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Yes i agree that one should not put his hands on a woman, also, no matter how woman insult or abuse me raech i will not put my hands on a woman, but i tell you now now, if a woman should raise her hand and slap me because she is upset, i will raise my hand and slap her well well, infact x2, then, we go settle matta later period, even if she be person wife.

munyiwa:
What have you achieved in your life? mediocres like you will keep chewing Groundnut and roasted plantain,walking aimlessly all about,at the age of 45,I mean! How will someone despise the existence of God? Such a fool you are.

Munyiwa: Eduevolutionnow tried to reset your brain, but this mumu no wan gree leave you. Siddon there dey talk say God don bless us, na so we dey shout upanddown and na we dey religious pass, but ordinary Kidney transplant we no fit do for naija. Siddon there dey pray well, well, all the pastors get private jet and they all go abroad for treatment plus including your president who i will tell you categorically, you no get faith and submission to God reach Buhari.... case in point, the Head of christianity in the U.K, said, "this one is not corrupt" referring to Buhari, and its not anything na fear of God wey him get, now as we speak he is getting treated in a U.K hospital... so siddon there dey deceive yourself. If you need kidney transplant or heart attack now now, you are as good as dead my broda. I am muslim, in islam, a hadith of the prophet says "you first of all tie your camel down then you pray to God to protect it. You don't leave your camel roaming upanddown and then pray. That camel go lost. You have similarity in Christendom, you work first then pray to God almighty. You are corrupt if you don't work and hope to reap where you did not sow bro.

luminouz:
Lmaooooo! Jeez ain't u organz? Y are u talking bro....organ no dey talk...now lemme SKUL u bro in d alpha male game
There are 3 types of gehs.....good,bad n ugly.....
A good geh won't bring her friends n of course won't look like an EBINA...
A bad geh will ask for tfare to d venue n ask for d most expensive item on d menu....n eat hungry like dat day is her last on earth......EBINA 1
D ugly ones are d crass n razz gehs who exist only to eat..n eat..n eat anyway,anyhow without any shame whatsoever n believe men only exist to serve them coz they got a hole between their legs.....they bring in 2 or 3 of their friends for a cookout their generation can't pay for n just grabs everything in sight....classless n shameless...n in d process embarrassing d guy who was unfortunate enough to ask them out..they always look chick on d outside so its on a date u get to see their true colours....EBINA 2
Now to DAT fateful day.....ur wrong to think I had no cash with me....had 20k straight from d ATM with me before going to d rendezvous....since its on first date I came prepared....imagine my surprise n anger when d geh turned out with 2 odas all to play me for a fool...wasn't even bothered bro till they just looked me over n said hi n ordered for d menu straight away like they own d place....d geh I invited exchanged pleasantries with me like 2mins n joined her friends haggling n huffing over d menu like diarrheic hyenas.....they clearly meant to chop me n go...I had no problems standing up right there n then n cancelling the date bro but I wanted to teach them a lesson they won't forget in a hurry because they have obviously been doing that to other guys( a geh once told me this same scenario of how she n her friends wreck guys when on a date n one time like dat d guy won cry coz him money don finish n he only took BOTTLED water...imagine) n getting away with it.....
For d plan to work I had to make em relaxed so I told em to be free n eat up....watching as d EBINAs crowed n cooed as soft drinks were served them while they placed orders.... They didn't even bother looking at me twice when I excused myself to go to d restroom....for d plan to work I had to involve d guard n tipped him too( very eager after dat) with a promise to come back some days after to hear d full gist..
So bro...it wasn't d fear to confront them or lack of machismo o but the urge to make sure those gehs won't ever do dat to another guy without thinking twice

For this detailed lesson.....u owe me a BOW!!!

Ok, Understood. What is the followup on the girl, did she call you and curse you out? did you guys have a discussion about it later, i wan know wetin happen with you and the girl, cos you obviously have each others number.

tosyne2much:
The matter just tire me ooo

Bros, i "apologise" sincerely. I suppose put "some" in front of the "Ekiti". Na fayose dey my mind the time i dey type am. Abeg no vex. I no sabi ur address i for send kolanut.. .

safarigirl:
I don't even order for anything myself, I let the guy order, then if the prices are listed, I look at it before agreeing to buy anything.

I no wan hear story

You are reasonable. Reading all these comments one can just imagine how bad things are generally. You have broke ass girls that are unreasonably taking advantage of situations and you equally have pathetic broke ass guys counting the number of meat or suya consumed on a date, its all recession my sister.

luminouz:
Eehya! Consider d money spent as bad investment! U formed being nice...I don't do dat bro... D moment she brought her friends she shot herself in d leg... Date over!
One stupid geh tried dat poo with me..came with 2 of her friends n those ones started picking orders on menu without even properly greeting me.....I let 'em order,excused myself to d bathroom,winked at d security man n tipped him 500 to lemme escape ( I briefed him on d scenario) n walked out,took a bike home....I came by 3 days later n d security guy told me those gehs raked up a bill of 10k(pounded yam,nkwobi,suya,rice n drinks) when d fools couldn't pay,they were embarrassed totally, their phones were taken n their left footwear.....they chartered a bike home...in SHAME!!!!
Am I mad to pay for 3 EBINA gehs? Who am I ? Santa Claus?

Luminouz, eheeen, God don catch you i don follow you reach here today. Nobi me wey you dey nack mouth the other day for ?? Shege dan boroubaaa. haaa, so how u escape, so you no even get liver to tell the girls politely say you cannot afford all that, you go follow back door comot, maybe you climb fence sef, if you fall down in the process nko? Chai, chai, diaris God oh.. I don first talk am say you no too get shit for yansh. lol. hahahahaha. You sort security, come bail, ok, so na so babe dey catch you mugu. Ok i see your frustration. Make you learn from the MASTER ok? Make i teach you as we dey do am. See here, no shame there, if i were in your shoes, i will tell her categorically and from the onset that i was not expecting her and her friends, if i dont have enough money, i will tell them right there and then the date is cancelled cos i did not prepare for all that. Now, if i can afford the food, i will tell them to go ahead and order and if i see they are taking advantage, i will say No, no you cannot have that, and if anyone should give me attitude, i will ask if they will rather pay for it? It is my money i am in control and if i see they are not being reasonable, i will control what is ordered and if you don't like it, the alternative is that you pay for it period. So next time, bros, you don't have to bail, sit down and be in CONTROL and whoever does not like it can get up and leave, shikena.

tosyne2much:
OP, you forgot to add that some of them will feed as if there's famine in the land on first date

Chai most guys are really really poor... If you are worried about the food consumed on a date, you might as well sit your ass home, food oh na im people go dey complain about. Babes, make una date "Northerners" na all these ijebu, ekiti and ibo boys dey complain about "food". Recently one ibo guy complained that a babe that used his bathroom used too much "tissue". can you imagine I still no understand how ol boy take eye gauge tissue come determine say the thing don too reduce. Guys, if you don't have it, tell the girl upfront say no kaka for pocket, the one wey go follow you go follow you, pls stop complaining and counting the # of meat consumed on a date, its poverty mentality.

MzJin:
I guess d both of u nid to hook up on a date plss.....stop love-dissing on nairaland epileptic-gf guy n stay-at-home n use bf chic.......just suggesting......

You cannot comprehend bro. You can see the guy sounds like a privileged "i am fine mentality kinda guy" and the girl is way out of his league, so tell me how dem go fit date? Na chin-chin and puff-puff sellers the guy dey follow upandown.

[quote author=markpenk post=56616456]While you do have a point about her seeming emphasis on materialism, the reality is that she's being very practical. When it comes down to it,
romance is largely fueled and encouraged by finance and the same materialism you so ardently oppose. Without that, it's only a matter of time before the romance, compatibility and understanding go out the window.

I also think that she already assumed that all those things you mentioned -love and compatibility- were already a given. it's easy to try to see marriage through rose colored lenses, assuming that love would eventually cover all things. But, marital and relationship problems are often largely practical.

So, while I understand your perspective and agree that those things are just as important, the reality is that the things she mentioned too as just as important.

Excellently written by "Hedonistic".



May God bless you abundantly. It is sickening how shallow, materialistic, and daft most of us Nigerians are.

The truth is that only less than 1 percent of Nigerians are truly wealthy enough to be immune to poverty, no matter what, for life. Most people who think they are very comfortable because of their so called good job are just over broke (JOB)... Just one snap of a finger away from abject poverty, frustration and death.... If the vicissitudes of life hit you, your so-called rosy life would come crashing down. You think you're cool because you have one high paying job.... Who says you can't lose that job. Who says that your house you managed to build can't be lost to one ugly incident or the other... Who says that your car that's making you feel cool with yourself can't be lost to an accident or sold off to cover a debt, or whatever? All sorts have happened in this life. It is foolish to choose a life partner on the basis of very flimsy and temporal considerations.

Truth is, God forbids for me to even consider a girl that thinks I am worthy/ready for marriage only because I have xyz job or xyz business, or have a car, or have "international exposure" (can you imagine? ). These are all temporal pieces of nonsense. I know men who had several cars yesteryear but have none today. Ditto those who had nothing yesteryear and have many today. Unfortunately, It's really not about potential, ambition or whatever. Life is unpredictable and poo happens anyhow it wants to.

These kinds of slow girls with shallow mentalities are only useful for flings and casual affairs. Make them your WIFE at your own risk. Marriage is one long and unpredictable journey, that's why the 'for better or for worse' principle is applicable.

markpenk:
Well... I don't see how her requests are very unreasonable. Before the guys bite my head off, please hear me out . It's clear the girl has/lives a different reality than most Nigerians, but also, one that's actually more common than you'd think. if your parents can afford to send you to CU, chances are you're already comfortable. So, a chick like that is bound to assume that basic needs will be met. After all, that's her current reality.

Per her requirements, my particular focus is on the following:

1. Income, Shelter and Provision - Ideally, no guy should think of settling down without a decent source of income, nice apartment, mobility, and the capability to feed the family. let's be honest here: who would want their daughters or sisters to marry someone without this? It's a basic necessity.

2. Acceptance of Wild Past- Well, she's flexible here. At least she's mature enough to understand that a guy can have a past. As long as he's outgrown it, that's okay.

3. No Children from Past Relationships -Well, this is a given for most people. Let's face it, Nigerians hate the After-1's. In fact, your parents probably wouldn't give their accent to your relationship with anyone who already has a child out of wedlock. The rare exceptions where this might be acceptable to the parents would be if the guy or gal is very comfortable, pretty, incredibly well mannered, has very good connects or their child is getting too old for marriage.

4. Education and Global Exposure -This is mandatory these days. After all, you don't want to marry an uneducated person with a very limited worldview and/or one that's not presentable. If you do, chances are you'll become the butt of jokes among your friends, colleagues and your local community (see Patience Jonathan for example). With the rate at which everyone's forming "phoneh" now and access to the internet/cable TV, it'd be hard to not want this or at least someone who is articulate and intelligent, even if lacking the accent or pedigree.

Where our paths diverge is the physical description, no intimacy till marriage rule, and tribe. You probably wouldn't find all these qualities in any guy from one tribe. And if you do, chances are he's already married or is a playa.

Whatever the case though, to each his own. if this is what floats her boat and helps her sleep at night, good luck to her. Just hope she won't be at Shiloh and Holy Ghost Congress in 4/5 years begging God for any available man.

Bros i disagree with you on so many levels. The list is all centered on materialism first and nothing on compatibility and relationship. Usually you have a girlfriend, you like each other and you get married and make it work. Most marriages these days, and this particular request and your analysis is based on the fact that we can only be compatible if we both see what you're bringing to the table then and only then we try to make stuff work, nonsense. you meet, based on behaviour, character etc fall in love, get married and build a life together its still the best way period. Know also that the marriage she wants that you alluded to is not sustainable if any of those elements should cease to exist, for example loss of job or sickness etc cos the marriage is a contract solely based on these factors.

NothingDoMe:
I see herdsmen running back to the north when their leader dies. The chief cattle rearer himself must perish for this country to move forward.

Can we EVER, EVER move forward in this country? You are here when GEJ was President, you witnessed all the atrocities of BH including the kidnap of Chibok girls, you witnessed the mega looting of all the big boys. You are aware of the recently discovered Ikoyi millions! You saw the wedding of IBB's daughter that 34 Nigerians attended with Private jets, you know that all the proprietor of all big churches in naija all have private jets and schools that you cannot attend, yet you blame sick Buhari as your problem and you have 84 mofos liking it. Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa, my head wan craze for naija mumu......

Funlord2:
And so _fucking what? Does that give him the right to steal an entire states commonwealth? Or was his PhD based on studies in "lootology"?

Bros, take your chill pill vitamins. What the poster said is "this guy is well read". Na your mumu head or typical naija anger dey read meaning to wetin him talk. It could mean, he studied in the US in the 80's so he is not an uneducated guy, and it could also mean, he had good education, yet still looted his State blind, or had good education and still ended up a looter. as opposed to the average naija graduate like Dino Melaye, that sort lecturers to pass, did politics, mago-mago his way through and through to the senate.

benility:
Only in Nigeria have I seen people stealing without ambition. C eyeball like Obankie head light

define "Obankie" pls?

Its unfortunate. Nobody knows what really happened. IPOB will surely post nonsense here and believe the story posted here. It is all our fault after all. Look at how Nigerians treat their househelps, drivers, gatemen etc, look at how we behave when we are in position of authority, look at how we treat each other that is different from us, yet we keep pointing finger and blaming everyone else.

Only in Nigeria will a vulcanizer leave his vulcanizing business to write a story in english and it will get posted on NL.

Don't know who is more retarded, the "goats roaming aimlessly looking for food", the person that posted this, or the retarded to power 6 mofos that can not differentiate between local goats, sheep/Ram and "Cattle

So cool.

jerseyboy:
The only genuine person we have is Akintoye Akinmade MIT who turned down NEC job.

Based on your shallow and limited knowledge..........

nervegasfarts:
As much as I appreciate good things coming out of Africa, I am tired of all the internet motivation craze going on! This Jelaini guy is claimed to have designed the Chevy Volt. His name is not on wikipedia as one of the designers:

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Chevrolet_Volt

FYI, Philip Emeagwali is NOT the father of the internet. Please google Tim Berners-Lee. Mr. Emeagwali managed to win $1000 in a competition about reservoir flow(oil and gas people, chemical engineers etc will know about this). His PhD topic wasn't even approved.

I hate to burst your bubble, but when I see how we ascribe other people's work to Africans, just to look good, I wonder if there is so much mediocrity and paucity of ideas in the land in terms of science and tech.

We have great guys in music, finance, management, etc, the world over...but in tech, (as in real tech frontiers, not hacking up websites), I still think we are very behind. Reasons are not very far fetched sha. There is no light, no security, no hospitals, no potable water....how could we think about tech?

You are part of corruption for posting misleading information. You said Jelani Aliu is not mentioned as part of Chevy Volt designers.... now can you list the names of designers mentioned? No designer was mentioned. I checked other cars and their designers were not mentioned either. So why lie that his name was not mentioned "amongst the names of designers", We shout that Govt is corrupt! Who is is govt? Nobi weee weee? Bad belle people dem, dem.

RichYoungNigga:

What??

Another national embarrassment

Is South Africa that cold ??

I've been to South Africa for a business meeting several times during the hot and cold season

It's even colder in Nigeria than in South Africa

Even in the USA where it snows heavily in the winters,
it's now summer and you can't walk outside​without melting

You can take someone out of the forest but you can't take the forest out of her

She is in South Africa, she is having fun, ok, she still has the forest inside of her, you nkor you dont have the forest inside of you, you are polished abi? people that cannot speak good queen elizabeth language flew private jet to attend IBB's daughter's wedding over the weekend while you are using a tokunbo phone charged with i betapass my neighbour generator, using mosquito net and spraying your house with raid and sheltox, dey baff from inside bucket, yet you dey claim polished. Shege danborrooobaa.

BigBelleControl:
Chai! you can take a man out of ghetto but you can't take ghetto out of a man.

Mumu, siddon there dey call am ghetto, she is fine, she is now famous and she dey make $$, you wey no ghetto, how market?? Recession don dabaru your brain.

NIGERIANS na wah.... Always verify stories before commenting. Who here knows the full story or what actually happened?? Too many mofos on social media.

Nonsense write up: So V.P that is a lawyer, pastor and V.P will be controlled by Abba Kyari or A whole Amaechi the Tiger of PH or former Govs, Nigerians will believe anything, see as they make us believe these people do not have any mind of their own, like children in Primary school. I tell you categorically now, now, If Abba Kyari should in anyway disrespect or usurp the powers of Osinbajo, Osinbajo will call Buhari and ask for his immediate sack period, so also is Amaechi and Fashola.

Shege, dan nimaa. When we dey shout since say make we all come together and solve all these violence happening day in day out, people will lie up and down and say it is muslims killing christians or hausas killing Igbos, now see yaself Our Police is useless, our people are not truthful and we ourselves are our own enemies. Now tell me just like Fulani vs indigenes, the right thing to do is determine what happened, and get justice for the victim and punishment for the accused, and get the Police to do their work. Because this is affecting all all of us. You will hear Fulani vs Ibo, automatically, the Fulani is at fault, Buhari sent them, the Police is working for buhari etc, ok now nko, na Buhari send Ijaw people??

SmartChoices:
I am not in support of beating women. That said... Young ladies should learn to say NO without verbal assaults​.... You never know who you are dealing with.

The lady's tales doesn't add up... I suspect she verbally assaulted​ the poor guys and they lost it completely... I am always amazed at how ladies talk or act like this​ world is theirs just because some bloke asked them out...

The fact that she has the guy's picture says a lot..

You are wrong Mister: If you ask a lady out, you don lower your ego and step down to her level because you wan date am. Now if the lady should insult you and say you are not in her category, or class she is well within her limits, na you carry yourself go ask am out hoping to benefit something and most ladies are saucy and mouthy. What you do is move on period, she will even tell her friends and back in the day of letter writing, your letter go circulate tire and you will be laughing stock, just move on period you started it all, by not gauging the situation well or determining well in advance weather you will get a kiss or a nail and hammer on your head. The best you can do is dust yourself up and ask someone with more swag than her out and hopefully that one agrees then you can pose by spoiling the new bae showing the other one what she missed period. If that girl is my sister, i will be handing that boy over to boko-haram and getting a Chibok girl back.

NwaliE01:
You shall have read the whole text before posting this misleading comment. It's obvious where you belong.

Make i hear word. You should have researched the sport event before talking, if Saudi Arabia should give you a $20K per Month job now, now we no go hear kpeeem from your mouth again.

Bigots all over the place. You guys protesting as well as CAN should google the countries participating, Cameroun, Burkina Faso, Egypt, Uganda, Cote D'ivoire, Sierra Leone etc. Also,non-muslims participate in the tournament, so where did you guys see "Strictly for Muslim Countries"? Our bigotry and ethnicity and hatred is killing us. All these mofos shouting up and down here, if Saudi Petroleum or Dubai or Malaysian Govt should offer them a mouth watering job now now dem go pack themselves and family go there sharp sharp, you will not hear anything "Islam" but now they are here talking nonsense. Keep kwayetiii make i hear word abeg.

How do you know he was trying to rob the house?

Naija and joblessness...tufiakwaa.

Next2Bezee:
Is this one a human being or a whale? That's why she's sticking to the only person that will give her & that dirty pvssy attention

The man sef is a big he-goat.

Stop judging her. She is a human being. She is honest and direct, a virtue most people lack including you from your tirade.

plaetton:
Selective amnesia perhaps, my friend ?

Have you forgotten the high drama, the tension, the intrigues and powerplays before the Constitution was eventually upheld ? Or were we all just imagining things ?

Same scenario is playing out again VERBATIM.
BUHARI is wearing away slowly but surely.

The same type of players with same mindset are trying every possible trick to circumvent the laid down protocols and the Constitution in the much contemplated eventuality of Buhari's non-return.

Tell me you don't see the script.

Ol boy stop drinking Ogi in the morning.. your brain don det tire and retire small small like naija politician brain. How can a President die and any other person take over aside the V.P? You people will be shouting wolf all over the place..in this day and age how possible? Talk only on things you know, and leave things you dont know. Osinbajo is fully in charge, Buhari is a man of integrity which has never been in doubt. Power play is in kunu and ogi or igbo smoking brain folks like you and FFK, leave NL and go and play conspiracy theory with FFK, call Fayose to join you people so you all can become team of nonentities and trouble makers.

plaetton:
Kindly make a feeble attempt to address any of the issues or allegations made by FFK.

FFK is just bold enough to publicly voice out what the far majority of Nigerians whisper amongst themselves in private.
The feudal oligarchs don't give a rat's arse about democracy, rule of law, the Constitution or even common moral decency.
All they care about is unbridled access to federal power.

Were you too young to remember the Yaradua saga just a few years ago ?
Same type of people, same mindset, exactly the same script being replayed.
It's déjà vu all over again!

Bros, dont you have a brain to "think" or at least remember History?? Not long ago, Yar'Aduah was sick and all nonentities were shouting Turai, Turai tell me when Yar'adua died who took over Answer that question and know CLEARLY with your confusion causing brain that if Buhari drops today, there is no permutation, combination, power play etc Osinbajo becomes your PRESIDENT and Commander in Chief QED.