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[quote author=*Hauwa* link=topic=265944.msg3787213#msg3787213 date=1240845433] [/quote]Hmmmmm!

Ellyptical:
Could this be how it got to humans?
I thought all diseases came from Africa!
LOL
See the pix attached.

Where did you get the picture from? That is so irritatingly gross. Or could it have been a Photoshop effect?

My candid opinion:

1) Thoniaslim (that girl has the prettiest eyes ever and a lovely slim body to match with it!)

2) Snazzydawn (Not only has she got those eyes, which I have told her outside of nairaland, she also has got a perfect body shape and height)

3) MissyB (Perfect definition of beauty and being cute)

4) Sexyhotmom (Pretty lips, but too much of make-up in my opinion)

5) Secretz (Well, she remains a secret! )

The rest: Beg Baba God make e reach your turn!

IyaKadijat:
@Pataki-I was 21 and he was 33. He may not be very resourceful, but he is very determined to make money-hence the reason he became a cab driver when he couldn't find a job in his field in NYC. So if the question is do I feel like he used me for financial reasons-no. I think would have made money with or without me-it just would've taken him a lot longer-especially because like most immigrants to this country he was reluctant to leave expensive NYC. But I do think he used me for companionship and to have another child. He strung me along knowing full well the whole time that eventually he would leave me when she came. He even recently started talking that "I'm Muslim so I'm allowed to marry 2" stuff to me recently-needless to say, I'm not trying to hear it.

Wow! Anyways, what is in the past belongs to the past. However, after knowing his age then, I cannot help but feel he played on your young mind. I do not blame you, as every woman deserves to be loved and appreciated. He clearly used that point to his own selfish advantage, even though it took him 8 years to achieve it. Just as I earlier pointed out, I would reiterate, you need to move on with your life. Severe every form of emotional communication with him, but allow him to have access and communication with his daughter. Your daughter would need that and would appreciate it as well. Keep in mind that; your daughter is the most paramount thing to you right now. You are a woman with a good heart and keep it that way please.

A man who would love you wholeheartedly would come along. That I can tell you. See this horrendous experience as something to make you better. Not only for you, but more importantly for your daughter. Not men are full of shit as you may want to reason out. There are still the good men out there. Keep your focus and the best would come your way!

All the best.

@ Poster,

Such a pity, you fell for the wrong dude for 8 years! How old was he when you started the relationship with him? I seemed to have missed that part in your story. Would it be right to assume he used it to get what he wanted in the relationship? Probably so. Still you had your own derivations from him as well. At least you learnt about the Nigerian culture, gotten lessons on his dialect and have a child for him. The mistake he made was not telling you the truth, while you trusted him so much.

This is no time to start appointing or designating blames to whom it may concern. Rather, it is to determine what is the best way out of your problem. Apparently, you are still emotionally tied to the guy. And based on my interaction with the opposite sex, it is very difficult for them (females) to walk out totally from a deep-seated emotional relationship which has lasted for as long as 8years or sometimes even less or more.

I agree you need prayers, but more importantly you need ACTION. And the action starts with and from YOU. Best advice I can proffer right now is that - any form of emotional communication with this man, severe it! Stop being an emotional weakling. If you continually give him room to mess with your mind and heart, you are heading for a total wreck! This would also affect your daughter. Your attention should be on your daughter and how to make a continuous good living for yourself and your daughter.

I wish Sistawoman can give her opinion and advice on this matter. I respect her input a lot on the subject matter and on this forum.

If I had an option to study dance for my undergraduate in Nigeria I would have done it. Unfortunately, there was none of such. Still I improved on myself in the art of dancing. Today, I hardly dance again though. But it does not mean, I cannot teach dance to those who want and wish to learn the art of dancing. Although, the dancing I did last year is no more the dancing of today! But classical and all time dances such as Salsa, tango which is currently thriving in Nigeria, I am very good at them. Had to learn them rigorously when I was in the Netherlands.

As for the topic, dancing is really coming up now in Nigeria. People are beginning to see dancing as not only entertainment but also a good means of earning and thriving in Nigeria. SOD (Spirit of David) usually perform a dance contest/show annually, and Funmi Iyanda of NTA helps in promoting them. There are quite a couple of videos to it on youtube. You may wish to refer to it.

Furthermore, during my NYSC days, I represented my Platoon for the dancing competition. I came second, was supposed to represent the state where I served, for the National Dancing Competition in Abuja which entails all Youth Corp Members in Federation. But lo and behold, I was no where to be found! My state director looked for me here and there, called me on my mobile. . . . . . . . . . bla bla bla bla bla

So I believe dancing is very much promoted in Nigeria. Not yet at the desired level, but at least, there is the awareness and appreciation to dancing.

How did it happen?? I was out on the road all day. . . . . too much owambe for London. I knew Spurs were leading with two goals !

Congrats ManU. That was impressive!

blacksta:
Biggest hypocrite - Elrazur , go and read tpiah's past post unfortunately she has a new account ( you will surely find all your evidence there)

GBAM!!!

[quote author=~Sissy~ link=topic=265339.msg3781108#msg3781108 date=1240698097]the same thing i was thinking![/quote]I had been thinking it since yesterday, just that some the life story of jack tweed does not add up to what Adam Brody has already stated on the forum. I am supposing they are mutually exclusive beings though.

@ topic,

Raped victims are emotionally disturbed individuals, most esp. if they are of the feminine gender. I have had experience with them, and it is only God who can help them to overcome the trauma of that event.

Everyone has a right to his or her opinion, however idiotic it may sound. If you do not like it, look the other way or walk off from the thread. That it does not suite your taste does not mean contrary opinion should be banned or silenced. What is this nonsense about?  

@ jack tweed,
Are you Adam Brody? You guys have a lot in common.

Diva1:
What if you know she isnt that way but it was your own fault that trigerred such?

If she could easily insult me, why should I easily forgive her? A woman who insults her man easily did not just start it in one day, she must have been doing it for a long while. The more reason a man has to be careful what kind of woman he is falling for.

What an astonishing package of confusion with this thread/topic!

@ Poster,

Please post your topic here: https://www.nairaland.com/nigeria/topic-263075.0.html next time! It is the most befitting thread for all the bullets embedded with your post!

Why would she rain insults on me? Would I easily forgive her? No!

A woman with a tongue penned for insults is not even my choice of woman. No sensible dude would ever want such a woman.

@ posestar,

pliz korreshun ur grammer. it is 'grammer' not 'grammar'. Did they not teaching you grammer in school? Why is typing nonsense here. You is a olodo, if u can write proper grammer at all.

This young boy had better take it easy. That you play for a big club in the UK does not mean you are the Queen's son! Having a criminal record whatsoever in the UK, is not a pleasant experience.

Am even confused with the thread as well.

Nevertheless, I love this statement (in bold) from the poster:

viceria:
I was stupid but i have no regrets in having my to beautiful daughters .

@ Poster,

Continue to dream your dreams. So far it is positive dreams, I am OK with that. In as much as you are not dreaming of just any random or strange man, I believe all is well.

Martin Luther King jr had his own dream, today it is a reality. I remember sometimes back, I had a dream about one of my courses, I woke up from the dream very early in the morning, opened my email inbox and got a letter that same morning from one my supervisors detailing in exact precision what I had just finished dreaming of! Since that time, I never take dreams lightly. Quite a number of times, my dreams come to reality, and some are in the process of becoming a reality.

All the best as you expectantly look forward to seeing your boyfriend soon.

@ Poster,
Is he your father? You were hungry and demanded for him to buy food for you? All these hunger beaten babes sef.

Yeah there are places where it is sold. But it is highly illegal.

What a heap of applesauce!

Is this girl promising you people visa to Malaysia or what?

Or what is with all these hypes and spamming of Nairaland General Discussion Board about the said poster?

Ermmmm. . . . . actually you are part of those that we are still best of friends till tomorrow.

See what religion causes.

I once had a girl like that who told me, if I was to marry her, I had to become a catholic. I told her yes I would then, but in my heart of heart, I knew I was not doing anything of such.

@ Poster,
Move on with your life. No point sitting on this pseudo relationship which obviously has been a mirage and would continually be so.

It depends. There are some Ex, I would gladly blow their brains off, just so as to save planet earth from such individuals. There are others who, no matter what they have done, we still remain the best of friends till tomorrow.

Seen the movie when it was leaked. Quite a thriller.

Even 9ice must be laughing in swahili at this thread right now.

Is this the same belloti? Such a long time.