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You guys' responses are exactly why so many Nigerian kids are not as close to their parents as the should be. You guys are so consumed by your god complexes that you don't realize that your behaviour gradually alienates your kids and makes them even less likely to ask you for stuff.

Be truthful to yourselves: most of you would rather ask your friends and colleagues for stuff before you ask your parents. How is that a healthy parent-child relationship? You guys have no idea what the difference is between a healthy relationship between parent(s) and child and disrespect.

Later it's the same you guys that would be asking your kids "why didn't you ask me? Why did you ask other people and not me?"

Continue perpetuating the same unhealthy dynamic with your own kids o. I hope it pans out well for y'all.

12inchDickson:
so you can request your dad to wash his plate am sure you are a Bastard

Bastard is the worst you can say?

I'm disappointed.

willy2000:
If you see nothing wrong in what she did, then am I am really sorry for the kind of parent you are/will be.
Do you even know what RESPECT is, it is either you are not Nigerian, or you have no Nigerian root.
And the post did not say or reveal much on why the father took such a decision. There is more to it, maybe the washing of dishes was the last straw that broke the camels back. What do I know?

How is asking someone to dishes a sign of disrespect?

@bolded, exactly! So how do you know the girl is at fault if you admit the story is not complete?

jeytee:
I just told you my mind ,if you don’t like it that’s your business.

And I've heard or rather, read, what your mind contains. Moving right on.

Inception:
I am really wowed by your sense of entitlement.
I suspect you are either
1. A teenager who is looking for how to get back at her parents and see this post as a venting ground or
2. An adult who came from a failed home, with no hope of redemption.

I ask you again , if your daughter or son does exactly what this girl did to her father, and you have made such investments in her, would you oblige and go and wash the plate?

Please answer sincerely and don't dodge the question again.

Secondly (again) can you 'ask' your father (or mother ) to wash her plates after a meal?

N.b, if your answer is yes, then you are probably raised as a bastard and have no business raising children.

If throwing insults is how you make your point, you can do better.

If my kid asks me to do the dishes and I'm disposed to, then why not? What is so wrong with washing dishes? If the child was not there, wouldn't I still do the dishes myself?

And yes, I can ask my parents to help me do the dishes because they're not insecure buttholes.

babyfaceafrica:
even if I am.busy reading for my PhD defense that will come tommorow..I was I will never ask my dad to wash the dishes....stop making excuses for a spoilt gal

That shows the kind of relationship you have with your father. It's fine for you but you shouldn't expect everyone else to share the same.

I mean, all these years, she clearly hasn't done anything that would warrant him stopping her fees but she asks him to wash his dishes ONE TIME and suddenly, she's a spoilt girl.

And I certainly hope you're not the type of parent that would stop paying your kids fees because they ask you to do the dishes i.e, the kind of parent that's willing to ruin their child's life just to massage their bruised ego.

Yujin:
This is just your friend and you still added 'If necessary'. Then, if it's ur 'aged' father would anything necessitate you to ask him do his dishes?

Again, if it's necessary, of course.

See my problem with this our whole culture and tradition thing - it seems to serve little more than to give people reason to be angry about something. If he washed his dishes, would he suddenly drop dead or lose all his money.

A father thhat loves his kids would not put his ego ahead of their well-being. He would also listen to and do what they ask if they make their request with respect and politely decline if it's something he can't do. It's insecure men that would go into a rage and start screaming disrespect.

lilbest4:
you are an idiot from a failed home

And you're a child with access to the internet.

Yujin:
Wow! If your friend visits you, do you ask him to wash his dishes after eating?

If it's necessary to, I would. And if I'm the visiting friend and I'm asked to with respect, I wouldn't get offended either.

The article even said she asked. Not commanded. Not shouted. Asked.

How fragile is your ego that being asked to wash your own dish would make you stop paying your child's fees? From food she probably cooked and served him.

Unless there is more to this story than we are being told, then I do not see any wrongdoing on her part.

kunkelhanspeter:
No matter what she’s doing asking your father to wash plate after eating is very wrong

And I ask, what is wrong with it? What is there in washing plate that the man is too big to do? Plates that he'd still wash if he was living alone. But "oh, I have a daughter. I'm suddenly too big to do dishes"

Inception:
My God! Did you just write this?
Societal values have gone to the dogs!!!!!

I did and I stand by it. This mentality that parents are gods that their kids can't make direct requests of or correct is part of the things ruining our country.

Nobody is above washing dishes. Like what's there in washing dishes sef?

You guys are not even talking about the manner she asked which was not specified. It's just asking a parent to wash their dish that's rude.

I'm not so emotionally fragile as to have my ego be hurt by being asked to wash dishes by my kid. If my kid says "dad, I'm in a hurry to get somewhere. Could you please do this thing because I can't do it right now", then I'd do it if I'm disposed to. If I'm not, I'll explain right back and we figure out a way to resolve it.

The same ego and anger many people's parents used to raise them is what they're using to raise their own kids.

jeytee:
She’s a very stupid child and I think you’re one as well.

If you think calling people names on the internet hurts, you have a lot of maturing to do.

The funny thing is this article never explicitly said she was rude or said it in a manner that lacked respect. The article only implied from what was said that it must have been rude.

What if she's busy and couldn't do his dishes and asked him to do it himself so dirty dishes wouldn't stay stinking up the kitchen.

Besides, prior to this, she must have been doing his dishes so for her to ask him to do it himself, there has to be a context we aren't getting.

But of course, in their haste to justify their regular bashing of feminism, Nigerian men are already here, because food done done for them. Talmbout the man has more responsibility so he shouldn't do dishes. Really? If he were single, who would do his dishes; his mother? And the child he has, did she decide to come on her own? Wasn't it his decision to have a child? So whose responsibility is she supposed to be again? And who says his wife is not supporting the family too?

The funny thing is this article never explicitly said she was rude or said it in a manner that lacked respect. The article only implied from what was said that it must have been rude.

What if she's busy and couldn't do his dishes and asked him to do it himself so dirty dishes wouldn't stay stinking up the kitchen.

Besides, prior to this, she must have been doing his dishes so for her to ask him to do it himself, there has to be a context we aren't getting.

But of course, in their haste to justify their regular bashing of feminism, Nigerian men are already here, because food done done for them.

Interesting...

The North seems to be transitioning from the older generation of political leaders to younger people at the state level. Took them long enough

paxonel:
Op, you are a big conspiracy theorist.
Where are your reference?

Keep imagining rubbish and writting rubbish, you are on your own.

Leave the wild animal

donbachi:
What is the low esteem there?you just sounded like a total feminist and like a woman that will never be submissive to any man,knowing your grandmother and mother did same to their husbands..as christians,we all know that the bible also talked about women been submissive to husbands.i don't know the point you are trying to prove..stop discouraging other women out there.most men are what you women made of them...it's you that really need to be reoroentations on how to respect and be submissive to men.

You proved her point exactly

1) He's.....relatively young
2) No potbelly in sight
3) Suit fits him well

Are you sure the guy in the picture is not a personal assistant to the former speaker?

Looool, never think that Nigerians don't know ponzi schemes are scams. They know but they feel they understand the system and can outsmart it by "investing" early, cashing out and running away at the speed of light. Does it work? Yes, in some cases and for some people. Can you tell if it will work? Nope.

That's because there's a critical point in every ponzi scheme: the point at which the runners of the scheme realize that it can't be sustained further and then disappear with all the remaining money which would still be a lot. This critical point is dependent on various factors and is, thus, very arbitrary, so ome ponzi scheme's critical point would be waaaay different from another's.

Well, every event has a trigger.

The trigger though is not necessarily human or deliberate.

Shepherd00:
Buda, my case really is not against homosexuals, it's about Homosexuality as an act and the fact that MuttleyLaff passes it off as godly.

I know lesbians, they live around me, I know a guy who has the homosexual tendencies, altho, he hasn't admitted to have slept with a fellow man yet, (I doubt it tho). I have no problems with these folk. But, we will begin to have problems when they try to push it to my face and make it seem like it's alright, I shd accept their Uncleanliness because it's godly.

Atheists here defend Homosexuality, they're atheists so they can do it, that's because their moral standards are subjective And, they don't use the scriptures as their yardsticks. But MuttleyLaff obscures Scriptures and try to bend them even when what they say can be understood literally.

For instance how does Thou shalt not lie with mankind, as with womankind: it is abomination, translates to Thou shall not engage in sexual orgies in satanic shrines?

There's nothing in the context of this verse that remotely suggests that the command given there has anything to do with group sex or worshipping of another god.

But Muttleylaff insists that that verse is about sexual orgies and not homosexuality.

I would like a better understanding of what you mean by "pushing it in your face" because I know most Nigerians that say this just mean "I just have a problem with you being gay and everything it means".

Now another question: if you travel to a European or North American country and you're eating eba in public and a white guy walks up to you, visibly angry and accuses you of "pushing" your Nigerian culture in his face and making Nigerian culture look normal, would you be offended?

Could you guys shut up about initial gragra. It's how you guys give them an excuse and a reason to fail

OLAADEGBU:
Who told you that atheism is not a religion on it's own?

I'm not getting into that argument

Unlike religions, most atheists' belief or (lack of) isn't tied to authority figures so....this would make no difference. In this particular setting, atheists typically are firm with the assertion that faith is personal.

Please, how many black countries do you know that get earthquakes on a regular. Don't earthquakes typically humble people?

This is the safest prophecy I've heard, next to "the sun will rise before 12 pm".

xynerise:
Dafaq is wrong with these lily-livered youths that can't accept failures?

People like you

jesusjnr2:
Point of correction! Five threads with at least on more to go.

Whatever you call work, is vanity(trash) here, for it profits nothing in truth.

The real work is that which have eternal value, and hence profits something in truth.

It's obvious that you're spiritually blind and ignorant to the truth, so you can only see nothing as something, but something as nothing.

You have certainly been a waste of my precious threads which are much more valuable than everything you are, have and know combined.

What a waste!

#satanzombie

Don't work na. It's vanity. Go hungry and broke.

But clearly you don't want to do that because you would lose access to the internet you use to broadcast your insanity. Shioor.

And your threads have less than 0 value. They take value away from this site, from religion and philosophy and from society in general. No wonder you've been banned severally.

iammo:



Foolishness is taking your own life over rediculous issues.

If heaven was all that stress free and eldorado, why exactly are babies and new / old souls rushing to earth in thousands on a daily basses, some soul don't even mind poor parents they just want to taste the pleasure of earth.

Even The Child of God came once and was sad to go back to heaven, he even promised to come back soon, and many other prophets

No matter what, your ultimate goal on earth.is to enjoy all what you cant enjoy as a fleshless soul. Enjoy every day one way or the other, because thats what you came to.do.on earth





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Nobody chose to be born

This dude spends more time thinking about gay people than being productive. Four threads on homosexuality he created and props up with his own comments.

You nor get work?

Melian:
Pls who are you to decide what sex a man or a woman should love?

Leave those ones with their hate.

They feel justified to dictae how others should live their lives, yet when other people try to dictate how they should live, they scream persecution.

The hypocrisy stinks to the moon.

For those saying "come in 3 years time"

That's about how long the TBS station has been running. And it is still almost as good as new save for the normal wear that comes from seeing regular use. Clearly, when government fully intends to maintain it's property, it does so very well.