₦airaland Forum

lol
...I didn't know they cheat in marriages ohhh...lol
Some people on nairaland kept saying the only way for a partner to be loyal and faithful is to get married!

solasoulmusic:
I humbly disagree having too many men is a distraction and a turn off for guys and guys just because you have the number doesn’t mean you’ve won the heart it takes work takes sacrifice and a willingness to try

What happens is people stop trying when their effort is needed most and love really isn’t as complicated it’s appreciation everyday not just on birthdays

Nice....I finally agree with your submissions!
Thumbs up

Fisher007:
Nope she is wrong. If you are looking for sexmate, boyfriend with benifits, flexmate etc, she is right.

But if you are looking for a 'real husband' , you need to be with one.
You need to build trust and loyalty among each other.

Now the issues of hope or all your eggs in one basket. Why focus so much on a man emotionally or financially when you still have your parents or sibling to care for. You need to channel that energy on your career in other to be self-dependent first before looking for a real husband.

The fact is that most Nigerian ladies are lazy, you need a husband to continue the work or position of your father. You all don't like to work and sort your responsibilities. Most ladies see marriage as a safe haven.

Most parents don't even advice their daughters cause they see her marrying as less burden on them. They will now tell you 'Once you are in you are in'

Advice build yourself first and don't put any hope in any guy. The right guy will eventually come when he sees your worth and knows your value.

But dating multiple guys means future trouble for you cause, one way or the other your husband will know you were double or triple dating during your courtship with him. And that will lead to disrespect in your home, lack of trust and self-worth for you as long as you remain is wife.

Good advise!
Just hope some are learning

Scizzer:
See the mumu dressed like an intimacy gadget and is talking about marriage.. Lol
No guy Who wants to get married to a girl tells her from the onset. There are certain qualities guys look For before deciding to settle down with a girl
1.Character 2.Compactibility 3. What does she have to offer asides sex , can she support the family 4. Her dreams/ aspirations 5. Homeliness, just to name a few
If you like date 200 men together, once you don't have these qualities, you will only remain a intimacy gadget. Shikena
A word is enough for the wise

True!

Luizkid:
This is my problem with some of us, instead of constructively arguing why it's good or bad you guys are just throwing abuses at her. Truth remains, she has a point but it's something that needs to be handled very carefully else you miss out big time.

I agree about the abuses but I totally disagree about double dating!
If the motive of a relationship is to know that person better and hopefully graduate to marriage,what would she do with five or six guys?
If the 5 guys are in love with her,who will she end up picking?
What if she ends up picking a wrong guy only to regret at d end?
What if the guys she is dating finds out and decide to codedly use her and dump her at the end?
What if the same man she likes among her numerous bf is actually cheating on her?
One sure thing about life is that we will surely face heartbreaks,but it all depends on how the individual handles it!
I will no tell my enemy to double date!
Its totally illogical!
My opinion though

Biglittlelois:
But she's right in a way, what if the guy you put your hope on dissapionts at the end after soo many years, that means you have to start from scratch with another guy, do you know how emotionally draining that is

when you put ur eggs in more than one basket,there is a possibility that you may never pay attention to all of them!
At the end,you will lose ALL due to distractions and still start from the same square one that you were afraid of Ab initio!

IamD18:
If you like date 20 guys, they'll fvck you, gist your pussay within themselves and dump your sorry ass if sex is the only thing you are offering them.

Use your head. To whom wide pussay is given, sense is expected.

That's true!
I think instead of looking for more than one guy to date,most of these ladies should put that time into improving and upgrading themselves!

Drinkwater06:
With this, Buhari has already won next year election.

Won what?

cr7lomo:
But she knows how to collect 100k

Funny enough Most of the ladies who do such stuffs will still want their man to be faithful and loyal to them!
Preposterous!

Biglittlelois:
Exactly

Really?
So you expect a Casanova to be faithful and loyal when he or she gets "married" right? smh

Leoswaggs:
if she's not your wife, she owes you no loyalty whatsoever.

If that's the case,there shouldn't be anything called dating or relationship!
....and going by your assertions, the lady has no right to demand loyalty or faithfulness from the guy since they are not married right?
You talk As if marriage will stop one from cheating....smh

Bobbybenard:
Believe NLC under the leadership of Ayuba Waba at your own peril

His integrity is at stake!
He knows his members will be disappointed in him if the 30k isn't implemented!

sheyiiade:
I quite agree with you but of what use is the noise when they'll back down at the 11th hour without a statement? If government isn't held by the jugular & forced, it's easier for government to back out cos there's no proof

True but that's why its a "suspension" and not an outright "cancellation" of the strike!

You know that FG can be a real pain most times esp in the way they handle crisis and negotiations!
They just like being forced to a corner until the last minute before they act! Its so unfortunate!

If the 30k minimum wage is not implemented by the president, then the strike will continue!

sheyiiade:
This is our problem in Nigeria. We never follow things through. SMH

Let's not jump the gun yet!
Let's wait and see what was agreed on that necessitated the suspension by labour!

hafgat:
I just hope Labour will accept any of the two choices they gave the FG i.e N24,000 or N30,000? Because by calling off the strike means they will accept anything the govt will put in motion.

I do hope the federal government implements the 30k for the sake of labour!
And that because if its less than that,no member of the organised labour will partake in any strike in the future simply because they might feel the labour handlers have either been intimidated or bribed!

otunbablacq:
Nlc did not call off the strike. Govt playing a fast on with media propaganda

They have....
check punchng
However let's hope its 30k as proposed by labour....

Just read the punchng online news and it would seem the federal Government has finally agreed with labour on the proposed 30k minimum wage which has been given to the president for onward documentation....though no amount has been announced yet!
However,it will be in labour's best interest to ensure that the federal Government implements the #30k minimum wage as agreed by the tripartite committee...and that's because anything less than 30k will not be acceptable and make labour and its handlers look weak in front of their followers!

latest updates.... The representatives of the Governors have increased their earlier 22,500 to 24k However labour is still and strongly insisting on the 30k As it stands,the strike will still go on as scheduled! This may turn out to be the mother of all strikes! AIT

naijaguy123456:
PDP is dead yes but this is joblessness honestly.

Really?
simply because of this comedy show you are witnessing?
By the way,where are the "15" extra senators that he promised you and APC?

nyovest300:
who told you? pls dont confuse him the tithe is Gods own now this is why we sre usually caught up in the middle cause we do the right thing witha a wrong means.....God said we should give i/410 of our earnings that is to say into the church so if you want to help others do it out of your own money and not the one of God so if you have been doing that ever since my bro you have not been paying your tithe so SIT UP and do the right thing

Can you backup your assertions with scriptures from the bible?
secondly,are you aware that the tithes as instructed in the law of moses also instructs that tithes be given to the needy and homeless?

may320:
- @Op, tithe is tithe, donation is donation.
- If paid to someone else it becomes a donation/charity giving and no longer tithe.
- Tithe is a commandment with specific percentage to pay.
- Payment of tithe moves God to do many things, seen and unseen for us.
- There are promises made by Him to those who are faithful with it.
- There is a kind of "peace of mind" that goes with payment of it.
- Pray to God to reveal or give you more understanding about tithe payment.
- The Pastors who failed to utilise it the way it was commanded to be used will face the judgement.
- The judgement is not for me and you to decide but is between the Pastor and God.
- May God help us all.

You are forgetting that its the same tithe as commanded in the law of moses that should be used for the needy in Deuteronomy 24:22-29 and Deuteronomy 26....
If according to you,tithe is a commandment from God as instructed in the law of moses, then why are you not applying it according to Deuteronomy 14:22-29?
Its so unfortunate that most believers only listen to what their pastors say and not what scriptures instructs!

TonyAntony:
Sometimes we pretend to be ignorant of the words of God regarding this subject. Because we want to do what suits our purpose and not God's clear and definite instructions. It says: "Bring the whole tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in MY HOUSE." Does it say we should bring it to someone? I mean this is explicit enough for anyone to understand. We take God for granted a lot in this regard. If you pay to someone and not the church, it's no more tithe, please.

Who was God referring to in that scripture?
What is the storehouse in the scriptures where that scripture was taken from?
Are you aware that the same storehouse was meant to store food produce and not money? is meat money?
Do you know who the tithes were given to in that scripture?
Do you know the needy and homeless were beneficiaries of the tithe payments in the old testament?
Please don't read Malachi 3:10-12 in isolation....
Also read Deuteronomy 14:22-29
Deuteronomy 26
Numbers 18:20
Nehemiah 10
When you read a scripture in isolation, you will hardly understand its usage!

Zinny25:
you said part not all. Case dismissed

Did you even read the other parts?
Or did you even read the scriptures at all?
Did you know you are also meant to eat part of it?
Do you also know that its meant to be given every year and not monthly as instructed by pastors of your assembly?
I guess you also know that your pastor is neither a levite or old covenant priest hence can not receive tithes....

Zinny25:
Tithe is different from offerings and donations. If you know the meaning of Tithe then you will understand where it ought to be paid. Paying Tithe doesn't stop you from helping the needy around you...

You should read your Bible and tell the Holy Spirit to make you understand

Wrong!
if you go by the same scriptures where tithe was instructed part of the tithe was given to the needy!
Deuteronomy 14:22-29

stagger:
Tithe is paid to the church where you receive spiritual instruction. It is not paid to the needy and certainly not paid to a pastor or man of God.

Giving is a 5-fold ministry.
a) Tithe - 10% of your increase or income.

From your 90%, you can then give as follows:

- to your parents
- to a man of God (prophetic offering), which ideally is given once in a while.
- to the poor and needy.
- chruch offering during services.

Of these last 4, giving to your parents in my mind should carry more weight than giving to the poor or prophetic offering.

Paying your tithe comes with a blessing only God can give, which is protection of your finances (rebuking the devourer). A poor man cannot offer that.

It is better you ask God for yourself and receive an answer in that regard.

Oga can you back your 5 fold giving ministry from the scriptures?

Andrez123:
Your comments have already proved that you didn't watch the game, only looked at the football stats or at most watched the 3 mins highlights.....Anyway I will be looking forward to the return game away at Anfield. I hope you will watch the full game this time around and not look at match stats and football websites while the live match is going on.

Guy I watched the match just like you!
However,unlike you who incorporated emotions due to your club affiliation,I watched the match objectively and simply aligned my facts with that of the stats which were on point!

The return leg is already a no contest!
It will be like film in your eyes
and I will be here advising you to take it easy!

I still insist that you get to a viewing centre close to a clinic or if you are buoyant enough,you can hire a nurse who can always check your bp every 20 minutes
Abeg advise no be curse!

Spy360:
You are very funny... lol

Don't worry yourself, the league belongs to Manchester City. Klopp is going trophyless again. Soon he would be tagged the new Wenger. Heck, Wenger won the title and cup double in his second season.

Liverpool is just full of potentials. Just. Soon they will become the new market for serious minded clubs like City, Chelsea, Manchester United qnd off course Arsenal...

This elder sha
always emotional!
Now u have suddenly resorted to attacking klopp forgetting he had won titles at Dortmund!
I do agree that man city is good....however,its too early in the season to give it to them considering the points separating the top 4....unlike last season when the only team doing the catchup was man united who were trailing by 9 points at this stage in the season to man city!
There are tougher games on the horizon and don't forget the banana slip during the festive period when the games come thick and fast!

Just saw your last comments and I just could not stop laughing,in fact during the last few years,who between arsenal and Liverpool had sold more of their start players?
Aside coutinho,can you point out the key players that we had lost?
Please can you remind me of a player called ox chamberlain and which team is he was playing for?

Spy360:
Firstly you tagged dominance to possessions not goal attempts. Again if goal attempts were marginal, you can't consider that as an escape but rather a balanced draw.

Secondly, many teams win games from losing positions. You can't call that chasing, especially for this Arsenal team that have won more games from losing positions this season than any other team.

Guy its obvious you didn't peruse my earlier statements!
If you could take time to read the statements you quoted,you would see that I made emphasis on goal attempts not possession!

I also made several scenarios to show that arsenal actually escaped with a draw....
Arsenal was trailing in that match and could have lost had Liverpool been ruthless after going a goal up!
I also agree that the game was evenly balanced... though your initial statements suggested that arsenal played better in terms of goal attempts which was not the case!

I do know that a team like arsenal has so far won from losing positions...however,you can't take away the fact that this was done against weaker opposition!
For instance,Arsenal came from behind to draw against Chelsea but still lost eventually!

Andrez123:
From your comments, you sound like these whatsapp generation kids and coupon fans who never watch a live football game but follow the game through football news websites, twitter and football stats.

Arsenal and Liverpool might have had the same 4 shots on target during the game according to the stats but Arsenal totally dominated that 1st and 2nd half, there's some kind of match domination that doesn't show up on basic football stats, Arsenal in that first half alone had like very good 7 or 8 half chances which was either deflected or blocked by the Liverpool defense which in the end won't register as shots on target or off target. Arsenal also made numerous attacking incursions into Liverpool's defense and in the midfield Liverpool couldn't recover the ball quickly enough when they lost possession that's one of the reasons they ended up having only 39% ball possession in the whole match.

Arsenal coming from behind to draw doesn't mean that they couldn't have won it, I wasn't necessarily happy with Ramsey coming on for Aubameyang when Arsenal was still 1-0 down but even with the 2 glorious chances missed by Van Dyke for Liverpool, Arsenal could have easily won this game 6-2 if things went their way that's how dominant Arsenal was on Saturday evening.

Kai this emotional trauma of not winning this match is really affecting arsenal fans even on Sunday

My elder I didn't know you watched matches during the 50s which now makes you think you know better than the stats available for all to see!
What you made emphasis on is simply ball possession;in other words,arsenal had more of the ball than Liverpool which is practically expected from a home side!
And besides,same arsenal had the same dominance against man city but we all know the result!

While I give arsenal credit for dominating which is expected from a home team,you can't say for sure that such dominance will result into goals....
Even the stats prove my point about both teams....arsenal clearly had the dominance in terms of possession but Liverpool had the attempts "minimally ".....
Like I explained ab initio,Goal attempts are based on two criterion;Shots off target and shots on target!

Arsenal and Liverpool had 4 shots on target each....
Arsenal had 5 shots off target while Liverpool had 6 shots off
target...
Based on that analogy,Liverpool edged arsenal out 'minimally' in terms of goal attempts which I earlier explained indicating that the game was highly competitive between both teams!

Lastly,saying arsenal would have won by 6-2 is just preposterous,laughable and also proof that you watch matches based on your emotions which is very typical of most arsenal fanatics!
if indeed your team could have won by six,why wasn't this reflected in the shots on target?


What I can say for now is to take a chill pill!
There will be a second half on December 29 at anfield!
Then your team can enact what wasn't done at emirates!
Though I will advise that you go to a viewing centre that is very close to a pharmacist or clinic just in case!

Spy360:
So from your logic, since the game ended 1-1, how did you now determine who escaped with the draw knowing that Arsenal had greater dominance?

In my opinion,I would first say arsenal were actually the ones who escaped with a draw!
Arsenal were on the verge of losing less than 9 minutes to the end of the game....Hence,they were actually chasing the game!

Secondly,You might have all the dominance but the real graft is on the goal "attempts" made and Liverpool edged arsenal in that respect!

finally,you can say both sides played well...however,on the context of goal attempts, Liverpool marginally edged arsenal who,being the home team,were expected to have not just dominance but more goal attempts than the visiting team!

TabletMan:
You accuse me of being emotional yet you're here since yesterday defending Liverpool as if you're their spokeman.
And I have checked stats and discover that Liverpool and Arsenal made equal attempt on target unless if there's another stats you meant.

Guy am not emotional
When some one is emotional, he or she resorts to insults or threats....and from my comments,I believe I have been civil,funny and objective!
Liverpool spokesman?

Yes am a Liverpool fan...however,I won't kill myself or make threats on their behalf as if I collect what the players and coaches earn weekly

as for the stats,what you saw are "shots on target" and not "attempts"!

...attempts are moves made towards the opponents area which is the combination of shots on target and off target!
True...shots on target are the same for both teams but shots off target,Liverpool edge arsenal slightly!

On that basis,Liverpool marginally edged arsenal on attempts made...

BlackManta:
The way Arsenal fans are celebrating, you go think say they Don win premier league

They were in top 4 before match started, now they are out of top 4 because of that draw.

They are busy celebrating but in reality Arsenal lost more with draw than they gained.

They are out of top 4 now and Tottenham is topping them all thanks to Liverpool.

So what's the fuss all about

I just tire ohh