be politically correct so as not to offend the husband were no longer and couldn’t stand sure when the worst happened.

A thousand falling by your left and ten thousand falling by your right and you remain standing can only apply if you spoke out loudly and clearly against the evil that consequently brought about the falling and destruction of the thousands. If you ignore, defend or protect evil-doers, you are as guilty and you will definitely fall with them consequently.

It is speaking the truth that keeps you protected in the days of consequences, it is the courage to speak the truth when the majority choose to lie or keep silent that protects you in the days of collective repercussions.

Many of us erroneously assume the law of karma only operates at a personal level, this is not the case;
it also operates at a collective level. The law of karma applies to persons, families, groups, organizations, tribes, ethnic groups and even nations.

When as an individual you do evil, you will reap it, when as a family you perpetuate evil, the whole family and sometimes even the unborn members of the family can reap the evil reward, when as an ethnic group or a nation, you perpetrate evil or permit evil, the whole nation would reap the consequence of such evil perpetrated.

A person that ignores or justifies, or defends wrongdoing is as guilty as the doer of the evil.

A few weeks ago, I was around Tejuosho market in Yaba and I came across the youngest of the children who was with the grandparents, about 14 years old now,
she was hawking books in traffic and was trying to sell me a book as I drove by in the slow traffic. She apparently was no longer in school, I assume she had to hawk in traffic to keep herself alive and surviving.

The grandparents are now too old and their irregular pension definitely can’t pay for any quality education for this poor girl. She didn’t recognize me, she was only seven years old when her parents died back in the days when we all lived at Surulere.

Today everyone connected is paying for the evil her dad did, her mother paid the ultimate price and the kids are suffering and have lost important advantages in life.
The parents have lost a child and a son in law as well simply because they didn’t hold a firm stand against evil and an evildoer.
There is a collective consequence in life.

To shorten a long story, barely thirteen months after I spoke with her on the issue, her husband became very ill and after some medical tests, he was confirmed to have contracted HIV and AIDS and five months later he died. Everybody became worried and apprehensive, he was the breadwinner, this poor woman had little and she couldn’t effectively support three children and herself with her paltry income.

Her parents had stories on why they couldn’t support her financially and the religious group she committed to in time and cash when her husband was still alive had nothing more than prayers and visits to offer. Only a few friends and I were there for her financially. Now that wasn’t the worst part of the story, five months after her husband’s untimely demise, she became ill too and of course, it was confirmed she had contracted the same illness from her late spouse and in 2012, October, this lady died as well.

She was buried and the three children, now orphans were separated – the last born with her parents, the elder two with her younger sibling and a distant cousin in Ore, Ondo state respectively.

This poor woman couldn’t stand her husband’s dirty behavior and at a point wanted to quit the marriage, her father threatened to disown her and not accept her back in his home and her religious associates said the key to her marital challenges is prayers, that there is nothing prayers can’t do and it was probably, the testing of her faith. She was told if she prayed enough and applied her faith, her husband will one day change.

My counsel was different though and very unpopular, I told her to leave the man until self-control and discipline fall on him, she thought my advice was extreme considering the counsel and advise from other quarters she respected.

So there is this man I know long ago who was very promiscuous, married with three children, yet was all over the street chasing anything in skirt. He has some change and his priority was to spend this money on as many ladies as he could get for gender favours.

The wife was very unhappy, disturbed and anxious about the indecent and risky behaviour of her husband. She complained to everyone she believed could intervene and help out but sadly, none of them were truthful or realistic about her challenge. The husband had money and was somewhat generous to these close associates hence, they were subjective.

Even her mother told her all men are like that and she would have to just tolerate the situation for the sakes of her own peace of mind and the children. The Mum told her marriage is a school you endure not really and experience to enjoy. She said, as long as he doesn’t beat her and he pays the bills she should be contented.

Your innocence, good deeds and proper character aren’t enough to protect you from harmful consequences. Ignoring the evil in a land can land you in big trouble. I do not understand it but I’m sure there is a spirit amongst us that makes us criticize, judge and condemn those who try to expose the wrongdoers and their evil deeds.

Remarks like “what’s your own”, “holier than thou”, “mind your business”, “wetin concern you?” “You’re just jealous”, “is it your life, is it your money?” are popularly used to shade, criticize and shut up those who want to expose, fight and condemn evil deeds in and around our lives.

We are mostly deluded that what people do is their business and when the consequences come, it is none of our own business, how untrue this is.

I assume many of us are too private, personal and unconcerned about what the people around us do daily and we generally think it’s none of our business until finally, we get into trouble.

What I’m saying this morning is, it’s possible to get punished for a wrongdoing you were completely uninvolved in. In life you don’t just reap what you sow, you reap what others around you sow as well. You get punished for the evil you ignore and the silence you maintained permitting people in and around your life to carry on with all sorts of wrongdoings.

this is terrible

haba has it come to this extent that its now a threat?

Hundredfold4lif:
Satan and demons believe in God and they SHAKE at the mentioning of God by a true God-carrier! Freeze is frozen toward God. He is an imposter!!!

lol.....
your statements are a bit conflicting!
Like I said,your usage of words are a bit flawed!
Do you really know what it means to "believe" ?
Belief means you trust,faith and conviction in something or someone.....
Satan and his cohorts never "believed" in God!
if Satan and his demons had believed in God,they would never have rebelled against him from the outset!

As for freeze opinion,I would like to challenge you to state, with biblical interpretation,what freeze has outlined!
Remember, freeze used the bible not his own understanding!

Kendrick80:
We got d 3points and that's all dat matters....
Liverpool Biko don't be like Arsenal oh b4 u give sumbody heart attack

Thank U jare
I prefer liverpool play badly and win than play very well and lose just like last season!

EgusiShankly:
which credit

this is was one of the worst derby performance I have seen in my life ..

the team is so disorganized,, poor passes every where.. players been played in wrong positions...so many

How we gotten this far is pure luck...
I'm glad they won sha...

I disagree with the pure luck mantra!
Our players worked hard to get there!
First we played just 3 days after a morale crushing loss to PSG which could affect any top team!
salah,mane,firimino were visibly tired!
Hence,fitter and fresher legs like origi and sturridge were needed!

We are where we are because we deserve to be there!
Most of the matches we played very well last season either ended in a draw,loss or hard luck.....

Today we are churning out victories in matches that we could have drawn and you call it pure luck? thats unfair and ungrateful!

I hope you are aware that we haven't lost this season!
I hope you know we have the lowest number of goals conceded!

Most of our rivals and fans will give anything to be in our position right now!
So stop bad mouthing klopp and get behind the team!
#YNWA

greggng:
God punish Liverpool . I was expecting 2 goals from them to enable win 600k ...this would 've been early Xmas for me....they ended up scoring just one goal

Bro u should have followed the stats before this match
this is a derby game,Everton don't have much of a loose defence and Liverpool just came back from a crushing loss to PSG
hence it would have been wrong to expect the goals to rain in this one!

Stanley4E:
After giving me High B.P...donno whether to rejoice or cry...

U don't need to...
between Liverpool and Everton,Everton were fresher and oozing with confidence!
and besides,Everton came for a draw
Liverpool were just coming back from a crushing loss to PSG
so I expected sum key players not to be at their best esp salah and mane!
but that's why u have players on the bench to come and contribute in such a derby match!

Thumbs up klopp pls let's give credit where its due

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Dear friend, are you upset, angry, distraught, dismayed and saddened by friendships and relationships you’re in right now? It’s time to exit. To exit will be tough if you focus more on quitting without a knowledge of the next thing you want to get to. An exit from a friendship must be an entrance into something more powerful and satisfying, if not you’ll return. To avoid heartaches and heartbreaks, exit bad relationships and get busy pursuing your dreams, goals and ambitions in life.

Fall in love with you, have no place for nonsense. Respect yourself, have your rules and stick with them.

Dear friend, be happy.

FRANKLY SPEAKING FROM
MUYIWA AFOLABI

http://www.muyiwaafolabi.com/today-frankly-speaking-friends/

Thirdly,
develop a wonderful relationship with yourself.
It is difficult for people to love you if you don’t love you.
You must be your own best friend,
don’t be desperate for the endorsement or approval of people.
The first step in cultivating a personal relationship with yourself is understanding and accepting who you are first then defining who you want to become.
Once you set personal goals and a vision, begin to develop plans and strategies for your pursuit, you’ll discover you’ll start falling in love with an advancing you as you keep progressing and achieve your set goals.

A life without personal goals, dreams and pursuits is a confused and frustrating one, hence the desperation to seek people and friends to fill the void. When you’re very busy working hard on yourself, chasing your goals and building your dreams, you wouldn’t even have enough time for too many unnecessary people in your life.

Secondly, instead of being angry every time at how people you love and can do much stuff for keep treating you badly, focus on yourself and ask realistic questions on why you keep attracting those kind of people.

Believe me, there are so many mean people out there waiting to take advantage of kind, considerate, sacrificial and generous people. Are you kind, considerate, loving, generous and tolerant? These may be attributes attracting some people, not because they truly love you, appreciate you or want to be a good friend to you. Once what they want is no longer available or they can obtain from somewhere else, they move on. Therefore, do not trust everyone who says they love you or care about you, don’t be carried away by sweet talks and empty promises, don’t trust their words, test their hearts, create artificial situations to test their true intentions before you let them into your life. Being good can really cause you much pain in this life, don’t be good to everybody, don’t cast your pearls to pigs, don’t be mean either, stay neutral till they earn a space in your life.

To escape the pain and hurt of friendships and relationships going sour every now and again, there are some wise considerations and tough decisions you must take going forward.

First, you must define who you are,
you must conceive a new you.
You must respect yourself, value yourself and determine how you want to be treated.
You must have personal rules about what you would accept and reject from people no matter how close they are or how much you love them. Respect your body
don’t let people disrespect your body or soul.
You need to have rules about how you want to be treated.
When you have rules and you respect your rules, the people who want to come into your life would respect the rules.
If you don’t draw lines, people will overstep their boundaries.

Dear friend, a good friend, a healthy and successful relationship is a blessing I tell you. This is because men by nature are imperfect; we are flawed, selfish and sometimes wicked. It’s the nature of man to be unkind, we have the tendency to always put our interests first even if it hurts others, hence when you come across a friend, who sticks with you, is loyal to you through thick or thin, you are truly blessed by God.

If men are naturally unkind, it simply means you need to be careful, watchful and discerning about the kind of people you allow into your life.

Many of us today still hold responsible and pronounce guilty all the people that have hurt us in time past, and for many rightly so. But if we hold on to this perspective, it will be difficult to mitigate future occurrence of relationships and friendships going bad.

However, many of us unfortunately, keep going from one wrong relationship to another, we don’t know how to identify and sustain a good one, we keep allowing the very wrong persons into our lives over and over and they keep hurting us over and over again.

Some of us have become so battered and scattered by back to back bad relationships we have decided to give up. We no longer think we can ever have someone love us, want us, appreciate us and be with us for whom we are, everyone that we’ve ever given a chance eventually threw negative surprises. Consequently, we have given up but filled with a lot of bitterness, anger, malice and resentment.

When you see some of these people that have hurt you, you’re upset, when you hear their names you’re upset, when you see things or go to places that bring back memories of them you’re upset, when other people ask of these old friends from you, your mood get fouled. You’re perpetually living your life carrying a baggage of several relationships gone badly. You’re not happy, you’re lonely and frustrated.

Many people, being tired of the many hurts have decided to be by themselves, however, it’s a resolve with its downsides as well because loneliness is also a very difficult experience.

Incidentally, as beautiful as relationships are, they sometimes hurt. The people you allow into your life can hurt you, offend you and make your life miserable. In fact some can become dangerous and a threat to your well-being and existence.

Many of us today are perhaps unhappy, sad, depressed and deeply scarred by a friendship or relationship gone bad. The people you allowed into your life for one reason or the other at certain times ended up hurting you, disappointing you, betraying you and causing you untold pain.

Based on the natural emotion of love, affection and affinity, you became attached to these people and their subsequent negative treatment hurt you bad more out of your expectations than what they did.

Sometimes the pain and hurt runs as deep or even deeper than the love and affection you had for them, relationships gone bad can really be painful.

By nature, mankind is created to crave for attention and companionship. We are not designed to exist solo. Communal living is the pattern of our existence hence we have community, societal and national structures to support our coexistence.

It is not good for man to be alone, a suitable helper is always essential for any man to succeed and fulfill purpose in life. No man is designed to be self-made, you will always need people on your journey, some to push you up, some to stand by you and others to pull you up. To fulfill destiny and purpose, you need people in your world, you can’t do it alone.

The natural need for companionship and the necessary help from people for us to progress is the reason we all allow people into our lives.

By nature when you have anyone in your life that you find friendly, amiable and fascinating, you become happy. When also, you meet people with the capacity and will to help you on your journey when you cannot help yourself, you’re also happy. These two reasons primarily underscore why we permit and allow people into our lives, into our spaces, into our world.

ponti93:
I still dont understand how accounts are wiped with only knowledge of bvn and account number... Can somebody enlighten me

Its not really the bvn and account number but the imposed fear contained in the text message and the call the victim makes to the scammer!

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