₦airaland Forum

Edusouls:
so much advices just to get ladies behave well and be able to secure a man's interest, it is very unfortunate that the african woman dosent have the nessacary skills naturaly endowed to women to keep a man. their very stiff,nagging and unloving nature scares many men away' they should go and learn from the white ladies how to love a man..cos i can see they lack those vital skills badly..

very true.

They see themselves as appendages of men

They even see the products of the marriage as yours ,, your kid, how do you expect me to feed your child

However they hav all the tools to really be independent but still want to keep latching ... then they foam when you dont take them serious due to this

Like a chick afraid to leave the egg shell

freecocoa:
Good points.

hmm

i expected you to counter the list

..

As in ...

crackhaus:
I highly doubt they will understand, heck it's been more than 40pages already...

crackhaus:
Actually, he's right...

Read up on the history and advent of spousal support, it was set-up to assist women in the days when they were mostly housewives and did not work like their male counterparts.

Also, I don't think anyone blames the ladies for the laws - they just want it admitted that the law does favour women.

Maybe they will understand finally as you explained it

Women ...eating cake and having it since 6000 BC

ArewaSweetheart:
Lol. Says who?

My point is why do you guys ignorantly make it seem like the ladies are to blame for the existence of these divorce laws that mosttimes favour them? I sincerely dont see how it is the woman's fault that the law favours her as against her spouse after a divorce.

In nigeria where the reverse is the case(that is to say the nigerian marriage act is kinda tilted to favour the man in most instances), you never hear women encourage the cold-blooded murder of abused/divorced wives or attempt to rationalize whatever heinous crime they commit against their spouse.

There4, the proper entity you guys need to channel your anger to shouldnt be the victimised/dead wives, but the authority that set up these laws.

Your short circuited approach of thinking is the dilemma here...sadly shared by a lot of the other female posters

A tragedy was posted

Someone said he may have snapped as a result of potential loss of assets occasioned by western divorce laws

Suddenly you lot jumped on it calling it justification for murder.

What if he was just plain old wicked or a mental case

That's what this forum is for

Debating positions

As per your second paragraph
Until you women accept that this is the era of equality and you should not be waiting for a payday in the event a marriage does not work out, those laws will not change cos they favour your arsês

Working _---------------------check
Living in a paid for home -------check
Monthly checks coming in------- check
Making life hell for ex hubby ------double check

Those laws will not change... Lass

ArewaSweetheart:
Unfortunately its not for you or i to decide what the solution should be.
Thus, your wish/suggestion will not change the status quo already in place, neither can it bring back a comeback of the ancient patriachal lordship reign.

Your post has no correlation to my point
Read.


Women using marriage as payday has roots in the notion that they were helpless or nothing outside the marriage institution

It Is not so anymore

You lot r empowered

Why are vu still marking time waiting for the loot of marriage

carefreewannabe:
Have a lovely day!

U 2

carefreewannabe:
You are welcome.

But I must say that you are often gender biased too.

You could say that..it may or maynot be true....
no need to argue
Its an opinion which you are entitled to

carefreewannabe:
You are right but let us not deceive ourselves, a great number of women demands money from men even when dating, then a bride price is paid and then many men are expected to pay the bills all by themselves..This is also part of the reality. There are those hard working women who contribute and even though they do, are guests in their own houses and there are those who consider it the man's responsibility to pay for all bills, before and after marriage.

Thanks for ur honesty
I don't understand how gender bias can make people see white and call it black.

Very good post
Always watch your back in d workplace
Get emails backing crucial transactions as backup


Cc: 5minsmadness

bukatyne:
I have made it mine (woman must wack)

I do not support women doing nothing HOWEVER I acknowledge some were strongarmed to stay at home and they deserve to spousal support

No blanket statements on How women are lazy

OK

I never disagreed with your second statement

Not all are strong armed

I never made any blanket statement
You said I did just like an explanation of rationale was interpreted by some as murder justification

bukatyne:
I did not pick your words out of context, only helped you intepret them ( I should be making money seriously out of This)

You said a woman who has a brain & two legs should not sit @ home amongst others...

I do not support a woman not working but If a husband demands his wife stops work or he sends her parking, will I blame her If she stays

While condemning the marriage officers(they are quite a number in diverse manners), acknowledge there are some unfortunate ones

It makes the posts fresh to the eyes

Once again it us not your job to interprete my posts

Make your points

You Also dont support women doing nothing yet go about interpreting posts...

I don't even know wat point u r making

Justfollowit:
Inasmuch I am also totally against using divorce as a means of get rich quick, you have failed to consider how difficult it would be for divorcees who were full-time wives to get back into the job market. If the law could step in, we will have less to worry about.

Finally a honest female
So is the solution a throwback to patriarchal days when men were overlords

Now women can work

No one should have to sacrifice their career to sit home doing nothing

If the man changes you lose everything

bukatyne:
You called them witches, only used your term to refer to same people you are talking to

You are rapping here yet cannot translate it to How you would raise your family when fhemmy asked you to bookmark This page and show them later

Maybe We should actually translate these stuffs to real life scenarios, see how we would react or how we actually react Then post the real deal and not post to gather likes or appeal to our fans.

Pick calls women who stay at home lazy yet will advice a wife to stay at home If her husband demands so

Woman

Don't interpret my words for me..picking my words out of context

A woman who stays at home to take care of the home front is making sacrifices for her family since she made the decision jointly with her partner

A woman who sees marriage as an office and is waiting for a payday in the event of a divorce is lazy

Try and see the big picture

Do you understand

Babymama1:
I ask again
How did tribe and pre marital wealth come into this matter?
Na kwa e cheki

You said men dont have anything present marriage
Stop displaying selective memory

And I said a lot do
Your Igbo brothers are an example

Babymama1:
This is now about my brothers
Hmm
Pickabeau1 na kwa echecki

Not your filial brothers

I mean your tribesmen
Igbo

What do you mean by kwa echeki

Babymama1:
Is pre marriage wealth the subject of discussion here
When did that come in?

How many men in all sincerity had shishi to their names before marriage?
Abeg

A lot do especially your brothers who marry ladies much younger than them

Is amnesia setting in...

Babymama1:
Una don hear am
If you don't comply your behind is ending up in the slammer




http://www.click2houston.com/news/dozens-arrested-in-child-support-roundup/26710434

When will you understand what is being discussed


No one here has any issue with child support

If a woman has two legs and a Brain, why is she angling to get the mans wealth pre marriage

bukatyne:
Lol

Wonderful husbands!

And yet the average Nigerian girl has daddy issues according to stats

You r trying too hard to be sarcastic
Don't you come to these threads mocking those who are married to naija men since as you put it you did not marry a 'naija' man

nannymcphee:
Ok my mistake, but he told me the school fees was 35k exclusive of course reg form, departmental due etc

meaning if all this had not happened, he could have come back to ask for course reg fee, faculty fee etc

If a 300l student does not know the meaning of exclusive & inclusive, then he ought not to be there in the first place

Let him upload the original bank teller!!

Hope you have seen what ferguson wrote about EDS & no penalty fee for late payment


Whats pissing me off is not about what I gave him but that he is taking everyone for a fool & a ride coupled with his "molue jam plane stories" & dumb answers

You can piss on my face but pls don't tell me it's raining!!!

It's alright

.. choi

tpiah99:
I am seriously messed up.

i just wonder what made me like this creating inane posts up and down NL to address my need for attention

no wonder

Lostmermaid

If you love your sanity
Do not share any further information about yourself here
Some here specialise in digging posts to be used to assassinate your character later on

You have been told the truth..move on..
Find a man with no baby drama

You don't want to..

Live with the consequences of your choice

Simple

Kimoni:
Ok but I wasn't wandering ooo, I no be Cain now

Oh,,, i will say that was auto correct or did i mean it...

who knows

soonest:
I am a low life! I need to shut my putrid mouth, crawl into a hole and hibernate as my life seeps into oblivion. Woe is me

Tragic

babyosisi:
If you have a story of a nigerian man poisoned by his nigerian wife in the USA please share it

Women are angels and cannot be poisoning their husband's to claim inheritance

soonest:
I am a low life! I need to face the men that destroyed my life and embittered my existence.
I am an undeveloped ape and my intelligence is lower than a unicellular organism
I am. truly a Low life!

I really pity you now
No wonder you are so frustrated

moca:
Ok.
Thanks.

No problem

moca:
See pickabeau1, if u guys desire to know much about this guy, go to kogi state university thread and make inquiry. Or better, get a student of d school to do a verification job for u. It's a global world u know.
But as for me, we should let him be.

I have no further inquiries about the guy
I was only clarifying to nannymcphee
Moreover anyione seeking for help online should be ready for probing questions

ArewaSweetheart:
Poisoning any individual for whatever reason is a crime.

Just as killing anyone is a crime
Nothing new you said there

However, with regards to bankruptcy arising from divorce, do blame the Law that gave room for such & not the innocent lady pls. The lady was not the one that drafted the said law, neither was she the one that enacted same.
Remember also that there are still instances wherein the law favoured the man as against the wife when it came to child support in the divorce. It all depends on the circumstance of the case in issue & who has a better counsel.

The law may be wicked but people also use this law also
if the law was not used or needed, it will have been repealed
SOmeone is benefitting from it.. hence it will stay\

Kimoni:
Pick, just wondering why he sent to ur mail a true breakdown different from what he pasted on this thread for everyone to see? #justwondering

I have to admit he has presentation issues
But he said it on the thread all the while
Maybe i asked for further clarification

No need to be wandering

He mentioned 36K for scholl fees



See this post below

Ikanium:
School Fees is 36,000

Hostel and
mattress and bunk 18,000

Other dues 4,000

Food 3,000

nannymcphee:
the breakdown he gave you isn't correct, the total will be 36k, he never mentioned 36k in this thread!!

secondly why didn't he state it here that it was 26k with an additional 5k late payment fee?

he also said that it was for school fees exclusively?

where did he get money to pay for course registration?

he should kindly upload the bank teller used in paying into the bank and the official school receipt (for the school fees and the late payment fine)

Infact he should also include the receipt for the entrepreneurial dev studies payment

in my school days, you take the teller and printout to the bursary unit and you will be issued a receipt.